list of wonderful women

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an endless list of wonderful women: gemma chan
“Growing up, I never saw any Asian faces on TV, so [acting] didn’t feel like a viable option. I’ve been fortunate in my career, but, yes, there have been many times when I have been told my audition has been cancelled because they’re only going to see white people. The statistics are depressing. I remember reading some that made me think, ‘Oh, you are more likely to see an alien in a Hollywood film than an Asian woman.’”

My inbox is flooded with messages asking to see more and whenever I say anything it’s for a price I get this response.


If you’re not trying to purchase anything from me don’t bother messaging me, you’re wasting my time.

I’m getting super sick of the people on tumblr,
Y’all act like you’ve never talked to a girl and ask like it’s nothing. I’m a person too, not someone you can talk to with 0 respect.

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an endless list of wonderful women: gal gadot
“When I choose a role, I always think about whether my daughter can get something out of it when she watches the movie later after she’s grown up. Or even just show her that Mommy’s doing what Mommy loves to do. And therefore, she can do what she loves to do and have a family at the same time. As long as you have your priorities figured out in a healthy way.”

10 favourite female characters


Rules: write your 10 favourite female characters from 10 fandoms and then tag 10 people. (I’m not tagging people though, cos I’m shy ☺️)

1. Wonder Woman/Diana Prince - Played by Lynda Carter she made my teeny, tiny baby-gay heart a-flutter for reasons I was waaaay to young to understand!

2. Detective Inspector Maggie Forbes in The Gentle Touch (and then in C.A.T.S Eyes) Same as the above.

3. Harry Makepeace in Dempsey and Makepeace - Glynis Barber, another baby-gay crush.

4. Nikki Wade and Helen Stewart from Bad Girls This pairing was and still is, very close to my heart. The development of the relationship between them was quite groundbreaking, they were both gorgeous and the fandom was massively enthusiastic. I still have good friends I made on the old Bad Girls message boards.

5. Jane Rizzoli from Rizzoli and Isles - stunning with a sexy, husky voice.

6. Willow Rosenberg from Buffy - very cute, and her relationship with Tara was just lovely

7. Seven of Nine from Voyager - she’s hot and I’m shallow!

8. Alex Vause from OITNB - not a terribly likeable character, but again she’s hot with a sexy voice! It did lead me to a slightly worrying attraction to Laura Prepon when playing Donna in That 70s Show 😮

9. Catherine Cawood in Happy Valley- Sarah Lancashire. What more can I say?

10. Serena Campbell and Bernie Wolfe OF COURSE! It might be cheating slightly to have them both, but I adore them equally.

It really is toxic to have friends socially unaware and unwilling to educate themselves on socially “controversial” topics like TakeAKnee, black LIVES, women’s rights, and the list goes on. I wonder almost everyday why I stay around them, and fight everyday to not let my stance ever change from their ignorant arguments.

So many people chose not to listen to both sides, learn facts, and listen to families who are silenced speak about the injustices they face because it can be an inconvenience to them.

another list of reasons why wonder woman was simply epic, wonderful, and poignant:

  • badass women of all ages fighting, like shit they made the fighting look like dancing it was so effortless
  • the first fight scene was a poignant reminder of the evil of guns. especially when combating against a powerful force that unfortunately do not possess guns
  • a mother who fiercely loves her daughter, but does not cage her in and respects her decisions
  • “men are important for procreation, but when it comes to pleasures…”
  • the love interest, the male love interest, is so warm and good. i know those are such simple words, but they fit him so well. you come to love him so much as a character
  • acknowledgement of what happened to the native americans.  “who took your peoples’ land?” “his people”
  • also acknowledgment of the inequalities of poc and women at the time
  • a reminder of how soldiers miss out on life “normal people get married, have babies, and grow old together” “what is that like” “…i don’t know
  • the love scene was entirely controlled by the woman
  • the lessons taken out of this movie: god or no god, we make the choices that define us, humans are both dark and light and to say differently is not allowing them to be truly human, love will always be the true weapon against hate and war, being kind and good are not weaknesses but are exactly what makes a person strong
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an endless list of wonderful women: dua lipa
“It’s just important to me to be proud of who you are. Always stand by it. ‘Blow Your Mind’, for example, is about being proud of who you are and not really listening to anyone who wants to try and change you or put you in a certain box or criteria. Or how you should look, or how you should dress, or how you should act because society tells you to. It’s just a big ‘fuck you’, basically.”

brooklynboos  asked:

quick question: any fave underrated women in greek mythology / history? as in, women that may not be all that well known / understood by a mainstream audience?

I’m answering this publicly in case any of my wonderful followers who know more about women in Greek myth/history want to add to this. I study military history, so my knowledge on ancient Greek women (especially obscure women) is probably less in-depth than the other amazing classicists who study different areas. Here are some women that I am personally fond of:

Hydna of Skione was a total badass who, along with her father, at the battle of Salamis cut the goddamn lines of the Persian ships by diving under them. You know, only 10 MILES OFF THE COAST. In a storm. The ships were destroyed. No big deal for Hydna.

Agnodike (possibly mythical) was a midwife and doctor who dressed up as a man in order to be able to train in Alexandria. Badass alert.

Thetis. Literal goddess and mother of Achilles who wins #1 mom of the year award 10 years running. She’s featured most in the Iliad and is great. She is the reason why Achilles even can rejoin the battle, since she gets him new armor from Hephaistos. 

Thetis: “Yet, see now, your splendid armour, glaring and brazen, is held among the Trojans, and Hektor of the shining helmet   wears it on his own shoulders, and glories in it. Yet I think he will not glory for long, since his death stands very close to him. Therefore do not yet go into the grind of the war god, not before with your own eyes you see me come back to you. For I am coming to you at dawn and as the sun rises bringing splendid armour to you from the lord Hephaistos.” (Iliad 18.130-137 trans. Lattimore)

Hera is also in the Iliad and is very cool. She’s made into this bitchy wife stereotype in modern culture, but in the Iliad she’s fucking shit up on the battlefield with Athena. Very underrated.

Briseis is also great and says a very nice lament for Patroklos in the Iliad. Her character is constantly screwed up in modern culture (Troy and Song of Achilles, I’m looking at you. And while I’m on the subject: Deidameia)

And now, in the likeness of golden Aphrodite, Briseis when she saw Patroklos lying torn with sharp bronze, folding him in her arms cried shrilly above him and with her hands tore at her breasts and her soft throat and her beautiful forehead. The woman like the immortals mourning for him spoke to him: ‘Patroklos, far most pleasing to my heart in its sorrows, I left you here alive when I went away from the shelter, but now I come back, lord of the people, to find you have fallen.’ (Iliad 19.282-289 trans. Lattimore)

Queen Gorgo of Sparta was awesome (300 actually got something right) and instrumental in the Greco-Persian wars. And in Herodotus, she was the only one smart enough to figure out where a secret message about Xerxes’ plan was written on a wax tablet.

Olympias, Alexander the Great’s mother, has been underrated and treated poorly in common culture since the ancient times (just watch the 2004 movie Alexander and you’ll see how they screwed her over). 

Olympias, however, refused to flee but on the contrary was ready to be judged before all the Macedonians, Cassander, fearing that the crowd might change its mind if it heard the queen defend herself and was reminded of all the benefits conferred on the entire nation by Alexander and Philip, sent to her two hundred soldiers who were best fitted for such a task, ordering them to slay her as soon as possible. They, accordingly, broke into the royal house, but when they beheld Olympias, overawed by her exalted rank, they withdrew with their task unfulfilled. (Diodorus 19.51.4-5)

And of course SAPPHO. I can’t leave out Sappho and she can never be overrated in my opinion. But thankfully she’s not that obscure.

I hope this list helped. I’m sure there are many other wonderful and underrated women in ancient Greek myth and history, and if anyone wants to add their favorite please do so!

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an endless list of wonderful women: emeraude toubia
“I was like maybe I’m not good. There’s a thousand girls out there who are better than me, and prettier than me. And they have more training than I do.’ This role that they gave me is a white girl, it was never meant for it to be a Latina. They did a worldwide casting. They had girls from London, from all over the world, and they chose a Latina to take the role of Isabelle Lightwood!”

nytimes.com
How We Write About Love

By: Daniel Jones, NY Times

A few months ago, I read several articles touting the health benefits of writing in a deeply personal way. Studies had shown that writing introspectively on a regular basis can lead to lowered blood pressure, improved liver function and even the accelerated healing of postoperative wounds. The study’s subjects had been told to write for short periods each day about turbulent emotional experiences.

I bet a lot of them wrote about love. As the editor of this column, I have spent much of the last decade reading stories of people’s turbulent emotional experiences. They all involved love in one way or another.

Which isn’t so surprising. Who hasn’t been stirred up by love? But these writers had spun their experiences into stories and sent them here, where more than 99 percent must be turned away.

Although the would-be contributors may be happy to learn of the surprising health benefits of their writing, I think they hoped for a more glamorous reward than improved liver function.

Lately I have been thinking about those tens of thousands of passed-over stories and all the questions and lessons about love they represent. When taken together, what does all this writing reveal about us, or about love? Here’s what I have found.

First, and most basic: How we write about love depends on how old we are.

The young overwhelmingly write with a mixture of anxiety and hope. Their stories ask: What is it going to be for me?

Those in midlife are more often driven to their keyboards by feelings of malaise and disillusionment. Their stories ask: Is this really what it is for me?

And older people almost always write from a place of appreciation, regardless of how difficult things may be. Their message: All things considered, I feel pretty lucky.

In writing about love, the story of how we met looms large because a lot of us believe, validly or not, that a good meeting story bodes well for the relationship.

What do we consider to be a good meeting story? When it involves chance more than effort. You get bonus points if the chance encounter suggests compatibility, like mistakenly wheeling off with each other’s shopping carts at Whole Foods because your items had so much overlap, you got the carts mixed up.

“I get those beets all the time!” “You like Erewhon Supergrains, too?”

Pretty soon it’s time to get a room.

It seems the harder we work at finding love, the more prone we are to second-guessing the results. High-volume online daters worry about this, along with those who routinely attend singles events.

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The fear is we may force things or compromise after pushing so hard for so long. We may admire hard work in most endeavors, but we admire laziness when it comes to finding love. (If you manage to stay together over the long haul, however, it will be because of effort, not chance.)

When some people write about love, they can’t find the right words to capture the intensity of their feelings, so they rely on stock terms that are best avoided. These include (but are not limited to): amazing, gorgeous, devastating, crushed, smitten, soul mate and electrifying.

Popular phrases include: “meet cute,” “heart pounded,” “heart melted,” “I’ll always remember,” “I’ll never forget” and “Reader, I married him.” Then there is everyone’s favorite stock word regardless of subject: literally. As in, “our date was literally electrifying.”

Women and men may feel love similarly, but they write about it differently.

A lot of men’s stories seem tinged by regret and nostalgia. They wish previous relationships hadn’t ended or romantic opportunities hadn’t slipped away. They lament not having been more emotionally open with lovers, wives, parents and children.

Women are more inclined to write with restlessness. They want to figure love out. Many keep mental lists of their expectations, detailing the characteristics of their hoped-for partner with alarming specificity and then evaluating how a new romantic interest does or doesn’t match that type.

They write something like, “I always pictured myself with someone taller, a guy with cropped brown hair and wire-rim glasses who wears khakis or jeans, the kind of person who would bring me tea in bed and read the Sunday paper with me on the couch.”

Men almost never describe the characteristics of their ideal partner in this way. Even if they have a specific picture in mind, few will put that vision to paper. I wonder if they’re embarrassed to.

Another list women frequently pull together is “The List of Flawed Men,” in which they dismiss each man they have gone out with over the last year with a single phrase. There was the slob with the sideburns, the med student who smoked too much pot, the gentle Texan who made felt hats but couldn’t commit, and the physically affectionate finance guy who always dropped her hand when he saw his friends.

This series of bad encounters has left them exasperated to the point of hopelessness, so they try to see the humor in it.

Men rarely compose that kind of list, either. In this case, I wonder if it’s because they’re afraid to, not wanting to be seen as belittling women. In general, men write more cautiously about women than the other way around.

Love stories are full of romantic delusion, idealizing love to an unhealthy degree. But in the accounts I see, men and women delude themselves in opposite directions.

A woman is more likely to believe her romantic ideal awaits somewhere in the future, where her long-held fantasy becomes a flesh-and-blood reality.

A man’s romantic ideal typically exists somewhere in the past in the form of an actual person he loved but let go of, or who got away. And he keeps going back to her in his mind, and probably also on Facebook and Instagram, thinking, “What if?”

I don’t know if men are worse than women when it comes to romantic rejection; they are clearly worse when it comes to literary rejection. Even though only 20 percent of submissions come from men, they send more than 90 percent of the angry emails I receive in response to being turned down. To these men, no does not mean no. No means the start of an inquiry as to how this possibly could have happened.

One man sneered at me: “You didn’t even read it, dude.”

To which I replied, sincerely: “Dude, I totally did.”

Writing about love can be similar to falling in love in that we must be as vulnerable on the page as we are in person when revealing ourselves to someone we hope will love us back. That means exposing our flaws and weaknesses and trusting we will be seen as more appealing, not less, for having done so.

Good writing about love features the same virtues that define a good relationship: honesty, generosity, open-mindedness, curiosity, humor and self-deprecation. Bad writing about love suffers from the same flaws that define a bad relationship: dishonesty, withholding, defensiveness, blame, pettiness and egotism.

It has been remarkable to watch the evolution in stories I have received from gay and lesbian writers. A decade ago, their stories focused on issues of marginalization, identity, coming out, and of strains with family members. Within a few years, their focus had turned overtly political in the fight for equality and marriage.

Today, gay writers have largely shed that baggage. They write about looking for love, marrying, starting a family, being a parent, even getting divorced. Sexual orientation that had once been central is now incidental. Which seems like a nice change.

With Valentine’s Day near and the right words about love always so hard to find, let me close by simply wishing you an amazing celebration of electrifying romance you never forget and always remember.

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an endless list of wonderful women: viola davis
“I believe that the privilege of a lifetime is being who you are, truly being who you are. And I’ve spent far too long apologizing for that — my age, my color, my lack of classical beauty — that now…I’m very proud to be Viola Davis, for whatever it’s worth.”