Hiya love! Oh my god this is a great question, I have been thinking about the best way to answer it for a bit. <3
The question that popped into my head when I was trying was “If being with Chrissie didn’t come with money, status and power would he have loved her enough to marry her?” and for me personally the answer is no. I don’t think he has ever experienced the kind of love and passion he has had with Aaron. And before he knew what it COULD be he thought that the material things were important enough to him that they would fill in the gaps that his life with her would have. That with all the perks he would get combined with what he DOES feel for her it would be enough for him to be content. It was only after being with Aaron and then losing him that he realized that those things are important to him, yes, but they aren’t enough for him to be truly happy and content with his life.
I think it’s kinda obvious he was already starting to feel antsy and trapped because he found his way to Aaron in the first place. He picked Aaron because he was already attracted to him and his life with the Whites was starting to feel like a noose around his neck. He was trapping himself in a life where he was always putting on a show and never letting who he really is out. That first time with Aaron came about because he wanted him so much, but also because he wanted to prove to himself that no matter how much he played the picture perfect fiance, he wasn’t truly tamed. He was still Robert fucking Sugden.
When Aaron broke up with him it would have been a piece of cake for him to go out and replace the “thrill” he had lost. But we are never once given a reason to think that he went out and found someone else. Because what he was trying to replace wasn’t a thrill. It was the feelings of peace and happiness he had been experiencing with Aaron. He is suddenly trying to throw himself into domestic bliss, whenever Robert goes out and cheats it is because he feels he is missing something. When he found Aaron that first time he was afraid he was missing/losing a part of himself to the false face he was putting on so he would fit into the space in Chrissie’s life. And when he loses Aaron he doesn’t go out to bone a stranger, he starts playing the perfect husband at 110%.
And the point with that is that he didn’t have to try to find someone else to have that with until Aaron was GONE. He didn’t have anything missing while he was with Aaron, he got to be Robert fucking Sugden WHILE having happiness and contentment. I love that right now everything with Aaron has broke pattern for Robert. He is the only person that Robert has no secrets from (the “pushing” Katie thing and whether he should have elaborated is one of those things we each have to decide for ourselves), he is the only one he never lies to (he confessed to his ONE lie to HELP Aaron) which he did to be selfless, something else he NEVER does. I am a firm believer that the core of who a person is doesn’t change, outside factors can taint a persons behavior and their actions. But the person they truly are is a fixed point, but that point can also be molded and shaped to bring the better parts of a them to the surface. It’s all in there it just takes the right set of circumstances to make someone feel comfortable enough to “change”.
Who Robert is at his very core isn’t a bad person, he is just someone who has had a lot of pain and emotional trauma. He has been made to feel like that core is something that no one could ever really love, he will never be enough for someone. His actions have been affected by that belief, he has grown to believe that just like he can never BE enough he can never HAVE enough. There will always be something missing from his life and his relationships, because there is something missing from him.
Aaron is the first person to see all of him and still love him for exactly who he is. Aaron loving him isn’t dependent on him acting one way or the other, he is gonna love him no matter what. But he also holds Robert accountable and expects better from him, but he never expects Robert to be better FOR AARON. He doesn’t need him to change in order to be able to love him, he wants him to be better because it’s what Robert’s family deserves from him. It’s not because Aaron thinks he isn’t enough it’s because he KNOWS that Robert already is more.
Now to flat out answer your question, yes I think one person can be enough for him. He is very sexual, but cheating is usually more psychological than just about having a high sex drive. He doesn’t try to find easier lays when being with Aaron is difficult, he just works harder to be with him. I think finding someone that he, ROBERT, in all of his dickhead, trashcan glory will be enough for, will give him a satisfaction that no one else has ever been able to. I think when he finds someone that doesn’t look at him as lacking, he won’t feel like the relationship itself is lacking. And that is exactly what Aaron is doing. Right now he is still afraid, that is a whole different post, but about whether he CAN and whether I think he WILL. Yeah I think he can and he is already well on his way.
Or maybe I’m a hopeless romantic and my love for this asshole is clouding my judgement. *shrugs* At least I will be in that boat with the beautiful Aaron Livesy.
This is a soap so one day if the writers start to feel they’re getting dry and need to liven things up they could have one of them cheat. But it would be such a waste of such an incredibly rare soap dynamic that I hope they can continue to be more creative than the standard cheating angle.