Hey Kourtney! I need some advice. I've never had a boyfriend and I'm 19. All the guys I talk to or interact with me always flirt with me and want to just hook up. Even when I'm trying to be friends with them, they act all flirty and want to just have sex with me. The guys who like me (which is rare) I don't like them, but the guys I like have a girlfriend or are not interested. I don't think I'm ugly I'm just confused why I'm never meeting the right person and why I haven't had a boyfriend yet.
it literally feels like i wrote this…we have such similar love lives!
so i’ll tell you what i tell myself:
just so that i don’t cry or feel sad, i remind myself that the right guy, my soul mate, is out there waiting for me. my past crushes didn’t become my boyfriends because they were not right for me. trust me, it’s so much better to be alone/single, than to be surrounded by or with someone who is just not right for you. this is life’s way (or if you’re religious, God’s way) of protecting you from the bullshit. i have liked guys in my past, 3 to be exact, and they all turned out to be…not that great. i dodged a bullet on all 3 of them, thankfully. though at the time, i was extremely down on myself for them not wanting to be with me. but now, i’m very happy about how things have turned out. i’m sure that things will turn around for you, and you’ll see how guys you’ve liked, aren’t right for you.
there’s also a time for everything. the way that i look at me being single now is that it’s just not the right time for me to have a boyfriend yet. but, that time will come. that time is coming. so that’s my advice for you. right now may not be the best time for you to fall in love, only because there’s a better time coming down the road.
focus on the positives. be hopeful. and trust that everything will be okay. the right guy for you is on his way.