letters to demi

My dear demiromantic and/or demisexual children, 

I just saw a post making fun of you and decided to let you know that the voices of those who support you are louder than those of some whiny bitter gatekeepers, so.. *grabs microphone and climbs on the table*

You’re part of the lgbt+ family! 

Demiromantic? That’s a valid label! You are lgbt+! I love you! 

Demisexual? That’s a valid label! You are lgbt+! I love you!

Demiromantic lesbian? Homo-demiromantic asexual? Panromantic hetero-demisexual? Any other label involving demi? Yes, that’s real! All of that! You’re allowed to identify as that! 

If anyone thinks your label is “too complicated” or “fake”, that’s their problem, not yours! 

Demi? Wonderful! I’m so happy to have you in my lgbt+ family! 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

dear future child of mine

you will probably have a gender neutral name

if you don’t, im sorry

if you come out as trans, ill support you from the start.

if you come out as non binary, ill support you from the start.

if you come out as anything other than straight, ill support you from the start.

if you change your mind after coming out as any of these things, ill support you from the start

i love you


First Impressions This Season

So it’s a week into this season and every show has had at least one episode now (I think). I’ll go through what I’ve watched and say what I think so far. I guess spoilers for episode 1, but are those really spoilers?

Gabriel Dropout

The premise is that after graduating angel or demon school said angels or demons go to earth and go to school there so that they can learn to be proper angels or proper demons. The main character is a decidedly unangelic angle that gets hooked on online games and becomes a shut in, while the rest of the cast is filled in with characters equally ill suited to their roles. This looks pretty entertaining and it’s basically Doga Kobo doing what they do best. It doesn’t seem like a show that I’m going to remember down the road, but it’s a nice moe SoL to watch. The humor has been pretty good too, so I’ve got decent expectations from it. 

Originally posted by k-ui

Little Witch Academia

I’m super excited for LWA and the first episode was great. The original OVA that was kick started was fantastic and set this all in motion, so that alone is kind of cool to see. I’d call the show a moe SoL, but it’s really a Trigger SoL with moe elements. Is it moe? I don’t even know lol, but I’ve got high expectations for it and I don’t think Trigger is going to let me down. They are good at the over the top crazy, and I think that they can do a great over the top wacky magical shenanigans show. Definitely high hopes for this show. 

Originally posted by lifefibersync

Kono Subarashii no Sekai ni Shukufuku wo! 2 (Konosuba s2)

That mouthful of a title aside, it’s more konosuba. The animation seems like it’s even more “quality” than last season, but that doesn’t bother me too much. The kinda cobbled together sometimes almost bad animation kinda adds to the show. But there is probably a limit to that and I hope they don’t find it lol. The Star Wars credits were a hilarious way to start off this season, and I hope that it continues to amuse me as much as it has already. I’ve got decent expectations of this show, but I’m not holding out for it to be incredible. 

Originally posted by jyoshikausei

Demi-chan wa Katatirai 

The premise of this show is that there are demi humans in the world and the teacher of this school is interested in learning more about them by interviewing them. Naturally a bunch of them end up at his school so this gets to happen. I was a little concerned about the possible weird teacher-student relationships that this sort of show can get into, but after two episodes I don’t think it will be like that at all. The cast seems pretty alright, with Hikari and the teacher being great characters. I’ll watch this show just for Hikari’s antics even if it somehow gets worse. I don’t think this will be an amazing show, but once again a nice cute SoL to fill the time. 

Originally posted by ookazaki

Kobayashi-san Chi no Maid Dragon

Sort of an unexpected title for Kyoani to be adapting, but it seems to be working so far. The premise is that Tohru (the dragon) becomes Kobayashi’s maid because on a drunken adventure Kobayashi pulled a holy sword out of her and then said she could stay with her. I picked up the first volume of the manga awhile back because buy two get one free sales make me do silly things and I really enjoyed it. There is a nice amount of good jokes and then some just funny moments with Tohru being a dragon and doing dragon things. I expect this to keep me thoroughly entertained, but it probably won’t be one of Kyoani’s truly marvelous show. Gonna be hard to follow Hibike S2 lol. 

Originally posted by aidoru-ojisan

So ya, that’s what I’ve watched for this season. I don’t know if I’ll really get around to anything else this season, but these at least all look like they’ll be fine watches. I have the most hope and expectations from Little Witch Academia, and I’m particularly excited that it is 2 cour. 

I once made myself watch hetero-porn. Man with stone like arms and legs thrusting into a woman who laid there and sang, and all I could think was is this how it feels to live in a cage?

And then, I watched lesbian porn, which put me at ease. Even in rehearse, it felt more natural and more sincere.

So, I was labeled lesbian or bisexual. Neither which felt part of me. I am attracted to a woman’s aura, scent, and conviction but not to the curves and dips of skin hyper-sexualized on tv. So, it seems that there was no box for me.

Demi-sexual was sometimes checked or asked about me? And another alphabet letter forgotten by equinox’s creed. Demi-sexuality so beautifully unites emotions with sex. A couple of my friends have found their home there.

But, not me. And that’s fine, but still leaves me incomplete. Like why is everyone so obsessed with magic mike? Or Channing Tatum? Or Ryan Reynolds? Or any of those hyper-masculine body types? Not, that there was anything wrong with that. My brain could just not understand, it made me feel like I wasn’t wired right?

Like when my sister stared at shirtless posters of her favorite celeb? Or her and my aunt zooming in to see if they could find the outline of his dick on his pants? What’s so great with dick? What’s so great with sex?

People told me I was too young to understand. And when turned 21, they said oh you just haven’t tried yet. But, I didn’t want to. That’s, the part they never got, and well neither did I.

I don’t want to have sex. I don’t care about sex. Whether someone was gay, lesbian, heterosexual, bisexual - they always took offense as if I was insulting their sexuality with the lack of interest in my sex life. No, not lack. I just do not. Do not want a sex life, I was labeled by them prude or confused.

And then I had sex, and it made me feel dirty and not kind. Most likely for the way the sex occurred rather than the act. I laid in bed and decided I was done with that.

As an asexual indigenous womxn, people found it weird why I dated, if I was never going to have sex. As if there couldn’t be love without fuck or flesh. As If someone couldn’t love me because I wasn’t interested in what was in between their thighs? Or even when I was, as soon as my lips sealed a kiss on the head of a dick, friends said, “see you are not really asexual.”

And so when I acquired a partner, I began to say I am queer. Queer was my green card in the LGBTQA+ world. Queer and my background made them portray me as edgy or brave. I wanted to scream “my ancestors had flowing genders and sexualities. Boxes and definitions those were European ideals! Fuck your labels! Fuck your obsession with my unwanted need for sex!” I sat with a tight smile and nodded with grief.

I realized then the LGBTQA+ world was just another part of European society wanting to colonize me.

And so: Dear June, I am in love with a wonderful human being, i like the smell of his dick, he likes the smell of my breath; he watches me write poems, I braid his hair. and yes, sometimes we have sex, but I still am an Asexual Indigenous Immigrant Womxn.

—  Dear June, or how Equinox’s Alphabet was not complete // by Wendolynne Perez

Check out these sélections  from Angouléme 2016, and congratulations to their creators!

Ajin: Demi-Human (Sélection officielle)

Arsene Schrauwen (Sélection officielle)

Barnaby (Sélection patrimoine)

Doctors (Sélection officielle)

Letter 44 (Sélection officielle)

Ms. Marvel (Sélection officielle)

Outcast (Sélection officielle)

Saga (Sélection officielle)

A Silent Voice (Sélection jeunesse)

Southern Bastards (Sélection polar)

Dear Valentine,

It’s the 14th of February,

a day where we celebrate in love, wallow in love,

shout it to the world -

but I don’t want to do any of that, I just want to write these words to you, for your eyes only.

I never expected to fall in love. you opened a world of colors I never saw. You changed me from black and white to color.

Words fail to describe what I feel anymore. I can only look into your eyes silently, and maybe then you will get a glimpse of how my heart beats for you.

I wish I had the talent to paint the way I feel about you. My words seem to have become stale, and art is the only way I know how to express my sentiments.

I see all the colors and hues and I see us - I see you.

We are Starry Night, a masterpiece people try to emulate but never can recreate our brushstrokes.

I would use red for your passion and the beauty you hold,

pale blue for the kindness your eyes speak;

a light green to show the compassion you hide,

a bright yellow for your never ending smile that erases all my sadness in one look.

a soft purple for your intelligence, when your nose is scrunched and your eyes squinted deep in thought -

and I wonder: can even an artists color wheel capture what you mean to me, what we become when we are together?

You’ve loved me unconditionally, for all the colors I have,

some beautiful, some abstract, some you repainted -

but I felt your love in your touch, in the tenderness of your lips. And, when I needed it most, you loved me with words, handwritten from your coarse hands, reminding me that:

you will love me until all of our pigments fade.

—  Demetra Demi, Love Letter 14 
An Open Letter to Rumer Willis

Dear Rumer,

Thank you for taking a chance and dancing this season on DWTS. You have shown such bravery, poise and immense talent. I loved watching every dance you and Val did. I feel like the friendship between you two was one of the first real things I’ve ever seen on a reality show. It’s now a “showmance”, but a real connection based on love, trust and hard work. 

To be honest, I’ve always been a fan. I loved you in Sorority Row and The House Bunny. (They’re 2 of my guilty favorites ever!)

I just wanted to say thanks. Thank you for showing me that anything is possible if you put hard work into it. 

I hope you win tonight, you and Val deserve it. Your Freestyle was pure and beautiful. I never wanted it to end. I’m so happy to know that girls have you to look up to. I wish I did when I was younger. The way you just put yourself out there is beautiful, as are you. 

Finally, girls have a real role model to look up to. Someone who has been through the teenage rollercoaster and shared their experience with the world. I thank you for that. I thank you for that for the sake of my nieces and little cousins. I want them to know that it’s more important to love yourself and be an individual than it is to “fit in”.

Last night you reminded me, and I am sure America, why we love the show. Pure, honest, intimate dance. It was absolutely amazing. 

Let’s just say, you got all my votes. (And always have.) 

Thank You.