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anonymous asked:

What's one piece of advice you'd like to share with your followers?

Hmm, one piece of advice.

I’ll give a piece of advice that I actually learnt through reading the manga Fruits Basket because I’m a massive nerd. My piece of advice is that it is okay to be selfish sometimes.

Friends with someone who is having a really negative affect on your life but you’re worried about how they’ll feel if you drift away from them? Time to be a little bit selfish. In our lifetime there is only 1 constant and that is ourselves. I spent many many years of my life bending over backwards to make those around me happy, I was so invested in that that I didn’t really know who I was. I was depressed and suffering regular panic attacks from putting so much pressure on myself to be useful to those around me. It got to the point where I was harming myself (2 years clean of that though now yeaaah boi!) and one day I realised what I was doing and was like “holy shit I need to sort myself out.” 

I stopped compromising what I wanted to do so I could fit in with others as much (I still do compromise for good friends deserve it though) and I started looking after myself. I have friends on here who have known me for a long time and will be able to vouch for the fact that I am much happier now.

Since becoming a bit more selfish I’ve lost friends, friends that were constantly berating me, insulting me, and generally making me feel shit. 

Ah I’ve rambled. Basically what I’m saying is look out for yourself. Don’t be afraid to say “this is not a good thing for me and I don’t need it”.