Lilith is the Dark Feminine. She was Adam’s first wife, God created
them at the same time and they were to be equals. But once it was time
to make love, they began fighting over who got to be on top. Lilith
demanded equality and Adam wanted her to submit to him. She fled and
went to live by the Red Sea, where she would copulate with demons and
monsters. She became known as the
Before this, Lilith, in Sumerian mythology, was handmaiden to Innana,
the Queen of Heaven. Lilith’s job was to approach men on the street and
bring them to the temple for sexual rites. During these days female
sexuality was revered and seen as holy. Once the patriarchy decided it
wanted more power, it began demonizing the female sexual power and its
hold over men. Hence, later myths depict Lilith as evil. Really, her
only sin was sticking up for herself. This is what Lilith represents in
our charts - the dark feminine aspect, unbridled sexuality, equality
amongst the sexes. Wherever Lilith is in your chart shows where you may
have an unconscious (or conscious, if you are identified with this side
of yourself) need to express your sexuality, demand personal
satisfaction, and be yourself. Lilith wouldn’t change herself for Adam
and she went off to live a life of passion.
Pluto is a similar archetype. Lilith is associated with the serpent
(sexuality) and the bird (messenger for the goddess). Scorpio is also
associated with the snake and the eagle. Lilith is more specifically
feminine and deals with our feminine wounds, and for men, their
projection of the evil woman onto others. Lilith is an important element
in your psyche if you’ve ever suffered sexual abuse, have been
ostracized for expressing your sexuality, or if you identify with the
darker aspects of the feminine (or are attracted to the femme fatale
type). Lilith asks us to own our sexual nature and to put our needs
above society’s (especially today, in this patriarchal society).
Lilith in Aries is the firey sex siren, she knows what she wants and is going to get it. Assertive, aggressive, dominant - she take the power of Mars and lets Lilith ride away in its war chariot. She may be a little selfish in the bedroom, putting her pleasure first. She may be perceived as masculine if she takes on the more dominant role. She can also imbue sex with a youthful energy, like teenagers first falling in love. Underneath her cutting aggression, she is a hopeless romantic. She tends to love the chase and may lose interest after making a conquest, but it’s only because she’s searching for the perfect partner, someone who will keep her flame burning forever. The most passionate of the Liliths, her sex recalls the days of knights and maidens.
Lilith in Taurus is an earthy lust goddess, the most sensual of the Liliths, decadent in her approach. She loves all things beautiful, perfume, candles, soft furry blankets, all these things make her feel sexier. She is a woman of the forest, a forest nymph, dancing around with Pan and enjoying all of the earth’s delights. Her sex is full of love and romance, she can pull anyone into her world of intense romantic connection. Perhaps she loves everyone that she sleeps with, even if it’s only once. She is simple in her approach, there’s a bare nakedness to her, knowing that all it takes is letting Venus flow through her. She is Venus’s priestess (along with Lilith in Libra). She would perhaps be able to express her sexuality to the fullest within a loving relationship.
Lilith in Gemini would be very playful sexually, probably into dirty talk, they probably love trying on different sexual styles (maybe into roleplaying), adaptable to different partners and enjoys trying on different people. They also make smart sexy, they would find sex in the mind, like getting aroused just having an intellectual conversation with someone. Turned on by cleverness, wit, intelligence, knowledgeable people. I would also think maybe their sense of sexualness may fluctuate, feeling celibate one day and promiscuous the next, because they feel the myriad of possibilities when it comes to sexual expression. Bisexuality would be something to pin on Gemini (or pansexuality). They feel the feminine and the masculine within them, and can express both sides (passive or active).
Lilith in Cancer has sex with her soul. She is bewitching and psychic, calling down the powers of the Moon. Her power is her insight into the hearts of men, the world of feelings. She has felt it all, and this is where her wisdom lies. There is a timelessness to her, her past-lives are ever-present, and she can be nostalgic for places she lived centuries ago. The emotional bond is what is paramount in the sexual act - and it is always felt more strongly by her, as she is aware that they met before, in other lives. She is the nurturer, the comforter, but can just as easily turn into the dark mother. To gain access to Lilith in Cancer’s body is to gain access to her soul, the home in her heart. Those that disrespect the sanctity of her inner world may find that she’s not just a cute and cuddly comforter. She’s a natural witch and has no qualms banishing you from her temple. She offers you a return to the womb, a reunion with the Great Mother, if you are able to handle her ever-changing emotional landscape.
Lilith in Leo combines the dark bewitching Lilith with the confidence of the Sun, bringing that dark energy out into the light. It reminds me of the 70’s and disco, gold glitter everywhere, people dancing into the night. She’s a woman who demands to be worshiped, and demands that sex be fun, rather than serious. But she also requires a deep need to connect at a heart-level in the sexual sphere, she is a romantic at heart. In Tarot, Leo rules the Strength card which is represents the taming of the animal side. So I would think maybe there would be an animalistic side to the sex, like a wild-cat thing going on. Leo Lilith would have no shame showing off their sexual side, putting on sexual performances (strip shows, dances etc). The bedroom is her stage. There’s a sense of royalty and glamour imbued into her, she is the Queen and knows it.
Lilith in Virgo brings together the virgin and the whore, combining innocence with seduction. The self-owned woman, the woman who owns her sexuality and is not dependent on her partners. ‘Virgin’ doesn’t mean abstaining from sex, it means pure, untouched, even if she’s enjoying a bountiful sex life. Ruled by Mercury, Lilith in Virgo can handle multiple partners at once. She loves to serve and would probably fall more naturally into a submissive role. She finds joy in pleasing her partner, even to the point of obeying orders. She knows her power lies outside of this bedroom dynamic. Sex may be a chance to lose the control she so perfectly holds over her life. Like Lilith in Gemini, she would prefer an intellectual partner, one that can ignite her mind.
Lilith teaming up with Aphrodite. Like Lilith in Taurus, this Lilith embodies pure femininity. While Taurus would be a more earthier, sensual lust goddess, Lilith in Libra would be the charming seductress, beauty is her power. She would maybe be a people-pleaser in the bedroom, putting her partner’s pleasure first. I would see her bringing poise and grace into the sexual act. Libra rules justice so this Lilith may be interested in finding justice for women. Combining soft flowery femininity with dark witch power - like Lilith in Aries she knows how to get what she wants, but instead of taking action she’ll charm you into coming to her. While Lilith herself prefers to be single and independent, Lilith in Libra may find power through relationships, it gives her the stage upon which to perform her sacred sexuality.
Lilith in Scorpio - the true witch. Lurking in the shadows, this is Lilith completely satisfied having sex with demons by the Red Sea - it’s not just rebellion for rebellion’s sake, she just really likes it. She is drawn to the darkness, to the taboo. She is comfortable doing things in the bedroom that would make others blush or cringe. Her sex is filled with intense passion, undying love. She is the reason the French call the orgasm le petit mort - sex brings her to the boundary between life and death. Sex is not a frivolous thing to be entered into, it is the place with the deepest waters. She may be interested in sex magick, knowing the energy produced through sex can be channeled to fulfill her Will. She may also be interested in BDSM, comfortable with the fact that sex is a dance of power. Lilith is associated with vampires and Scorpio takes full advantage of the sexual intrigue the vampire image presents.
Lilith in Sagittarius brings to mind the centaurs, half-man half-animal. We don’t always talk about Sagittariaus’s sexual prowess but what would expect from the sign following Scorpio? They are able to channel a certain primal strength into their lovemaking. Lilith in Sagittarius turns sex into an adventure, bringing to mind high-class international escorts. Having sex in hotel rooms may feel more right than in the comfort of their own homes, where things are stagnant and predictable. Ruled by Jupiter, the planet of excess, they see no limits to their sex life, it is an expansive frontier they are implored to explore. They’re wild horses running away from boredom. Within a relationship they’re always keen to explore new territory to keep things interesting. They look for anything novel and exotic in their encounters, things that make them feel larger than they are.
Lilith in Capricorn would also have an earthiness to her. There would be an element of seriousness to her and to her approach to sex. She has a practical, keen mind and can orchestrate her sexual encounters in order to have the greatest payoff, whether her desired end is a committed relationship, financial gain, or just pleasure. She is timeless and classy, appearing modest. But underneath this public face, well Capricorn is one of the kinkiest signs (sorry Scorpio lol). Capricorn rules the Devil card in Tarot - the card of all earthly pleasures and delights, especially those forbidden to us. Capricorn may be known as the sign of repression, but on the other side of repression is a thick libido, and who knows what they get up to behind closed doors. You won’t know, though, because outside the bedroom she is the respectable CEO.
Lilith was the first rebel, and Lilith in Aquarius reminds us of this. She is is the experimenter, she’ll try anything in the bedroom once, just for the hell of it. Interested in overcoming sexual limitation, sexual mores and codes of conduct, it’s her body and she’ll do what she wants with it. Aquarius rules technology so probably not shy about using toys in the bedroom. May have a detached view when it comes to sex. Finds independence through sexuality. A sexual ‘weirdo’, Aquarius is the eccentric. Might try things for the bizarre novelty of it. Radical and revolutionary in their sexuality, may be interested in sexual politics, a true feminist. May be androgynous, finding both the masculine and feminine within themselves. May be drawn to unconventional sexual lifestyles like BDSM, polyamory, orgies. Imbues the dark bewitching Lilith energy with electricity, divine knowledge - she may have sudden mystical revelations at the point of orgasm.
Lilith in Pisces brings sex to new heights - the heavens. Sex is not just sex to her, it is a point of departure, a doorway to encounter her higher self. When you have sex with Lilith in Pisces you are being given an invitation to experience heaven on earth. Sex is a transcendent experience - ask her when she feels closest to God and she’ll say in the bedroom. May be interested in spiritual sexuality such as Tantra. There is a certain innocence to Pisces, although she dives into the depths of emotion like Scorpio, her sex is not in the shadows. She finds herself completely merging into one with her partner, she longs for dissolution, absolution. She wants to forget herself. Sex may be a form of escape for her, an addiction, if she’s acting unconsciously. She may love having sex in the water or masturbating in the tub, anything that makes her feel more fluid, so her sense of physical boundaries disappears.
There is an aspect of astrology that covers our darkest side…. very dark. That aspect is Lilith. Lilith can describe what darkness you are capable of and possibly what bad energies you might attract. Lilith calculators are hard to find but I found one. Below is a short, to-the-point description of the negativity Lilith can express. I will explore Lilith more in future posts.
Aries Lilith: Dangerous lover, even murderous.
Taurus Lilith: Drains money and possessions from others, especially a lover.
Gemini Lilith: Unfaithful liar, uses rumors and gossip as their weapon.
Cancer Lilith: Uses children as a pawn and the younger the child the more neglect and harm they can cause.
Leo Lilith: Animalistic, controlling abuser.
Virgo Lilith: Perverted corrupter.
Libra Lilith: Jealous, angry lover who has a strong connection to divorce and home-wrecking.
Scorpio Lilith: I hate sounding extreme but let’s say I found someone describe this Lilith as “the devil incarnate”.
Sagittarius Lilith: Reckless exploiter.
Capricorn Lilith: Cold-hearted and causes the downfall of people in power.
Aquarius Lilith: Chaos bringer and dream smasher.
Pisces Lilith: Secretive and manipulative user of the weak and has ties to drug and alcohol abuse.
Our Lilith sign shows us what we desire and most times who we really are deep inside, it shows us the flaws and our dark side; but the Lilith sign isn’t all darkness there comes a blessing with our dark side.
Other Planets you can use: Sun, Mars, Pluto, and Mercury.
Aries // You often become the dominant one/the leader, this is a blessing because you can lead people the right way. It is a curse because you become power hungry very easily and may not always have the best intentions or don’t always know when to back off.
Taurus // You often become stubborn and stick to being independent, this is a blessing as you work best alone and like being your own boss but it’s a curse because you may need other options and working alone often leads you to become greedy and materialistic.
Gemini // You often aren’t attached to people, this is a blessing as there are people who are negative for you and you can easily cut them out. This is a curse because when you dont have the best intentions you easily can find yourself going around and hurting people out of boredom.
Cancer // You often like to be logical and not open to hearing others opinions on stuff you aren’t informed in. This is a blessing as it keeps you calm and you often are able to call out bullshit but it’s mostly a curse, you are going to have to leave your shell and explore the world eventually and face the truth; don’t be so moody about it.
Leo // Much like Cancer you aren’t open to others opinions, and arent open to compromising. You are your own leader; kind of like Taurus, this can be seen more as a curse but it also can be seen as a blessing equally. You are proud of who you are and you stick to that but sometimes who you are isn’t healthy for you.
Virgo // You are very much like Gemini when you dont have good intentions, you can easily go around and hurt people that’s your curse. You are good at getting information out of people, whether you choose to do good things with that information this is your blessing.
Libra // You can be very selfish, which can cause you to be possessive of your close friends. This is a blessing because you tend know who to protect your close ones from if you see something isn’t right with the person. This is a curse because you fear being alone and if you feel someone is taking your friend away you make sure whoever is a “threat” backs off.
Scorpio // You are able to copy someone else to mask your true being. This is a blessing because you can often protect yourself and still not be as reserved and still have fun, but it’s mostly a curse and a habit you don’t even know you do. People usually get fed up with you cause they never know where they stand with you; as you are never really yourself.
Sagittarius // You tend to feel the need to play games with peoples minds with your ability to sooth them, your blessing is you can help people a ton with anxiety but your curse is that you can drive people crazy with your mood swings and mind games.
Capricorn // You are clever and innocent, but not close to anyone. No one knows whether to trust you or to leave you. Your clever always thinking mind confuses a lot of people, and can often accidentally pushing people away, that is your curse but you are very innocent and have a true soul not many can see that is your blessing.
Aquarius // You are often like Libra mixed with Sagittarius, selfish but mostly manipulative with a lot of mind games. You give the best advice and know what to say and thats your blessing, but you rarely have the best intentions; you snap at people and lure them back with guilt and that is your curse.
Pisces // You have two sides of you, a calm healer that heals people and helps and an angry destructive side that you cant control. Your healing spiritual side is hard for you to embrace so your subconscious turns to your other side, that is your blessing and your curse, you have to remember to keep balance.
She came before Eve
but she refused to lower herself
she refused to bow
she refused to act as a servant slave
and what did they do to her?
they called her a monster
they called her a whore
they were angry
they couldn’t take her worth
only she owned it.