so when I say “don’t let yourself be the only black person in a group of whites” i have a total of 3 experiences that come with this piece of wisdom.
The first time some shit happened, it was on an online chatroom when I was like?? hella young, i think 11 or so. Some white in the group accused me of calling them a bitch (i didnt) and got all the other whites to ostracize me. Months later, the same girl who accused me of that tried to talk to me again, saying “no we didn’t say it was you, it was someone else” and tried to gaslight me. This was just when I was 11.
A few years ago, I was in college and I met this one white girl who introduced me to her white friends. (She had 1 Chinese friend in that group, but still.) I started hanging out with her white friends until a white boy in the group said some bullshit. I can’t remember what he said, I just know that we had a heated argument about the Dominican Republic, and he was tryna tell me about MY island. Next thing you know, I’m out of the group chats, but the white girl was still my roommate.
One day, she texts me “ugh I hate him” and im like ???? girl what he do (not that Im surprised). And she tells me how he threw a tantrum over the fact that she wrote, on her personal blog, under a readmore cut mind you, that she was on her period. He was grossed out and said she shouldnt say that ever because half the world’s population was grossed out by it.
The entire group jumped on him because the entire group, except him, were white women. SO on top of not being the only black in a group of whites, know that if you are, white women will never have your back with racism, but they will suddenly want your sympathy and emotional support when they get hit with misogyny from their own men.
Learn from me, guys.
Don’t let yourself be the only black person a group of whites.
(I’m intentionally leaving out the third part because it was pretty recent and has to do with a group of whites on tumblr and my petty ass would @ them, but I’m not about to drag some whites to this blog when they shouldnt even know anything about it)