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Watch: We can’t stop crying about the beautiful letter one trans man wrote to his younger self about the ups and downs of transitioning

YouTuber James Raines explained feeling like a “freak” as a child, not feeling comfortable with himself until a documentary helped him realize that he was transgender. So with his girlfriend’s encouragement, he decided to put together a video in which he reads a letter to his pre-transition self.

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11.17.17- I tried mind mapping for the first time to study for the apush test I had this morning, and found it was very effective, especially since the new curriculum is geared more towards cause and effect. It was very efficient for cramming for the test considering I fell asleep while studying last night 😂 

coming out

Okay guys, so I just wrote a long letter to my boyfriend. In there I explain to him that I’m a boy and that I’m going to start a transition. I also explain that I love him but that I need to transition in order to be who I really am and finally be happy. I’m freaking out but am also glad I put all my feelings on a page, it’s liberating!

Now I’m probably just gonna read it again and again and freak out until he comes back on sunday aha!

Wish me luck!

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“And as the years went on things got more difficult, we were faced with more challenges. I begged him to stay, tried to remember what we had in the beginning.”

anonymous asked:

When should you tell an employer your trans?

Lee says:

Whenever you want to. You aren’t required to ever disclose the info, so you could never tell them, or you could tell them in your job interview, it’s up to you.

I didn’t come out at work for two years, because I wasn’t on T, but now that I’ve started T I’ve come out to my boss because it’ll eventually be evident that I’m transitioning.

You should come out if you think it’d be safe to do so, and it wouldn’t create a hostile environment for you or threaten your employment status. We have some resources on coming out at work on our coming out page.

I’d bring it up when you’re comfortable with it. But make sure you check the laws regarding discrimination at work for being trans in your state, because some states it’s legal to fire you coz you’re trans.

It’s usually easier to come out sooner than later, because if you wait for a good while, everyone will be used to seeing you in one way and will have to adjust to changing the name and pronouns, y'know? Also, you don’t want to invest too much time there if they’d be gross because you’re trans, so you might as well find out early so you can leave and find a better job. But there’s no specific time you have to come out by, it’s just whenever you’re comfortable enough to do so.

How do I come out at work?

Books About  Trans Men and Transition

I have tried to collect a comprehensive list of both fiction and non-fiction books that are about trans men or have trans men in them. Despite a lot of research I’m sure I have missed some. If you know of a book that should be on the list please let me know. As a disclaimer I have not read all of these books and cannot speak to how well or poorly they represent trans men. 

Fiction 

A Boy Like Me by Jennie Wood

Albert Nobbs by George Moore

Beautiful Music for Ugly Children by Kirstin Cronn-Mills

Becoming Alec by Darwin S. Ward 

Busy by Elio Knox

Chasing Death Metal Dreams by Kaje Harper 

F2M: The Boy Within by Hazel Edwards and Ryan Kennedy 

Holding Still for as Long as Possible by Zoe Whittall 

I am J by Cris Beam 

I Know Very Well How I Got My Name by Elliot DeLine

If We Shadows by D.E Atwood

Lost Boi by Sassafras Lowry 

Morgan in the Mirror by C.C. Saint-Clair

Parrot Fish by Ellen Wittlinger 

Portside by Elyan Smith

Refuse by Elliot DeLine

Sacred Country by Rose Tremain 

Something Beautiful by Andrew Jericho 

Some of the Parts by T. Cooper

Stone Butch Blues: A Novel by Leslie Feinberg 

The Art of Being Normal by Lisa Williamson

The Best Boy Every Made by Rachel Eliason

The Collection: Short Fiction from the Transgender Vanguard edited by Tom Leger and Riley MacLeod 

Transparency by Ethan Stone and Sara York

Trumpet by Jackie Kay

Two Boys Kissing by David Levithan 

Wandering Son by Takako Shimura 

Where No One Knows by Jo Ramsey 

Non-Fiction: General 

Balancing on the Mechitza: Transgender in Jewish Community by Noach Dzmura 

Beyond Magenta: Transgender Teens Speak Out by Susan Kuklin 

Blue Water Dreams by Dena Hankins 

Body Alchemy: Transsexual Portraits by Loren Cameron 

Female-to-Male Transgender People’s Experiences in Australia: A National Study by Tiffany Jones, Andrea del Pozo de Bolger, Tinashe Dune, Amy Lykins, and Gail Hawkes 

Finding Masculinity: Female to Male Transition in Adulthood edited by Alexander Walker and Emmett J.P. Lundberg

From the Inside Out: Radical Gender Transformation, FtM and Beyond edited by Morty Diamond

FTM: Female-to-Male Transsexuals in Society by Aaron Devor

How Beautiful the Ordinary: Twelve Stories of Identity edited by Michael Cart

In a Queer Time and Place: Transgender Bodies, Subcultural Lives by J. Jack Halberstam 

Just One of the Guys?: Transgender Men and the Persistence of Gender Inequality by Kristen Schilt

Letters to my Brothers: Transitional Wisdom in Retrospect edited by Megan M. Rohrer

Manning Up: Transsexual Men on Finding Brotherhood, Family, and Themselves edited by Zander Keig & Mitch Kellaway

Self-Made Men: Identity and Embodiment among Transsexual Men by Henry Rubin 

Sex Changes: The Politics of Transgenderism by Patrick Califia-Rice 

Sons of the Movement: FtMs Risking Incoherence on a Post-Queer Cultural Landscape by Jean Bobby Noble

The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You by S. Bear Bergman 

The Other Me by Suzanne van Rooyen 

The Transgender Men’s Guide to Life: Coming Out and Socially Transitioning Towards Your True Gender by Leo Castana 

The Transgender Men’s Guide to Life: Decision-Making and Goal-Setting white Transitioning Towards Your True Gender by Leo Castana

The Transgender Men’s Guide to Life: Overcoming Doubt and Negative Thoughts to Begin Transitioning Towards Your True Gender by Leo Castana

Transition and Beyond: Observations on Gender Identity by Reid Vanderburgh 

Trans/Portraits: Voices by Transgender Communities edited by Jackson Wright Shultz 

Transmen and FTMs: Identities, Bodies, Genders and Sexualities by Jason Cromwell

Transitioning Female-to-Male in Australia by Craig Andrews

Non-Fiction: Memoirs & Autobiographies 

A Self Made Man: The Story of a Man Born in a Woman’s Body by Paul Hewitt

Becoming a Visible Man by Jamison Green

Being by Zach Ellis

Both Sides Now: One Man’s Journey Through Womanhood by Dhillon Khosla 

Bumbling into Body Hair: A Transsexual’s Memoir by Everett Maroon 

Dear Sir or Madam by Mark Nicholas Alban Rees 

Emergence: A Transsexual Autobiography by Mario Martino 

In from the Wilderness: Sherman by David E. Weekly 

Labor of Love: The Story of One Man’s Extraordinary Pregnancy by Thomas Beatie 

Just Add Hormones: An Insider’s Guide to the Transsexual Experience by Matt Kailey

Nina Here nor There: My Journey Beyond Gender by Nick Krieger 

Paralian: Not Just Transgender by Liam Klenk 

Real Man Adventures by T. Cooper 

Second Son: Transitioning Toward My Destiny, Love and Life by Ryan Sallans

Some Assembly Requires: The Not-So-Secret Life of a Transgender Teen by Arin Andrews 

Teeny Weenies and Other Short Subjects by Matt Kailey 

The Making of a Man: Notes on Transsexuality by Maxim Februari 

The Testosterone Files: My Hormonal and Social Transition from Female to Male by Max Wolf Valerio

Thoughts Through Transition: The Writings of a Mentor by Sir Ledonvito 

Transition: The Story of How I Became a Man by Chaz Bono

Transman - Bitesize: The Story of a Woman who Became a Man by Rico Paris

Two Truths and a Lie by Scott Turned Schofield 

What Took You So Long? A Girl’s Journey into Mahood by Raymond Thompson

Non-Fiction: Medical Transition 

Hung Jury: Testimonies of Genital Surgery by Transsexual Men edited by Trystan T. Cotton

Masculinizing Hormonal Therapy For the Female to Male Transgendered by Sheila Kirk

Medical Therapy and Health Maintenance for Transgender Men by R. Gorton, J. Buth, and D. Spade. 

The Phallus Palace: Female to Male Transsexuals by Dean Kotula 

Non-Fiction: Family and Relationships 

Gendered Hearts: Transgendered, Transsexual and Gender Variant Writers on Sex, Love, and Relationships edited by Morty Diamond 

The Gender Trap: The Moving Autobiography of Chris and Cathy the World’s First Known Transsexual Parents by Chris Johnson and Cathy Brown

Trans Forming Families: Real Stories about Transgendered Love Ones by Mary Boenke 

The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper

Trans/Love: Radical Sex, Love & Relationships Beyond the Gender Binary edited by Morty Diamond 

Queerly Beloved: A Love Story Across Genders by Diane and Jacob Anderson-Minshall 

What Becomes You by Aaron Raz-Link and Hilda Raz 

Non-Fiction: Trans History 

A Strange Sort of Being: The Transgender Life of Lucy Anne/Joseph Israel Lobdell, 1829-1912 by Bambi L. Lobdell 

Charley’s Choice: The Life and Times of Charley Parkhurst by Fern J. Hill 

From Female to Male: The Life of Jack Bee Garland by Louis Sullivan 

Michael nee Laura: The Story of the World’s First Female to Male Transsexual by Liz Hodgkinson. 

Suits Me: The Double Life of Billy Tipton by Diane Wood Middlebrook

The First Man-Made Man: Love Story of Two Sex Changes, One Love Affair, and a Twentieth-century Medical Revolution by Pagan Kennedy 

anonymous asked:

I need a job urgently. I'm on T, but it's a low dose and it might be a few months before I start seeing changes. I have an interview at this restaurant coming up next week, and I'm not sure if I should come out, and if so, when? It's a small business and doesn't have a reputation for being for or against trans people, and I don't know how to ask. Should I come out in the interview or once I'm hired (fingers crossed)? I really need this job.

Kai says:

I think it would be safest to come out after you’re hired, within the first week or two. That way, they don’t discriminate against you in the hiring process and end up not hiring you for whatever reason, and you can still start off right. You can also spend the first week figuring out if the people at the workplace are friendly or not, that’s what I did when I came out at work.

Lee says:

Some more helpful links:

my first appointment at the gender therapist went so well !!! my therapist is really nice and i think this is the best fit i’ve found in a long time in a therapeutic setting which makes me feel so much relief over this whole process. if things keep going this way i should have my gender dysphoria officially diagnosed in the next month or two and be on my way to getting my reccomendation letters to transition within the next several months !!!

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“A Letter to the Girl I Used to Be”– Ethan Smith (cupsi 2014)

Reflections on a Fringe Rewatch

I have no idea how many times I have rewatched the five seasons of Fringe since the series ended in January 2013.  Sometimes I pick and choose my favorite episodes and skip those that don’t call out to me at the moment,  At other times, I rewatch the series in order from Pilot to An Enemy of Fate (although I usually put off watching Letters of Transit until after Brave New World: Part 2).

In either case, however, I typically engage in binge watching, at times watching four episodes in a row in an effort, I suppose, to maximize the pleasure.  I would wager that I am not alone in following this pattern.

For my latest rewatch, which I am engaged in so I can post #memorable lines from Fringe, I have changed my usual pattern.  I am watching the episodes in order, but I am proceeding at a leisurely pace–and never watching two episodes in one sitting.  I have discovered that slowing down the process increases the sense of re-discovery.  

For example, this morning I watched Midnight.  1.18 was never one of my favorite episodes.  I normally watched it like I was just biding my time until I could focus on The Road Not Taken.  This time around, however, I found it captivating.  Aside from the numerous enjoyable scenes with Anna Torv strutting around in a leather jacket, I found myself chuckling at numerous lines of dialog and sight gags to an extent I don’t remember having done in the past: from the “Singles Together” scene, to Walter’s line about an exposed spinal cord reminding him of shrimp cocktail, to Peter’s joy at operating the siren in Olivia’s car, to his line about there being a frustrated romantic underlying every cynic.  I also found myself being awestruck by some of the foreshadowing this episode provided, especially Walter’s describing his past discussions about souls with William Bell and Nicholas Boone’s query to Walter: “How far would you go for someone you love?”

For what it’s worth, I give the following advice: Try a leisurely rewatch of Fringe sometime.  Each episode stands solidly on its own merits, and it’s incredibly rewarding to plunge the depths of each episode without being distracted by what might come next.

Who Will Ever Remember Him Now?

Who Will Ever Remember Him Now? / CS + Forgotten Son

Summary: Captain Hook was destined to be remembered as one of the most infamous villains in all the realms, but the man behind the moniker? Who would ever remember him? Season 5 Episode 11 angsty pirate musings.

Rated T for angst and patricide / ~700 word count 

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“My wife and I…we had a son,” he’d said.

Brennan’s words - his father’s words - still echoing in his ear as he made his way back to the cottage his sire had pointed out to him when they’d parted ways.

A son.

He’d called Killian son, a gesture the pirate had rebuffed in the moment, unwilling to display any greater show of compassion or feeling toward the man than he already had. He was risking much with this plan already.

He couldn’t believe his own ears when he’d heard himself offer clemency to the man who had caused he and his brother so much torment and cruelty at the hand of the master he’d sold them to, but as Killian secured the letters of transit he had to finally come to terms with the truth of why he was willing to spare the man…

Killian had been many things to many people in his long life, but there were few who could remember him for the man he wanted to truly be remembered for - a man who loved and was loved by others. A man named Killian Jones, and not the infamous Captain Hook.

Liam had loved him like all good big brothers should…but that love for a little brother was now lost and forgotten.

Milah had loved him as no other woman had, and mostly likely ever would…but that love had been taken from him.

Killian had no memories of a mother’s love. No memories to even forget. But he had memories of his father’s love, or at least, he thought there had been love there once. The kind of a love a father would bestow upon his son. But after the treachery of betrayal Killian had began to wonder if the man had ever really loved them at all…if he even remembered them all.

Seems he had, for Killian hadn’t even needed to introduce himself properly before Brennan had recognized him.

A once forgotten son, remembered.

And that had affected Killian more than he’d prepared himself for.

“You’ll come with me?”

The offer had rocked him. Go with him? Of course he couldn’t go with him. He had his path set before him; one of vengeance and villainy. The path and purpose of Captain Hook.

And yet…

Killian could not stop himself from securing a third letter of transit, for perhaps…just perhaps, when his business with the Crocodile was finally concluded, and Captain Hook’s revenge was finally secured at last, perhaps he would…

Killian Jones just might decide to join his father and sibling and start anew. As a remembered son. As a reinstated brother.

We had a son…

He had another brother. Another chance to be remembered in brotherly love. Another chance to experience a father’s adoration. Another chance for family. A chance to be Killian Jones again…or so he had thought.

He’d been a fool to think that anyone cared to remember Killian Jones.

He’d been incensed at the name his father had given the boy - Liam. As if his brother could be so easily replaced!

“I wasn’t trying to replace him, I was trying to honor him. To honor you both.”

Then why hadn’t he named the boy Killian?

Hook scoffed at his own pettiness and the idea that sibling rivalry could still exist between him and his long passed brother, but that didn’t shake the kernel of hurt imbedded deep within him.

Liam had been remembered. Immortalized within a new generation, but Killian…

“To remind myself never to make the same mistake…I would never leave him.”

But he had left Killian. Left him and forgotten him.

And with the rage of that truth bracing him, Hook plunged his hurt and torment into the man as the dagger penetrated deep within Brennan’s gut.

Killian…” His father had called out, and a cold, despairing truth settled over the pirate as he watched the life slip from his father’s eyes.

The last person in all the realms that could ever know Captain Hook as anything other than a villain and scourge was dead, and Killian Jones was now the very thing he feared he would be…forgotten.


by @hollyethecurious