life with a disability

How to get rid of any illness

-douche with green tea
-eat an entire jar of coconut oil everyday
-cut gluten,eggs,dairy,MSGs, meats, oxygen, and sugar out of your diet
-never stop doing yoga, you have to do it every second of your life. Sleep in downward dog, shower in warrior position, walk on your hands
-shove kale up your ass

And last, but not least
- just be happy all the time. You know, the only real disability in life is a bad attitude

PSA for anyone who doesn't use a mobility aid

Pavements are not designed with mobility aids in mind. It’s not even as simply as lowered curbs - it’s also about gnarly bits in the middle of the pavement, and about finding the bit of (lowered or not) curb where you can actually get on, and about avoiding the boneshakers that just increase your pain levels.

I see it a fair bit that people refuse to get out of my way, or are simply unaware that the bit of pavement they’re on is the bit that actually has a lowered curb. I see people parking in front of lowered curbs. I even see kind souls trying to get out of my way and unwittingly blocking my only viable path.

Just look down. When you see us, look at the road surface and try to imagine where you’d like to be if your feet were wheels. Okay? And then don’t be there.

It’s not a big thing. It’s okay that you never realised. But it would take the onus off of us to ask you to get out of the way - which is nerve-wracking for those of us with anxiety, and potentially dangerous when we end up unable to just get onto the pavement after crossing the road.

It’d be a lovely low-key way to be an ally.

Cool? Cool.

It’s my birthday on the 20th April, and I’m really not looking forwards to it as it’s going to be ridiculously empty & I hoped anyone reading this could help.

I’m Very disabled & I have to spend 95% of the time in bed & most of that lying down flat. I’m in immense & constant pain and my head feels like I have permanent flu all the time (real proper fevery flu).

As you can imagine this is not very conducive to making real life friends, I did have lots when I was fit and well and could put time and effort into keeping up friendships, but they’ve dwindled somewhat now that I can’t. I also have a very teeny family. & I’ve worked out that on my birthday I’ll have 1 present and about 6 cards to open if I’m lucky.

So I wondered if, out of the kindness of your hearts, on the 20th April you could send me a fun message to cheer me up, or tag me in a post, or write something to me to keep me occupied, or post something nice for me to look at & take my mind off the dullness of being in bed 24/7.

I’m not doing this for any kind of sympathy or pity – it’s just that my birthday is quite utterly sad otherwise - for the past 2 years I’ve asked people to do this & I got a wonderful response and even last year had some amazing people send me things from my Amazon wish list, so I had actual presents to open, which was most unexpected and utterly delightful.

My about me page is (here) incase you’d like to read more on why I’m disabled. There are also pictures from my random former life & my mad hair colours!

Edited to add my Amazon wishlist because peeps asked for it (here). & I added vouchers in case peeps prefer that to choosing things, bless you so much.

Oodles of Love, Nixxie

[3 Panel Illustrated Comic Titled “Service Dog” with Service being underlined.

Panel 1 Description: A woman is overhearing a conversation behind her between a family, while shopping for clothes with her service dog. The dog has a harness on it that reads “Do not touch”. Behind her a mother, father, and daughter are having a discussion. The father says “Aw look sweetie, a puppy!” The daughter responds “AWWWWWW”, as she looks at the dog with large excited eyes.

Panel 2 Description: The scene cuts to an areal view behind the parents, while their daughter is looking up at them in excitement. The father looks down at the child and says “I think it’s one of those blind dogs!” The daughter looks up at the mom with big eyes and asks “Can I pet it? PLEASE!!” The mother smiles and says “Yes! I’m sure the lady won’t notice if you pet it.”

Panel 3 Description: The woman with the service dog turns to the family and says “Yes I will, and F.Y.I., I can see and hear you.” The mother quickly ducks down behind a rack of clothes in embarrassment. The father turns his head to look away while muttering to himself “Uh, uh - What’s over here…”. The daughter shrugs in disappointment, with a frown she says “Dang it.”]

Never ever touch a service dog, especially without asking it’s owner for permission first!

Idea submitted by @etahreybased off their story about people invasively wanting to pet their service dog.

buzzfeed.com
47 Hacks People With ADD/ADHD Use To Stay On Track
Everything from color-coding to bouncing on an exercise ball.
By Grace Spelman

As with all these things, your mileage may vary, but I thought this was better than the lists I’ve seen on ADDitude. (On a side note: Buzzfeed is apparently full of people with ADHD. I’m not surprised).

A few of these I actually do. (Like writing everything down and keeping my keys by the door). Others I’ve never thought of, and would like to try.

Which “hacks” do you do, or want to try?

Abled people can be such forces of chaos sometimes - without even meaning to. 

They just don’t think about it but it’s frustrating as heck.

  • Like that charger of mine you moved? It might as well not exist now. 
  • That pile of laundry on the floor means I can’t get into the bedroom.
  • The jar that you closed is now Fort Knox.
  • I can’t watch TV today because the remote is on your side of the couch.
Don’t Take Up Spaces that Aren’t Meant for You

I go to use the elevator in a high rise building only to find a sign that says “Please ask security for access to this elevator”. A week ago, that sign wasn’t there. When I ask the security guard why the sudden change in policy, they said that people from other floors in the building had been abusing their access to the elevator and that they needed to lock it down. 

Let me make this perfectly clear: I could no longer independently access the only elevator available to take me to this part of the building because other people decided to use / abuse a space that was not meant for them instead of taking the stairs right next to the fucking elevator.

Here’s another example: In order to have access to an accessible room on a cruise ship, I have to submit a form stating that I do in fact  have a physical disability that prevents me from using a normal state room on the ship. I have to do this because able-bodied people have, in the past, been dishonest about the level of accessibility they require in order to have access to a larger stateroom without having to pay a premium.

How about this one: I go into the restroom of a massive convention center. Every single stall  in this restroom is empty except for the one handicapped stall in the back, which is being occupied by someone who does not need to use a handicapped stall. I now have to wait for that one person to exit the stall before I can use the restroom. Remember: This bathroom has 7+ other stalls that are built specifically to work for them, but they chose  to use the one space that is available to people like me.

Dear able-bodied people: Handicapped bathroom stalls, seating areas, staterooms, and elevators are not meant for you and you should not use them.

I do not care how big of a hurry you were in and how that elevator got you to where you needed to go faster. Because of you, I have to go find someone every time I need to use this elevator and if I can’t find them I GET NOTHING. 

To you, that cruise ship can house 2000+ people and you have an opportunity to get a massive stateroom at no extra cost if you’re wiling to fib a little. To me, that cruise ship has a capacity of around 12 (the number of accessible rooms on the ship) and if they’re all full, I GET NOTHING.

To you, that movie theater has four really great seats right in the middle that just happen to have a handicapped accessible sign on them. To me, that theater has four seats and if they’re all full, I GET NOTHING.

And let me address the bathroom thing in particular. I don’t give a flying fuck if the handicapped stall was the only one available. You should pretend like it doesn’t fucking exist and wait in line like everyone else. *

Don’t take up spaces that were not meant for you. Because everything but those few precious spaces were not meant for us. 


* Unless it’s literally the only stall in the bathroom or you’re about to absolutely shit yourself. Then it’s fine. 

Lena vs Mon El: Their impact on Kara’s life

Lena Luthor’s impact on Kara’s life

Positive:
+ Saved Alex’s life
+Inspired Kara to become a reporter
+Helped to save J’onn and dozens of other victims of Roulette
+Saved Kara’s life by taking out the alien guns
+Disabled the Medusa virus and saved all  the aliens in National City(including J’onn) and takes down her own mother which makes Kara very happy
+Offers unconditional support, affection and appreciation for Kara Danvers and Supergirl. Calls Kara Danvers her hero
+Helped Kara save both Alex and all the kidnapped aliens at the risk of her own life

Negative:
- Breaks Kara’s heart for about 30 seconds when she pretends to join her mother

Mon El’s impact on Kara’s life

Positive:
+Gave her a tip about Draaga
+Sex.Getting laid is nice

Negative:
-constant disappointment
-Nearly gets her killed because he strands them on an alien planet due to the fact that he refused to listen to her and go get back up
-Nearly gets several cops killed because he doesn’t listen to her
-Nearly gets her killed after he, James and Winn decide they need to prove they are big man and can take down Kara’s enemies by themselves
-Forces Kara to resort to a nuclear bluff that could have gotten her killed because he refused to listen to her and wasted the one weapon they had against Mxyzptlk,
-Breaks Kara’s heart when he reveals that he has been lying to her for months -Breaks it even further when he reveals that reason he was lying was because he was a selfish coward who didn’t want her just how much of a horrible person he used to be
-His family and their drama nearly kill Kara several times



An Autistic Kitten meme that explains my entire life. Meme text: “Competent at things that people think you can’t do. Can’t do basic life things that people expect you to know.”

[Illustration titled “Concerts”. Description: The back view of two girls in wheelchairs parked in handicapped seats, with a crowd of people standing in front of them blocking the view from the stage.]

Our usual view of the stage at concerts. EXCEPT that one time this AWESOME worker cleared the row in front of us so we could actually see!!