In case no one told you growing up
  • Bras last longer if you let them air dry. Don’t put them in the dryer.
  • If you have a problem with frizzy hair, don’t dry your hair with a towel. It makes the frizzies worse. (I recently read an article that said to use a t-shirt? I brush mine out and let it air dry.)
  • Whites wash best in hot water. Everything else can be in cold - save on your electricity bill.
  • You can kill 99.9% of germs in a sponge by putting it in the dishwasher for a cycle or by microwaving it for 2 min (be sure to make the sponge damp before microwaving and to put a cup half full of water in with it and please DO NOT squeeze the sponge until it has cooled off)
  • Airing out your room/house and letting sunlight in every so often can decrease the number of household pests like silverfish and ants.
  • Black underwear is best during your period as stains are less likely to be visible.
  • To save money, put aside 10% of each paycheck into a savings account. It’ll add up.
  • Unless your hair has something on/in it (like grease or mud or something), using conditioner first can actually be the better choice. The conditioner holds in the good oils that help you hair look sleek and beautiful, which shampoo would otherwise wash away.
  • Speaking of shampoo - if you have long hair, washing just the bits that touch your scalp is generally enough. The rest of your hair gets cleaned with just the run off from your scalp.
  • If you put a tampon in and it’s uncomfortable/you can feel it, you didn’t do it quite right. A properly placed tampon is virtually unnoticeable by the wearer.
  • Apply deodorant/antiperspirant a couple hours in advanced of when you need it. This gives the product the chance to block your sweat glands. Using deodorant just before going somewhere where you’ll sweat (this means walking outside for people in high humidity places) results in your sweat washing the deodorant off and starkly limiting its usefulness.
  • After running the dryer, use the dryer sheet from that load to brush out the lint catch - it gets everything off in a fraction of the time it’ll take you to get it clean with your bare hands. Paper towels also work well.
  • Wash your face everyday, or as often as possible. Forget which brand of cleanser is best. Just washing your face everyday will guarantee you clearer skin. And do you best not to pop pimples, as tempting as the urge may be.
  • Fold laundry asap after taking it from the dryer to avoid wrinkles. This may seem obvious for dress shirts and silly for things like t-shirts, but you’ll notice the difference even then once your shirts stop looking like unfolded paper balls.
A few things I’ve learned in life

1. just because they are older, that doesn’t mean they are better than you

2. just because they are older does not make them “more right” than you

3. Always listen to the other side of the story

4. Diffusing situations with comedy works a lot of the time, but sometimes it doesn’t 

5. Its okay to cry for someone, to cry at funerals, to cry because something is sad. Crying doesn’t make you weak it makes you human

6. But also not crying is fine too

7. some people will just not like you, its not always your fault and sometimes you can’t fix it

8. Everyone has a story, if you look at everyone like book you haven’t read yet then life becomes far more interesting 

9. School is important, but not the most important

10. You should take mental health days

11. Don’t let people give you shit for taking care of yourself, you are important 

12, You’ve probably changed someone’s life in some way, no matter how small. 

13. If you love someone you should probably tell them, even if its platonically, people still need to hear that they are loved 

14. Sometimes frienships don’t last, its no ones fault. Sometimes it just happens

15. Helping people does feel good, 

16. Smile at people, compliment them,  maybe just say hi

17. You will regret something, but you can’t waste your life thinking about what you regret. 

Tips for Manifesting

Tips for Manifesting

Law of Attraction isn’t a potion or magic, it’s a way of life. You are using LOA all day every day whether you realize it or not. It’s as constant as oxygen or gravity.

Understand that LOA is a mirror that mirrors back to us what we feel and believe, NOT what we want or are asking for.

So if you are asking for a better relationship, more money, a great job, a new car or whatever - LOA will deliver to you what you BELIEVE about those things every time. 

It difficult to think about what we want without also thinking about the fact that we don’t have it which keeps us from manifesting it in our lives, so often we can manifest what we want by not thinking about it at all. How? By choosing to be happy - ridiculously happy.

Below are my tips to manifest whatever it is you’re wanting to experience in your life.

  1. Meditate - DAILY
    1. Spend 15 minutes twice a day sitting quietly, undisturbed and feeling grateful for how awesome your life is.
    2. Daily meditation is not an option.
  2. Refuse to think thoughts that make you feel crappy. Do this by creating 2-3 ‘Go To Thoughts’ 
    1. Go to thoughts are thoughts that make you happy every time you think about them.
    2. This is easier to do when you’re a good mood. It’s damn near impossible to think of a good thought when you’re pissed off or depressed, so come up with 2-3 go to thoughts when you’re already in a good mood so you can use them later when you need them.
    3. When you catch yourself having a crappy thought, swap it out immediately for a happy go-to thought.
  3. Refuse to hang out with people that make you feel crappy.
    1. Remember that opposing energies cannot occupy the same space so if you’re around someone that makes you feel crappy, know that one of 3 things will happen every single time.
      1. Your energy will lower - making you a match to them
      2. Their energy will raise - making them a match to you
      3. One of you will leave the area - win/win
    2. LOA doesn’t make mistakes, if crappy people are consistently in your life, it’s because you’re a vibrational match to them. 
  4. Know that how you feel is a DIRECT correlation to what you’re thinking about. Every time.
    1. You’re not upset or worried about what is going on in front of your eyes right this minute, you’re worried and upset about thoughts going on between your ears.
    2. Crappy thoughts = Crappy life
    3. Happy thoughts = Happy life
  5. KNOW that what you want is a done deal.
    1. Knowing is different than hoping or wishing. Hoping and wishing means you’re waiting to see it before you believe it.
    2. Knowing is believing it before you see it.
    3. Knowing what you want is a done deal is KEY to manifesting it!
Life tips

Don’t procrastinate ANYTHING!

Wake up earlier every morning.

Exercise or go for a walk every morning. Watch the sun rise when you can.

Make your bed every morning.

Keep your bedroom organised and clean.

Do every piece of work like you’ve no choice but to get the highest grade.

Every time you eat you are either fighting or feeding disease.

If you don’t enjoy it, don’t do it. And don’t pretend to enjoy it.

Don’t bitch about people. At all.

Don’t pass up something that you know you’d enjoy.

Stop arguments before they get worse.

Dress however you like.

Make gratitude lists every day. Or in your head.

Meditate when you can. It DOES help! 

Remember people are just people and there is never EVER any need to be nervous or anxious.

Fake confidence.

Always save at least a small amount of any payment you get- either into a savings account or to put away.

Sell the clothes you never wear, or give them to a charity store- someone might be looking for that exact item of clothing.

Believe you can do anything, because you can.

Treat people exactly how you want to be treated.

Nobody is above you.

Read your books.

If you’re stuck, think about the advice you would give to a friend in your situation.

Instant calmer: Breathe in through your nose for 7 seconds. Hold for 4 seconds. Exhale through your mouth for 8 seconds.

10 tips your parents (probably) won't tell you before University
  • 1. The friends you make your first week probably won't be the friends you leave with:You will change a lot whether you want to or not, and those friends will as well.
  • 2. Buy that shitty cheap booze when you're drinking to get drunk but splurge on the nice shit on occasion:A nice glass of wine with dinner can solve anything. So can 4 shots of gasoline-like-vodka.
  • 3. For the girls; always pee after sex:This is more a general life tip but UTI's are the absolute worst and peeing is your saviour.
  • 4. You can say no to living with your friend:Just because you like spending time with them, doesn't mean you'll living with them. If they take it personally you DEFINITELY don't want to live with them.
  • 5. You don't have to go to class:As long as you keep up with your work and know your shit, attendance doesn't matter.
  • 6. Don't feel guilty about not calling your parents for a while:As my mother put it "When you're not calling home, it's because you're keeping busy and not running into problems. It means you're happy, so I'm happy."
  • 7. Buy your own coffee:A buck per cup in the library sounds cheap until your 1 cup a week turns to 3 cups a day and suddenly you're broke. Instant, filter, whatever.
  • 8. Big ass bag of rice, big ass bag of frozen veggies, some protein, some spices:Your grocery list if you find yourself living on a buck a day when you 'accidentally' burned through your spending money plus emergency fund.
  • 9. If you bring someone home and get to it (you know what I mean), change your sheets:C'mon man, do I have to explain why?
  • 10. You might hate it:It's a hard pill to swallow buddy but university isn't for everyone. Stick it out as long as you can, give it a chance to turn around but if it isn't working, it isn't working.
How To Keep Loving Someone

You have to love someone in the cracks between the big moments. You have to grab their hand when you’re sitting on the couch watching Shark Tanktogether and you have to give them a little knowing look that says, “I see you and I love you here in the mundane moments of our life.” You have to understand who you are, to dive deep into the wounds of your past so that you don’t bring those wounds into the present. You need to know when it’s about you or when it’s about them. You have to carry your own pain.

It’s easy to fall in love with someone, to bask in newly-minted intimacy and lose yourself in the romance. It’s easy to start a love. It’s the staying part. The keeping part. The difficulty comes in the life plus love part, when you’re trying to squish two people together to make a unit.

When life enters the picture — bills and payments and jobs and stress and divided attentions — that’s when love starts to feel less like a romance and more like a battle. This is when the best of intentions fall to dust, when two people who used to spend a day in bed with their bodies intertwined are arguing about the dishes — as if the dishes ever matter all that fucking much.

To keep loving someone is an art. The start is the easiest part. To keep loving someone, you have to suspend the present moment in your mind and remember why you decided to love this person in those first glittery months of newness. You have to be in love when you don’t feel any particular tenderness, when bills are late or the trash hasn’t been emptied or you’re feeling underappreciated or when the ugly monsters from your past have convinced you that what happened then — whatever heartbreak exists in your memory — is here and real and will happen again. You have to pretend to be in love when you’re terrified of disappointment, of trusting someone, of believing that the person you’re waking up next to won’t ruin you, because they could.Love is being acutely aware of how quickly someone could ruin you.

To keep loving someone is to know yourself and to know how your past weaves a story in your present. How the relationship you did or did not have with your parents informs the relationship you have with your partner — regardless of whether you want it to or not. To keep loving someone you must examine yourself. You can’t blame again and again and again. You cannot be a victim to your life. Sometimes you have to realize the problem is, in part, you.

To keep loving someone is to be exposed to a mirror image of how fucked up you might be and to have to keep facing that image over and over and over. To keep loving someone is to fight to deny the part of you that will always secretly believe you are unworthy of love, to not let that insidious little worm of a belief make its way into your consciousness and lay flame to your love, to your life.

To keep loving someone deeply and truly is to see your own self nakedly and to — as crazy as it is — show that naked self to another person. To expose that person to who you are, underneath the masks and the defenses and the walls. To so intimately and bravely say, “This is me. Take me as I am.” And then hope they do not walk away from that, from you, from the real you.

To keep loving someone is an act of bravery. While it deals with matters of the heart, it is not for the lighthearted. There is nothing weak about loving someone. Nothing timid about it. It is for the strong, the ones willing to let love ruin them.

Love is for the ones who will risk being rejected in the hope of being seen. These are the warriors, the ones not willing to give up on another person. The ones who will not hold their partner to an impossible standard without analyzing themselves first. The ones who will not blame, but will solve — together. The ones who, despite living in Disposable Culture, will not dispose of a person for some far-off idealization of a perfect person.

The ones who say — you are my person — and who will fight to make it work because love is worth fighting for. The ones who do not put their lofty ideas of happiness onto another person’s shoulders, but vow to make themselves happy first and then share it with a person who does the same. The ones who know the difference between a love worth going all in for and a love that is unnecessarily dampening them, a love that is depleting the both of them. The ones who will know when to walk away and when to stay. Who will walk or stay when it’s needed. The ones who will tell the truth — to themselves, especially, because it starts there.

To keep loving someone is a challenge for the strong-willed, the ones willing to stare down fear and best it every time. It’s a badge of honor — to keep a love alive. It takes all you have, but the beautiful things always do.

- Jamie Varon

Lingerie Masterpost (+tips)

So I’m making this post for a few reasons:

  • I have a lingerie obession
  • People in my groupchat asked me for tips w/ lingerie shopping
  • It can be hard to find relatively inexpensive + cute lingerie
  • It’s really fucking hard for plus size ladies to find cute lingerie (I have several friends who have this problem and it’s really unfair to them because excuse me world plus size women are sexy too and deserve to be able to dress themselves as such)

Things to keep in mind as you read:

  • I will mark stores that sell plus size with a * at the end
  • Stores that only sell plus size I will mark with ** at the end 
  • Personal favorites will be italicized
  • Any tips are my own personal opinion, things that help me, but whatever works for you and makes you feel sexy, work it girl.

Online stores:

Tips for shopping:

  • Check discount stores in your area, Nordstrom Rack (I know I have the website on here, but the stores can have different things), Marshalls, Ross, etc. I know these stores can be somewhat offputting due to florescent lighting and all that, but you can find some really good, inexpensive stuff there. Some of my best stuff comes from those stores.
  • Lingerie shopping (especially on certain websites, or even stores) can be a lot of weeding through trashy-looking things to find one nice thing, don’t get too discouraged, you can do it babe.
  • Don’t buy anything from Forever 21 with a underwire, unless you want to be poked in the boob with it.
  • Get yourself a nice, pretty robe. Wear it while you get ready every morning. Feel like a goddess, because you are one.
  • Don’t buy anything flat out lace, with just one type of lace, especially if it covers a large space on your body. It will always look cheap, even if it’s expensive. 
  • This is the stuff I’m talking about, just do yourself a favor and stay away from it. 
  • This on the other hand, because it has different textures and patterns, looks A++
  • Stuff on Adore Me is better quality than it looks online, generally, and you don’t have to join. 
  • If you like lingerie, and are in a relationship, you’re going to want to wear lingerie for them. Do it, great. Don’t let it be the only reason you wear it, or the only time you wear it. Wear it whenever the fuck you feel like it, and want to feel sexy.
  • Stare at yourself in the mirror for a while after putting it on. Whistle at yourself. Slap your own ass. 
  • Buy things in sets as often as possible, because we all know what happens when your underwear matches.
  • If you can’t buy it in a set, don’t stress about it too much, but keep your eye out for something that will match. 
  • MEASURE YOURSELF FOR THE LOVE OF GOD TRUST NO ONE. Here is a video that will teach you how. 
  • This is mentioned in the video, but scoop and swoop, my friend. Do it in anything you put on your boobs, they will look 300% better. Here’s how.

Go forth and buy lingerie, you sexy beasts.

Tips for incoming college freshmen:

CLASS TIPS TIPS:

  • Check ratemyprofessor before you sign up for anything. While the reviews aren’t always 100% accurate, it can be helpful. A lot of reviews let you know if the professor is fond of pop quizzes or assigns extra reading or tends to randomly call on people to answer questions.
  • Speaking of answering questions, be careful where you sit. I tend to sit in the front row. On upside, even if you participate less, I’ve noticed that the professor will think you’re more active and engaged. On the downside, you can’t be super sleepy or text. The professor will notice that too. I recommend not being that person in the way back unless you have a huge class.
  • Take notes. I don’t care if you are so sure you’ll remember the information. Write down facts. Write down page numbers for quotes. Write down key points. When it comes to test/quiz/essay time, you’ll be so thankful that you know what you need to focus on. You won’t have to feel like you need to reread every book and article you were assigned.
  • Don’t sign up for as many credits as you can right away. Give yourself time to get used to the college at least for one semester. You’re going to regret all the free time you spend on work when all your friends are free. 
  • Always carry at least three pens and three pencils with you. You sometimes don’t realize when you’ve lost one. And you could really help someone out just by loaning them out one if they’re in need.
  • Always stock up on notebooks. In my three years of college, I’ve gone through seven entire notebooks, and mine are multi-subject/class notebooks. Seriously, you go through them so fast.

AROUND THE CAMPUS TIPS:

  • Never go anywhere without an umbrella. Invest in two really compact umbrellas – keep one in a purse and one in a backpack. It could start raining at any point, and you don’t want to have to panic about your schoolwork or laptop getting wet.
  • Check the weather every day. You’re going to be walking everywhere, and if it’s supposed to rain when you’re getting out of a class, you want to know it. Also, it could look significantly warmer or colder than it actually is.
  • Wear whatever you want. There are no high school dress codes. Seriously, whether it’s that you have always dreamed of wearing pajamas to school or that you have always dreamed of wearing your studded leather jacket and corset, now is the time to shine.
  • Look at a map before your first day of classes. Check to make sure you know where all your classes are. Run by them the day before if you can. That being said, if you get lost, just ask for directions. Even as a senior, I’ve had to ask where buildings are. It’s okay.
  • Find clubs or communities that interest you. If you’re queer, there is probably an LGBT resource center. If you want to dance, run a newspaper, promote safe sex education, work for a charity promoting literacy, act in children’s theatre – I can promise you that there is most likely a place for it.

LIFE TIPS:

  • You’re going to go through so many existential crises, and that’s okay. You’re going to end up on the grass looming up at the sky at three AM and feel like you want to question the universe. You’re going to realize that the future is scary and uncertain. You’re going to get overwhelmed and cry and feel like it’s so hard to power through. But you’re not alone, even when it feels like you are.
  • When you need to write an essay and you feel like you can’t concentrate, there are actually websites that allow you to block websites for a period of time of your choosing. Here is a list of several of them. Also, I recommend Cold Turkey.
  • Remember that if you want to drink, you can always befriend someone who is over 21 and ask them to buy alcohol for you. Just be sure to know who your RA is, how strict they are, and how vigilant they are. Also, don’t just binge drink gallons of $5 tequila and vodka. You will hate yourself.
  • Buy an electric kettle. They’re relatively cheap on Amazon, and that way if you want to make Ramen, you don’t need to worry about your dorm or some other dorm having a microwave. They’re also useful when you want to make tea.
  • When you do your laundry in the dorms, make sure you’re down in the laundry room when it goes off. You don’t need to wait there, but if you’re not there too much later after it goes off, people will just take your clothes out of the washer or dryer o do their own (if all the other machines are taken – which they usually are).
  • If you’re on the meal plan, take advantage of the fact that you don’t have to cook or do dishes. Really try to make the most of your meal plan.
  • Look up information when you’re ordering food. If you’re gonna order pizza, make sure to look up the specials. Some places offer cheap pizza some days out of the week. Other places offer student specials.
Sick Day Tips Masterpost

General Stuff:

  • Drink lots of water and go pee a lot! It’ll help flush out the toxins
  • Make sure to keep your face moisturized. The last thing you want to deal with when your sick is itchy irritated skin 
  • If you have the energy, do some light exercise. It’ll help to invigorate your body
  • Avoid too much screen time D: (sorry that includes tumblr)
  • Try to avoid wearing makeup, or wear as little as possible 

Sore Throat:

  • Drinking Ginger Tea helps a lot :3
  • If you have a clogged/phlegm-y throat, gargling salt water will help (don’t drink it though– you’ll feel even sicker!)
  • Other easy teas are milk and honey or water lemon and honey

Stuffy Nose:

  • Hot showers help get the mucus out
  • As does vapor– fill a bowl with boiling water, then place your head over it with a towel covering your head and try to breathe through your nose. If it gets too hot just take the towel off for a couple of seconds and then continue (this is also great for clearing up the clogged pores in your face! :D)
  • When you go to bed, stack your pillows so that your head is elevated
  • Remember: Eyes, nose, and mouth are connected- so if you have a cold and wear contacts, its best to avoid wearing them if you can. You want to keep those three outlets as free as possible

Upset Stomach:

  • Eating Ajwain seeds or drink ajwain tea helps if you feel nauseous
  • Eating prunes or drinking prune juice helps relieve constipation
  • For eating, remember the B.R.A.T diet: Bananas, rice, applesauce, and toast. Drinking chicken broth or apple juice is also really good for getting some nutrients without having to try to stomach solid food

Headache:

  • The best OTC medicine to take if you have a headache is Aspirin because if it is an average headache it is most likely caused by a lack of blood flow to the brain, so blood thinners are good
  • Drink lots of water! It will do the same as Aspirin 
  • Stay away from screens or straining your eyes at all and get some shut eye in a dark room

Feel Better bbs!