About Reading People
I read people, I see through them. From the carefree, comfortable actions to their restricted, uncomfortable movements, seeing through it all.
I absolutely don’t read minds. I, however, read them through their faces and their actions. Every movement speaks of something, it may show to just relax or to shield from something threatening, it all has a meaning.
It may all be a good skill to learn, a gift or a blessing, but it can also be burden, a curse. Being able to know someone even before introducing themselves, stops me from being all too sociable. It’s easy to confuse it with being judgmental, but if you’re in my place, being equipped with the Psychological knowledge in the biases and heuristics that governs an individual’s thinking which even backs up my people reading skills, then you’d understand.
People reading may be attractive and a fancy skill to have, but you also have to weigh the consequences of learning it. There is a tendency of paranoia if not balanced with the right thoughts and mindset. The pain of disappointment from being served well dressed lies right in your face. It hampers relationships and will surely impede relationship building, that is why you must have a deep understanding, tolerance, and patience in dealing with people.
Why am I pursuing this?
Because I want to see through the mind games that people play, the psychological warfare that’s happening all around us. We’re never free of it. It’s easy to ignore its existence because it’s not concrete, but if it were to be, it’s as good as Tsar Bomba exploding, bombarding your psyche and peace of mind.
I want to see through it all, even just with the power of reading people through their nonverbal leaks. I’d make the most out of it. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; betrayal oozes out of him at every pore (Freud, 1899).