you can’t fault trans people for finding appeal in separatism when there are literally a very significant chunk of people who use the acronym lgb, talk of dropping the t, and consistently are some of the most transphobic people yet somehow gets a seat in lgbtq+ spaces (and has influenced our movement largely for decades now)..

you legit cannot fault people for not finding appeal in anything outside of having a trans community when the greater community has been like this.

i’m getting real sick of cis lgb’s using the term “cishets” to describe those who oppress them. “cishets” don’t oppress cis gays. stop trying to act like you’re somehow affected by transphobia. y’all have to get your act together and accept that you benefit from our oppression as much as every other cis person. 

you people are the ones that literally commodified the existence of trans women by bastardizing drag and turning it into a televised business with a violent transmisogynist at the head.

maybe you could stake any claim in “cishet” if you stop profiting off of trans stigma and fear. maybe you could use it if you fucking held your cisgay idols accountable and stopped supporting transphobes. maybe you could use it if you stopped erasing the very history of the queer movement by removing trans women.

bisexuworld  asked:

1 and 26? :)

1. describe your idea of a perfect date
Real talk I haven’t actually been on a proper date before but I feel like I’d be cool with anything really??? Though one idea I really like the thought of (which is very basic lmao) is going out to a restaurant for a meal with someone then going home and just chilling together, maybe watch a film or whatever. Going to a theme park would be another one, though maybe a few dates in where them seeing me as a mess wouldn’t be such a shock bc my god my hair after rollercoaster smh

26. favourite lgb musician/band
Thinking about it I don’t actually know the sexualities of a lot of my favourite artists??? I really love brendon urie and I think he’s talked about his sexual fluidity before, not sure if he actually identifies as bi/pan though. One of my fave queens from drag race Adore Delano is also one of my faves!!

Huffington Post’s definition of queer, just in case you thought it still meant anything (source).

Queer includes all us queer folks across the spectrum of sexuality, gender, physical ability, presentation, and anatomical gloriousness. But it isn’t only us. Because truth is, in the current political climate, if you aren’t a straight, white, patriarchy-loving religious zealot, you’re queer too.

I just saw something that almost broke me down to tears.

“LGB”

Radfems have created their own version of the lgbT community to completely remove trans people from it.

7+ people I know are trans. 3 fully transitioned, and 4 that have either not finished due to their health, or have no desire to.

Trans people are queer. Everyone except radfems have been saying that for years.

Chopping off the T because “O H NO!!!1!! R A PIST MISOG YNIS TS!!!!1!1! F E MAL ES ONLY!!! LE SBOPHOBES!!1!1! TRANS CULT!! GENDERISTS!!1!1!1!”

Violently expelling trans people from their own community, because Terfs/radfems/WHATEVER are fucking violently oppressing trans people further by stirring up a new stereotype that will follow trans people for years to come. Killing many more trans people.

How dare YOU rewrite our damn community because you don’t like how it is. Things change.
And you’re tiny little opinions aren’t going to help anyone. It’ll only hurt.

You’re hurting trans people.
You’re hurting other lesbians.
You’re hurting our community.

💖  Lesbians who’ve known they were gay since they were a toddler are perfect and loved.

💖  Lesbians who discovered they were gay accidentally when dared to kiss a girl in high school are perfect and loved.

💖  Lesbians who waited to admit they were gay until college where they could explore themselves away from family are perfect and loved. 

💖  Lesbians who didn’t know, or didn’t admit, they were gay until later in life are perfect and loved.

💖  Lesbians are perfect and loved.

gay ask game for gays only

1. describe your idea of a perfect date

2. whats your “type”

3. do you want kids?

4. if you do, will you adopt or use some other form of child birth?

5. describe the cutest date you’ve ever been on

6. describe your experience having sex for the first time (were you nervous? or was it easy peasy?)

7. are you a morning time gay or night time gay?

8. opinion on nap dates?

9. opinion on brown eyes?

10. dog gay or cat gay?

11. would you ever date someone who owned rodents or reptiles?

12. whats a turn off you look for before you start officially dating someone

13. what is a misconception you had about lgb people before you realized you were one?

14. what is a piece of advice you would give to your younger self

15. (if attracted to more than one gender) do you have different “types” for different genders?

16. who is an ex you regret?

17. night club gay or cafe gay?

18. who is one person you would “go straight” for

19. video game gay, book gay, or movie gay?

20. favourite gay ship (canon or not)

21. favourite gay youtuber

22. have you ever unknowingly asked out a straight person?

23. have you ever been in love?

24. have you ever been heartbroken?

25. how do you determine if you want to be them or be with someone

26. favourite lgb musician/band

27. what is a piece of advice you have for young / baby gays

28. are you out? if so how did you come out

29. what is the most uncomfortable / strange coming out experience you have 

30. what is a piece of advice for people who may not be in a safe place to express their sexuality

the very idea that an identity will crumble to dust if it is ‘invalidated’ i think reveals the constructed nature of that particular identity. for instance, i don’t need anybody to validate my identity as a gay man because i AM a gay man. by my very nature i’m sexually inclined toward men and if tomorrow i were to forget everything i know i would still be sexually attracted to the male sex and my brain and body would respond in that way. it is the simple, brute reality of my existence and whether or not that is confirmed by those around me does not negate the inescapable reality of it all. i don’t have to worry about my 'identity’ being valid because its reality is not contingent on how/what i or others feel/believe about it.

if you are gay i want to see you on the front lines of every Black Lives Matter march. it wasn’t so long ago that we were the face of police brutality, that police were raiding our bars and profiling us in the streets and arresting us for no reason, so I don’t want to hear a single gay or lesbian or bisexual talking about how they’re too busy or some shit when we would have given anything at that time to have allies (and when we did it was because white people were the face of our movement). i don’t want to hear it. turn. the fuck. out. for your black brothers and sisters

I hate how the lgbt issues focused on are 90% trans issues. and that’s totally irrelevant to the rest of us, and even harmful to gnc people like me. we deserve our own lgb community to focus on OUR issues. drop the T.