lifelong hatred

anonymous asked:

This is just kind of a general vent: it's really frustrating when congenitally thin/attractive people post "any body is a bikini body," etc type posts. I understand embracing your body can be hard at any size (especially if you have an ed) but at the end of the day you're still considered thin and society is going to accept your thin body more than they will ever accept my fat one. Idk it's just really frustrating and a lot of it feels so false when you know people won't treat you that way

Absolutely. I think this runs in the same vein of thin people trying to be a part of the body positivity movement. It’s one thing to BE body positive, because yes everyone has insecurities, but thin people will NEVER experience the systemic pitfalls and social stigma that surrounds fatness—especially fat women.

Fat is an identity, and compounded with other oppressed identities, becomes something society makes you apologize for in a variety of ways. Not to mention the lifelong internalized hatred that can accompany people from a young age.

The majority of thin people arrive at their teens or twenties and realize “Hey, beauty standards aren’t cool.” Good job. They’re not cool. But trying to step into a movement that does not belong to you does more harm than good! Fat bodies are further erased! Imagine how much more fat bodies would be loved if thin people had not stolen “thick” and “curvy” ~aesthetics~ in order to establish brand spankin’ new beauty standards that are even MORE impossible to achieve: not just thin, but thin in the waist with an ample bosom and a huge butt and even big thighs.

Thin people: absolutely post pictures in bikinis posed however you want. You do you. Just don’t claim to be FAT just because you gained five pounds in a year. As if your conventionally attractive body is a huge slap in the face to a society that already. accepts. you.

(P.S. gaining weight and then saying you’re “still” healthy and fit devalues fat bodies because you’re essentially saying that 1) to be fatter ISN’T to be fit and healthy and 2) a body that happens to not be fit/healthy is not valuable.)

anonymous asked:

hey! so idk if you got all the au week drabbles finished yet,but klaroline meets the movie 'what's your number?' if you did finish yours,can you pass the request along for one of your friends who needs a prompt? or just use it as a random prompt if you want lmao idk,thanks darling!

Where To Start

There’s someone pounding on her door. The noise woke her from an excellent dream and it’s really, really pissing her off.

In Caroline’s opinion the very best part about being self-employed was the ability to set her own hours. These days she rarely had to get up before 10 AM. She no longer had to struggle against her lifelong hatred of early mornings. A perk that totally made the ridiculous amount of money she had to pay for health insurance worth it. Getting through high school, college, and those first two hears of admin hell where blaring alarms had been a necessity had been a struggle she’d only survived by downing copious amounts of coffee and indulging in the occasional dessert for breakfast.

Ice cream was filled with calcium, right? It wasn’t that unhealthy.

Caroline gropes for a pillow, burrows further into her nice warm comforter, and resolves to ignore whatever inconsiderate moron is attempting to disturb her. She’s not expecting anyone, hasn’t indulged herself in any online shopping recently, and her fire alarm and carbon monoxide detector are in perfect working order so she’s not in any danger. Caroline’s tired, and hung over, and she feels like she deserves to go back to sleep.

Last night’s bachelorette party had turned into a nightmare. She hadn’t really even wanted to go in the first place. Elena might have been Caroline’s best friend in high school but they’d drifted pretty far apart in the years since. She’d gotten the full court press from Elena, Bonnie and Elena’s mom over Christmas though. She’d had no choice but to promise to show up.

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anonymous asked:

Exactly, revenge is futile, but people do it again and again regardless. Maybe Sandor is too old to realize he'd be better off leaving Gregor alone, too angry, too eaten up by lifelong hatred. What is he doing in your opinion? Living out his life on this island to be never seen or heard of again? Who would kill Gregor? and btw, i quite agree with the other anon too, tyrion taking the rock w/ dragons is quite "disney" xD

Again, I think you’re completely misreading Sandor’s story. 

Thrice Ned saw Ser Gregor aim savage blows at the hound’s-head helmet, yet not once did Sandor send a cut at his brother’s unprotected face.

In A Clash of Kings and A Storm of Swords, Sandor Clegane finds it in himself to be a true knight by defending and coming to care deeply about Sansa and Arya, respectively. In doing so, he finally lets go of his bitter certainty that knighthood is a lie, that life is just about killing or being killed, and that strength and violence are synonymous. His experience with Sansa during her captivity in King’s Landing taught him that weak people are the violent ones (such as Joffrey), and that it takes strength to be gentle and kind. His experience with Arya, watching her running to certain death out of desperation to save her mother and brother, reminds him that heroism exists at an individual, existential level no matter how poorly society reflects those values, and that there are families out there who provided their children with genuine love and support. 

For him to have gone through all that and then stick to killing Gregor as his raison d’etre would be total character regression. Why would GRRM put him through all that growth and then throw it away? That would be purely nihilistic, and ASOIAF is not about how revenge is futile but oops it happens anyway, shrug, whaddyagonnado? It’s about people struggling to work past that kind of thing; some of them fail, yes, but I have to question the reading comprehension of anyone who thinks Sandor is one of them. 

Besides, I have practical objections to Cleganebowl. Sandor appears to be permanently lame, leaving him with no chance against Robert Strong, and we have no indication that anyone outside the Quiet Isle knows that Sandor is alive. How anyone could believe that the Elder Brother, given the monologue he delivers to Brienne about how Sandor’s anger against Gregor destroyed the former’s life, would tell Sandor about Robert Strong or deliver the former to the High Sparrow is beyond me. (If nothing else, I really think the Elder Brother would be horrified by the High Sparrow’s attitude and actions, and would never provide him with a champion.) 

Finally, and this is admittedly a subjective interpretation based on my own attitude towards life, consciousness, and the individual, “Robert Strong” is not really Gregor. Think back to that moment in any zombie movie where someone comes up against a zombified relative and hesitates to shoot until they’re reminded “it’s not really them!” Sandor would know better than to think he’s really fighting the man who shoved his face into the flames as a child. He’s fighting a pile of diseased flesh given a Frankensteinian spark of energy. We don’t know that Robert Strong has any memories of Gregor’s life, if he would even recognize Sandor; it’s entirely possible he just does whatever Qyburn or Cersei tells him to do, and is incapable of thought beyond that. He’s not a human being, he’s an undead abomination, and there’s no personal catharsis to be had in putting this monster down. No way in hell GRRM is leading Sandor to such a numb, pointless, nihilistic conclusion. 

(As for the whole “Disney” thing…protagonists returning home a changed person, to properly measure the gap between who they were when they lived there and who they are now, was not invented by Disney. It’s an old-as-dirt trope, which doesn’t make it bad. Moreover, I seem to have missed the Disney movie where the protagonist burns people alive while doing so.)

(Note that I’m fully aware Amethyst’s line here means physically smaller as well as lower on the social tier, but I just wanted to say this.)

So in Peridot’s arc, we can say with confidence that Amethyst played a huge part in her redemption.

But what if Amethyst doesn’t see that?

She respects Peridot, of course. She’s her friend. But what if she doesn’t see the impact she’s had – and continues to have – on Peridot? What if she’s completely oblivious? What if she sees Peridot’s ‘feeling big’ as a charming ego trip and just an amusing part of her personality rather than what it really is: a huge sense of compassion that Amethyst helped her gain?

I know her lifelong self-hatred and losing to Jasper played a big part in her downward spiral during episodes like ‘Crack the Whip’ and ‘Beta’. But I’d like to think she wouldn’t have felt quite so bad like she did if she had the sense of fulfillment of completely changing someone’s life the way she has Peridot’s.

I don’t think there’s ever been a scene where she’s acknowledged that she played a part in that. Like forgiving her for calling her defective; she just left it with “But you’re still a nerd.” and never thought of it again.

She never heard Peridot say that she made her feel big.

Just food for thought.

Fred Phelps Understood the Bible

(I’ve talked about Christianity and gay rights before, also.)

So Fred Phelps is dead. I know just talking about him can be considered giving him undeserved attention and helping to spread his lifelong message of hatred and intolerance, but as the world (or the nation, at least) considers his life I find a lot of whitewashing going on. Not of Phelps’ life or message, but of his message and its relation to Christianity.

As I said in my last post: Fred Phelps was completely 100-percent accurate about Yahweh, the Judeo-Christian deity, and their view of gay people. I know lots of people would rather pretend this is not the case, but I have never seen a convincing argument to refute Biblical passages that clearly, unequivocably condemn homosexuality, to say they don’t really mean exactly what they say.

To preempt anyone who wants to say “God doesn’t hate gay people, he just doesn’t accept homosexual practice,” let me remind you that Jesus was big on thoughtcrime. If you look at someone with lust in your heart you’re committing adultery. The desire is a sin by itself. So how are gay thoughts, gay lust, not a sin? Just being gay and being attracted to someone of the same sex is, according to the Bible, sinful.

‘But didn’t Jesus love all people?’ What a stupid question. No, he didn’t. The concept of hell is not an esoteric, apocryphal bit of Christianity, is it? It’s one of the most iconic parts of the Christianity package, the stick to heaven’s carrot.

Really, how can anyone say with a straight face that God loves all people while at the same time invoking the fire-and-brimstone idea of hell? But look at these cartoons.

Fred Phelps is going to hell for spreading the message of hate contained in the Bible? Even if Phelps had pulled “God hates fags” completely out of his ass, just making it up without any Biblical connection whatsoever, the idea being presented here is that God is returning Phelps’ hatred with suffering.

The claim that God is all-loving, that Jesus was infinitely merciful and benevolent, goes right out the window when you suggest that not towing the heavenly line results in an eternity of damnation. Even when Anderson, Priggee, and Plante try to say “God doesn’t hate these people” they’re falling back on the classic “God hates some people” (or “God hates the people I hate”) line. I’m so confused.

And I think so many other Christians are confused as well, but how else can you react when you have a holy book that lays out so many rules and restrictions and limitations, dividing humanity into the saved and the heathen, while at the same time having the (I would say understandably human) desire for a benevolent parent-figure who gels with modern society’s views on sex, gender rights, and other social issues?

American society does not follow the Bible’s teachings. There are areas where the two come together, such as vague understandings of justice and fairness (specific definitions of those terms muddies the waters), but those similarities are so simplistic and fundamental that you can find them in virtually any civilization throughout history. Prohibitions on murder and lying are not unique to Christianity, nor does American society require a devotion to Biblical teaching in order to have such values.

But as the coverage of Phelps’ death shows, we need to remember that the Bible does not follow American society’s standards. The Bible has no respect for the freedom of speech, or religion, or women’s rights or gay rights or multiculturalism. Or democracy in general; no leader in the Bible is elected by the will of the people. And as society moves forward and progresses, you cannot retroactively change the Bible to claim it is in keeping with our modern morality. It is an Iron Age text with Iron Age morals and worldview.

No matter how embarrassing that may be, no matter how much you may want to distance yourself from the sexists and the homophobes, the fact is this religion and this holy text are sexist and homophobic. Our society is, to a significant degree, not sexist and homophobic; we’ve got a long way to go, but we’re trying, and as we move forward the Bible is not keeping up with us, no matter how much you may like to pretend it is.