To anyone that’s ever felt insecure about themselves and self-shipping: I got something for you! It’s a little trick I use when I get upset or self-concious about my self-ships or whether my f/os would like me.
Think of what you like about your f/o. Anything and everything works for this. Make a whole list if you want.
Now do the same, but from them to you. Start it out with just one thing they would like about you. Just one isn’t so hard. Now work on another. Keep it going. Make a list from them about you, like you did about them.
Because the truth is? Your f/o would love you. The things you dislike about yourself, they would love. Because those things are apart of you, and you are the person they’ve fallen in love with. They see you as the beautiful person you are and few people could ever get close to measuring up to you.