life-skills

How to Start a Conversation When You Have Nothing to Talk About

Starting a conversation to get to know someone or breaking an awkward silence can be very stressful. To start a conversation when you have nothing to talk about, use these guidelines.

1. Introduce yourself if necessary. If you don’t know the person, breaking the ice is very simple: look approachable, tell the new person your name, offer your hand to shake, and smile.
2. Remark on the location or occasion. Look around and see if there is anything worth pointing out. Examples of location or occasion comments include: “This is a gorgeous room!”, or “Great dog!”
3. Ask an open-ended question. Most people love to talk about themselves, and open questions can help with this. These require an explanation for an answer rather than just a simple yes or no. Open questions tend to begin with who, when, what, why, where, and how.
4. Keep the conversation going with small talk. This keeps the conversation light and simple, and helps to establish similarities.
5. Synchronize. Once the other person has started talking, follow his or her cues to keep the conversation going smoothly. Use active listening to reflect what they’re saying and, perhaps, feeling.
6. Helpful techniques and cues to convey your interest include: Say the other person’s name from time to time; give encouraging feedback (by nodding, saying “ah-ha”, “wow’, “oh” “That’s amazing!”, etc.); keep your body language open and welcoming; and make comfortable, genuine eye contact with the person.
7. Be aware of your internal monologue. When you suddenly feel that you’re not able to engage in conversation with someone else, it’s likely that you’re saying negative things to yourself. For example, you may be worrying that you’re boring, not good enough, too unimportant, intruding, wasting their time, and so on. Try to keep in mind that everyone has these self-doubts from time to time.
8. Respond thoughtfully to someone who remains awkward or uncomfortable. If he or she appears withdrawn and uninterested, don’t persist for too long. Try a bit more, and then make the decision to move on and talk to somebody else. Also, be careful not to ask too many questions as they may feel shy discussing themselves.

Source: http://www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About (Adapted)

How to Do Your Laundry Without Ruining Your Wardrobe

Doing laundry for yourself is like a rite of passage most of you should earn in your teens, but the sad fact of the world is that the majority of you still have your mommies washing your clothes every holiday break til you graduate college. Whenever it happens, this is something you gotta learn and if you do it wrong, there can be some disastrous consequences for your clothing, so let’s get it right.

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Getting an Internship

Search online: There are sites tailored to your location which list companies that offer internships to students, just search “internships in _____ for students”

Make sure the internship is something you’re interested in, even if only slightly interested in. By doing the internship it will help you to determine whether or not this job would be right for you in the future.

Look at the job spec. Will it give you relevant experience for your future line of work? What will you benefit from working at this company? Do you have the skills in the job spec? Will this job give you skills you will need in the future?

Research the company. Know what their latest projects are, what specifically they do, etc. A quick Google search could help you know if you’d like to work with this company or not!

Get in contact with the company you wish to do your internship with. Send them all the relevant information, most companies also require you to send in a CV and a cover letter.
Make sure in your email you make yourself look professional. This is the first view of you the company will receive so make sure it counts.
If you have any questions or worries about the job you will be doing make sure you ask in the first email or call, you might learn that the internship is not for you.

For some companies, interviews you will be required to do an interview, for tips on that check out this post.

During the Internship: Getting the most out of your internship.

Talk to as many people in the business as possible. Learn more about their role and how they feel about their job. This is the best way to learn about different jobs in a company.

Even the boring jobs are beneficial. As an intern you’ll probably be handed the boring jobs that the staff have been procrastinating doing such as filing. However these small jobs are most likely required for most careers so remember as you’re working that you are gaining great experience. Every new skill you build will look great on a CV!

Act responsibly. Of course talk to people but watch what you say, it’s probably not best to mention your drunken weekend out last week! 

Dress accordingly. If there’s no specific dress code fancy casual is most likey best. You’ll fiigure out after the first day what’s best to wear for the first day. 

Make yourself memorable. You are your own brand! Make sure the people at the company remember who you are. It’s great if they are able to say something good about you for a reference or maybe even employ you in the future!

Here’s a tip for neurotypical (or other socially comfortable) people.

Sometimes you may notice a person hanging around at the edges of a group not saying anything. They may seem awkward, intent, or bored. Often, people do this because they’re interested in the conversation and would like to be part of it, but don’t know what to say to join in. Sometimes the situation makes it particularly difficult for them to join in without invitation. Maybe the conversation is moving very fast and doesn’t have a lot of pauses. Maybe there’s a lot of background noise and it’s difficult to hear the conversation in the first place. Maybe the person hanging around has been admonished for interrupting or saying the wrong thing enough when young that they are afraid to do anything that would remotely look like interrupting now.

“ Not everyone can just walk up to people and start chatting, even if they have a reason to. I have missed countless opportunities to talk to people because I am clueless as to how to get a conversation started. I am pretty sure I have also looked like a strange person hanging around because I will stand next to people hoping I can say something at some point and get magically included (it never happens).” - Laura Negmo, talking about accessible conferences

If you’re in the group, take a moment to address a comment to the person hanging around. If you don’t know them, introduce yourself and ask them what they think about the topic under discussion. If you are as hyperfocused as I am, it may be hard to pause the flow and let someone else in, but it only takes a moment, and the extra person can usually only improve the conversation. A neurotypical should have no problem with this.

Guys, I see people's bank accounts every day

I’ve seen people with tons of money and people with none.

Please, please. Take it from me.

Go to your local bank and open a savings account. Checking too. Put your money in the checking, and transfer some of EVERYTHING YOU GET to savings.

20% is great.

30% is better.

Even if it’s five or ten dollars a month.

Put it there and keep it there.

If you need cash, get it from an ATM or fill out a withdrawal slip in your branch.

The tellers are FRIENDLY and want to help you- they aren’t judging your account, they legitimately want you to succeed and grow!

The bankers aren’t scary! You aren’t wasting their time. They are giant children who sing Michael Buble into lollipops in the vault when they think no one’s looking. (No really, they are)

If you can, get a credit card with cash back. Use it for one type of purchase (like gas) and pay it off every time you’re paid. No exceptions. Redeem the cash back after you have plenty built up. You’ll build your credit and get some $$.

Just… Please. Start saving. Live below your income. Go into your bank and talk to them-they’ll help you. I’ll help you. Please please please plan for tomorrow or for when your pet gets sick or when your car breaks down.

Start saving now for when you get married or want to buy a house.

Don’t be caught with .31 in your pocket.

Please.

With the help of celebrity chef Jamie Oliver, Stanford University is launching program designed to teach students the basics of choosing groceries, cooking and eating healthy. The Teaching Kitchen @ Stanford also wants to inspire students, get them excited about food, and allow them the opportunity to gain confidence in their cooking.

As Jamie Oliver would say – gorgeous!

Cooking 101: Stanford Adds Healthy Eating Skills To The Curriculum

Photo: Courtesy of Stanford’s Residential and Dining Enterprises

anonymous asked:

Tuff and different kind of question here ladies, how to master the heels and feel as comfy as sneakers :D ?

Now these are the kinds of questions I am 100% qualified and prepared to answer! I live in heels. I don’t even know the last time I wore sneakers.

  • Don’t wear brand new heels for really long stretches of time. If you know you’re going to work at 10-hour day, today is not the day for new shoes. Heels need to be broken in just like any other shoes.
  • Invest in comfy heels in the first place. My personal favorite is the Comfort Plus brand sold at Payless. These have cushioning built in and really give you great support on the arches.
  • You can buy gel inserts for all kinds of heels. There are other types of insoles, but I really swear by the gel ones. Buy the ones specifically designed for heels. Feel them first and make sure it gives you support where you need it (I need it on the toes, but you might need it in the arches). You can even buy some just for the toes for shoes that are open on the sides, but if you do that, buy one set for each pair and use the sticky backs to secure them, otherwise they’ll be all over the place.
  • Buy the right kind of heels for your feet. Everyone’s feet are different and the way you walk will also dictate what kind of shoes are best for you. If you have weak ankles, don’t buy shoes that put all of your weight over your ankles. Also consider rounded vs pointed vs square toes—it’s not just about what looks best. Your foot may just be shaped better for one kind or another. If you have square feet, they don’t go into a pointed toe. It’s like preschool blocks.
  • Find the right height (for you). You can mix it up by all means and have a few different heights for different occasions, but you’ll probably find that you’re more comfortable at a certain height. For me, it’s somewhere around 2 inches, which lots of women find too high. I hate kitten heels and feel really uncomfortable in them. If you’re not someone that wears heels and doesn’t know yet, start out around 1″-1.5″. Don’t go straight to 3″ heels. You gotta work up to that shit.
  • I feel like this should go without saying, but whenever possible, try on the heels and walk around before you buy them. I recognize this isn’t an option for buying online, but if you’re in the store, try them on. Make sure you can walk in them and won’t want to cut off your toes or heels a la Cinderella.
  • If buying online, only buy from somewhere with an easy return policy. 
  • Wear heels often! If you never wear heels, don’t wear them every day (unless you need to for a job or something), but rather, work up to it. Wear them once a week to get used to them until you feel comfortable wearing them more often. Eventually, you’ll think nothing of them and wear them 90% of the time like I do. If you want to, of course.
How to Deal with Emotional Manipulators

1. Don’t negotiate with them. For emotional manipulators, it’s all about having, exerting and gaining more power. So they’ll always push for more and they’ll never compromise.
2. Don’t engage with them. Don’t try to talk, or reason, or discuss some matter with them - as they’ll try to twist your motives, and leave you feeling “bad”.
3. Don’t confront them. They’re quick to take offense and they love an argument. They’ll then turn and attack you – and never let things go.
4. Know your own personal buttons. They’ll aim to press your buttons to get a strong reaction. But knowing yourself well means you have the upper hand. Plan how to “not react” and to stay detached and calm.
5. Refuse to accept help as they’ll treat you like “you owe them”. You’ll then be in their debt – so it’s hard to feel you’re free.