No offense but I really don’t think it’s anyone else’s job to dictate whether or not you forgive your abusers. “but it’s healthy!” “you could feel so free!”. You don’t know what that person went through, nobody’s trauma is the same as another’s. Some people might live their lives completely full of spite and anger toward their abusers, and some might have the resources and state-of-mind to forgive them. Good for them. If it will help a situation, if it will help them cope, then good on them. But the moment those people start telling others to do it too, to “suck it up, because some things are difficult but you just gotta to do them!!”, that’s a problem. Whether it’s a safety issue, whether it’s a personal one or something else, nobody should try and force a trauma survivor to forgive anyone. At the end of the day, they know themselves better than anyone, and they know what’s best for them. If they feel physically unsafe doing so, or even straight up don’t want to, then it is not your place to tell them that they should. It’s just not. I really don’t understand why that’s such a difficult concept to grasp.