“The Transgender Day of Remembrance was set aside to memorialize those who were killed due to anti-transgender hatred or prejudice. The event is held in November to honor Rita Hester, whose murder on November 28th, 1998 kicked off the “Remembering Our Dead” web project and a San Francisco candlelight vigil in 1999. Rita Hester’s murder — like most anti-transgender murder cases — has yet to be solved.

Although not every person represented during the Day of Remembrance self-identified as transgender — that is, as a transsexual, crossdresser, or otherwise gender-variant — each was a victim of violence based on bias against transgender people.

We live in times more sensitive than ever to hatred based violence, especially since the events of September 11th. Yet even now, the deaths of those based on anti-transgender hatred or prejudice are largely ignored. Over the last decade, more than one person per month has died due to transgender-based hate or prejudice, regardless of any other factors in their lives. This trend shows no sign of abating.

The Transgender Day of Remembrance serves several purposes. It raises public awareness of hate crimes against transgender people, an action that current media doesn’t perform. Day of Remembrance publicly mourns and honors the lives of our brothers and sisters who might otherwise be forgotten. Through the vigil, we express love and respect for our people in the face of national indifference and hatred. Day of Remembrance reminds non-transgender people that we are their sons, daughters, parents, friends and lovers. Day of Remembrance gives our allies a chance to step forward with us and stand in vigil, memorializing those of us who’ve died by anti-transgender violence.”



One year ago I got to perform in front of the equality house in protest of the westboro baptist churches hate.


Words Hurt (the word “Faggot”) poem by Ryan Cassata 

A poem I wrote to explain why words can hurt so badly. These are my personal views, experiences, and reality. I only speak for myself. 

**Warning: contains talk of rape, terrorism, sex, anger, bullying, violence, oppression and strong hate speech. 

This poem is made to be educational. The only reason I’m saying these horrible words is to educate others so maybe people using these words will wake up and stop using these words and we can save a life.

If you need the words let me know and I will type them up.

I need asexual awareness because I never want to hear someone say that they’ve put themselves in harmful situations regarding sex because they were never taught that not wanting sex is okay. 

I need asexual awareness because I never want to hear someone say that they feel like they’re broken, or damaged goods, or that they need to be fixed. 

I need asexual awareness because the harmful things that non asexual people say to us, I guarantee we say to ourselves as well. 

I need asexual awareness because too many people think that our community isn’t a real thing. 

I need asexual awareness because asexuality is not celibacy. This is not a choice. 

I need asexual awareness because potential partners need to understand that we cannot be pushed into sexual situations; that is rape. 

I need asexual awareness because potential partners need to understand that we can offer them many things, many things more important than sex. We can focus on their mental health and well being perfectly fine without dropping our pants. 

I need asexual awareness so my mother can look me in the eye and tell me she’s sorry for telling me I’m weird and that she has no idea where I came up with such a thing. 

I need asexual awareness so my mother will understand that I have every intention of giving her biological children one day, even if I have to grit my teeth and “just deal with it.” 

I need asexual awareness because while there are probably more homophobes in the world than people who hate asexuals, at least they are accepted into society, at least the general populace is willing to admit that they exist, but when they hear the word asexual it’s like hearing someone say that aliens are real.

Transgender sexytime story call-out!

So I have an idea for a book you guys.
As we all know there is not a lot written on sex with trans folks. Logistically is usually tired Q&As about “your trans partner’s dysphoria is not your fault/use the terms they use for body parts..” and anecdotally is usually in response to questions like “is this normal?”

So I wanna compile a bunch of sex stories by trans folks involving figuring out what worked for you: upsetting times where you couldn’t get off, changes to the types of sex you enjoyed before/after HRT, great stories of understanding partners…and so on.

Essentially I wanna have anecdotal stories that add up to something that could help out cis partners, and aid other trans and gender non-conforming folks in understanding that it isn’t our fault if sex gets complicated.

Here’s the kicker though: I’m trying to shove this in a last minute proposal to a mini publishing company by the 17th. So throw your stories at me if you want!
you can email em to

(I’m trying to figure out compensation for your stories as well, this whole project shot up in a conversation last night so bear with me, & don’t hesitate to give me an estimate of what you think is fair for submitting.)

Thanks everyone!

I see so many people on tumblr who proudly identify as queer and who fall outside the binary and face a daily struggle. I know it’s hard some days to just get out of bed, but you can do it. Embrace yourself. Understand the beauty you possess. There’s nothing wrong with you. You are amazing and you have so much to offer the world.

Never be afraid to be your confident, attractive, talented self.

Camp is for you if you want:

  • A phenomenal leadership and personal growth experience inclusive of gender identity/expression and sexual orientation.
  • Key leadership concepts to becoming a stronger LGBT or ally leader.
  • Effective strategies and skill training for grassroots coalition building.
  • Access to premiere faculty and national leaders in social justice, human rights and civil rights advocacy.
  • Successful campus organizing practices and the chance to explore challenges confronting your campus.
  • Helpful resources and innovative tools from national organizations.
  • A personal action plan for your campus to become more LGBT-friendly.
  • Opportunity to connect and work with peer student leaders from across the country.
  • An inclusive approach for celebrating diversity and motivating others.
  • An open, safe environment to express yourself.
  • Fun, entertainment and lasting relationships.

Camp Dates

Dates: Tuesday, July 15 to Sunday, July 20, 2014
Location: Vanderbilt University, Nashville, TN

Camp Supplies

  • Casual Clothing
  • Tennis Shoes and/or closed toe shoes
  • Towels & washcloth
  • Shampoo, soap, bathroom supplies, etc.
  • Personal Pillow, Pillow Case, Bed Sheets & Blanket/Sleeping Bag
  • Your campus LGBT & ally resources to share with others (approx 80 total, if possible)
  • Any prescription medications

Camp Registration

$845 Early Discount Rate EXTENDED UNTIL MAY 30, 2014; $995 after May 30, 2014. Registration includes room/board, educational program materials & meals — LIMITED CAPACITY.  Register Now

Camp Scholarships

Full and partial scholarships are made available every year by individual donations, grants and corporate sponsors. Apply Online Now

Camp Mission

The mission of the Campus Pride Summer Leadership Camp is to build leadership capacity among LGBT and ally undergraduate college student leaders and to create safer and more inclusive campus communities in the United States.

Target Audience

Undergraduate LGBT & ally student leaders at colleges and universities across the United States.

Camp Learning Outcomes

  • Identify and describe components of their own identities that give them power and privilege as citizens and leaders in our society.

  • Discuss ways in which queer or ally leaders fit into queer contexts and communities working to create positive change.

  • Identify key resources and best practices available to create and implement a more inclusive and safe campus

  • Apply leadership skills to create change on their home campuses and equip them to be social justice advocates for life (in places of worship, workplace, larger community).

  • Identify and work with a network of peer and national leaders.

  • Present current and emerging issues impacting queer communities in the United States.



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Reteaching Gender & Sexuality

Reteaching Gender & Sexuality is a message about queer youth action and resilience. The video was generated to contribute additional queer/trans youth voices to the national conversations about queer/trans youth lives. Reteaching Gender & Sexuality intends to steer the conversation beyond the symptom of bullying, to consider systemic issues and deeper beliefs about gender and sexuality that impact queer youth. We invite you to share the video with your friends, family and networks; we invite you to share with us what THIS issue means to you!

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NC State GLBT center vandalized

RALEIGH, N.C. — Police at North Carolina State University are investigating a case of vandalism at the campus’s gay and lesbian center.

Justine Hollingshead, director of the N.C. State GLBT Center, said Tuesday that someone spray-painted a homophobic slur and the words “burn” and “die” on the outside of the center’s door and display case Monday night inside Harrelson Hall.

"It’s a little unnerving," she said. "This isn’t free expression," she said. "It was directed at the GLBT community and occurred right at the center of campus. It certainly proves that we have work to do."

"People have different beliefs, and unfortunately, those don’t always align with what we would hope at the institution that everybody can feel welcome," Hollingshead said.

"One or two individuals chose to do what they did in an act of hatred. That’s not the values and beliefs of the institution, and that’s not the values and beliefs of most people that are here," she added.

This isn’t the first time N.C. State has had to deal with defamatory remarks on the campus.

Racist speech in the campus’s Free Expression Tunnel became an issue after graffiti threatening violence against President Barack Obama was spray painted the night he was elected in November 2008.

The incident prompted the University of North Carolina System to adopt a policy prohibiting actions defined by federal and state laws as hate crimes.

In 2010, someone also painted racist and homophobic graffiti involving Obama in the Free Expression Tunnel, a public pedestrian tunnel on campus where students can express themselves by painting on the walls, ceiling and floor.

read the article here.


RJ & I get together in LA to discuss the word QUEER and what it means to us! We compare it to other terms like bisexual and pansexual. We also discuss labels & boxes. What does the word QUEER mean for you?

Massachusetts Passes Law Protecting Trans Residents

Today in Boston, a ceremony marked a newly passed MA state law which prohibits discrimination against transgender residents in employment, housing, insurance and credit.

Governor Deval Patrick told a crowded Statehouse ceremony on Thursday that he was happy to approve the bill as a “matter of conscience” in order to protect the rights and dignity of an estimated 33,000 transgender citizens in Massachusetts.

The law also extends the state’s hate crime laws to cover transgender people. Attorney General Martha Coakley said her office was ready to enforce the new law, adding that she hopes it won’t often be necessary. There is a long-standing debate about the impact of hate crimes legislation.  see here for an analysis opposing such legislation.

That said, in a time when (trigger warning) some legislators are saying hateful and horrible things about trans folks, such legislation is promising and marks a move toward important legal protections.

Read the Article Here.