“Everyone in this room had a rough childhood. Get over it.”
No. Let me stop and explain why this quote pisses me off so much.
Iris’s mother left her at a very young age. So young that she barely remembers her. But she had a loving and generous father who never let her forget how much he cared for her.
Barry’s mother was killed and his father was taken to prison. But he still had a wonderful relationship with his dad and had a really good family that took him in and gave him everything he ever needed in terms of love.
Leonard Snart had none of this.
Leonard Snart had an abusive father, one who beat and abused both him and his sister, one who never cared about them and would often take out his anger on his own children. His mother is either missing, in jail, or dead, and if she’s dead we can almost wholeheartedly assume that it was because of Lewis. He had to raise Lisa practically his whole life, protect her from their own father, and got into a life of crime to provide for her. He worried about her while he was in prison, probably assuming that Lewis was beating the shit out of her which, in all likelihood, he probably was. He never had anyone who loved him except for Lisa and maybe Mick.
Leonard Snart killed his own father, and even though he hated him, as a child who has been verbally abused her whole life I can say that no matter what you might say, you still have this weird sense of love for your abusers. He killed his own father and probably hated himself because of it.
So no. You cannot tell Snart to “get over it.” You did not have the same childhood he did. You do not have the right to tell him to get over it, just like he can’t tell you to get over yours.
Never, ever tell a victim of abuse to just “get over it.”
So we all know that Len’s mum left when he was little, before Lisa was born (because they have different mums) But what if she didn’t leave what if it was Kendra, and it was just that Savage got to her when he was little.
Okay so let’s say she’s with Lewis because at this point in time he’s actually an alright guy. She hasn’t met Carter yet (or has but she thought he was just some weird crazy guy) and then one night she finds out that Lewis, while not working as a cop, has been rocking that criminal lifestyle and she doesn’t want that for her son and so plans to leave. But that night, what if when she goes out to get the money and supplies she needs for them to leave, Savage finds her and Len never hears from her again.
So then cut to Legends and Len can’t help but like Kendra and he doesn’t know why (he wasn’t old enough to remember how she looked). He can’t help but feel comfortable around her.
Then there’s this one mission where maybe Len is in danger and nearly dies and while he’s on the med bay Kendra just loses it and neither her nor anyone else can figure out why because sure Snart is a part of the team but he’s not that close with anyone yet. But Len is sure somethings up.
Obviously Len would figure it out at some point because he’s clever and it wouldn’t take him long to put it together, he asks Carter about her last self and he tells Len he’s happy she doesn’t remember it, because she was stolen from her son and kept captive for 11 years before managing to kill herself to escape him.
Len works it out, he’s 44 and Kendra is 25. If she went missing when he was 8 and held captive for 11 years Len would’ve been 19 when she died It’s not a coincidence that there’s a 19 year age gap between them.
Len doesn’t tell her because how can he? Eventually he plans to though, but the Oculus happens and he doesn’t get the chance.
It’s only when Kendra watches the place explode that the memories come flooding back to her and she collapses as she realises she just watched another son die, that she lost Leonard again, she had him back and she didn’t even realise it.