Phew finally done with MerjuneMermjulyMergust Mermay; thanks so much all the contributions/asks : ]
Last q for you guys: which merms would you be interested to see the process for? (I know someone a waaaaaaay while back asked, sorry for the long wait, but I wanted to ask when I was actually done with everything.)
is not fanon. Bob specifically said at Unity Days when Octanakin was discovered, Bellamy’s education was stopped.
So, Bellamy’s education was sacrificed for Octanakin.
We have no idea whether or not Bellamy wanted to be a guard, but in “My Sister’s Keeper” he is very snappish with Aurora about the Guard coming to visit, and it’s obviously Aurora who needs Bellamy to get that job for Octanakin’s sake.
We also know that it is canon that Octanakin was born when Bellamy was six years old. How many friends do you think he was allowed to have over? How many deep relationships was he actually allowed to form as a child?
Like..maybe none of these choices were his own, but a sacrifice is not defined by ones’ willingness to make that sacrifice. It’s literally just something that is given up or lost.
Because Octanakin was born, Bellamy’s education, ability to choose his own career and his entire quality of life (including the ability to have his full ration, btw) were sacrificed.
Honestly…there’s this perverse need to blame the Ark for the Blake siblings circumstances, because #feminism! But Aurora knew the life she was forcing both of her children into when she made a choice and gave birth to an illegal second child.
The question isn’t whether she should have been in that situation or not (because we all know she shouldn’t have), the question is what would a good mother do in that situation when she already has one child and she knows the law.
As a mother I can tell you what my answer is: My already existing child, who is living, breathing, eating independently of my body is my prime directive. Any failure on my part to take care of his health (mental, physical, emotional and spiritual) when I can makes me a failure as a parent. Aurora is a failed parent. The end.
Everyone who is blaming the Ark’s system for the Blake’s troubles is very clearly speaking from a place of extreme privilege. Almost everyone I know who lives in certain circumstances (and I know a lot of them being a Black, bisexual woman who was born and raised in Detroit) does their damnedest to live within their means. For a lot of people? That includes not having kids they can’t afford to have, even if they get pregnant and want the child.
Like…even ignoring all of that, why is it so hard to understand that people are bothered by the idea that Octanakin thinks a man who kidnapped her, refused to speak English to her even though he could, who she knew for FOUR months, when her brother is someone she’s known for her entire life, is her home. She knows Bellamy would kill for her (Jaha), would die for her (was willing to get into a fight with the guards so she could escape on the Ark, even though he was definitely over 18, just for starters), would give up everything (…..this is self explanatory) because he already has.
Why is it hard to understand that people value(d) the idea of a familial relationship on this show (just one!) coming before a romantic relationship? Even Abby and Clarke’s relationship suffered (indirectly) as a result of Cl/xa.
Nobody is saying that Octanakin is not allowed to feel however she wants to. We’re saying it’s a joke that the narrative would set up the relationship this way.