Hey loves! I’m about eight months into my hormone replacement therapy journey, and for the longest time I’ve been searching for the right makeup look. For months I wore full face makeup with eyeliner and lipstick on the daily (and that is totally fine for you to do as well) but it got to a point where I dreaded getting ready every morning. It wasn’t good for my skin and sometimes it did the opposite of what I intended it to do, for I kept getting misgendered. So I learned to start doing less; I feel better about my skin, and I am able to pass much easier. And although I know for some of you passing is not a concern, I am aware that for others passing is a matter of safety and security.
So let’s get into this makeup look!
First things first, priming is very important!! Now I know from paying hormones and other things I have to do financially, I have a pretty tight budget. However, through the help of the internet and some makeup YouTubers, I’ve discovered this very cheap primer. It’s NIVEA for Men Sensitive Post Shave Balm ($5). It works like magic, and it is cheap! The glycerin in the formula helps your makeup stay on all day long. Also, I shave my face right before doing my makeup, therefore an after shave balm really helps. You’ll kill two birds with one stone!
Next up, I like to color correct my five o’ clock shadow, which is mainly my upper lip and chin area. I use Wet n’ Wild MegaLast Lipstick Just Peachy ($1.50). Because my facial hair has a blue-ish undertone, I am using an orangey/peachy color before my foundation to cancel it out. I apply and blend it out with my middle finger.
I like to let it sit for a bit, so to save time, I move on to concealing/highlighting/priming- all with one product! And that is the Maybelline Instant Age Rewind Eraser Dark Circles Treatment Concealer, Neutralizer ($7). I apply it on the bridge of my nose for a subtle highlight, under my eyes for brightening, and on my eyelids for priming the eye makeup!
So once I look like I belong in The Lion King, I use a damp Drugstore Beauty Blender ($4), and blend it all out with patting motions. Be gentle, but really work in the products.
Viola! So now we move onto foundation! I used to wear liquid foundation every day, but I found that it was drying and too cakey for a daily look, so I moved on to bb creams! An lawddddddd, they work wonders! It’s light and breathable, yet is buildable and can cover up problem areas, such as the peachy orange color concealer I use. My current favorite is Maybelline Dream Velvet Soft Matte Hydrating Foundation, 90 Honey Beige ($9). I apply it with my fingers all over my face except for the color corrected areas. I will get to that after with a different application!
I learned that it is not necessarily what brand of makeup you use that makes you look incredible, but the techniques and the brushes are what will do you wonders! So for the bb cream I am using E.L.F’s Powder Brush ($3), which is meant for dry products, but the density and surface of the brush makes for a perfect buffing brush. So blend that in!
Now all you are left with is your upper lip area and chin area that has the peachy tone lipstick on it. So what I do is I take more of that bb cream, and put it on my middle finger, and apply a generous amount on top of the areas. Afterwards, I use the bottom part of my beauty blender and pat that in, making sure to blend out the edges so I’m left with one unison color for my foundation.
Yay! Foundation is all complete! Now because there is quite the thick layer on my upper lip and chin area, I need to set it so it does not move or smudge throughout the day. So what I do is I use Coty Airspun Loose Face Powder, Naturally Neutral ($5) with my beauty blender, and pat a generous amount on my chin and upper lip. This is called baking, where you let the powder cook the makeup and set it really well.
Can’t forget about the rest of the face! So what I do is I take a little amount of that loose powder and apply it mostly on the highlighted areas, such as the under eyes, and the bridge of my nose. But this time, I use a little bit and blend it in really well. Because the deweyness of the bb cream is lovely, and you don’t want to take that away!
While I bake, I like to move on to the eyes. I start with highlighting beneath the brow, with Nourishing Long Wear Eye Shadow + Built-in Primer, Classic Nude ($8). I take the top pinkish highlight color with my ring finger and apply that under my brows for a nice shimmery highlight.
Next, I move on to the eyeshadow, which will actually be the bronzer that I use. I like to keep the eyes simple and nude neutral, for a more natural look. I bought
Wet ‘n’ Wild Color Icon Bronzer, Bikini Contest ($3) bronzer at the dollar store, and it is by far one of my favorite bronzers to date! I will apply it with E.L.F.’s Eyeshadow “C” Brush ($3) and pack it on my eyelids. After, I use E.L.F.’s Blending Brush ($3) and blend out the edges to smoke out the eyeshadow.
Next, I highlight the tip of my nose, inner corner of my eyes, and cheekbones with ColourPop’s Glo Up Highlighter ($8), all with my ring finger. It has a more thick powder consistency, and I find using my finger to be the easiest method.
The reasoning for highlighting is that because we have concealed, applied foundation, and powdered our face, adding shimmer brings back a glow to the face. Also… highlighters are so pretty!
So the next step is to dust off the powder on the chin and upper lip with a very light and fluffy brush.
Now, I move on to contouring/bronzing. I like to use one single product to do the job. Contouring and then bronzing is too much work, and I’m not going for a night time party look, therefore a warm and bronze glow will do the job, if done strategically. I use E.L.F.’s Complexion Brush ($3) and the bronzer earlier and work it right above the natural hollow of my cheekbones, and blend it in in circular motions, whilst blending in the highlight on the cheek too, to make one uniform look.
Don’t forget the forehead, sides of the nose, jawline, and down the neck. I also blend some on the upper lip and chin because the powder earlier can make the areas look slightly ashy. Blend, blend, blend! Very important!
For my eyebrows, I like to use
Maybelline Volum’ Express The Rocket Mascara ($6) because it darkens my brows, and the waterproof formula keeps it in place. Eyebrows frame your face, they are very important, so experiment to see what works best for you!
You can honestly end right here, but I like to do mascara. I find that applying mascara on my eyelashes helps feminize my eyes. Take a looksie!
As you can see, simply curling them makes a big difference. Now let’s apply the mascara! My favorite is L'Oreal Paris Voluminous Miss Manga Mascara, Waterproof Blackest Black ($6). Unfortunately, my genetics did not bless me with the best eyelashes, but this mascara knocked me off the park and gives me length I never thought I could have! Look at the difference in the two eyes.
I focus the mascara mostly on the outer corner because it almost gives it a darker smokey/gradient eye look. Now do the same for the other eye and we’re almost done!
For the lips, I like to line them with Rimmel 1000 Kisses Stay On Lip Liner Pencil,
Café Au Lait ($3), and fill them in with CoverGirl Lip Perfection Lip Stick, Sultry ($2)
Because I’m going for a more naturalistic look, I like to make the lips more matte. Here’s the trick: You take a tissue paper, put it over your lips, and use a fluffy brush and a loose powder and lightly brush it over my lips for a matte effect.
AND YOU’RE DONE!!
Now finish up getting ready, and live your life!
You can either add more, or take it all off. At the end of the day, your makeup is your own art, so go with whatever you are most comfortable with!
some simple (but effective) tips when your skin is not cooperating
hi friends, here are some tips i’ve learned over the years that help me keep my skin in check. feel free to add any tips that have benefitted you :)
wash your pillow case! this one can really be overlooked. i change/wash my pillow case once or twice a week, even when i don’t wash my sheets. this really helps makeup and bacteria from building up
probiotics. i know some of these supplements can be pricey, but if you can get your hands on some they are magic! i take one everyday. they support healthy gut flora which helps nourish skin, hair, and nails. you can also get probiotics from fermented foods like miso, kimchi, and sauerkraut.
vitamin c. so i started taking vitamin c supplements two weeks ago when i was trying to fight off a cold. the next week, i couldn’t believe how much my skin texture had improved. vitamin c is essential for the production of collagen and elastin that keeps skin toned and firm. it also helps regenerate vitamin e in the body (also super good for our skin)!!!
eat more foods with vitamin e. foods like avocados, almonds, olives, spinach, peaches, and tomatoes will make your skin v happy.
take your makeup off before a workout. i know this one seems so obvious but i honestly just started doing this. normally, i would go to the gym right after class when i still had makeup on. i don’t wear liquid foundation, but i would conceal or powder some areas. recently though, i’ve been going to the gym right when i wake up while my face is nice and clean and i think letting my pores breathe and sweat without the makeup on has helped so much!
reduce dairy consumption. for the past week or two, i unconsciously cut out a good majority of the dairy products i typically eat. even though this was unintentional, i began to notice that my skin was looking much more clear. conventional dairy products at the grocery store can contain antibiotics or added hormones that spike insulin in the body, causing breakouts. it can also lead to a rise in oil production that will fuel the breakouts. experimenting to see if this helps your skin could definitely be beneficial!
do not touch your face ever ever..never. just don’t touch your face. you may think your hands are clean but better safe than sorry.
sanitize your phone. !!!! think about this bc i think a lot of people forget but there is so much bacteria on that thing. clean your phone screen to reduce the bacteria that could come in contact with your face!
does anybody know a good covering, light-colored liquid foundation they can recommend? preferably from an asian brand since they are usually light-colored. but any will do!! i just can’t find a proper foundation that’s light enough for my pale skin, it drives me crazy 🙃
You want to look snatched for hours on end? But you don’t want to spend $50 for that Dior foundation because you got bills?
This L'oreal true Match liquid foundation has not budged in 10 hours. And I didn’t use primer.
Normally foundation starts sliding off my face after 6-7 hours. But nope, most of my face is looking semi matte with a slight dewy glow where I put my highlight. It looks even better than when I first applied it. HOW?!?!!
It slightly oxidizes so get a shade up from what you think you are. My pores are invisible 😱 just don’t let anyone touch your face, that shit will transfer.
Had this foundation for a year and forgot about it. Learned my lesson. Save your coins for expensive lipstick not expensive foundation
Your face eats whatever you put on it. That’s why we use all these skincare products because your skin absorbs it and all the benefits and your skin improves or reacts in a certain way.
However we don’t really consider make up in the same way.
It is one of the first things people learn when they get problem skin, is to remove your make up properly and not to put too much thick, greasy make up on.
I highly recommend switching from a liquid foundation to a powder one.
Most people are concerned about the lack of coverage from a powder, in comparison to a liquid foundation. However powder foundations tend to sit on the skin more, rather than liquid foundations with just get sucked up by your skin and pores.
I don’t wear make up anymore (other than special occasions) for the sake of my skin.
Make up can be a massive acne trigger for some people. But I also understand that makeup is something people rely on or enjoy wearing so going barefaced may not be an option.
But can I encourage you all to be barefaced as much as you personally can. Taking it off as soon as you can. Choosing not to put makeup on when you go for a walk or to a lecture.
It can actually be really empowering. I now get some enjoyment out of showing the world my bare face. Yes there is hyperpigmentation and yes there’s some pimples but that’s what a real face looks like. I do not have to paint my face to be acceptable for society. And the more of us that do it the more people will realise that this is what real faces are and that we are beautiful.
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*please note this could get messy since splatter is somewhat hard to control so try not to wear something you don’t want to get messed up or if you do just cover yourself with a towel
materials you’ll need:
a powder foundation darker than your natural skin tone
contact lens solution
a clean toothbrush (or one you use specifically for makeup. clearly mine still has makeup all over it so whatever)
cloth or tissue (optional but i like it)
time it usually takes to do this:
literally that’s it
why do you think i wear them so much seriously they’re the easiest thing to do holy crap
NOW ON TO THE TUTORIAL~!
STEP 1: do your face makeup as you normally would minus eyes/brows (you might get splatter on them and it’d look dang weird having a freckle over your eyeshadow)
if you don’t normally wear face makeup then dang good for you you’re already way ahead of me. carry on to step 2.
STEP 2: get your dark powder foundation and contact lens solution. put a bit of the solution on the powder and mix it (feel free to use the toothbrush to mix it, that’s what i do)
for the end result you’ll want a somewhat watery/somewhat muddy concoction. play with it until you get what you want basically. the waterier it the lighter they’ll be. the muddier it is the clumpier it’ll be.
if you’re uncertain test it out on you arm or a cloth. it should dry flat and not leave any bumps or globs.
STEP 3: dip your toothbrush in the muddy concoction you just made. (gross why’d you do that??? just kidding. haha look you got poo on your toothbrush) now give it a shake or 2, knock off some of that extra stuff. you don’t want too much on there.
STEP 4: splatter (drag you thumb across the bristles to flick it on your face) that stuff on your face wherever you want your freckles! the bridge of your nose, the apples of your cheeks, your forehead, wherever you want. the closer you hold the toothbrush to your face the smaller and denser the splatter will be, the further away the more spaced out and more area you’ll cover.
see those bigger spots? those are there because i didn’t knock off enough of the excess. you generally don’t want those.
STEP 5 (optional): use the cloth/tissue to gently pat the freckles dry. it’ll make them flatter and a little bit lighter depending on how soon you pat them after putting them on. (i like this, i feel like it makes them look a little more natural. also i’m too impatient to wait for them to dry)
BUT HOPE, WHY DO YOU USE POWDER FOUNDATION AND CONTACT LENS SOLUTION TO LIQUEFY IT??? WHY NOT JUST USE LIQUID FOUNDATION???
dude, like, you could if you want but liquid foundation is too thick. it’ll leave “moles” as opposed to “freckles” (just big ol’ globs of makeup) and it won’t dry. so if you do use liquid foundation you’ll have to liquefy it a bit more before you can use it (the same thing you do with the powder foundation).
OKAY THAT’S IT YOU’RE DONE NOW GO OUT AND ENJOY YOUR NEW SKIN STARS
This is what I was wearing when he told me I was a man.
This afternoon, I showered (whatever, I’m a writer, we wake up late), shaved my face (like I do every day to avoid as much shadow as possible) and picked out an outfit: today, the leopard-print wrap dress I got at a clothing swap, over a black shirt and tights. I applied my new liquid foundation to my face, thanking my lucky stars I could sort of afford it, since it’s better than my previous hand-me-down powder for adherence and covering the shadow that’s still there after I shave. (Someday I’ll afford electrolysis or laser treatments.) I paid extra attention to my upper lip and chin. Then, the fun part: applying earth tone eyeshadow from my well-worn palette, then eyeliner (I like to use a flame trick I learned to make pencil look liquid, even though I have liquid too; it makes cateyes look extra cool, especially with the leopard print), then mascara. I threw on a little lipstick and dabbed the color on my cheeks to use as blush. Looking in the mirror, I smiled: there’s my girl.
The whole process took about an hour and fifteen minutes from start to finish. I made sure I looked as close to “cis woman” as possible; after all, today I was to go on camera for The Mary Sue, filming an upcoming video about Wonder Woman. Nothing but perfection would suffice. I’d already gotten a few transmisogynistic remarks on my videos through social media in the past–hopefully passing better this time would keep them to a minimum.
When I walked out the door, I was met with an unexpected obstacle: the contractors renovating my building–one of whom I recognized from previous conversations, and the time he fixed my doorknob a week or two ago–had covered the stairs with glue for rubber covers, preventing me from exiting until it dried. Desperate to get to work moderately on time, I threw my bag to the one I knew and began shimmying down the banister feet-first. “Don’t look up my dress,” I chided, with a smile that reflected none of my terror.
I managed to get to the bottom with a minor assist from the contractor I didn’t know. As I collected my bag, one of my new neighbors appeared from whence I’d just came, and stepped on the tacky glue. “NO!” screamed both the contractors in unison, and my neighbor stepped back, frightened. He’d messed up their work. “Can you wait ten minutes until it dries?” they asked, as they had asked of me. His answer was the same as mine: “Uh, no, I gotta go.”
Then, without warning, the contractor whom I knew spoke: “Can you climb down like he did?”
I would have frozen, but I was late and already in motion–so, casting off the layer of ice which gripped my skin, I tartly replied “I’m not a boy, thank you” and left as my neighbor queried “What, like I’m Spider-Man?” (Answer: yeah, basically.) The last thing I heard was the contractor’s mildly surprised “oh.”
As I walked to the train, I was livid. All of my work crafting my face and body into something pretty and feminine had been for precisely nothing. I couldn’t even interact with one person before being casually misgendered, even at my most womanly. This man had seen me in skirts, dresses, and full makeup on numerous occasions, but for some reason–take your pick: my deeper-than-”normal” voice; my Adam’s apple; my still-discernible shadow; my cock, if he looked up my dress after all–he’d determined that I was not a woman to him, and should not be addressed as such, my visible effort to the contrary.
To my trans siblings reading this: it will never be enough for them, these cisgender men and women who tell lies to our face about their tolerance. No matter how well we pass for cis, no matter how many sacrifices we make, no matter how much time we spend obsessing over our presentation–it will never, ever be enough. We will never be granted the right to be respected inherently, on sight. Not without a fight. And we must be prepared to pick that fight, every single day, regardless of what it takes from us, takes from our quiet, our dignity. Because each time, the alternative is to die a little inside, until one day we wake up and we are dead.
To my cis allies: Now, I hope, you see what it is to be misgendered.
To my cis enemies: We are coming.
photo credit: Alec Bernal. Please do not reshare without credit.
You are a YouTuber and you’re dating Norman Reedus. Fans love it whenever Norman appears in your videos and have been begging you to do a makeup tag video for a while. One day, you finally cave and decide to do the video. It’s fair to say that it’s quite fun.
“Hey, Verge?” Roman popped into existence next to Virgil’s bed, shifting his weight from one foot to the other, looking almost worried.
After a quick internal battle of whether or not to ignore the fanciful side (and also wondering why Roman was using his actual nickname instead of something that he came up with), Virgil glanced over, one hand coming up to pull off his headphones. “What.”
“So, you know how you wear your eyeshadow?” Roman was definitely here to ask him to do something. Virgil wasn’t excited, but maybe the other wouldn’t bother him for a while if he complied.
“Cut to the chase, what do you want?” Looking at Roman’s stance and attitude, he did seem uncharacteristically… anxious. Maybe it was just Virgil’s room affecting him. Or maybe he was actually nervous about a request.
“Let me do your makeup? Please?” The words were rushed. Virgil knew that style of speaking. Trying to say something when you were afraid of the reaction. It almost made him a bit more compassionate towards the prince. But not compassionate enough to make Virgil ok with someone else doing his makeup.
When it comes to skincare, I’m a full-blown devotee of natural and organic skincare products, but in my opinion natural makeup still has a long way to go. In the past natural cosmetics that I’ve tried have lacked strong pigment and staying power and all in all, most have been a disappointment. However, lately brands have been getting better with their natural cosmetic offerings, case in point: Crop Natural.
When I first saw this product I was pretty confused at first, sculpting and perfecting were two words that puzzled me as the darkest shade looked too shimmery, light and warm to be used to contour. Turns out, it wasn’t designed for contouring. The silky, smooth “perfecting powder” is exactly up my alley and what I (someone with dry skin) look for in a powder. Think of this like a more affordable version of the Hourglass Ambient Lighting Powder, it gives incredibly similar results, has a small amount of fine shimmer to give radiance to the skin and helps correct redness and discolouration. On the other end, the “sculpting” powder is designed to be used as a highlighter and I’m not joking when I say it is one of my new favourites. This beautiful pearlescent powder is packed full of fine, light-reflecting shimmer that gives a gorgeous highlight to the skin.