Change. It is a word most people fear. But in my opinion, it is a word that should be reconsidered. We always hear people say, “Never Change.” In high school yearbooks, it seems to be the most popular phrase. Never change. Always be exactly who you are right now. But I dare you to reconsider that phrase, and to ask yourself…what would life be without change? We can’t tell the seasons to stop changing. We look forward to seeing snow on Christmas morning (except for us California folks of course). We can’t wait to go to the beach on a warm summer day. The seasons change and we live in it. We accept it. The times have changed. Styles have gone in and out and back in again. Music has changed. Before a decade ago, who had ever heard of trap music, hardcore music, or indie music? Our society has changed. And whether it be for better or for worse, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. However, no matter what, no one can truly deny change. It comes whether we like it or not. And it is constant. How are we supposed to live in a world that is constantly changing when we ourselves are not?
Our answer to everyday struggles, big decisions, or even just a long day is to simply “sleep on it.” Sleep on it and in the morning we’ll feel better. We’ll have a clearer mind. The overwhelming will seem less overwhelming. The big decisions will seem more plausible. We’ll wake up refreshed. Everyday, we have a new start. A chance to be better than we were yesterday. A chance to make a choice. A chance for change. It is an opportunity to express our freedom as individuals. To think that people would want to rob one another of that opportunity by telling one never to change is absolutely mind-baffling to me. We tell each other not to change, and then get angry at someone when they do, blinding ourselves of that very opportunity to see that change is so incredibly beautiful and necessary and healthy. As long as we are alive, we have this awesome gift of being able to wake up in the mornings, choose what we want to do with our day and who we want to be. To a certain extent, we have to live with whatever choices we make. For most, that is a scary thought. Nobody likes the thought of making a wrong decision or a mistake. But in reality it is, again, a chance to learn, grow, and become the best possible versions of ourselves everyday.
I see people all the time telling others not to change. I see people get angry at people who do change. I’ve experienced friends who have walked out of my life and would say “You’ve changed” because I’m not exactly the person they want me to be. Therefore I have found myself trying so hard to please others and sacrificing my own happiness because of it. I see it all the time in the music industry. Popular artists wanting to change their musical sound or go a different direction, and fans/listeners getting mad at them for it, as if they don’t have the right. They deem it selfish, when in reality, we are all entitled to the pursuit of happiness. We all should go after what we feel lead to and called to, which could be completely different than what we may be doing in that moment. And we should all be able to do it without the fear of others holding it against us.
I think of it this way. If a car is idle, it cannot go anywhere. It cannot be driven. It cannot be used. I for one never want to be idle. I never want to lose my drive. I never want to miss a chance or an opportunity, which I have done multiple times. That is why always moving is so important. The world is always going to move and always going to change. We have a choice to go with it, or resist it. I feel in my life, in the last 2 years, I have resisted it. I have been idle. I’ve been waiting for the car to move for me and let me tell you, it never will. Not unless you do something about it. In the past year, I have come to the realization that change not only in our lives, but in ourselves, is both required and necessary. At first I denied it. Then I was afraid of it. Until finally I embraced it. My car started to move. I started to drive again. I was motivated. I matured, grew, learned about myself, gained confidence and became renewed, all because I allowed myself to open up to change and accept it’s urgency. Since I’ve done that, everything has started to fall back into place again. It is exciting, exhilarating even. It’s like waking up in the morning, except on the right side of the bed. You know, those few and far between mornings that you wake up totally refreshed and ready to take on the day? I feel the same as I do on those rare mornings. Revitalized, and free to move in artistic ways like the artist that I am and free to go after exactly what I want to do. There will always be the fear of uncertainty and nonacceptance in the back of my mind. But I would much rather have the fear of uncertainty than the regret of complacency, idleness, and never making something out of the little time that we have here on this planet. So I encourage you that if you feel idle, if you feel the need to change, allow it. It’s not the bad thing that people have made it out to be. It will not make you a bad person, friend, family member, spouse, etc. I believe all the best people in your life will support it, embrace it, and grow and change WITH you. I have learned this myself through my own experiences.
The idea of personal change that society has developed deserves to be reconsidered. It is something we are supposed to go through as humans, both together and individually. I don’t want to stay the same. I want to grow. I want to be able to look back and see exactly how far I’ve come. Four years ago I had decided I wanted to do music as a living. At 15, I had started a band, and I began writing my first album. I thought I had my entire life planned out. However, as usual, life went a lot differently than I had thought it would. That time of my life was a time of self-discovery. I will be the first person to say I am not the same person I was 4 years ago when I was just 15, and I am glad I’m not. Not because I am ashamed of who I was, but because I am proud of the progress I’ve made since then. I am happy with who I was then, but I am even more proud of who I am now. I am still Tiffany. Just a smarter, better, stronger version who is making mistakes and learning from them everyday. I would not be any of those things without CHANGE. Change in my life, change in my decisions, change in my personality. This change comes from maturing, growing, and learning. Learning more about the world around me, the people around me, and most of all, learning how to come alive and live life to the fullest in everything I do.
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Opening Credits: Pearl Jam - Better Man Waking Up: Pink Floyd - Time First Day At School: The Black Keys - Howlin’ for You Falling In Love: Queens of The Stone Age- Suture Up Your Future Date Song: Queens of The Stone Age - Feel Good Hit Of The Summer Breaking Up: Nine Inch Nails - Hurt Life’s OK: Modest Mouse - The View Getting Back Together: Red Hot Chili Peppers - Don’t Forget Me Wedding: The Kinks - You Really Got Me Birth of Child: Joy Division - Disorder Final Battle: Alice In Cahins - We Die Young Death Scene: The Animals - House Of The Rising Sun Funeral Song: Beach Boys - God Only Knows End Credits: David Bowie - Life On Mars?