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anonymous asked:

ok so i just realized that during the revival hype lauren mentioned that she has to wear a costume for one of the final scenes and we were all like OMG WEDDING DRESSS but like that didn't happen and i know there were last minute budget cuts that changed everything but like we were so close and im bitter ok thx

We feel you, we honestly do! We complained about that fact a thousand times to each other, over and over again. We never get tired of picking on the things we didn’t like or we could have had. The whole fandom is probably with you on this. We wish we never knew about the dresses and the possibility to have the wedding of all weddings and not the cheap, yet beautiful elopement, where so many important people were missing. 

It’s OK to be bitter, there were a lot of hopes and expectations for the revival and the wedding, especially when they teased us like this. But let’s canalize all this bitterness and let us come up with what the real wedding would have looked like.

What we know for sure: (x) and (x)

The ceremony/reception will be on November 5 in the middle of the town. (Even though Lorelai mentions it will be on a Sunday, which would be November 6…)

Lorelai will wear more than one wedding dress. One will be inspired by Jackie O and other famous wedding styles. (To our mind comes Diana, right?) Miss Celine is the one making the dresses, but Lorelai will probably help her because Miss Celine is like a thousand years old.

Luke will wear that suit that he looks as hot as Rande Gerber. He will even wear the pocket square - Jess will make sure he does!

The decoration is inspired by Alice in Wonderland. You enter the location through a door with a huge key, walking through a tunnel of white clothes before you see the whole town square decorated with all these beautiful flowers, twinkle lights all over the place. Then there’s the tunnel with the heads,. A car works as a decoration, the Stars Hollow sign is serving as a cute little welcome sign and reminder of the wedding. The couches and stools next to the gazebo invite the guest to chill and talk. While at the richly decorated table the hot dogs can be eaten.

All of Stars Hollow will be present, even Caesar will be allowed to come. 

Emily will come all the way from Nantucket to the wedding, probably still not believing that Lorelai will actually get married, even though Lorelai had assured her. However, Lorelai had persuaded her, in the end, to invite her friends, after all, they were on the guest list.

Kiefer Sutherland might show up, we don’t know if he will make it. One thing is for sure it will be the biggest mystery of the wedding and a running gag.

Reverend Skinner will officiate the second ceremony as well.

Rory is the bridesmaid, and she will be excellent at it.

There will be two flash-mobs. Lorelai’s will be to “Relax don’t do it” with Patty’s girls, who wear t-shirts with Luke’s face on it. It will get crazy, cheesy, and Luke will want to leave the reception as soon as the song starts playing.

Luke’s flash mob will be a disaster with the song change Lorelai had ordered last minute. (Either Luke will get so flustered that he won’t know what do anymore, or he will suck it up and just go through with whatever choreography had worked so hard on. Either way, Lorelai will be super proud of him.)

Both the flash mobs will successfully entertain the guests and nothing else matters.

Sookie is in charge of the wedding cake. The milestone cake will be the official wedding cake, but maybe Sookie made a different one after all - you never know with her. They will get displayed on a table somewhere, maybe even in the gazebo. There will be a lot of leftover cake and Lorelai will eat it for weeks after.

Kirk is in charge of all the organizing of the wedding, and his skills in that department have improved a lot: An incident like the egg incident a decade ago won’t happen this time around, partly because there won’t be an easter-egg-hunt.

What we can assume (headcanon-time!):

Even though April never gets mentioned she’ll be there to see her father getting married. Finally, she will be able to cal Lorelai her step-mother and Rory her step-sister. It’s the beginning of the Gilmore-Danes-Nardini-fam, which we all grew to love so much. 

Lorelai won’t be able to hold back the tears when she realizes that her father can’t be there to witness her big day. There will a heartfelt exchange between Emily and Lorelai, which hopefully won’t be interrupted by any of the townies.

Either Emily and/or Rory will walk Lorelai down the aisle and will give her away to Luke. There won’t be any threatening words, but Emily’s look will tell Luke she will hunt him down if he ever dares to hurt her daughter.

Speeches will be held. Rory is giving probably the most heartfelt one, making everyone sob like a baby (like she did when she gave the speech at her high school graduation). Liz’s speech will be a wild one, filled with all these creepy, yet somehow adorable childhood memories. She loves her big brother dearly.

The dance floor gets probably entertained by Kirk as a DJ and/or Hep Alien will play live. There will be dancing all day and night long. Morey and Babette will be the last ones to leave the dance floor. Morey will moreover play some music himself because it’s a special occasion, he will melt Babette’s heart with that. However, Babette and Miss Patty have prepared some songs themselves to declare their love for their dream couple. 

Either there won’t be a father-daughter-dance at all, or Emily will dance with Lorelai. Luke will ask April to dance, and halfway through the song, he will ask Rory to dance with him. Rory is a little bit his and he steps up to all the step-father duties.

Lorelai and Luke will dance to “Reflecting Light” again. Liz and TJ will get emotional since it was their first dance as husband and wife too.

Jess acts as the best man for Luke, taking care of him and giving him the support he needs.

Paul-Anka and Petal will have some kind of role in the wedding, maybe bearing the rings, or ruining a nice or emotional moment. Paul-Anka will wear a big white bow on his back, and so does Petal. 

Doula would have the right age to act as a flower girl, so has Martha. Davey might be the ring bearer after all, or Lane’s twins. All the kids have some special role and will be involved in the wedding.

Babette and Miss Patty will sit in the first row at the ceremony, sobbing like little girls when Lorelai and Luke exchange their vows. They will hug them so tightly, that Luke thinks he might not be able to breathe ever again. And then he will get the shock of his life when Babette and Patty will finally pinch his butt. Lorelai will shrug her shoulders and smile at him.

Liz and TJ will entertain half the wedding party with their stories of the vegetable cult they were in for about half a year. But they will avoid any explanation for all the couches they have at the new home. (Maybe they are in a couch cult now?)

Luke knows Cousin Billy, he totally forgot about him and he is embarrassed to admit that to Lorelai. She will find out much later. 

It will scare the crap out of Luke when he sees Paris at his wedding. Lorelai was like a mother to her and therefore she could not miss the wedding.

Even though it is Luke’s wedding day, Taylor will find a reason to annoy him. It will probably have something to do with some rules and the town’s regulations.

Kirk will get tangled up in the white clothes and will need to be rescued from it.

Later, Kirk will get into a fight with Lulu because he doesn’t have enough time to dance with her. He has to make sure everything goes according to Lorelai’s plan and that leaves no time for dancing or some crazy times on the couch.

Michel will come to the wedding with his husband. It will be their last big event before their kid gets “delivered”. Frederic will drive everyone crazy with his special orders for the food, everything needs to be served on separate plates.

The 30-something-gang will work as waiters at the wedding, they don’t have anything else to do and they can put another waiter job on their résumé. The parents of the 30-something-gang will be forever grateful for that.

Crazy Carrie will forever be bitter that A) she isn’t invited to the party and B) Luke is off the market for good now. She will hold onto the rumor she made out with him under the bleachers though.

Mrs. Kim will ask Lorelai if her new choir can perform at the wedding, and since Lorelai still is a little scared of her she agrees on it, but she cringes the entire time the choir performs.

Moreover, Mrs. Kim will give her some useful antique as a present, telling her who that item has belonged to some time and why he or she was important to the country’s history.

Mr. Kim won’t be able to make it to the wedding because he will be off on a business trip again.

The guests will demand countless times of Lorelai and Luke to kiss by clinking their glasses. Lorelai enjoys that very much and is happy that Luke is for once comfortable with that kind of public display of affection.

There will be some of Patty’s founder’s day punch, and Emily will try it out and get a little tipsy. Miss Patty and she will bond over it and laugh just as much as at her bachelorette party all these years ago.

Emily will be just as smitten with Gypsy as she was when she first met her at the same party she bonded with Miss Patty. When she’s tipsy, she will confess to her that she reminds her of her maid Berta. Gypsy will think Emily is crazy because Emily won’t have a picture to prove it to her. In the end, Gypsy will be very thankful when Lorelai rescues her from Emily, telling her mother the cab she asked for had arrived.

Kirk will be the last one to be at the reception because as the organizer he’s also in charge of the clean-up.

Lorelai and Luke will spend their first night as husband and wife at home, having the house completely to themselves. Lorelai will want to discuss everything that has happened and Luke will actually have to talk her into sleeping with him.

You’re welcome to add all of your headcanons! The more the better - we can come up with all the subplots for the “shebang” AS-P intended to have.

anonymous asked:

A short fic or a fic request about how Luke deals with his dark day this year?

It took Luke until midday to realize what day it was because he was on his honeymoon, and that was something he honestly thought he would never get to experience.

The thought never crossed his mind during that ill-fated marriage to Nicole. Probably because the cruise had been wedding, honeymoon, drunken regret all wrapped in a neat cruise-shaped package. The first engagement with Lorelai hadn’t gotten quite to honeymoon discussion, and it had been put on the taboo shelf once they shelved their initial June 3, 2006, wedding plans.

But now it was November 29, 2016, and Luke was on his goddamn honeymoon.

They hadn’t left straight after the wedding, because the day after Thanksgiving was the first open date that Emily’s travel agent could secure them for this frankly impressive villa on Malta, of all places. The weather was miserable in Stars Hollow according to his phone’s weather app, but he was standing on a sunny island beach in shorts and one of the Hawaiian shirts Lorelai refused to stop mocking him for.

The Mediterranean spread before him, and a village far, far older than any of them was at his back. Lounging next to him was the best sight of all - his wife in a bikini.

Ever since he and Lorelai finally started living together, this day had grown less and less dark. He still remembered. It still hurt. But Luke kept the diner open now instead of closing it. He no longer visited the graves alone. Lorelai and April had invited themselves along that first year, and eventually Liz, TJ, and Doula started coming as well. Even Jess dropped by a time or two.

Instead of a day where Luke shuttered himself off from the world and wallowed in the pain and guilt, it had turned into an annual celebration of both of his parents. Liz unearthed the family albums she kept, and Lorelai had found Luke’s among his things when he moved in. He and Liz would show the pictures to April, Jess, and Doula. Even Rory had been home once. There was always a large dinner at the Crap Shack, and it seemed like a second, more relaxing Thanksgiving. There was a bit of melancholy, but no overwhelming sadness.

And now, he was standing on a beach in Mellieħa, Malta, with his wife, and he didn’t feel sad at all.

“Hey. You OK?”

Luke turned at her voice, and he saw that Lorelai was holding her phone. She knew as well as he did what day it was.

“Yeah, I’m fine,” he told her. “I’m really fine.”

Her smile was more beautiful than the impressive view before them. “I’m glad.”

“Me too.” And he pulled her to her feet, plotting exactly how he would coax her out of that bikini.

Gilmore Girls Revival: Literati Sleepovers 1/?

This is a missing scene one-shot about Jess and Rory during the ‘Fall’ episode of Gilmore Girls: A Year In the Life. I was thinking about all of the possible funny/awkward/sweet moments we could’ve gotten had we seen how long and how often Jess stayed at Lorelai’s house. I’m not used to posting my work so this is a mess; however, if you actually like it let me know because then I’ll stop procrastinating on the other literati stories I’ve been working on! 

Not Sandeep’s Again

Luke was insistent that Jess stayed.

He hadn’t planned on staying in Stars Hollow for so long, he was only meant to help Luke get Liz and TJ out of that vegetable cult… only Liz would accidentally join a vegetable cult. But then the vegetable cult didn’t want them anymore and Luke was all alone because Lorelai decided to do Wild, and then they decided they were going to get married— only in Stars Hollow. Jess hadn’t stayed in town this long since high school but it was starting to feel like home again… this tiny snow globe of twinkly lights, and crazy people, and Gilmore girls.
He told Luke that he could stay in the old apartment above the diner, it wasn’t like anyone was using it lately, Luke moved in with Lorelai almost right after they got back together— it just seemed right. Luke wouldn’t have any of it though, he guilted Jess into staying with him rambling on and on about how he never came to visit and how Lorelai missed having him around. Lorelai Gilmore actually wanting to catch up is something that 17 year old Jess could’ve never predicted, but over time their relationship got better. Jess knew now how much of a jerk he’d been back then; it was no wonder Lorelai didn’t want him anywhere near her daughter. But now, he felt comfortable enough to be lounging beside her and Luke on their couch watching Willy Wonka with enough candy and take-out to induce a sugar coma.

“Shh!! Shh! This is my favourite part!” said an overly giddy Lorelai.

“Nobody’s saying anything…” Luke sat on the other side of her, “Would you stop hitting me?” he slumped even further into the couch as Lorelai pretended to be an oompaloompa. Jess reached over for a RedVine and smirked to himself; Luke was always happiest around her. Jess’ phone dinged, so he sat up to read the screen. It was an email about a shipping for the book press so he opened it and started typing up a response. All of the sudden, Lorelai snatched his cell mid-sentence and held it way above her head,

“Wha-?! Lorelai, what the heck?!”

“When I first met you, young grasshopper, you were more prissy about technology than my mother and now of all the times and all the movies you choose this exact moment to break the sacred oath of the Gilmore movie tradition?!” When Lorelai started pointing you knew she was serious.

“But it’s for work! I need to—“

“Ah-buh-buh-bah! No exceptions Jess! When little dancing orange people are prancing before your very eyes, you do not pull out your devices like Steve Job’s children!”

“Actually, Steve Jobs was very strict about how much internet his kids—”, Lorelai gave him a withering stare, “Luke! Will you back me up on this please?”, Jess pleaded to his uncle.

Luke, who had very expertly hidden from this couch convo took his fiancee’s side, “I’ve been through the Gilmore movie etiquette more times than I would care to admit. There’s no use, Jess, you can’t win.”

Jess sighed, “Guess the company will have to do without me…”

Lorelai looked vindicated and quickly resumed stuffing her face with popcorn when Rory burst through the front door and turned on all of the lights.

“Oh, I give up! My sincerest apologies Mr. Wonka.” Lorelai said to the screen. Luke and Jess turned around simultaneously to find a frazzled Rory Gilmore stumble into the living room, carrying huge bags of more takeout in her tiny frame. Her mom finally paused the movie and turned around to greet her daughter,

“Hey hun! How much time did Steve Jobs let his kids use the internet for every day?”

“I don’t think he let them use technology very much, mom.” Rory said. That was what he always noticed about those two, they were so in sync it was like they could read each others minds. No question was a weird question. Jess gave Rory a smug look at her response and Lorelai leaned into Luke like a five-year old who didn’t get their way.

Rory looked very amused as she placed her food on the floor beside the table full of junk food, “Have you been challenging her comical references again, Jess? You’re going to end up in Paul Anka’s doggy bed soon, you know that.”

“Paul Anka gets more freedom in this house than I do. Heck, he gets more pillows!” Jess argued.
Luke started to get restless, “Alright guys, I think that’s enough Wonka for me. I’m gonna head off to bed now, I have to be up pretty early tomorrow at the diner. Goodnight!” Lorelai kissed him on the cheek as he got up to walk upstairs. Rory quickly filled his spot on the couch beside her mom, “Jess, be a doll and pass me my food, please?”

“As long as your mom promises to give me back my phone!”

“Never!” Lorelai said indignantly before Rory could open her mouth. Jess accepted his defeat and reached down for Rory’s bags of food.

He instantly smelt what she’d ordered, “Ugh, really Rory? What is your obsession with Sandeeps?”

“You ordered Indian food again, Rory come on!” Lorelai chimed in.

“Oh you guys, stop being so dramatic! Pass me my food!” Jess tossed Rory the bags reluctantly

Lorelai pressed play on the remote control, “Are you planning on burning down the house afterwards?”

“It’s the only way to kill the smell.” Jess stood up and started clearing the table of the candy that no one was going to finish tonight.

“I’m an island.” Rory relented as she got up and carried her food to the kitchen.

“I’m guessing no more Wonka, then?” Lorelai called after both of them.

Gilmore Girls Revival Highlights


Kirk and his new business (Uuuuber) 

The “Paul is forgettable” running joke (It went a little long, but it was definitely a highlight in “Winter”) “I just forgot the entire conversation we just had” - Luke

Lorelai throwing bagels at Kirk whenever he says uuuuber

Berta played by Rose Abdoo!!!!

The giant picture of Richard

Richard’s funeral (The first time of many that I cried during this revival!)

Lorelai and Emily’s big fight in “Winter” (It’s always fun hearing these two amazing actresses go at each other for some reason :) 

Kirk at Friday Night Dinner/playing soccer with Berta’s kids

Every scene with Paris!

Louise Goffin (Carole King’s daughter and fellow singer of the theme song) as The Town Troubadour’s sister! “But i’m your sister!” “No proof of that”

Hep Alien together again!!

Emily in jeans and tshirt, getting rid of anything that “doesn’t bring her joy” 

Paul Anka dressed up as Luke


All the scenes  of Lorelai and Emily at a therapist

The Spring Food Festival! “Singapore is just being a dick” - Kirk

Mr Kim!!!!!!

Liz and TJ joining a vegetable cult

Lorelai and Luke at the Black, White, and Read bookstore watching eraserhead/everyone bringing food from outside the movie theater

Another “Film By Kirk”

The Gilmore Guys cameo

Paris teaching a class at Chilton and having a breakdown in a Chilton bathroom

Doyle is a screenwriter!!!!

Jason Mantzoukas’ cameo!

Lorelai charming people into giving her the things that people are waiting in line for.


April breaking down in front of Rory

The whole town meeting where Taylor first talks about Stars Hollow The Musical

The therapist (Kerry Butler) auditioning for Stars Hollow The Musical

Esther (The woman who never stops filing, at The Stars Hollow Gazette)

The scene with Lorelai and Rory delivering the papers (with “These Boots Are Made For Walking” playing in the background)

Every scene with the “thirty something gang” (especially the “i drink your milk shake, I drink it up” scene) “We love everything Paul Thomas Anderson does”

The entire “Stars Hollow: The Musical” (I get why people think it was too long, maybe it’s my love for musicals but I thought it was just long enough :)

The meeting after the musical!! “What do you want it to be? Less perfect? -Donald

Jess taking Luke’s hat off his head and tossing it away

Rory writing a book about her and Lorelai’s life


Jess unhooking the WIFI!!! And everyone’s reaction

The entire Life And Death Brigade scene with “With A Little Help From My Friends” playing in the background (especially Finn, Colin, and Robert’s badass entrance)

Logan taking a mental picture of Rory before they end their relationship

Lorelai’s story about her boyfriend breaking up with her on her 13th birthday, skipping school to go the mall, her father finding her and buying her a big pretzle with mustard and taking her to a movie 

Lorelai proposing to Luke (and Luke’s entire rant just before)

Emily finding contentment in Nantucket. (The scene where she listens to “Some People” from the musical Gypsy. Which is a very empowering song)

Rory walking through the empty Gilmore mansion and all the flashbacks of Richard!

Michel giving all the applicants for his job a hard time, because he doesn’t want anyone else to have the job.

Miss Celine!!! “Lorelai, I need to finish pinning that dress, I don’t want you to lean over and have your Deanna Durbins tumble out in front of the clergy”

Luke being friends with Kiefer Sutherland and Lorelai’s reaction, her impression of Kiefer Sutherland is gold. Lorelai dancing so she can fit in her dress and telling Luke to leave when he suggests she not eat ice cream.

Dean’s cameo (I’m so happy that he’s found happiness in his life! He deserves it!!!)

Sookie’s cameo!!!! (As if I hadn’t cried enough during this revival!!!) Michel’s reaction to seeing her and eating the fat free granola with his hands.

“Reflecting Light” playing in the background while Luke and Lorelai elope!! (Whatever company makes Kleenex should pay ASP for all the money they made off of this revival!!)

And yes even the ending and the last 4 words. (My only disapointment is that we might not get to see Lorelai as a grandmother)

I still can’t believe in the revival, for all the times they mentioned Liz and TJ, and had them on the phone - even if they couldn’t actually show them - and talked about rescuing them from the vegetable cult and everything… 

They never once mentioned Doula.

Jess has a little sister. Luke has a niece. She’d be 10 years old by now. Not a single throw-away line. It’s like they forgot she exists.

pousseywashingtondeservesbetter  asked:

Gilmore Girls! :)

You are my very first ask on this site! 

  • fav character: Rory, especially the Rory of the first few seasons! Paris, Lorelai, Jess, Lane and her mom all rank a close second
  • least favourite character: TJ, Liz, Logan’s friends and sometimes Logan himself, Zach until the final season
  • otp: literati! 
  • brotp: Rory and Lorelai, Rory and Paris, Lorelai and Sookie, the Jess and Paris friendship that I pretend existed outside of just that one episode
  • notp: Also known as the part where people who ship any of these start to hate me! Rory and Logan, Rory and Dean, Luke and Nicole, Lorelai and Max, Lane and Zach 
Growing together, a defense of Jess Mariano and the Literati ship

I’ve seen a lot of different opinions about Jess Mariano and about his relationship with Rory. Some people think that Jess and Rory were meant to be, that Jess was a nice guy under all the attitude. Others think Jess was a complete jerk, hate him with Lorelei-levels of passion, and think that his relationship with Rory was borderline abusive.

Now, I definitely disagree with the abusive bit, but there are valid points to each argument. Personally I think that Jess and Rory could have been perfect together. Eventually. I say this because I loved them in early seasons and I loved Jess in his later seasons, but when they were actually together, they were kind of pretty terrible at it. And that’s the key word there: “they”. They were both pretty terrible at it; they couldn’t balance out their issues enough to make the relationship work. Fair enough. They were only 17-18.

Let me be clear, I’m a Jess fan, but I try not to be a Jess apologist. I don’t agree with a lot of Jess’s behaviour; he acted badly. I do understand his behaviour, however. Grow up with a flighty mother who does drugs and is apparently no good at the whole breadwinning thing, who brings home guy after guy who may or may not steal all of your furniture when he leaves in the middle of the night, and I think a lot of people would be mistrusting and unreliable too.

Jess’s family life was a mess. I’m not saying this to blame his behaviour on his mother - he still behaved badly in his own right - but come on. He was a child raised in an environment that taught him exactly how precarious a situation being a child is. And he was not old enough to fix it for himself. Human beings don’t just do that - they don’t just raise themselves and come out mature, functioning adults. Not without work. Not without time. Especially not at that age. And even ones who do function reasonably well, often do it half off an imitation that can lead to one hell of a case of Imposture-Syndrome. There is truth in fiction when those characters who “grew up too fast” grew to be simultaneously competent and immature adults. (This is known as “adultification”, including “parentification”, “peerification”, and “spousification”, which is a kind abuse in which an abuser makes children take on roles they are physically incapable of undertaking because their brains have not developed enough to do so.) That kind of abuse can have a tremendous impact on a person’s development. And make no mistake: it was an abusive environment. The way he acted, the fact that he had such very low levels of trust in anyone, makes me think that he rarely felt safe. I mean, just consider how he got to Stars Hollow in the first place: he was shipped off against his will. He had no control over the situation. He was a powerless teenager and he knew it. But that doesn’t mean he stayed that way. The reason I liked Jess’s character so much is because he showed so many signs of some very real, very serious abuse. And then he grew out of it. Jess is an amazing character because he took control of his life.

So it’s very true when Jess detractors say that Jess needed to grow up, but I wholeheartedly disagree with the note of derision implied in that sentiment. Yes, Jess needed to grow up more to take control of his life, but when a fan says “he needs to grow up”, the implication is not that he literally needs more time, space, and independence in order to take control of himself, but that he should have already, and that he has failed in failing to do so. This, I believe, is supremely unfair. Jess never had the stable environment needed to learn responsibility gradually, or to safely make mistakes, or to explore his identity, or to learn to trust anyone, so he kind of started behind the ball. And as a teenager, he was old enough to know it, and to know that it was unfair. Personally, I think he had a right to feel a little bit cheated. So yeah, he made a few mistakes as an angry teenager, but most of those boil down to unreliability, being insensitive, or his lack of long term planning. These are not character-killing flaws. He also didn’t stay that way. He turned himself around and got himself on track and stabilized himself and seemed to let a lot of that crap go. And he did, in the end, do it himself.

And let us not forget that Jess was a teenager sent against his will to live with an uncle who had no idea how to deal with another human being, much less how to take care of one. I mean, let’s face it, Luke ended up swinging wildly between being over controlling and judgmental, and being so ignorantly laissez-faire that he never noticed when something had gone wrong. He was also always suspicious of Jess, didn’t listen to Jess’s side of the story - ever - and if he found out that Jess hadn’t done anything wrong he laughed at him! So either Jess was probably doing something illegal or was hilarious; even if Jess had been hurt in the process. Luke never told Jess when he did something right, or checked to see how his school work was going (unless he’d been pulled in by the principle or it was too late), or told him he was proud of him, or asked if he was okay, or talked to him about his mom (especially if the conversation was going to be at all on Jess’s side), or told him he was worried. And every time we saw a rare moment of bonding or a frequent failure of discipline there seemed to be an undercurrent to absolve Luke: Jess was being difficult/irreverent/disrespectful/obstinate/short-sighted/what have you. Basically, Jess was a difficult kid, so no wonder he wasn’t being raised like any of the other teenagers, he was a delinquent who obviously would never listen to anyone no matter what anyone tried. Which to me, fairly reeks of Victim Blaming.

Luke was also, quite obviously, not around much when Jess was a kid. I mean we know he knew something about what went on, because he was always exasperated at Liz, and we know he sent her money, but he never, never looked at it from the perspective of a child. Consider, for example, when Liz showed up with TJ, and Luke expected Jess to help him manage her love-life. In that situation Luke saw Liz as a child and it somehow then made sense to him to ask her child to look after her. As if it was not supposed to be the other way around. As if that was never supposed to be Jess’s job. (Also totally not sexist infantilization, no siree.) And then consider the wedding and how Luke acted like Jess was a huge, ungrateful, spoiled, jerk for not wanting to go. As if he wasn’t allowed to look at someone and say “you are too poisonous to be in my life. I’m not going to be in contact with you anymore”. As if that wasn’t his right (yes even if it’s family. I mean, Lorelai did it). I’ll be honest - the “ungrateful” thing is kind of a trigger for me. I was raised by a parent who told me often how ungrateful I was for all the things done for me. I was told I was mean and selfish all the time. So let me make this clear: Jess did not have to go to his mother’s wedding. He did not owe her respect simply for being the being that birthed him. Telling him that he was a bad person for not wanting to go is not okay. And yes, I know that Jess’s ultimate reasons for not wanting to go were not about his mom. But that doesn’t matter. Because Luke didn’t know that. And turning it all around on Jess like it was some terrible flaw in Jess’s character or a failing on his part that he might hate his mother? No. Just no. Fuck you Luke.

Also, think about this for a moment: Jess was a seventeen/eighteen year old working two jobs in season 3, and he never even thought to tell anyone. When do you think that kid started working? And no one asked why he might need to work two jobs? I mean sure, they started asking questions when they learned how many hours he was working (full-time plus the diner plus Rory plus school sometimes), but did no one think it was odd that a supposedly full-time high school student with a girlfriend might be working two part-time jobs? Is that just me? I mean I admit that I’m working off the assumption of the impression that I got that Luke, being the thrifty sort, was not financially pressed enough to require Jess to be working that much. So maybe that is my privilege showing, but I would think that Luke would have thought about it, would have discussed it with Jess. Did Luke never wonder when he found the time? Did he ever talk to Jess about making sure his school work or social life wasn’t going to be hindered by the fact that he was working two jobs? Did he never even check with him to organize his work schedule? I mean come on.

So I believe that Rory and Jess could have been good together, but that he was just too messed up to be a good boyfriend at the time. He didn’t trust other people. He didn’t know how to be reliable. He didn’t want to be reliable - he didn’t want the expectation. He believed everyone when they said he was no good, when they said he would never amount to anything, so he stopped trying. Rory’s expectations were new and unexpected and he believed he’d never be able to live up to them, so he ended up being distant and unreliable and the kind of jerk that would rarely do anything he didn’t want to do, even if it was for Rory. And the one time he tried? With the prom tickets? He failed. And that ended up being a confirmation and breaking point for him. He couldn’t deal so he didn’t deal.

Contrast to Dean who was so unassuming as to do whatever Rory wanted whenever she wanted. You know, as long as it was with him (“what do you mean we can’t hang out because you have plans or school work or don’t feel like it?!?! I want to hang out now!!”) or wasn’t around other men or in the company of other men or anywhere where another man might look at Rory and OH MY GOD RORY WHAT WERE YOU THINKING BEING IN THE SAME 10 MILE RADIUS OF A MALE WHO MIGHT CONCEIVABLY FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE?!?!?!!? HOW COULD YOU DO THIS?!?!!? I MUST BEAT THIS MAN WHO LOOKED AT YOU! GOD RORY, HOW COULD YOU LOOK SO ATTRACTIVE AS TO HAVE OTHER MEN THINK YOU’RE ATTRACTIVE?!?!?!!? I DEMAND THAT YOU STOP DOING THIS IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

(If any boyfriend was abusive it was Dean. She even used the language - “I don’t want you to be mad. Please don’t be mad.” - and body language, including hunched shoulders and crossed arms. She even flinched away from him a few times when he got angry and started really looming or kicked something!)

This leads us to my other point, which is that Rory was not inculpable in the fact that they just weren’t good together when they were together. Firstly, she never trusted him. Now, as I said above, Jess was unreliable, so it’s not like she didn’t have reason, but she always thought he was getting into trouble or picking fights or whatever, even after being proven wrong several times. She never stopped being suspicious, and she kind of stopped asking about the whys behind his behaviour. She also never stopped comparing him to Dean and Dean’s unassuming ways (completely forgetting Dean’s anger and his kind of triggery, borderline-abusive behaviour).

Of course, it could be argued that a lot of these problems actually stemmed from Rory’s issues and the insecurity fostered in the unhealthy aspects of her relationship with Dean, which lead her to take Jess’s every bad mood as a personal failing, as if his every mood were her fault. I think this was part of a larger problem for Rory in that she stopped standing up for herself as soon as they got together officially. She stopped setting boundaries, she stopped challenging him, and she stopped holding her ground when he did something that upset her. Part of what made their interactions so fascinating before they got together was that Rory was the only one who balanced calling out his bullshit with actually listening to what Jess had to say. She was the only one who said, “listen, I respect your opinions, but this particular behaviour is bullshit, so why did you do it?”. I think she may have even been the only one to ever explicitly ask “why?” But independent-Rory outside of relationships was not the same as relationship-Rory, and apart from Dean, I’m pretty sure we can all guess where that came from.

Now, don’t get me wrong, Lorelai Gilmore was a very strong woman. She was self-possessed and resourceful and confident, and she taught Rory to be just as opinionated and confident as her… Except where it came to dating. Rory’s father was a flake, let’s all just acknowledge that now. He was rarely there, and when he was it was sporadic and unreliable. She never learned to claim her space or demand Christopher’s time because it was never up to her. She never had any power in that relationship, and was probably very resentful. She may have been angry and felt that she wasn’t worth the effort that Christopher could have made to be around more often. Christopher let her down and that kind of early disappointment can have a lasting impact on a person. Jess’s own behaviour had to have hit far too close to a very sore spot. (Especially given the timing, Rory and Jess got together just shortly after Christopher’s girlfriend Sherry’s baby-shower. You know, the one that found out she was pregnant just after Chris promised Rory and Lorelai that it “would work out this time”. And the disastrous Grandmother dinner meeting? Episode after Sherry gives birth.)

What this means, however, is that Rory also had “some growing up” to do. This is not to say that being unreliable is ever okay in a relationship you actually want to make work, but having your mood and self-worth hang on someone else’s behaviour is never a good sign. Would the fact that Jess didn’t call her all the time have been such a big deal if Rory had been more stable in her own self-worth? Maybe, maybe not. But the point is that Rory had no idea how to hold on to her confidence in the face of a man she cared about, and he ended up walking all over her.

Now this obviously sounds horrible. Like, he was distant and she couldn’t stick up for herself, how could they possibly be good together? But here’s the thing. Both show the potential to not only overcome these things in themselves, but also in each other. Jess may have been unreliable, but he always tried to encourage her independence. While he was not one for scheduling, he repeatedly encouraged her to keep doing her own things and was never upset if she did end up doing things independent of him. He told her to go to the Stars Hollow town-things, for example, if that was what she wanted. And yes, perhaps a better boyfriend would have gone with her simply because she wanted him there, but Jess was in no way restricting her ability to go, and rather than offering an ultimatum, offered a compromise instead. And in the episode “Face-Off” (3x15) where he shows up at her house after not calling her for a few days, Lorelai might have been angry that Jess would assume that Rory would home on a Saturday night without prior planning, but Jess himself did not seem upset that Rory wasn’t home. He wasn’t angry that she wasn’t available when he had time free, he wasn’t even surprised that she was out, he was only confused that Lorelai was making such a big deal out of it. So yes, Jess didn’t make plans, but he always offered alternatives and he tried to bolster Rory’s confidence. In turn, she made him participate a little more and attempted to inspire him to try - an endeavor which eventually succeeded; she planted that seed. She was one of the few people to tell him he was worth it. She was the first one he believed.

One of the most telling things is that Jess was one of the rare few people to call Rory out on her own lack of communication. During the course of their relationship, for example, Rory practiced many of the habits she developed through her relationship with Dean - namely hiding things that she thought Jess might not like. Instead of getting angry and making the situation worse, Jess usually confronted these issues right away by attempting to open the lines of communication. Jess asked Rory about Dean directly and listened when she told him. And yes, he did brush some stuff off, but he told her when something made him uncomfortable (like Rory and Dean being friends) and accepted her decisions, even while making it clear that a big part of the problem was the fact that she had hidden it. Now, this issue didn’t go away over the course of their relationship, and a lack of active communication often contributed to Rory feeling that Jess’s every mood was her fault, but that stemmed as much from Rory as it did Jess.

The biggest obstacle to their relationship, however, was Jess’s inability to communicate with regards to himself. Most of the change in this instance happened after their relationship because the issues involved had nothing to do with Rory or their relationship, and everything to do with Jess’s psychological state, his crippling mistrust, and his outlook on the world. The changes there had to come from Jess achieving a healthier mental state. But even still, he talked to her more than almost anyone else. Think about what little Jess ever said about his mom, his background, or his feelings, and then think about how much of that was with Rory. She touched something in him that woke him up. He couldn’t turn himself around at 18 - unfortunately he had to hit bottom for that - but she made him believe he could. Comparably, he understood her in a way that meant that he was the only one who could reach her when she quit Yale. As teenagers they were horrible at communication but it was obvious, even then, that they were on a similar wavelength.

Jess and Rory liked a lot of the same things. They had differing values because of their vastly different upbringings, but they liked similar books and similar music. Now, many people stop there, with Literati shippers expounding on their shared love of books, and non-shippers rightly affirming that you can’t base a romantic (or even platonic) relationship solely on that, but it’s not just that they both loved to read, or even that they both loved to read similar books, it’s that they found similar things stimulating. Not only did they love to read, but they also both loved to talk about the stuff they read and they valued each other’s opinions. They challenged each other mentally and stimulated a lot of intellectual excitement and could talk for hours on end. They got each other’s sense of humour (for the most part), and they liked to tease one another. There are even hints in there of them being very “married couple-eque”. (Take, for example, the movie planning conversation in “Happy Birthday, Baby” (3x18).) And the most important part? The ways in which they were similar as teenagers, the ways they fit together, were exactly the directions they grew in as adults. They grew up moving towards more books, more literature, and more discursive lifestyles. They grew up striving for similar principles of art and they taught each other values along they way: Rory taught Jess to dream, to try, to work hard, and to prove others wrong, and Jess taught Rory that you can come back from behind, that life isn’t going to hand you things, so sometimes you have to fight for it. And then they reaffirmed these lessons within themselves and to each other, and reminded each other as they grew.

So maybe Jess and Rory were not any good for each other as damaged, stupid teenagers, and maybe they wouldn’t have worked during the series at all, but there was a spark there that could have been great, and, more importantly, they grew in ways that made them more compatible, not less. So yeah, they weren’t really a good couple when they were on screen, but Literati is still my ship because they helped each other grow, because they reached one another when no one else could, because they shared passions and goals and because in the end, I think they could have been amazing together.

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Gilmore Girls!!!

  • Favorite character: Oh, boy…it varies SO much, and at various times I love and very much DON’T love nearly all of them, but I’ll go with S1-S4 Rory, because I can never get over just how much it meant to me to see an unashamedly geeky, fiction-obsessed introvert as a lead character 

  • Second favorite character: Paris, who’s a phenomenal character despite the fact that she would likely scare and horrify me in real life? Jess, though primarily the one from S4 and (especially) S6? Lorelai when she’s not driving me insane?! I’ll go with Lorelai, who’s so vibrant and memorable and key to the show’s success despite and in some ways because of her many flaws 

  • Least favorite character: Colin, Anna, Liz, TJ, Zach until S7…given how much I love this show, there really are an inordinate number of characters who drive me nuts :) 

  • The character I’m most like: I’m a combination of Rory (introverted bibliophile who doesn’t take criticism well, loves my comforting routines but will suddenly do something REALLY impulsive and usually ill-advised, semi-panics when people dislike me, and functions better in academic settings than the ‘real’ world!), Paris (intense, neurotic), Luke (snarky, loner tendencies), Lorelai (enthusiastic, can be way too hyper and impulsive, addicted to caffeine, makes awful decisions with regard to men)

  • Favorite pairing: Probably still and always literati, though the ships on this show are both strangely appealing AND annoyingly problematic on the whole! (Actually, ‘strangely appealing and annoyingly problematic’ sums up my current perspective on the show as a whole, lol. I adore it and am forever addicted to it, but aspects of it bother me. A LOT.) 

  • Least favorite pairing: Rory/Dean, Luke/Nicole, Lorelai/Max, sometimes Lorelai/Luke (who win the award for ‘most disappointing’ relative to my earlier expectations)

  • Favorite moment: Rory’s Chilton graduation

  • Rating out of 10: Objectively: 6. My subjective love for it: 8.5-9 :) 
My version of a Gilmore movie

So I found this on my computer - it’s from March 2014 and I guess I basically outlined what I’d like from a future GG movie. Some parts of it are really cringe, but some parts are sweet (I think at least) and it was funny to go back and read this today of all days! I think the actual revival will probably be more dramatic and emotional than my version. But still, how far we’ve come.

It starts with Rory sitting in a small but cozy looking apartment writing an email to someone who she apparently has not seen/talked to in a very long time - her voice narrates what she writes as she talks about some of the things that have happened since she saw this person last (i.e. Lorelai and Luke getting married, having a couple kids, updates on Lane, Sookie, E&R, the townsfolk i.e. Kirk, Taylor) while visual flashbacks of the things she’s talking about (like L/L’s wedding) appear on screen. Rory mentions she’s living in New York and writing for a local paper and says she loved the picture of his family (we assume this person sent her one in their email to her) and that their son is really cute. As Rory hits “send” we see that the recipient is Dean Forester.

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Opening scene:

Lorelai’s house, two primary school aged kids run around the verandah and in through the front door, into the loungeroom and around the couch where their mother Lorelai, is sitting with a photo album in her hands.

The kids run off towards the kitchen past their dad Luke, who wears a beaming smile as he carries a hot mug of coffee to his wife and snuggles up to her, his arm stretched around her shoulders along the top of the couch. He gives her one of his patented loving looks, kisses her and turns his attention to the photo album in her lap. 

She opens the cover to reveal the first picture which starts a flashback of their wedding day. 

Rory tearily beams at her mother as she hands her the bouquet and she prepares to walk down the aisle. 

Rory goes first. We see all the old favourites smiling proudly and wiping their eyes, Babette and Miss Patty, Taylor, Lane and Zach, their boys fidgeting next to them, Mrs Kim nods her approval at Rory and glares at her grandsons who sit still immediately, Kirk sporting a moustache and a pregnant Lulu next to him. As she moves up the aisle we see Paris and Doyle smiling contentedly at her as they hold hands, Jackson and his 3 kids, followed by a very disgruntled Michel. (I’d include Sookie, but they haven’t said if she’ll be in the revival yet)

She keeps moving up the aisle up and we see TJ, Liz, 10 year old Doula and a very sophisticated April smiling back at her. 

As she approaches the alter, she locks eyes with a very grown up Jess who stares at her the way he always did and gives her the kind of smirking smile that he does so well. She smiles back then meets Luke’s eyes. He looks at her with the love of a proud father and gives her a friendly wink as she takes her place to his opposite, passing her proud and tearful looking grandmother in the process.

Then it’s Lorelai’s turn.

She makes her way slowly but determinedly down the aisle smiling broadly at the excited townspeople she’s known and loved for so long.

Halfway down the aisle she makes eye contact with Luke and they both smile at each other with the promise nothing has ever felt more right or perfect until that moment. Liz wipes away a few tears, as do Babette and Miss Patty, Lorelai continues down the aisle, eyes never straying from Luke’s, as she gets to the end, she hands Rory her bouquet, locks tearful and proud eyes with her mother, glances to the vacant seat where her father would have been, then returns her gaze to Luke who looks like he’s just won the greatest lotto of his life, because he really has.

Reverend starts the ceremony, “Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to witness the union of two of our most loved members of Stars Hollow. Finally!” Everyone laughs. Luke and Lorelai continue looking at each other the way they did the first time they danced, lost in their own world.

They skip ahead to the vows where each of them have prepared something instead of going traditional. 

Luke “Lorelai, ever since that day you came into the diner all those years ago, my life has never been the same. You are the most stubborn, infuriating, completely insane, amazing, beautiful, caring, loving and definitely remarkable woman I have ever met. I’ve seen you at your best and I’ve seen you at your worst, and I can say without a doubt that I am still all in. Always have been, always will be.” (I don’t think Luke would actually say I love you, but he says it in the best way that he can)

Lorelai wipes away tears as she smiles back at him and launches into her vow. “Luke, from the time I moved here when Rory was a little girl and I was still trying to figure out what I was doing with my life and doing my best to provide for her, you’ve been there. You’ve always been there. For every birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas, her graduation, any time when it mattered and even when it didn’t, you were there. I’ve dated a lot of guys throughout the years, even married one, but I have never loved anyone as much as I love you. When Rory dropped out of Yale and you immediately started coming up with ways to get her back on track and did so with a passion that I’d never seen anyone have before, especially not towards my kid, I knew in that moment that I could never be truly happy with anyone else. Luke, I love you. I think I’ve always loved you and I know without a doubt that I always will”. 

They smile tearily at each other then lean in to kiss.

The whole town is an emotional wreck. 

Opening credits play.