life's too short for sorrow

The Decatur Herald, Illinois, October 15, 1928

The Sin Of Omission by Margaret Sangster

It isn’t the thing you do, dear;
It’s the thing you leave undone,
Which gives you a bit of heartache
At the setting of the sun.
The tender word forgotten,
The letter you did not write,
The flower you might have sent, dear,
Are your haunting ghosts to-night.

The stone you might have lifted
Out of brother’s way,
The bit of heartsome counsel
You were hurried too much to say;
The loving touch of the hand, dear,
The gentle and winsome tone,
That you had no time nor thought for,
With troubles enough of your own.

The little acts of kindness,
So easily out of mind;
Those chances to be angels
Which every one may find
They come in night and silence
Each chill, reproachful wraith
When hope is faint and flagging
And a blight has dropped on faith.

For life is all too short, dear,
And sorrow is all too great;
To suffer our great compassion
That tarries until too late;
And it’s not the thing you do, dear,
It’s the thing you leave undone,
Which gives you the bit of heartache
At the setting of the sun.

1.) life is too short to worry about if you’re gonna annoy the other person by double texting them, just fucking doing it. odds are they didn’t see your message or forgot to respond and that doesn’t make you annoying. (people double text me all the time and I love it because usually I just completely forget that they said something to me)

2.) you’re gonna be heartbroken. I know your heart feels so heavy but imagine how good it’s gonna feel when you finally receive the love you gave back and how good it’s gonna feel for it to not go to waste. the right one is out there, it just takes some time. but for now, keep picking up the pieces. it’s not your fault, remember that.

3.) if you see someone sitting alone, just go fucking sit by them and ask how they are.

4.) ask how people are, all the time. ask about them, ask what’s going on and have them update you. sometimes all people really need is just to talk and to know that someone does genuinely care about them

5.) don’t comment something negative on someone’s appearance if they can’t fix it within ten seconds. your words stick to people like glue. make sure what sticks is positive. this goes for yourself too, you’re slowly killing yourself by beating yourself up over these small things. relax. breathe. you’re so much more than you think.

6.) you’re gonna have some really bad days and when you do, you’re gonna hurt people. that’s inevitable, but make sure you’re letting the people you hurt know that you’re sorry. it’s okay that you had a bad day and took out your sadness on people, it happens. but please make sure you’re doing more good than harm to them.

7.) always always always tell the people you love that you’re thankful for them and that you appreciate and love them. sometimes people go so long without hearing how loved they are and they’re completely unaware. say it before it’s too late.

8.) writing, whether you’re good at it or not, is always a great way to cope. so is talking about your problems. don’t be scared to express your feelings, bottling them up only makes you explode in the long run.

9.) listen more than you talk. once you start listening more you’ll realize that people really do say some pretty fantastic things.

10.) be kind to yourself. life is way too short to be filled with so much sorrow about things you cannot change. yes, life sucks complete asshole sometimes but you’re living and that’s enough. you have so much light inside of you that you need to pull out. and I promise you, even if you see darkness there is light in you and everyone else can see it. friend, you are the brightest light in the darkest of rooms, you light up so many lives and it’s about god damn time you start see it.

—  ten things I’ve learned so far in 2016 // ig writingmyself

One thing I’ve been thinking a lot about lately is how short life really is. Time passes and before you know it, it’s next week, next month, next year. And I’m determined not to spend any more of that time living with regrets or what ifs. It’s so easy to get caught up in the motions of life and not really stop and cherish the moments. Life’s too short not to spend time with family and friends whenever you get the chance to. It’s too short not to buy yourself stuff or eat the stuff you really want once in awhile. It’s too short not to pursue that career or take up that hobby or go those places you’ve always dreamed of or do the things you’ve always wanted to do because you’re too “busy” or afraid. Life’s too short not to love with all you’ve got and treasure the people in your life. It’s too short to live with bitterness and hate and anger and sorrow. We’ve only got so much time. So live. Create. Cherish. Love. Explore. Pursue. Laugh. Enjoy.

dear self,
I know you have been rather sad lately and that every time things start looking up you can’t help but hold your head down and you know what, that’s okay. but you are letting yourself change into someone you are not. you are not the negative girl who keeps her head down, you are not the girl who has her head face down on the desk because she is too shy to say the answer or even fucking look around her. you are not the girl who starts crying in the middle of the class because she sees something that made her sad inside, you are NOT a sad girl. but it’s okay that you feel this way right now because a lot has been going but it’s time to stop wallowing, time to stop just surviving and start really living because life is too short for this and all you’re doing is drowning in sorrow and it’s tiring. you stay up too late now and worry about everything, whether it’s a word or two, or what you’re gonna do, my friend you have got to stop worrying so much about things that are trivial and that will pass. your mind holds too many precious things to hold all of your toxic worries. you have go to stop holding yourself back and stop being scared to even fucking breathe around people because you deserve to breathe too. and I know these past few weeks have been hell for you, and you’ve been saying sorry like its “hello” and you’ve been mumbling apologies at people like its their first name and you have got to stop. and you’re gonna. and I’m gonna. I’m gonna get better for me, myself, because it is not selfish to want to build yourself up. you have to. and so you will. and I will. I’m gonna get better and I’m gonna be happier because for once in my life, I’ll say it, I deserve happiness and it’s time to stop being so fucking sad.
—  a letter to myself // ig writingmyself

anonymous asked:

How do you deal with heartbreak when what you're leaving behind has been real? How do you keep the ball rolling (even if that's after some time)

Not sure what you mean by keeping the ball rolling. W your ex or like w yourself to go lock a new ting down? But as for heart break, it’s honestly just growing pains. Like when you’re a kid and you first have a crush you think that’s what the highest level of infatuation/liking someone is until it happens again and you slowly realize that what you may have perceived to be that deep level of love may not have been that deep? If it was, then it’s just the acceptance that you’ve either given it your best shot. If it ain’t in ya kismat then it’s rough but life is too short to be spent in sorrow over things that are gone imo. Don’t shut yourself down from new opportunities and personal growth but also don’t make stupid choices uno?

something ive realized these past few months is that life is short. honestly life is so short and you are never promised a tomorrow. and i know sometimes we wish our time was even shorter and we beg the sky to swallow us whole and i just wanted to say that i learned that life is too short for so much sorrow. it’s okay to be sad, it really is. because some days that’s all you can be, but at the end of the day you need to make sure you’re saving love for yourself and picking yourself up off of the floor. it’s okay to accept help, it is okay to take someone’s hand and let them guide you through the darkness too but you are strong. remember that, because there will always be people who will try and convince you that you aren’t and life is far too short to let toxic people strip your strength away from you. so what im trying to say is; know what you deserve and don’t you dare settle for any less. because you deserve the world and settling for less is only gonna make you feel small and inadequate and you are not that. you are worthy and lovely and a home all on your own. so please be kind to yourself today. you deserve it.