Parenting tip: If your kids lose a toy, money, or something of value that belonged to them, don’t focus solely on THEIR loss, but rather the greater impact of their loss.
Too often we respond to these scenarios by focusing solely on the loss itself and how to recover it or how our child was responsible, etc., but this is a very limited lens that doesn’t teach our children the concept of rizq or qada'a wa qadr.
A better approach is to focus on how their loss may be someone else’s gain, or how perhaps by losing something of lesser value now, God is protecting them from losing something of greater value later, etc.
For example, if your child lost a toy at the park, suggest to them that perhaps God wanted their toy for another person who needed it more; maybe a child whose family is poor and who doesn’t have very many toys picked it up, or maybe a homeless person found it and sold it so that they could eat for that day. There are many possibilities, but ultimately, God willed that they lose it for a reason.
This perspective helps them cope with these losses better by seeing the bigger picture and realizing that ultimately God willed the loss. In other words, it wasn’t in vain. It will also help them to detach from material things and not give them so much power when they see that not everything “belongs” to them, but rather belongs to God and He distributes things as He wills.
May God guide our children, increase their love for Him, and help them always accept to His will. Ameen.
— Hosai Mojadiddi