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[Picture: Background: 6 piece pie style colour split with beige and woodland green alternating. Foreground: a head-on photo of a disgruntled looking white sheep. Top text: “'homosexuality is found in 4500 species. homophobia is only found in one” Bottom text: “really? I had no idea we had the means to determine a non-human animal’s identity”]

anonymous asked:

What are your views on gay marriage/homosexuality? That is one thing that deters me from becoming more Orthodox, I am very pro gay rights.

I am also very pro-equality. To be honest, the gay marriage thing was one of my biggest hangups in my decision to convert Orthodox. It simply doesn’t make sense for G-d to forbid people from being together. It doesn’t help that it’s a Noachide law, so it’s applicable to goyim too.

My position as an ally within the Orthodox community is very different than if I were LGBT+ myself (check out aspoonfulofvodka and anxiousandrogyne for those experiences — if they don’t mind me referring you to them). I don’t have to worry about facing stigma or discrimination, and I know for sure I’ll be allowed to get married after my conversion. For me, it’s not a pragmatic problem. It’s an ideological problem, and that’s a different battle.

We are obligated to judge favorably; we are not supposed to oppress others; we are to be kind, generous, accepting, and loving. How many times does the Torah say to be kind to one’s neighbor, to follow our G-d, to generally be decent human beings? I don’t have an exact number for you, but the answer is MANY. How many times does the Torah forbid homosexuality? Twice. It is far more important that we are good to one another, that we give one another the same rights and privileges that we ourselves would expect. The prohibition on homosexuality is (terribly enough) still a mitzvah, but I would argue that the Torah mandates human decency first.

As Rabbi Shammai wisely said, “That which is despicable to you, do not do to your fellow. This is the whole Torah, and the rest is commentary. Go and learn it.” Do I understand how Leviticus 18:22 fits into this definition? No. Not at all. Do I believe that it does? Yes.

There are no good answers, Anon. No matter what kind of theology I throw at you, a mitzvah is a mitzvah. I ultimately decided that I am a Jew (that is, I have a Jewish neshama) and halacha is the best way for me to connect to Hashem. I don’t understand how the pieces fit together — indeed, I loathe the way they fall — but I believe that Hashem sees a bigger, more egalitarian picture.

I’m really sorry that I don’t have all the answers. I wish I could assure you that there’s a good explanation for everything, that it’s really a big misunderstanding, but I can’t. I can only tell you that Orthodox Judaism is not incompatible with human decency, and that it is a great mitzvah to stand up for the oppressed.

(Also: pro-equality Jews/gerim should join in on this conversation because I think Anon could use some different perspectives here.)

anonymous asked:

Some question the usage of words referring to sexual acts to express distress: "This sucks [dick];" "I'm screwed; "I'm fucked;" etc. I don't know the history of these words, but I'd wager they're couched in hegemonic masculinity; i.e. although men often tell women that these acts are meant to be pleasurable, their slang usage suggests that, while it's OK for women to suck a dick or be fucked, men are to avoid these things. Or perhaps it doesn't even suggest that it's OK for women to be penetrated. It could also just be a case of cultural lag, though.

Anyway, "fuck" as in "Fuck yeah!" or "Fucking awesome!" is clearly a horse of a different color. I'm curious what you think the implications of this word are in these contexts. Actually, I'm willing to bet there's a body of research on this already; I'll probs pillage JSTOR later.

Really interested to see this asked because it’s a point I’ve brought up several times with friends. But usually, the most agreement I get is ‘Huh? Maybe…’

I was in a politics lecture last semester, and I got really upset when the lecturer made a comment about 'getting shafted’ to which most of the audience (on a politics course - men) laughed heartily.
I left feeling like shit and everyone I spoke to said I was getting upset over nothing.

But here’s the thing. As a person with a cunt who enjoys having sex with people with penises, I find what he said to be an issue.

Think of the people who enjoy sex with people with penises - not exclusively, but largely, these people are heterosexual women, gay men, and bisexual men and women (there are many other people, but those are the big three I suppose). 

Now look at the language… “I’ve been fucked”/“I am screwed”/“I’ve been shafted”/“We’re buggered”/etc etc etc

This is a lot of links between having something negative done to you, and having a penis inside of you.

I imagine their is a lot of research and theory on this, and I will probably go on a search of JSTOR myself later!

As for the second context of 'fuck’, in which it switches from a verb to purely being used as an intensifier for an emotion (negative or positive), I personally can’t see a problem (any thoughts?).