like this is such a flawed and interesting relationship

anonymous asked:

If you have the time and if you don't mind, what are some books you really recommend? Doesn't have to be all time faves, but anything that pops into mind that you want more ppl to read and love, Extra points if lgbt+ , i got the whole summer with little to do and i wanna spend it reading some good quality writing and honestly so far your recs have introduced me to so many faves its unbelievable

[blushes profusely] oh wow, thank you!!!  i’m so glad you’ve trusted me enough to check out some of the stuff i reblog; that is like the ultimate compliment, i can’t even???  i don’t mind at all(!), fair warning though: i only started recording what i read partway through last year and my mind is like a sieve so i’ll do my absolute best to remember what’s sang to me in the recent past.  warning number two: i’m in an open relationship with absolutely every genre out there so i’ll try to note which belongs where so you can avoid those that hold no interest for you.

LGBT+

  • i’ll give you the sun.  i loved this book, the writing is fucking transformative and all the characters are so damn likable, while still being realistically flawed human beings.
  • the raven cycle (tetralogy).  definitely my favorite series since harry potter.  the writing, the world-building, the characters, it’s all on top-form.  i wrote a little, mini non-spoilery review of it: here, back when i was better (worse?) wordly-wise and my feels were brand new.
  • more happy than not.  i’m still not sure how i feel about this book.  it was hard, but it felt very true to the characters and the lingo and style matched the ages of the players and i have a lot of respect for that.
  • the watchmaker of filigree street.  woooow i loved this book.  i admit ‘historical fiction’ kind of makes me cringe.  it never precludes me from reading a book but it does knock it down the list by a book or five because they’re often very dense and very clunky and end up taking me ages to get through.  but this one was gorgeous.  i loved the plot, the attention lovingly placed on every character and the historical elements.  the surprise gay in an already brilliant book felt like winning the lottery honestly.
  • captive prince (trilogy).  okay, truthfully, i’m only putting this on here because the second book is such a high point for me.  it was never bad at any point but it had unfortunately been hyped far too much for it to live up to my, admittedly, very high expectations.  hopefully it’ll fare better with you?
  • everything i never told you.  i go back and forth on this one.  i like the writing a lot, i like the LGBT aspect a lot, and i like the mystery aspect a lot but there are definitely characters i would cut out entirely for sheer predictability if i could and that killed a lot of my enjoyment at the time (but i think much more highly of it in retrospect?).  so, take that as you like.
  • aristotle and dante discover the secrets of the universe.  if there’s a book that handles its characters with more care or respect or consideration then i haven’t run into it.  i love the way this is written and the people it’s populated with.
  • flying lessons & other stories.  a bunch of uber talented authors writing a bunch of uber diverse and LGBT-focused stories and, yes, that is exactly as awesome as it sounds.
  • the song of achilles.  it is utterly heart-breaking but so rich, honestly.

FANTASY

  • the diviners.  (also has a minor LGBT character, who may play a bigger role in the sequel?)  fair warning, i have not read the sequel, lair of dreams, because it is somehow still not out in paperback (yes, i read physical books, yes, i pretty exclusively read paperbacks so i can lug them everywhere with me, YES, I PRE-ORDERED THIS ALMOST TWO YEARS AGO AND IT’S STILL NOT OUT, NOT THAT I’M BITTER ABOUT THAT OR ANYTHING) so i can’t speak to that one finishing on a high note as i don’t know.  but this was the first historical novel i managed to like in a long while.  it does such a good job of fusing in 1920s lingo and dress and aspects that i couldn’t help but love it.  add in the fantasy elements and i can admit i’m the perfect sucker for it.
  • the scorpio races.  i’m not sure why but it took me a long-ass time to get into this book, i wasn’t flipping pages with gusto until well towards the end but - especially as i was reading so much YA at the time - i really appreciated coming across a romance that lets both people come into it as themselves and stay themselves, neither puck nor sean were ever smashed or crumpled or shaved away to fit into their relationship, which was so refreshing.  plus the water horses were fucking cool.
  • the night circus.  the writing, the atmosphere, the circus.  just… it is all very whoa.
  • all the birds in the sky.  i loved this writing style and these characters and the magical elements.

CONTEMPORARY

  • i’ll meet you there.  there was something about this and i just… ended up liking it way more than i expected to.  i might’ve just read it at exactly the right time, i’m not sure, but i really enjoyed it.
  • the invoice.  this is honestly just hella cute and so freaking surreal.  swedes, man.

NON-FICTION

  • why not me?  i like mindy kaling a lot.  i make no apologies for that.  plus you can read both her books in about five seconds, haha.

SCIENCE FICTION

  • station eleven.  i loved this book.  the way the narrative is woven is so refreshing and i wish the comic book miranda was writing in this book was a real thing more than anything else in the woooorld.
  • illuminae.  hot DAMN this book was cool.  the plot was rock solid, the characters were hilarious and badass and the graphics made out of text and spiraling words and just the way this thing is put together?  shit, it’s worth your money and then some.
  • a robot in the garden.  okay this is just cute as hell.  i can’t even with tang, he’s the most adorable robot to ever adorable.
  • annihilation (southern reach trilogy).  (LGBT minor characters.)  okay, honestly?  i don’t know.  this was freaking zany but i was invested as fuck in all the kookiness for reasons i can’t articulately elaborate on.
  • the martian.  hilarious, engaging, SPACE.  what more do you want?

HORROR

  • things we lost in the fire.  this is more atmospheric than anything but, damn, could this get me wishing i wasn’t reading this in the dark or looking over my shoulder to make absolutely sure no one was standing behind me.  it’s a book of short stories (by the way, i love books of short stories and i definitely realize that is not true for everyone) and each one is so well-delivered and stylized.  i really enjoyed reading this.
  • let the right one in.  okay, this is legit horror so definitely stay away if you’re easily squicked out but it is harrrrrd to find good horror (at least in my opinion) and this definitely, definitely qualifies.
  • horrorstör.  i honestly had such low expectations for this, a horror story set in a wannabe-ikea, but it ended up being so ridiculous and strange and funny that i was won over by the finish.
  • the girl with all the gifts.  holy unique and well-executed zombie idea, batman!

SHORT STORIES

  • the bigness of the world.  there were definitely ones here that hit better than others but the ones i liked, i really liked!

GRAPHIC NOVELS (i read a lot of these so, um, prepare yourself)

  • saga.  (LGBT minor characters as well.)  this is world-building to a degree that i’m convinced did not exist before.  just, i can’t say enough amazing things about this series and the staggering amount of imagination that regularly goes into it.
  • ms. marvel.  heart-warming as fuck.  it’s definitely really easy to lose faith in the world these days, luckily kamala is there to remind you that people are primarily and genuinely good.
  • black science.  this is another one that took just an insane amount of imagination to cook up.  i got off to kind of a rocky start with this one but the gray-ness of all the characters really speaks to me, and that doesn’t really blossom until later in the series.
  • spider-man/deadpool.  this was very satisfying for my super duper spideypool-shipping mind.  joe and ed did us so good, and joe basically said in his sign-off: i made it absolutely as gay as they would let me, haha.
  • the wicked + the divine.  (LGBT minor characters that you’re going to get way too attached to, and retroactively.  it’s awful [sobs].)  the concept for this, gods reincarnating into teenagers before they burn up their hosts after a predetermined set of time, is so fucking cool.  the humor and the characters and the plot is all just aces.
  • iceman (LGBT MAIN CHARACTER).  okay, so this just started.  like issue #2 was only released days ago but 1) i am liking it so far and 2) marvel did it so dirty and barely advertised bobby - an openly homosexual superhero - was getting his own series, like, i found out about it the day before it went on sale and i keep my ear fairly close to the ground (not as close as some BY A LOT, but closer than the lay person i’d say) so if you can support it, please do!  pre-orders mean a lot in terms of numbers. :))))
  • descender.  admittedly, this starts out rooough.  because the main character, TIM-21 (and his little dog too), are annoying as hell.  he’s an android so there’s no dimension to him so he’s booooring as all get out but i am so glad i stuck with it through to the next trade because, probably picking up on the unsustainability of him as a main character, he gets shuffled off and the side characters get the stage and they rock so hard.
  • paper girls. (LGBT main characters.)  i’m kind of just convinced that brian k. vaughan can do no wrong at this point.  his plots are so tight and mind-blowing and badass.
  • monstress.  here’s a little tid-bit about me: female comic book writers are 100% more likely to get my money and my time because they are so damn rare and this series is unique, badass, and eye-opening.
  • black monday murders.  i’m a little premature with this since there’s only one volume and i usually try to wait until there are at least two but i check up on a volume two a lot so that definitely means something intrigued me!
  • nailbiter.  okay, i haven’t read the final volume yet ‘cause i’m reluctant to let it go but, so far, a series about multiple serial killers all being from the same town has me VERY HOOKED.

i wish i could remember more but this is honestly way better than i expected to do, haha.  they’re definitely not all my all-time faves but they’re ones that have stuck with me for one reason or another and that i didn’t feel i wasted my time on, so that’s something, right?  i hope this helps get you started and that you don’t think too awfully of me when you inevitably run across ones that aren’t your cup of tea!

anonymous asked:

Do you think it's fair to start a relationship with someone if you're depressed?

Hi,
This is a very interesting concept. I realize that at the inception of a budding (or potential) relationship with someone, it is best practice to showcase your most refined and flawless self. You want to the person of interest to think you’re perfect, you want them to like you. People are inherently flawed, however. The nuance between individuals makes us exactly that; individual. One’s allergy to peanuts, phobia of heights, reluctance to anything spicy (me af), susceptibility to depression, everything about us makes us who we are. When gauging the morality of a decision, especially when it’s not exclusively your emotions being weighed in the equation, I’m not so sure I have enough information to answer the question you’re asking. What I do believe is true in life, is love is the most beautiful thing we as humans do, make and feel. Without love, life would be utterly meaningless. We need it for purpose. We need it for passion. Love makes colors more vibrant, sounds more euphonious, food more delicious. We as humans have been able to manufacture a great many things, like clothes to keep us warm and drugs to make us “happy”, but something we cannot develop in a laboratory is love. It is something we cannot buy, it is something we cannot cheat. True love is the most precious and authentic display we can gift this world.
So, do I think it’s fair or unfair to start a relationship with someone if you’re depressed? I think it’s selfish to deny yourself and the world the opportunity to love. Be honest with your partner. Relationships take work, but love is in fact the most beautiful thing in this life.
xoxo,
Cwote

I Want To Know You

This spread is for getting to know a person, spirit, or deity! It lays everything out and is probably going to snatch/roast you. Proceed with caution and hopes of honesty. 

1. Who you are. 

This card can be a card you place as a signifier of who you’re doing your work on if you know (for example, for myself I always place Queen of Wands, or for one of my spirit guides, I place Sirius.), or a card that you draw to answer a question. 

2. The good part of you. 

This is the good part of you. I ALWAYS go for the positive definition for this card, reversed or not, because the intention of this spread is to have a positive thing here. 

3. The bad part of you. 

This is where you get snatched, alright? Don’t be upset. I’m going to make a further spread on how to target this card specifically, but this is the card that shows either your insecurity, your main flaw, or something that you’ve recently hecked up. 

4. The downside to your good.

Every beautiful thing has an ugly side, and this is what the bad part of your good is. For me, it’s usually like “Hey, you’re really generous and kind, but you are emotionally unstable and draining yourself.” 

5. The upside to your bad. 

This is where your bad helps you. An example for myself is like, “Hey, you find really unhealthy relationships, but you’re great at cutting ties.”

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If anyone is interested, I’ll do this for them, just shoot me a message with your name or initials and the spread name!

Yknow what I love about Brian’s route?

Usually, in dating sims, the bachelors have some flaw or problem or emotional/psychological hurdle that they need to resolve/manage, and it’s you’re job, as the protagonist and love interest, to help them do it. Most dating sim routes have this element, and it keeps you engaged and hoping that everything goes well for the person you’re courting.

But in Brian’s route… It’s YOUR flaws that need to be examined. The main character is totally projecting his own insecurities, likely due in part to his relationship with his own father. BRIAN is fine. He’s an emotionally healthy, stable, loving person. He’s not insecure or in need of rescue. He’s not hiding behind a facade or struggling with himself in any way. He’s just a single dad who genuinely loves making friends and being a good dude. It’s the MC who needs HIS help, and that is something I can honestly say I’ve never seen in a dating sim. It’s really cool, and Brian definitely doesn’t get enough love.

(Also the fact that the writers use the budding sisterly relationship between Amanda and Daisy to sell the player on his route, even though the main character doesn’t like him, is adorable. Oh, and, since MC’s canon celeb crush is Mario Batali, who’s a heavyset ginger, it’s extra cute.)

SOMETHING I’VE NOTICED ABOUT THE COUPLES OF SOUTH PARK

There seems to be a pattern when it comes to couples in South Park. Person A wears a secondary color which is a combination of the two primary colors Person B wears.

Here is the “main” couple of South Park, Stan and Wendy. Stan wears Red and Blue, and Wendy wears purple. In this couple we can also see a second color comparasin, with Wendy wearing yellow and Stan wearing brown. It could be said that yellow is a brighter version of brown, showing how Wendy is a more cheerful character than her counterpart.

This is the second most prominent couple in South Park, Craig and Tweek. Craig wears blue and yellow, and Tweek wears green. It seems as though the person wearing the two primary colors is usually the more emotionally repressed of the pair, and perhaps the duality represents two different sides of the character which only the person bearing their corresponding secondary color can put together?

Okay, so the two most canon couples in South Park share this color scheme pattern. But how can we apply this? Can this predict which couples in the future will become canon?

There is a lot of evidence throughout the show that this couple will eventually become canon one way or another. With Cartman’s sexual fixation on Kyle (the Imaginationland trilogy only being the most dastic example of this) and Kyle’s jealous nature (not only in season 20, but also in the episode “It’s a Jersey Thing” where Kyle fought agressively to protect him from a woman who tried to rape him) and feeling of responsibility (he’s almost always the one to save Cartman when he’s in over his head). The color scheme rule works here too, with Cartman wearing yellow and blue and Kyle wearing green. There is also a complimentary color scheme going on here, Kyle’s green and orange contrasting nicely against Cartman’s red and blue, symbolizing how they’re complete opposites and yet are most successful when they work together.

Now, just in case you guys think I just pulled some random thing I noticed out of thin air to show you my OTP is “canon” or whatever, let me show you this:

Eric Cartman and Heidi Turner also follow this pattern. Cartman wears yellow and blue, Heidi wears red and green. Notice how Cartman doesn’t wear red when he’s around her, because that would contrast with the green in a way that suggests conflict, which is something their relationship lacks. There is, however, a hint of orange in Heidi’s hat, which contrasts with Cartman’s blue and suggests that their relationship will eventually come into conflict - something interesting I’d like to point out here is that Heidi didn’t start actually wearing the hat until season 20, setting her apart from the background cast and establishing her as a foreground character much like Wendy. The inclusion of the hat symbolizes a redefining of her character as a powerful genious, but it also foreshadows the inevitable conflict. As much as Cartman tries to redefine himself as Eric, he won’t be able to escape his own character flaws, and this will eventually be the downfall of their relationship.

Now, just for fun, I’m going to see which other couples would fall under this pattern…

Clyde wears red and blue, Token wears purple. I’m not going to claim to know anything about their relationship, but according to their color schemes, they would make a very nice couple.

Professor Chaos wears blue and a little bit of red, Mysterion wears purple and green (green and red are complimentary colors) (it’ll be interesting to see how they interact in Fractured But Whole)

anonymous asked:

I have no objections with people liking Nesta but I don't understand why people would ever want Cassian to get with a woman like Nesta. He deserves someone better than anyone that is set on demeaning him. He is lighthearted and a good person. He deserves better.

Sigh…you got me in quite a mood dear anon so deep breath and rant ahead.

You have been warned.

So…I never understood the concept of love being a reward for someone’s ‘good’ form, character or behavior. And I am not even going to get into the whole glamorization of love as an emotion and the concept that is something solely good and pure and only ‘good’ people and certain ‘characters’ and ‘snowflakes’ experience it or should experience it.

I will stand on something different though.

People are not objects and trophies and prizes that one should get for being good and for deserving ‘better’ (and BTW, I will get to that too in a while).

Relationships are not about deserving and about perfection and about what works on paper. Relationships can come in many forms and bonds and it is about people that find something in someone else and then they work through their shit (and in this case both Nesta and Cassian have a lot shit to work through) because they care enough to make their relationship work. Because you get to fall in love for many reasons and you get to love the flaws and the imperfections. You get to like a person because you are attracted to them for whatever reason logical or illogical. Because they intrigue you. Because of lust or intense emotion. Because they take you by surprise. Because romance usually is about personal conflict and growth and collision. Because in fiction this brings drama and it is interesting for many people especially when it includes complicated characters with many layers and depth that help each other’s characterization progress and development in many ways.

But hey. I get not liking a character or a ship. It is your prerogative. You might not like the chemistry of two characters. You might not get it. You might be allergic to it. You might not care for it. You might not understand it. You might hate it. You might not be able to tolerate the story or a character or a concept. It is your right. I am not here to dictate to you what to like and what not to like. Something is not your cup or tea and your personal taste is different from that of another person. Different strokes for different folks and all that.

But here you are in my ask box. I get not liking a ship but why would you come to the blog of someone that likes it with such comments? What do you gain? Stick to your lane and ship and let others ship.

Also…seriously…I am in awe.

You are here to tell me that the half a millennia winged Illyrian Fae warrior who is basically a LORD OF FREAKING WAR that is leaving mountains of corpses in the battlefields and has been shedding blood for centuries is not deserving of a 20-22 year old woman with limited experience that she is just start beginning to understand what life is after leading a very restricted and limited one. This is what you are telling me right? That the man that brings horror and is capable and able to bring nations to their knees and is known by the freaking Bone Carver as the Lord of Bloodshed is not deserving of a …young girl while he is the winning prize in the lottery for Nesta. Am I getting this right?

The superficial way people view certain characters astonishes me.

Cassian is not a ray of sunshine and not an innocent lighthearted and most of all balanced person. Cassian is one of my most favorite characters in the acotar series (Top Five easily). But he, as many characters of the book, is a grey character that can often be amoral. You don’t get to become THE General of the Night Court and the commander of the Illyrian forces and part of the Inner Circle by being solely moral and good and …nice.

Cassian is dangerous. Like Alpha Male dangerous. He is an experienced man. An experienced OLD man. The fact that he looks hot and young and is energetic with a six pack does not change his age or his position in life or who he is. And if you put that in contrast with a young girl with Nesta’s history that has not even traveled the world yet -while this was her dream- then who ‘deserves’ who can become a very long argument.

Cassian is indeed a good man but he is carrying a load of crap and baggage on his shoulders. He is over half a millennia old. He is a FREAKING GENERAL from crying out loud. The fact that he cracks jokes and is supportive of his family and friends does not take away all the blood he had shed or the scars that has left on him (and he will bring those scars to whatever relationship he enters). It does not take away that the bone carver called him the Lord of Bloodshed. Cassian is a killer. A professional one at that. No matter how noble he is (and he is) that does not change that it takes a certain kind of bloodthirsty savageness and mindset to rise to where he is now. Cassian views fighting and cutting through people as if it is an art. He walks hand in hand with death. He commands the Illyrian forces of the Night Court.

For centuries he is mixed to a dysfunctional emotional triangle with both of his best friends in a way that hurts one of his two brothers -because this is what Azriel is for him- and he is in a complicated mess with Morrigan. He has codependency issues with Morrigan, Rhysand and Azriel. He has shown to have suicidal tendencies (add homicidal to that too). He is not all sunshine and charm and jokes. He goes to the battlefield to kill and to count the dead and inform their families. It takes a certain kind of heart and soul and violence to wage war. To kill people. To do that for half a millennia. He is feared and terrifies his enemies. He has self esteem issues and even depression signs (as surprise surprise so does Nesta). He is haunted by ghosts of the past. He is afraid of commitment. He is menacing. He has sent monsters into the prison of the Night Court. He is ready to cut through his enemies like butter or condemn them to an eternity of imprisonment.

He has lived lifetimes. He has experience both on the light side of life and the dark side of life.

Say what you like about Nesta and her behavior but in the end she is just a..girl. She is not experienced with life or men for that matter. She has been sexually assaulted and sheltered. She wanted to travel but did not got a chance. She is very young and thrown in a life and nature she had not wanted. How old is she really? 20-22? And for you a 22 year old -tops- girl with limited life experience does not deserve a 500+ years old man because that man is somehow an optimist and an extrovert and so good? You are seriously going with that right now?

Because Cassian needs to be coddled and a bitch like Nesta is not a good fit for …him? Because a man needs …deserves…as sweet woman as a reward right? Because a woman has to apologize for everything in her character and become less so to fit the needs of a man because of what he deserves and if not then…she does not deserve him. (My mind’s wires are short cutting right now I kid you not).

If anything it would be more healthy for Nesta to not get involved with a man like Cassian until she has some decades at least on her back and a lot more experience.

Many people say that Nesta is mean with Cassian. And she has bitter outbursts with him that is for sure true up to an extent but no one ever pointed out how Cassian when he first met Nesta had already formed an opinion over her as if he had the right to do so only because his new friend (which he barely really knew) told him (mostly alluded) some things that did not involve him in any way. From the very start Cassian had judged Nesta and played judge and jury with her and had condemned her without even exchanging a word with her. Not even Rhysand that was Feyre’s mate did that.

Nesta was right to tell him that “You know nothing about who I am, and what I’ve done and what I want.

Why wouldn’t Nesta be hostile with him? The guy has boundaries issues. And was quick to judge her. He is a centuries years old persistent (borderline obsessed) Fae male that …can’t stay away. Romance aside let us not start glamorizing certain people and acting as if Cassian is perfect. He is not. He has flaws. There are no saints and sinners in this equation. Nesta has not treated Cassian right all the time but Cassian has not always treated Nesta right either. And if we take their character traits into account this was bound to happen.

Yes Nesta is an asshole. But guess what? Cassian is an asshole too. He taunts, he mocks, he insults, he provokes, he uses his sexual experience as a weapon of choice, he intimidates, his uses his body as a way to make others step back, he throws tantrums, he hides behind jokes, he is reckless, he is hard. In the first sign of true intimacy he backs down and alienates people. He has been all those things with Nesta. He originally was surprised and even took offense because Nesta ignored his good looks for crying out loud. Cassian even in Wings and Embers tried to intimidate her while he barely knew her. A human 22 year old girl that could crash with his little finger while he could tell that she had no experience in physical combat or men. He used his nature, his body, his words to make Nesta less of who she was. To make her feel uncomfortable. His game was less than honorable back then. And when that did not work his infatuation started to run deeper and they both entered a game of push and pull and love-anger/hate and bickering and…understanding.

That does not make him a bad person. He is a good man. A messed up mortally grey good man with honor. In the same way Nesta is also a good woman.  A messed up angry woman with a moral code that for getting to see you need to watch past the surface. A woman that got inspired by Feyre’s and Cassian’s honor and made Cassian proud. A proud woman that has made mistakes but is learning from them and tries to better herself with actions. Something that Cassian sees and respects and maybe even has also done in his long life because everyone starts from somewhere and faces difficulties and trauma in different ways and learns and grows and moves on.

Nesta grew up with the same superstitions Feyre grew up when it came to Fae people. Do you remember how Feyre herself acted with the Fae at the very beginning before she grew to know them? And yet Nesta allowed Fae men to get into her home. Nesta’s interest when it came to Cassian himself surpassed her prejudices before she was even thrown to the Cauldron and turned to High Fae herself.

Nesta was traumatized after been thrown in the Cauldron. And so was Cassian when he had his wings shredded… but he could not stay away from Nesta despite the boundaries she was trying to put between them. It was his choice to go over to her over and over again despite being rejected. No one from the fandom ever speaks of the trauma Nesta had been subjected too and how Cassian’s needs should not surpass her needs over this. But sure.. Nesta is mean so Cassian’s needs must go first. But just maybe this is not about romance or about what a man deserves. This is not about Cassian getting to feel better. And yet somehow this is what it all ends up too.

Introvert vs Extrovert. Young age vs Old age. Man vs Woman. A man that has lived his life to the fullest vs a woman that has not yet lived. Who deserves who.

Does Cassian deserve Nesta? Does Nesta deserve Cassian?

In my opinion who deserves who is a bullshit argument to make for this sort of subject. I can give you a dissertation of why Cassian does not deserve Nesta too. Or why he does deserve her. And vice versa for the other way around.

Truth is that in my opinion they complete each other. It is not just opposites attract. Cassian found an equal in Nesta despite their differences (that are many). Mentally and intellectually they are equal and similar even.

Blade and fire made flesh. Death made flesh. They fit each other.

Cassian is a killing machine and Nesta now holds death in her fingertips. While Cassian always walked in death. But more so aside those parallels that mirror each other they also click as characters.

Cassian shares the same values with Nesta. The same need to protect others. Nesta kept saying how she wanted to help families and children. Cassian has the same view point with her. It is in his very core the need to protect others and this was in the end what Nesta was ready to sacrifice herself for.

Nesta that is so cold on the outside because she feels everything more intense than any other in the inside. Cassian that is so easy going on the outside because he is broken in the inside. Nesta that uses cruel words as a shield. Cassian that uses jokes as an armor. Nesta that hides her emotions and vulnerabilities. Cassian that does the same in different ways. Nesta that is afraid to let others in. Cassian that observes everything both in the battlefield and outside of it. Nesta that scares people. Cassian that is not and could never be afraid of her. Cassian that intimidates people. Nesta that refuses to be intimidated by him. Nesta that throws insults. Cassian that throws tantrums. Cassian that turns his pain to playfulness and his weakness to anger and battle. Nesta that does not allow anyone to see her as weak and turns her rage to ice and her pain to faux indifference and hostility. Cassian that gets his power from his warrior nature and training. Nesta that wants to be empowered and get agency in different ways. Cassian that leans to order and anarchy. Nesta that leans to order and freedom. Nesta that is now the emissary of the Night court. The bridge of the human world with the Fae world trying to balance an understanding between two worlds. Cassian that is always trying to create an understanding between the Illyrians and the rest of High Fae and the man that becomes a bridge when he has a death count in paper and has to inform all the families of the lost. Nesta that her power is now connected with death. Cassian that has been walking in death. Nesta that is too serious. Cassian that is too aloof. Nesta that is too proud and disdainful and willful. Cassian that is arrogant and cocky and prideful. Nesta that is all about manners and propriety. Cassian that is insolent and all about wrecking buildings. Cassian that is serious when needs to be and Nesta that needs to relax and laugh more. Nesta that prefers a book and solitude and Cassian that in silent moments shows a more grounded version of himself. Cassian that people overlook his intelligence. Nesta that people overlook her humanity. Cassian born in a world that does not value bastards. Nesta born in a world that does not value women. Nesta that does not let others in. Cassian that is not making any serious commitments and relationships. Nesta that is so afraid of what she feels for Cassian that prefers to keep him in arm’s lengths using insults and distance and Cassian that is so terrified of what he feels for Nesta that gets completely out of sync when she shows him tenderness and interest. Cassian, the Prince of Bastards, that wanted to find his place in the world and be a man with value despite his heritage and Nesta, the terrible Queen, that after loss and building emotional walls wanted to go out to the world and see what a woman could so and leave her mark in the world. Nesta and Cassian that both dream of a better more equal world for bastards, children and women. The same coin from different sides.

And really this is not about a competition. You do not fall in love with someone that is perfect for you in theory. You get to fall in love with …people. With imperfect people. You get to love them exactly due to those imperfections that make then unique. I cannot stress enough that this is not a matter of what someone ‘deserves’. It is about what someone feels. It is about what makes a heart tick. It could be the most weird combination. It could be insane. And volatile. And easy going or difficult until it aches. In the end it is all about understanding and Nesta and Cassian can understand each in a deep level that is mostly instinctual at this point. It is lust and attraction and sexual tension (like …seriously!) and struggle (because nothing that is worth it comes easy in life) and it is understanding and feeling and silent communication and attraction in all levels.

And guess what… Cassian deserves this. He deserves a person that won’t use him as a sexual object so to get out of predicament and then use him as a shield against his best friend and create conflict in him and in the relationships that define him. Cassian deserves a person that won’t be afraid to stand up against him and with him. That won’t be charmed by his superficial sexiness and distractions. That will be an equal to him. That will shout to him miles away to get him out of danger and he will hear that voice calling him to safety. Cassian deserves a touch. Deserves to fall in love. To have a person that can see when he is hurt. Cassian deserves to get a chance with the woman he is choosing to fight with him and die with him and the woman that he is ready to search to the other life just so to have a chance with her and not regret not spending time with her. The woman that when he in bleeding and unconscious he will try to defend till his last breath. The woman that has a name that he keeps hearing in the wind. Cassian deserves a person that can see beyond his facade. Nesta that understands how dangerous and how noble Cassian is because he sees what others don’t. Because he sees beyond the surface. Because he sees who truly Nesta is. And who Nesta is is someone that Cassian not only wants but would be damn lucky to have. A woman that will stand up next to him and won’t allow anyone to offend him and she won’t judge him for his past. A woman that will surprise him. A woman that will shield him with her body against death itself. A woman that will try to carry him away from danger. And if she can’t help him she will stay with him till the end. She won’t run. She won’t lie. She won’t be dishonest. She won’t see him as a charity case. She will stay for the good and the bad and for hell itself. Cassian has been a bastard that had found family to the inner circle of the Night Court and friends and family but something has always been missing. A sense of true belonging. To have someone stay with him as the world burns and protect him as he protects others. To have someone truly understand him and use honest actions instead of words. Yes Nesta and Cassian are in a clash of wills but also in a clash of hearts.

But sure thing. Cassian surely does not deserve this and I do not get why people like Nesta and Cassian as a ship either.

Part of yourself that will be vague or you will be confused about

Neptune in 1st: How you see yourself. You will be confused about who you are and will keep searching for yourself in other people’s eyes until you realize that people’s reaction and image of you is not what defines you but how you view yourself does. 

Neptune in 2nd: Money. You are probably bad at saving calculating money and you easily give them to who ever needs it. you will waste your money on art and music and your work can be related to art and music. 

Neptune in 3rd: Your thinking is blurred. your ideas are scattered and unorganized , you also may have problem in focusing and you may stutter when you speak. when you speak your words are always soft and sweet. relationship with siblings is very victimizing as you may always take the blame for their mistakes. 

Neptune in 4th: Meaning of family. you will have idealistic views of how a family should be but you may be disappointed because your family do not hold these views. you will always be confused about your roots and mother as you can never clearly see your mother. she may haven’t been there for you when you needed her or she doesn’t provide you with the amount of love that you need. 

Neptune in 5th: Passion. You are passionate about many thing yet you don’t know what they are and every time you think you finally found something you are passionate about you lose interest fast and go to another one.  

Neptune in 6th: Work. You procrastinate a lot in your work and tend to be lazy and you lose energy fast. you are also probably bad at organizing work and you are messy when it comes to your health as you might forget eating or drinking water sometimes. 

Neptune in 7th: Relationships. You fall in love easily and you tend to idealize that person and see them as angels but when you realize they have flaws too you become disoriented and confused. you want love like that exists in movies and dramas where both of the lovers sacrifice and die for each other. 

Neptune in 8th: Intimacy. You will be confused about intimacy and might give of yourself too much and sacrifice for your partner a lot. You will have fears of abandonment and alone which might make you clingy and you might turn a blind eye to your partner's flaws just to keep the relationship going. Just like Neptune in 7th you will idealize these relationships and you will see your partner as an angel instead of who they really are.

Neptune in 9th: Beliefs. You will be confused about what you believe in or what people make you believe in. People may play with your beliefs and make you believe their own beliefs. Sometimes you will feel empty when it comes to faith and beliefs. You might change your beliefs constantly until you find the right one.    

Neptune in 10th: Ambition. You will be confused about what is it that you want to work in and you might work different jobs until you find the right one. You will have vague relationships with authorities (father as well) as they will true to mold you to their own liking. People will see what they want to see in you but not the real you.  

Neptune 11th: Friendships. You will have lots of confusing friendships, you will be idealistic when it comes to your friends and you will see them as you want to them to be but not for who they really are. May have artistic and introverted friends and you may also end relationships suddenly because they become harmful to you than good. Very idealistic and you want to be able to live in a utopia one day. 

Neptune 12th: Dreams. You will have weird dreams that sometimes may be a prediction or a message to warn you about something, maybe its your subconscious trying to make sense of everything that is going on or is actually trying to help you to full wake up and be aware of your surroundings. in your dreams you will feel like Alice falling in the rabbit hole and with no way out. in your dreams you will feel everything and will interact with the objects in your dreams at the same time you will also be watching the dream as if it is a movie.   

The reason why I want Raven to have a redemption arc with Yang despite everything Raven has done is that Raven really doesn’t deserve it. Raven left her own daughter to live with a tribe of bandits who kill huntsmen and even though she could have visited her any time she didn’t. When Yang shows up Raven treats it like it’s Yang’s fault they have never seen each other and Yang is rightfully angry at her. Raven never made a step towards Yang. 

But this is the most interesting part about this. Raven doesn’t deserve Yang’s love at all, so she will have to earn it. If she wants this relationship she will have to work so hard and change so much. Raven will have to make the first step, she will have to open herself up to her and explain why she has left. She will have to work on her flaws and earn the relationship with her daughter she obviously wants to have. And this is an interesting arc I would really love to watch. 

The interesting thing to me about Elliot and Tyrell’s relationship is that you can clear-cut have a good guy versus a bad guy. That’s the way we sort of set it up at the beginning of the whole show. What’s incredibly fascinating to me is, what if these two people actually have a connection? What if literally the guy we’re supposed to hate actually loves our hero? And there isn’t this sort of conventional antagonistic relationship that they have — that it’s out of love, as opposed to hate, that there’s this friction, that there’s this battle? I always thought that was interesting, that usually the hero and the villain of any story are deeply flawed characters. Well, what if these two have the same flaws and are two sides of the same coin, and they both see that and feel that and connect on that? I think there’s something a lot more complicated there. We can go into a lot of deeper levels into what that relationship and that conflict will look like going forward.
—  SAM ESMAIL GIVING ME THE LIFE I’VE WANTED ALL SEASON. x
Femslash February couples meme day 23

Femslash February couples meme

Day 23: the couple you like writing/creating content for most of all (and why)

Kitty and Illyana are two of my favorite X-men. I love Illyana’s dark magik, sarcasm, and angst about being unable to control her inner demons. I love Kitty’s sense of humor, cleverness - in computer science like in politics - and I love the girls’ flaws too.

One of the things who inspire me to write shippy stuff is the kind of relationship where there’s subtext, enough of it to really believe in the relationship, but it’s frustratingly not canon. And they have been this for too long. ^^ Well, first, in the whole Claremont arc.

(Also, Kitty’s been recently named “the queerest X-men” and sounds like a repressed bisexual, and Illyana never had a male love interest, and both lesbians and aro and/or ace people would like to have her but still she’s very probably queer. She’s got at least one lesbian and one bisexual alternate versions)

Also, I love the evolution of their relationship. The uneasy beginning, when for Kitty Illyana was “just” her boyfriend’s tiny sister she babysat, turned into a teenager by dark magics. Where for Illyana Kitty was “just” an alternate version of the mentor she had to kill.

Then them growing into teammates and best friends.

Well, with sort of competing teams, but still best friends, and I love what the plot did with their psychic link.

And then Illyana sacrificed herself and became an innocent child again, and Kitty was torn between being happy for her and losing her best friend, and honestly even if it stopped here I would have loved their story and ficced a lot (I have).

But they made Illyana come back! And even if at the beginning they were estranged first (lazy writing), then angry at each other (not lazy but I didn’t like it), and then Bendis had them reconcile, yeah! (then he shipped Kitty to space, not yeah)

So they have potential futures together. Lots of them. To be honest, when Kitty was leading the young X-men as “professor K” and Illyana was part of Magneto and Cyclops’ team, I had some hopes for them to be the Xavier and Magneto of next generation. They can be best friends and will always be, but they have also potential to be adversaries - but also to be a team by themselves. It didn’t go here, but Marvel is still the fandom of hundreds of AUs.

Some “canon AUs” for them:

So many possibilities!

Also, they have this “science and magic” vibe that I always love. And the contrast between their so weird lifes and very relatable personalities will always work for me.

(And I have a friend who ship them, so at least one person will read my fics. It really helps.)

I should write them again.

modern nina zenik

my contribution for @lgbtlitnetwork‘s first event (favorite canon lgbt+ character) is a bunch of headcanons for my favorite bisexual goddess!

  • Nina Zenik is super into theatre, except she can’t sing, so she starts auditioning for Shakespeare.
  • Normally she’s typecast in comedic roles and she does them really well! And then her senior year in high school, she plays Juliet and blows everyone away
  • She also dabbles in ballet and hip hop, but she doesn’t have the time or energy to really get involved in dance
  • Nina has a job as a barista, flirts with every single cute girl or guy, in part to get tips, in part to get a date. Sometimes she writes her phone number on their cup, with a few hearts to drive the point across.
  • If no one’s around to catch her, she’ll make herself a drink (caramel frappuccino, two pumps chocolate)
  • Definitely makes Inej taste-test new drinks.
  • Inej: It tastes like sugar. They all taste like sugar. Why are you making me try these
  • ((Nina makes up for it by sneaking Inej free teas))
  • Most aesthetic instagram. Has hundred of followers, some from a few school districts over.
  • She gets super into urban exploration and drags Inej and Matthias everywhere with her
  • Matthias: This building says “do not enter.” What we are doing is illegal. Nina what are we doing
  • Nina: It’s only illegal if you get caught. We are getting some cool shots for my insta
  • She’s one of those people whose social media makes them seem really intimidating, but then she comments “!!!!!!!!!!” on dog pictures.
  • Has a finsta where she posts bee movie memes and triple chin selfies. It’s got twice as many followers as her regular instagram and she can’t tell whether she hates it or love
  • She gets super into crime/hospital drama shows.
  • All the blood and gore doesn’t bother her, but she’ll call Inej and spend thirty minutes complaining about inaccuracies.
  • Nina: That’s not how being a police officer works!!!
  • Inej: Nina i love you but it is three in the morning
  • Every time a new Disney movie comes out, she and Inej go out. She cries every time.
  • She’s also a sucker for stereotypical chick flicks. Can probably recite every line of Mean Girls
  • Looks Kaz in the eye one day and tells him “you can’t sit with us!” He stares at her for a solid minute before slowly sitting down, both confused and unimpressed (She makes him watch Mean Girls the next day because how has he not seen it yet?)
  • Hates math and english, but she’s super good at languages and loves poly sci; she wants to go into foreign policy when she’s older
  • Nina can speak russian fluently, and is taking mandarin and spanish
  • When older people meet her, they’re really shook, because here’s this goofy teenager who takes duck lips selfies, but she can converse with them about the Russian-American relationship like she’s one of them
  • Nina, although she recognizes her country’s flaws, is extremely patriotic. She smuggles in illegal fireworks for the 4th of July and has a legendary barbeque.
  • Incredibly interested in fairytales as a kid. When she was six, she tried to write her own fanfiction stories; they were silly and self-indulgent, and by middle school, she’s mortified by them and sticks ‘em under her bed.
  • Like, 10 years later, she and Inej read them aloud and laugh so hard they cry.

anonymous asked:

Honest opinion on Aaron mineyard? Some people really like him some don't. To me he's not homophobic because he doesn't have a problem with the conversation unless it gets too sexual (which is why a lot of people think he's on the ace spectrum) Unlike Seth who just outright was a homophobe as is Allison since she dated him this condoned his thoughts and actions.

i wasnt gonna reply to this bc it’s going to start some drama i know it,, but this whole thing really bugged me….

I wished you Aaron fans knew that you’re defending a 20 y/o person, he’s not a kid that you can be ike “ahhh but he’s 16 he’s a teen and he has a lot to learn!! he lived with an abusive mother!! ” he’s a fucking Adult. 

Look, I’m fucking 20 years old and i know exactly how to take care of my actions & words and how much it affects others. i’m pretty sure MOST OF YOU are almost 20/over 20. I’ve been through the same shit Aaron has been and it doesn’t excuse a goddamn thing?? Not because you were raised by shitty people it means you have to become one, and if you become one, that’s just you. 

If i’m shitty i take care of it, and i apologize. No one has to put up with my shit or forgive my awful behaviour just because i had a rough childhood, is not their fault, and i wished you people understood that instead of making dumb excuses for Aaron. 

He is an interesting character to analyze and criticize, and his relationship with Andrew is something I’d love to make a whole comic about, but you all Need To Stop and use ur heads a little bit. I’m not saying you SHOULDN’T like Aaron, just accept him with his flaws, just as most of us do with Andrew, because he has a lot of flaws too, being kinda misogynistic for starters, we know where it comes from, but we don’t excuse it (but if you do, use ur head too pls)

PS. since you say he gets uncomfortable with “sexual conversations” explain to me why he never blinked an eye with either Allison and Seth, or Matt and Dan, but wasn’t afraid of expressing his disgust towards Nicky, Andrew or Neil? Oh Yeah….

A Little Web Series Love

Hello there! Here are some cool web series (webseries?? Ugh I can’t decide if it’s one word or two. The struggle continue) that you should watch! Here’s the what & the why: 

Middlemarch: The Series: 

“Middlemarch: The Series” is a modernized vlog-style web series adaptation of George Eliot’s “Middlemarch.” 

This show is a delight. It has an innovative format (vlog + documentary), it is beautifully filmed with a gr8 aesthetic, and it’s a story you can really sink into. Right now I’m hearing Billie’s words about how it’s difficult to define what you like about a piece of art. I’m trying here! There’s also a lot of ANGST and FEELINGS and I’m LIVING for it. 

The Emma Agenda

“The Emma Agenda” is a modern adaptation of “Emma” by Jane Austen, created by Quip Modest Productions.”

This is a real fresh and fun take on Emma! I don’t wanna spoil it but the way *certain things* are being adapted is fantastic and it’s charming and cute and I can’t wait for the Emma/Jordan relationship to really blossom. Eep! Plus, I mean, it’s another series by Queen Jules. So. 

Away From It All

“A modern web series adaptation of Thomas Hardy’s ‘Far from the Madding Crowd’, told in a multimedia format.”

Okay I am definitely biased because I worked on this show but it has a special place in my heart, ok?? The setting of fictional Weatherbury is its own characters in the show; it feels like a real place that you can visit just by watching Liddy’s vlogs or Gabe’s Facebook videos to his friends. The characters are wonderfully flawed and interesting and if you’re looking for a wee bit of drama, you’ll find it in AfitA. 

Horizons 

“Horizons is an original young adult web series created by the collaborating young creators at Betwixt Productions.”

This. Show. The writing is TOP NOTCH, the romance is sweet, the characters are funny and complex. While it feels like a YA dystopian novel, the issues that are discussed are (unfortunately) very relevant to real life right now. Basically, Horizons made me feel all the feels. Plus the costumes and makeup are really cool! 

The Adventures of Serena Berg

“A new LGBTQ+ literary webseries based on Cyrano de Bergerac.”

Roxanne is an adorable nerd and I love her and if you watch the show for anything watch it for Roxanne. Or Serena, who describes herself as “your favorite transgender asshole.” As you can tell, she is sassy AF which I always appreciate. AND it takes place at college which is my fave setting. Bonus: the closed captions are a hoot. 

Ellipses

“ELLIPSES is an original sci-fi webseries about love, friendship, and the scientific method, told through the main character’s in-universe vlogs.”

This is such a fun (and funny!) original series. Science + time travel + feelings = love. (This is not a proven statement. I don’t know how to do the science good. Sorry, Dot.) I’ve learned a lot of science-y things while watching this, and Dot is one of those characters you want to slap/shake and hug at the same time. 

The Better Strangers

“The Better Strangers is a web series adaptation of Shakespeare’s As You Like It and is the sequel to ‘A Document of Madness’.”

So I know this is a sequel to ADOM, but I actually haven’t watched that one yet! Still, this series stands on its own. It’s fun and college-y and also touches on important topics like abusive relationships. Rose and Orlando are unabashedly my faves, and I wish Orlando’s vlog wasn’t fictional. Plus: lightsabers!!

I’m still so behind on my web series watching from being in production on Merry Maidens so I’m sure there are lots of lovely shows I am missing, but I hope this lil’ write up has INTRIGUED you. Now go watch internet shows. 

Official “Things Sam Didn’t Know About Dean That He Absolutely Should Have” Post, And What This All Means

Sam:

  • Did not know Dean was phobic of flying
  • Did not know about Cassie, a huge event in Dean’s life, or that Dean was even capable of a serious relationship
  • Did not know that Dean was skilled at building electronics, surely something that would have taken much visible practice
  • Did not know that Dean is above the most bare minimum of literacy, and seems to forget again every time Dean’s considerable literary knowledge is brought up
  • Did not know Dean is good with kids… (Even though… He… Raised him???)
  • Did not know that Dean is a great cook (Even though he likely cooked many if not most of Sam’s meals growing up)
  • Did not know that Dean wanted to be a fireman when he grew up even though this is pretty much one of the most common childhood conversation topics possible
  • Did not know that Dean had hopes and dreams outside of hunting (While this might be taken as, “He didn’t want John to know”, the fact that Dean maybe didn’t feel comfortable sharing this with Sam in private is very telling in how their relationship was not a lovely bed of roses)
  • Did not know that Dean has critically low self esteem (He seemed somehow surprised by this in S3 and S1, and exasperated by in in later seasons as if he does not have the ability to examine Dean’s childhood)
  • Did not know that Dean was typically punished for Sam’s transgressions
  • Didn’t know Dean had gone mute after the fire, even though mutism typically lasts for years without stable treatment, and is considered an anxiety disorder (i.e. ongoing potential for relapse over one-and-done)
  • Did not know Dean was a publically recognized star on the wrestling team (Here’s where your “But Dean hid it all with superhuman ability because he’s a weird traumatized invalid” argument falls apart)
  • Did not know that Dean carried him out of the house, or that Dean saw their mother die and seems confused about and callously disconnected from Dean’s devotion to the cause on her behalf, even though a smart person like Sam should be able to tell that he’s missing part of the story– and, you know, that Dean not being an infant at the time means a hell of a lot for his relationship with her

But please, tell me more about how much of a wonderful caring lovely perfect attentive exceptional brother Sam is…

From my experience being in a good family, your relatives often demonstrate that they know more about you than you ever thought they did. They know what you love and what you don’t, even if you thought you’d hid it. They might even know if something’s wrong even before you do, just from your face, your manner. (Tell me how many times Dean has shown his discomfort physically and Sam has not picked up on it…)

Sam being younger than Dean is not an excuse. It’s a basic principal in any parenting guide that kids understand far, far more than you give them credit for. Especially considering the fact that Sam is supposed to be the smart, observant, emotionally intelligent brother, no– Sam was just inattentive, self-absorbed, did not care enough to pay attention. 

Dean takes a paternal role (which opens the way for Sam to take the childish role) because he was abused into it. These roles are not ever natural or rightful. It’s unhealthy, not “cute”. It also bears consideration that Sam is constantly saying that he does not want to take that role anyway. And yet his inattentiveness still mirrors that of a spoilt nine year old.

I would say that, especially for trained fighters used to danger, saving each other’s lives is a pretty basic thing, actually. It isn’t a magic button that makes you a Great Brother. Certainly not when you don’t follow up and fix your behavior afterwards. In fact, sacrifice is often used at the end of tragedies as a last, desperate attempt to make up for their utter failings. 

Humans need more love than just on the big occasions to sustain them.

Good family members, great siblings, don’t just love you when the rubber hits the road. They love you daily

They love you for who you are, take interest in your interests, take pains to get to know you. They love you even when they disagree with you. They love you when you annoy them, they accept you, don’t try to change your likes and dislikes and especially your harmless coping mechanisms to suit them. Their love is not conditional, to be taken away with grievous insult the moment they feel wronged; they value and consider your viewpoint, take into account the fact that you love them and want the best for them. They love you even when the ability to support them has been taken away from you. (i.e. Dean post-Hell.) They respect you enough not to lie about the big things, because they love you for who you are and not for what you can do for them, and they are unable to toss you to the side like that.

You can love Sam all you want, but he is not some incredible example of a brother. He is not some bastion of emotional intelligence. His relationship with his brother is not some kind of near-telepathy level of goodness like fics pretend. His flaws need to be realistically considered just as much as his virtues. Don’t let the show’s narrative tell you how to think. Don’t let it tell you that codependency is normal and great. Just because these people are professional writers doesn’t mean they know how families are supposed to work. Just because Bobby says “Family is supposed to hurt you” doesn’t mean he’s right (Especially since he is canonically a child of abuse). Would you just sit there and take it and act like nothing happened if your brother strangled you over his drug habit? If your mother told you to fuck off when you needed basic support she was fully capable of providing? I certainly hope not.

Sam tends to disregard information that contradicts his prior beliefs (ie Dean’s intelligence, literary and otherwise, Dean’s propensity for interpersonal compassion, etc). Is this a coping mechanism born from an unstable childhood? Probably. Does that mean you get to ignore it? No.

This post is not a competition. This is not a post saying you can’t like Sam– aren’t the flawed characters always the most interesting? I’m not even saying that this is Sam’s “fault”, because he sure as hell had no role model, and the Parentification their father used made him predisposed to selfish behavior (It would benefit you a lot to look up what the codependent relationship actually entails). This is not where you barge in and scream about how horrible you think Dean is, too. This post is meant as a matter of fact wake-up call for all the people that wax poetic about how much of a wonderful laudable brother Sam is, nothing more. There is a difference between a brother that is okay and one that is exceptional. Sam does not meet the criteria of exceptional. 

By all means, a true fan would not be frothing at the mouth with their heart utterly broken to find out that their fave isn’t perfect.

Like Sam for who he is, not who you want him to be.

Regarding comic Lance

I’ll try to keep this short but basically

Problematic ≠ ooc

Like was Lance being annoying in the comic? Sure. But does mean he was ooc? No, because every character in the show has flaws. Like for example in season one when Allura was trying to bond with Pidge, Pidge basically says ‘but I’m getting my dad back’ and like that shit was harsh and borderline cruel, and I’m pretty sure it hurt Allura more than any of Lance’s flirting has. Now I’m not bashing Pidge but it’s just we see that maybe she’s insensitive sometimes and that’s fine because it makes her human.

Hunk went through Pidge’s stuff then showed her picture to everyone which was not cool, and Keith straight up suggested that they shouldn’t save Allura from Zarkon and that was so cold like even now my sister still hasn’t forgiven him for it. Everyone is not perfect all the time and the same goes for Lance. 

We know he’s a flirt. The first thing he did when he met Allura was flirt. He’s a teenage guy, it’s honestly not that surprising, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay because as we saw from some points in the show and in this comic his flirting can be unwanted and annoying. It’s just one of his flaws. And like all flaws it leaves room for development. Hopefully as the show goes on we’ll see him grow and form a more respectful relationship with Allura, which is more interesting and realistic than everyone was perfect and nice to each other all the time from the start and forever which is what some people seem to want the show to be.

So if the only way you tolerate comic Lance is by calling him ooc then maybe you need to readjust and see if you only accept a character when they fall into your perfect view on them, because in that case you might not fully be able to enjoy season 3 because canon will never satisfy you.

anonymous asked:

Headcanons for Shinsou, Tokoyami and Tamaki confessing to a s/o (separately) and got refused because the s/o is insecure about their scar-filled skin and their awkwardness compared to other girls and they deem themself unworthy of love. I need that angst but can u please make it a happy ending? Also please use gender neutral pronouns for the s/o! Thank you so much!

Hitoshi Shinsou

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  • When he finally has the courage to ask you out he pulls you aside where it’s just the two of you. 
  • When you reject him he has to pull himself together and accepts your rejection. 
  • He won’t be angry with you or push you away. You’re still a precious friend and he doesn’t want to lose you.
  • He nods his head and tells you that he doesn’t want to lose your friendship despite his feelings. He doesn’t ask why you rejected him or anything of the sort. He accepts your rejection and moves on.
  • Later, perhaps when you feel open to talk about your feelings with him and you express your insecurities. How you hate your scars, you hate how awkward you are compared to others.
  • The moment you confess everything to him through a shaky breath he’s just overwhelmed by emotion as he places a hand on your back and gently rubs it in an attempt to soothe you.
  • It doesn’t work as well as he likes so instead he pulls you in for a hug and once again confesses his feelings for you, telling you how he loves you despite your flaws and how he adores your awkwardness. It’s kinda cute.
  • Once he confesses his feelings once again he makes it clear that he knows you aren’t interested and he respects that and he hopes the two of you can continue being friends.
  • He’s surprised when you confess you would like to start a relationship with him. He’s a little worried that he made you feel as though you needed to be with him but when you take his hands on your own and confess sincerely he’s flustered.
  • He’s swooning and he just wraps his arms around you, grinning.


Fumikage Tokoyami

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  • He’s very understanding. The moment you reject him he accepts it, letting you know that he still hopes the two of you can continue to be friends.
  • He doesn’t want to lose you.
  • Although he’s a little upset, thinking that maybe it’s his odd bird head or perhaps even his quirk that is the reason you rejected him. He becomes a little self-conscious about himself. 
  • He’s a little surprised when you come to him, confessing all of your insecurities about yourself, your hands grazing over a particularly noticeable scar. 
  • He tells you how beautiful he thinks you are, including your scars, and how they help add to your character. They provide a sort of personality.  
  • He thinks you’re not only the most talented but also the most gorgeous person he knows. 
  • He finds himself saying everything he likes about you, your scars, nervous habits, your awkwardness, your eyes, etc….
  • You’re almost sobbing in his arms by the end of his little speech. He holds you for as long as you need before walking you home in silence, not wanting you to feel as though you have to say anything. He wishes you a goodbye and a small reminder that if you need to speak with him he’s there for you. 
  • A week or so after the incident you pull him aside and confess to him, admitting that your insecurities had gotten in the way but you would like to try, even if you’re scared. 
  • He’s proud of you and will take things as slow as you want. He cares for you. He doesn’t want to do anything that would make you feel uncomfortable. 


Tamaki Amajiki

Originally posted by mirshroom

He is extremely nervous when he confesses to you. His hands sweaty, knees weak, arms feel like spaghetti.

Mirio has to psych him up to get him to confess and he stands nearby as a reminder to follow through with his confession.

When you reject him he’s a little hurt and a part of him thinks, seems about right. You’re perfect and he’s… well him. He accepts your rejection and walks away stiffly.

He doesn’t speak with you for a few days and actively avoids you. Not because he’s mad or anything but he just keeps thinking back on the conversation and thinks how you’re probably thinking how lame he is and how he could have done it better, He’s a major over thinker. 

When he speaks with you again it’s because Mirio finally steps in and tells him how much you’ve been asking for him. So he pulls you aside, away from prying eyes to speak with you once again.

When you break down, apologizing for everything, including your insecurities, he’s a little surprised and feels extremely guilty. 

He pulls you into a hug murdering his own apologies as he realizes his mistake and how he hurt you and wow, heroes aren’t supposed to hurt the ones they love.

He keeps apologizing as he pulls you closer and listens to you.

The two of you sit down and work things out, including you confessing your insecurities to him and he just shakily tells you how much he loves you for you. He’s all flustered while he does this.

When you confess to him he can’t believe it, he has to stay calm as he takes your hands in his and gently tells you that you don’t have to date him if you don’t want to.

When you insist that you want to he’s quite happy, squeezing your hands as the two of you continue to talk.

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p>He’s happy that you were both able to overcome this together.

If you haven’t watched Orphan Black yet I would really really highly recommend that you do.

  • Available on Netflix
  • Follows the story of Sarah, an orphaned grifter who witnesses the death of someone identical to her and decides to take her identity 
  • Turns out they’re clones and there are loads of them
  • Kind of a vaguely sci-fi, high energy thriller 
  • Lots of corrupt power-hungry people with bad morals make for interesting viewing
  • It’s an actiony thriller that’s hugely women dominated 
  • All of the women are super tough but not pigeon holed into one type either 
  • Like Sarah’s a tough punk rock grifter, Cosima is a scientist, Alison’s a housewife, Beth’s a cop and on and on
  • Sarah’s also got a daughter though and trying really really hard to be a good mum while everything goes to shit around her
  • Other badass women too from another cop, to an activist, to a girl raised in a cult
  • Men who make mistakes and are flawed human beings (like all of us) but who genuinely love and care for their girls and do the right thing in the end
  • Has some funny, light hearted sweet moments too
  • But always keeps you on your toes
  • Constantly digging deeper and uncovering new layers to the mystery
  • Queer characters are treated so well too 
  • We have Felix, Sarah’s foster brother who’s gay af and actually hilarious but also really loyal 
  • Cosima is a lesbian and we have a f/f relationship between her and a bi woman that’s treated as just as interesting as the straight ships
  • One of the clones they find later on is a trans man!!

Okay all in all, it’s just a great thriller high suspense show with women and queer people put in control. Watch it!

anonymous asked:

do you have any reasons for why two best friends who seem perfect for each other aren't dating? i want one of the best friends to end up with someone else but idk how to justify the best friends not dating and its literally brought my writing to a standstill

Oh, heck yeah. I’m all for fantastic platonic relationships. Give me a great broship over an OTP any day! Here are some easy reasons they would not end up together.

- not each other’s type
- not interested in each other’s gender
- one or both have certain expectations of who their future life partner will be and do not match each other’s expectations
- differences in belief systems that allow them to be friends but not romantic partners
- one is not interested in pursuing romance at this time, but the other is
- one or both of them have flaws the other could not come to terms with in a romantic relationship, but are perfectly willing to overlook in a platonic one      

- they already attempted romance, but decided they were better as friends  

- they’re more like siblings than a couple

There are dozens of reasons for this ship not to sail. Explore your characters further and find out why they have no interest in their friend that way. Also make sure you’re not leading the reader on and make the relationship(s) with actual love interests just as convincing as the platonic one. Otherwise, your readers may come to the same conclusion, “Why aren’t these two together?”

~ Thanks for asking, hope I could help!

I’m just so happy with the way YOI subverted all the expected tropes with Victor’s character? I never expected him to be evil or an inherently bad person or dying or something sinister like that. This was clearly not this kind of show from the beginning. 

But seriously the smartest writing in the entire show might be the way they crafted those early episodes to give us the impression of Victor as a rather… hedonistic playboy; impulsive and eccentric. A man who needed to learn love, compassion, etc. The flaws we do see from him add to this impression; he can be very tactless, he’s forgetful, etc. Both of these flaws can easily be tied to selfishness or being uncaring, but they’re just flaws he happens to have (the lack of tact likely because he has so few close interpersonal relationships). The reason he comes across hedonistic is because for once in his life he’s actually allowing himself to enjoy himself, which he hasn’t had a chance to do before. And of course as for the touchy feely playboy thing well… see episode ten (this is not normal for him. It’s just toward Yuuri who he honestly thought was romantically interested in him). 

He’s selfish, he only thinks of himself. Yakov says so. At this point in time we have no reason not to trust this outside perspective. The Eros story is clearly meant to make us think of Victor. He’s the playboy who comes to town, and Yuuri is the beautiful woman that has captured his attention. 

But the show just FLIPS THAT ON ITS HEAD Victor is not that at all and I… love it??  The thing is, none of those things (Yakov’s comments, the Eros story) come from Victor himself, and all of the above are totally different with full context (once we discover it i.e. after the banquet reveal) or are misconceptions. 

And Victor is SO much better a character for this. 

It’s expert writing. It’s so good. I love this show. 

So I watched the Inhumans premiere tonight. My dad watched it with me, which was great, I love it when he watches stuff with me. As for what I thought…

I like it just fine?

People make fun of the costumes but there weren’t any I hated, and I actually liked Crystal’s, I thought it was a pretty good way of adapting her canon looks. I’ve also heard people made fun of the special effects but like…I didn’t see anything that bothered me there either? Of course, I love cheesy made-for-TV sci-fi movies, and their CGI is way worse. I guess Gorgon’s legs looked pretty fake but you don’t really see them enough for it to be an issue.

I don’t know the characters well enough to say how well or poorly their personalities were adapted to the screen, but the direction they went with Maximus was an interesting one. I know enough to know it’s different from the comics, but I don’t think it was bad. Again though, as someone who’s not an Inhumans reader, it might have been a terrible choice for all I know. I also liked this Maximus just fine, but I prefer the OTT bombastic Maximus from the comics. He’s a lot funnier there! But he does make a sufficiently threatening and interesting bad guy here too, even if he’s in a cliché role (the evil younger brother of the king who wants to take his throne and wife because he’s the black sheep of the family) I love the relationship they gave him with the prophetic kid, that we saw some empathy with him that didn’t decrease from his villainy. And his motive was more complex than just wanting to be king too; Attilan is a legitimately flawed society and changing it is a good thing. He’s just doing it by terrible means.

I also like that Black Bolt used sign language, and the bit where he puts his heart to the communicator to let Medusa know he’s alive was both clever and sweet.

If I’ve got one complaint, it’s that I don’t like seeing Auran as a bad guy loyal to Maximus. She also never shows Auran’s powers from the comics, so between that and not looking like Auran either, I don’t see why they even gave her Auran’s name.


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