So I was at a big conference the past four days for school and I went to starbucks to get something to drink before an event so I had a nametag with my dead name on it. The guy at the counter asked for a name and I told him the name I go by. (Rowen) but he completely ignored me and wrote my deadname on the cup. He also ignored me when I tried to correct him. How do I handle people like this? I was really upset by it.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. You are not going to see this man again, if you want you can go to his manger and say hey I asked him to write a different name on my cup and he didn’t. You might get a free drink but odds are this dude hates his job, has been taking a million orders that day and is just use to looking up, writing the name that’s on your name tag and moving the line.
Some people aren’t trying to misgender you, some people aren’t trying to offend you, they just aren’t thinking.
I would not even let it bother you. Did he purposely misgender you? Probably not? Did he write something offensive on your cup? Nope. Did he get your drink wrong? Nope.
If it were to keep happening I would complain but don’t let something so small ruin your day. I wouldn’t even think twice about it.
I know people are going to complain about this advice and be like oh you should care, you should go yell to the manger. Dude, sometimes people just don’t give a fuck, this world is crappy enough, let it go.
People call me Kate all the time still because it’s on my ID even when I tell them Kyle because they are just trying to get through their day and not paying enough attention.