If a girl in a bar tells a guy she’s bisexual, there’s a significant chance his reaction will be a raised eyebrow and an, “Oh, really?” as a series of porn movie scenarios suddenly flash through his mind. If a guy tells his friends he’s bi, the reaction tends to be an unspoken, “Oh, so you’re gay, but are still figuring some things out.” In an era when understanding and acceptance of homosexuality is slowly becoming mainstream, lots of people still think bisexuality is just a sexy hobby.

Well, we spoke to Beth, a bisexual woman, and Jon, a bisexual man about their experiences being switch-hitters in a world that doesn’t make much of an effort to understand them.

5 Outdated Myths Everyone Still Believes About Bisexuality

6

“People thought I was weird, so I think they’d just kind of push away. Now that I have friends that actually, like, accept me and respect me, that are guys… I feel very comfortable. 

I feel like I’m definitely more boy-guy-ish, I guess you could say. I’m more… myself.”

Meet Alex: Boy Code [VIDEO]

Part of our series: Growing Up Trans

Certainty
  • If you had asked me fifteen years ago, I would have laughed and said:
    • “I’m not a woman. I’m a normal guy.”
  • If you had asked me five years ago, I would have frowned, and knitted my brow, and said:
    • “I’m not a woman. I am a feminist ally and I use my male privilege to highlight and oppose patriarchy.”
  • If you had asked me three years ago, I would have thought about it deeply, and said:
    • “I’m not a woman. I think. But I’m not a man either. I don’t really know what my gender is, or what it means to me.”
  • If you had asked me a year and a half ago, I would have sighed and said:
    • “I think I might be a woman. But how can I be sure? My heart leaps when I think about it, and it’s so good to dream of. But wanting isn’t being. I am not sure.”
  • If you had asked me last year, I would have looked shy and said:
    • “I am a woman. I think. I have so many doubts, but this feels more right than anything else I have done with myself or for myself. I hope so.”
  • If you had asked me a month ago, I would have nodded firmly and said:
    • “I am a woman. I know it now. I have lived as a woman for a year. I have survived testosterone poisoning and feel freer and better for having less of it. I can’t go back, and I am sure of this in my heart.”
  • But if you ask me today, I can finally grin and flash you a card and say:
    • “I am a woman. I have the paperwork to prove it. My social security card says it. My license says it. My debit card says it. Soon, my birth certificate will say it too. This is me, this is true, and assertions otherwise go against not just my word, but the word of the law.”

Useful against naysayers. Useful against doubters.
But most useful when the one asking the question
is me.

I’m so happy that I’m here now.

Scientists actually had to do a SCIENTIFIC STUDY and PUBLISH A PAPER in a highly respected peer-reviewed scientific journal (PLOS One) to prove that same-sex marriages have NO EFFECT on opposite-sex marriages. Like, the debate has got to the point where scientists had to be like okay FINE do you guys really need SCIENTIFIC FACT that who SOMEONE ELSE marries has ZERO effect on who YOU marry fine FINE HERE IT IS. 

Their quoted conclusion (drumroll please): “We conclude that there is no relationship between implementation of same sex marriage or strong or weak same sex union laws and rates of opposite sex marriage.”

DUN DUN DUNNNNN

Link to the paper which includes methods and results