lie making

anonymous asked:

How do I make friends? How do I not be so shy?

Hi friend,

I’m not going to lie: the making friends aspect of this is much easier than the not being so shy aspect. I’m super introverted and shy (though I’ve busted out of my shell more as I’ve gotten older and as I’ve grown closer to God), but I’m blessed with a handful of very close girlfriends, and my husband is my best friend, and I’m good friends with a few of my coworkers as well, along with people I’ve met at seriously the most random of places. I met one of my friends while running a half marathon in the mountains. Literally. We were around mile 8, and the place hosting the event had run out of water, and I was dehydrated and was really struggling, and this girl who I had never met before in my life caught up to me, started talking, and told me we were going to finish the race. Together. She held my hair back when I got sick, let me lean on her shoulder when I didn’t think I could go on any further, prayed with me, and looped her arm through mine as we ran across the finish line.

I know this is so cliche, but honestly? Just be yourself. If you’re not being yourself, you’re making friends with people who don’t really know the real you, so it’s better to just be brave and put yourself out there and whoever likes you for you, well, likes you for you. :)

Talk to God about this before you do anything, honestly. Tell Him everything you’re feeling, and ask Him to send the right people into your life. Then, meditate on His Word. Like I mentioned above, it wasn’t until I really began studying His Word than I gained that extra level of confidence necessary, and it’s because I needed to hear everything He had to say about me (that He loves me, that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, etc. etc.), and it’s because I really needed to focus on my relationship with Him before taking that love and sending it outward. 

After talking to God about everything and reading His Word, get involved. I’m not sure how old you are, but join some sort of interest group. For instance, a book club, running club, hiking group, Bible study group, etc. Whatever you’re interested in, do that, because that’s where you’re going to find others who have similar interests as you, and it’s going to be easier for you to bond and know what to say right off the bat. 

(Also, a side note and introvert pro tip: make friends with extroverts. I’ve thought about this before and I’m thinking about it now as I write this, but most of my friends are extroverts. They like talking and I like listening. They push me out of my comfort zone and I push them out of theirs. We balance each other out well.)

I hope this helps, and good luck! You’re going to do great. :)

All my love,

S. 

anonymous asked:

I actually feel really bad for bromo because that woman genuinely thinks she's cracked it. She thinks she's the smartest most pay attention to detail person in the fandom and the poor girl hasn't been right once. I laugh when I see her posts. If Louis told her to her face larrie wasn't real she would make a post analyzing his body language, then when she was wrong she'd make another post about how she never said that but said another lie she makes up lol

I mean, you feel bad for them on a human level because empathy is a thing, but at the same time you’re like:

Originally posted by gurl

like you’re horrible and you act horribly and you treat people horribly and nobody should ever tolerate your behavior and everyone should be tired of you!

my least favorite thing is where I don’t intentionally procrastinate and instead just suddenly find out that I totally didn’t do the thing and it is now too late

I hate that thing

even saw isak on the first day of school and since he was always strategically placed in isak’s line of sight when isak started noticing him, even probably followed him around and sat close to him whenever he could. this means that he saw all the little things no one else noticed. he saw isak yawning and scratching his nose when it was too damn early for anyone to be fully awake. he saw isak stretch his arms above his head and make that high pitched whiny noise. he saw isak hum the postman pat theme song while waiting for the boy squad to show up at lunch. he saw isak struggle with his locker and completely destroy his books every single day. he saw all these stupid things people do when they think no one’s looking and he was completely mesmerized by it