lets get into it

Give me a story where one of Bruce’s children has a kid (it doesn’t matter who, but Jason would be so sweet as a father) and Bruce is blown away by the fact that he is a grandfather. Where he’s standing there holding this tiny baby in his arms and he’s completely lost for words. He’s never been good with words, but now he can’t even begin to form them.

Because this is something he never expected. Not in a million years did he imagine himself as a grandfather. He had seen his life going down a very specific path when he was young. A very specific, very lonely path. Long term attachments had been outlawed to him by his choice of lifestyle, and children were even more out of the question.

He’d always known what the cape and cowl meant: an end to the Wayne family line. He had no siblings, and no close relatives. No one to continue the historical name, and he’d been ok with it. Or at least he thought he had. So when Dick, then Jason, Cass, Tim, and Damian had come they’d each been a surprise. A happy surprise, a surprise that was to Bruce always fleeting. Especially when he lost them, especially when he got them back. 

So no, he hadn’t expected a grandchild. Not when everyone of his own kids had followed his footsteps. They’d all done it in their own unique way, but Bruce still saw what they did as a road with one outcome. That outcome was never settling down, never finding ‘the one’, and never starting their own family.

Yet. Here he stood, holding, not just the next generation, but the third generation of the Wayne name after his parents. Bright and bubbly, in his arms there was life, and with life hope for the future. Not just the future of his family, but the future in general. Because if a man like him could be so lucky to have made it to becoming a grandfather, then the world was better than he’d thought it was.

some ppl need to realize that a big driving force/destructive factor in sasuke’s life is his trauma….he’s not an asshole for no reason, i thought we’ve been over this. honestly, you can’t say ‘it doesn’t matter what he’s gone through, his actions are inexcusable despite the psychological truama he’s experienced on various occasions’, because what itachi put him through completely fucked up his life and he’s never gotten proper attention or care to that truama. he’s left to deal with it. how be reacted in a universe where killing/fighting is acceptable is realistic.

anonymous asked:

Hi! I'm a nt singlet trying to learn about neurodivergence (and systems) so I can be a better ally. If you don't mind me asking, what do you think I should know about bpd (and anything else you have, because a lot of people seem to have multiple diagnoses)? Like the basics of what it is, how I can be an ally, and how I can be a good friend if I meet a borderline irl? I hope this wasn't invasive or rude, also feel free to correct my terminology because I'm really new to all this ❤

do my eyes deceive me??? a nice neurotypical in my ask box??? of course i will help u….(besides im bored and have nothing better to do)

firstly, being in a system is neurodivergent. you sort of separated the two, idk if u meant to do that.

i think u what should know is that borderlines are people too. people love to condemn us and say we’re manipulative, abusive. in reality, a lot of borderlines have high empathy for others (to the point where it hurts us if we see someone else in pain). we’re not bad people by default.

even doctors and psychiatrists call us abusive and manipulative. the belief actually comes from them. back when bpd was first coined as a disorder, it was seen as “the borderline between psychosis and non-psychosis” hence the name borderline. doctors back then couldn’t understand why borderlines kept ending up back at hospitals treatment after treatment, how we were so driven by emotion, why regular therapy would not work. they concluded that borderlines were manipulative, sought attention, and were on the borderline of psychosis and non-psychosis, deeming us “hard to deal with.”

ive heard so many stories about borderlines being treated extremely negatively back then, to the point where doctors and psychiatrists would give up on their cases, tell them they were unfixable and manipulative. if they wanted help, they wouldve worked for it by now.

thing is, borderlines don’t respond to cbt/talk therapy. psychiatrists failed to see that we weren’t failing on purpose. their treatment was not up to par. from the cbt i’ve worked with, ive noticed that cbt assumes one has a stable identity and is always aware of themselves. borderlines are not.

dbt was created by marsha linehan. dialectical behavior therapy was made specifically for borderlines. it combines elements of cbt, behavioral science, and zen buddhism. and serious…this stuff is amazing. it works. dbt is split up into four modules: mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, distress tolerance, and emotional regulation.

mindfulness is the teaching of always constantly checking if youre in the present. it is by far the hardest module to master, but it’s extremely rewarding once you understand it.

interpersonal effectiveness is on interpersonal relationships. y’know, because abandonment.

distress tolerance teaches you what to do in a crisis. and it isn’t cbt crap docs hand you and expect you to master in a day. whereas cbt tells you “just breathe, count to ten” when you’re distressed, distress tolerance teaches you three steps: distract, relax, and cope. distract yourself from the situation, relax using your five senses, and cope with the situation by weighing the pros and cons. i use this nearly everyday.

emotional regulation teaches you to do the opposite of what your negative emotions tell you. it teaches you that you are more than your emotions. while you may not be able to control them, you can certainly stop the snowball effect of emotions that trigger thoughts, which then trigger more complex emotions, and more complex thoughts, and so forth.

being a good borderline ally is simple: dont spread needless hate about our disorder, don’t infiltrate our spaces, and advocate for fair treatment.

if you meet a borderline in real life and you are even just a smidgen nice to them, congratulations: that borderline is your new friend. also in retrospect, don’t be mean to them. they will hate you very much.

if you ever become the fp of a borderline, always try to be there for them when they need you. encourage them to talk to you about their emotions. some borderlines are quiet and won’t talk about their negative emotions, even if it hurts.

also, they are constantly afraid of you abandoning them, it is a constant fear. reassure them as often as you can that you do not have plans to. also, don’t ever tell them they’re a handful, or “a lot,” even in a joking manner. they most likely have heard so many borderlines like them being called “abusive” and will wonder if “they are too,” because of their emotions.

well, that’s what i have to say. i might do another thing like this on systems. maybe. depends.

my grandma's telling jokes

“i have the heart of a lion and a lifetime ban from the toronto zoo”

“what’s the difference between a hippo and a zippo? one is really heavy and the other is a little lighter”

“my friend said to me: ‘what rhymes with orange’ i said 'no it doesn’t’”

“and god said to john: 'come forth and you shall be granted eternal life.’ but john came fifth and won a toaster.”

“what’s orange and sounds like a parrot? a carrot”

“this is my stepladder. i never knew my real ladder.”

“a blind man walks into a bar. and a table. and a chair.”

“my friend asked me to round up his 37 sheep. i said '40’”

“communism jokes aren’t funny unless anyone gets them”

“before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. that way, when you do criticize them, you’re a mile away and you have their shoes”

“some people think it’s romantic to carve their names on trees while on a date. i’m more worried about why they’re bringing a knife on their date”

Everyone~!

Since I did quite a few of the blush things for people I realized that it was hella fun - so to get back into writing again I’m going to be doing a little thing ^^

If you want me to write a lil smutty scenario in your inbox then please reblog this and include your fav (or a character you’d like to see) and I’ll come up with a lil something something for you ;3 

(Please keep in mind that I’m heading to bed now so I’ll be answering the reblogs in the morning but other than that go wild! ^^)

Full offense, but if you abandon someone with bpd/dpd for no reason, you’re an asshole.

if you vanish on someone with bpd/dpd for an extended period of time, then come back and expect everything to be okay with no apology or explanation, you’re an asshole.

if you GET MAD and yell at someone with bpd/dpd for being upset you left, YOU’RE AN ASSHOLE.

if you think that people with bpd/dpd are abusive and/or “too much to handle” and/or inherently bad people, you. are. an. asshole.

This has been a PSA

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Can you guess why I started screaming and fangirling hard when I read all the news about the new anime Shoukoku no Altair (out on July)??? [x, x, x]

I have 4 words for you: Danshi Koukousei, Hajimete no (4)

Do the math yourself XD

I CAN’T WAIT OHMYGOD

It gives me Arslan vibes… which means I’m going to like this anime (I already like the CAST!)

Hey, I miss interacting with everyone here so let’s do the “requests” thing again, a bit different tho’. 

I usually try (and fail) to draw everything you guys ask, I won’t be able to do that now, but I still want to know, so just tell me anything if you want to and I’ll try to pick something later and do a smol drawing.

No promises because I don’t trust myself for it right now, but even so I just really love to know what you’re all up to and heck everyone is sort of precious so yeah…

So Depression Month™ has been a real blast. 

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Welcome Second Generation! Meet Elliot and Areo’s daughter, Rozenn. She’s a demon toddler. She has the inquizitive trait, but honestly it’s like she has the disobedient trait. Elliot tried to give her a bath 3 times before he had to work and so did Areo before she had to go to work as well. But the nanny seemed to be able to keep her occupied, he even played with her as well. Best nanny ever.

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was this called the matchy - matchy tag? heheheh
THANKS @nxnight bby 💜 💜 💜 for tagging me… and also >< at the same time cause this exposes me LOL 


but ….I wanna see the rest of you lovely, lovely stars 🌟 so…I’m tagging @tranquies | @hansanghyuked | @leothevixxn | @fairy-taekwoon | @chained-up-taekwoon | @wonsiks-hamster-taek | @i-wontaek-your-shit | @n-chanted | & whoever else who’d like to do this~~~ ONLY if you wanna, of course ^^  ❤️