let's go on a date already

A lot of the desi men that my friends are dating, are engaged to, or married to, always start out as very progressive and caring partners. These men let my friends wear whatever they want, let them go out whenever they want, let them have careers, let them have guy friends, and promise them they won’t be bogged down by typical “bahu” chores. 

Then, they get married. 

Afterward, you start hearing of how married life is “completely different” from engagements or dating. Unmarried people just won’t understand. 

Already, there is pressure of having kids the day the bride leaves the wedding hall and on to live with her husband and in-laws. The husband reassures the bride that she should consider leaving her studies, but only for a bit, until they move out of the in-laws house and get their own place. 

The wife agrees because it sounds like a reasonable choice. After all, marriage is all about compromises. 

Then she leaves her home, possible her country, and moves in with her husband and in-laws. Since she doesn’t go to school and doesn’t need to work, she spends her whole day cooking and cleaning and complying to her in-laws’ every demand. 

Then, her husband finally comes home at the end of the day. But the husband is too tired to spend time with her. He just wants to chill out and have a cup of chai. She makes him a cup of chai. Her husband then goes to hang out with his dad watching cricket in the living room, or goes out with his friends that night for business-related things. She cleans up after him. She goes to sleep. 

Compromise. Sabr. Resilience. 

When will desi men realize that desi women have to sacrifice a hundred more things than you do in order for it to be even considered a compromise? Desi women have to have a million things done to them, to be angry about, for them to justify standing up for themselves. In our culture, the mere demand for wives to be treated as equals in the household is a mess. 

I really wanted to write some polyfrogs + farmer stuff bc I love my frogs! and I want them to be together and date and love each other! but I also love charmer and chowder and farmer are just the cutest together. sO

  • it starts out as kind of a weird arrangement?
  • chowder and farmer are already together
  • nursey and dex (finally) get together
    • chowder is really, really happy for them. he’s wanted this FOREVER
    • he’s honestly more invested in their relationship than they are. he loves love and he loves his friends
  • they all end up going on double dates together as a result! jerry’s, annie’s, etc.
  • nursey dex and chowder are always bringing big ass signs to farmer’s volleyball games and she lets them tag along when they go out for team win meals
  • farmer against the glass for their home games screaming her head off
  • they get along really well and they’re pretty much always together.
    • nursey has everyone’s class schedule memorized
    • he brings them coffee a lot
  • as a result of them always being together both in a physical sense and in like, a romantic context, chowder kind of naturally associates all of these people in his life with romance and dating
    • he starts feeling kind of… guilty? because he loves farmer! and she’s great and she makes him really, really happy, and they’re great together
    • but chowder also starts noticing how much he likes when dex gives one of those big, full smiles
    • and how when he falls asleep in the haus on the couch, nursey will pick him up instead of waking him up and take him to his room and instead of just laying him down, makes sure he’s under the covers
    • and he finds himself making excuses to be around them even more than he already is
  • farmer gets really confused because chowder won’t meet her eyes sometimes and he goes pink when looking at nursey and dex
  • this is getting long jesus

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Ten Count Chapter 37 (Translation from Japanese Scans)

All translation credits and photo scans to chidorinoyume@tumblr. 

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A peaceful time with just the two of us

Page 1
S: Even if I admit that I like you now…

Page 3
K: Please put out your tongue… *heavy breathing*

Page 5
S: I-I can’t breathe

Page 6
S: The first time I was kissed, it felt so good that I was weak to my knees (In actuality, I was only a little weakened)

Page 7
K: Shirotani-san, Let’s continue our date. Today was a waste. 

S: But our reservation has already passed.
K: What other shop do you want to make a reservation at?
S: Hotel Canary’s Lounge. 

(T/N: Kurose’s dumbfounded look XD)

Page 8
K: A hotel lounge….
S: Y-you’re mistaken, Don’t get me wrong. I was thinking maybe I can go there for work purposes sometimes, I thought we’d check it out to see if the lounge and bar has a good atmosphere. ..There’s been talk that the food is delicious there.. I was hoping to eat a meal there with Kurose-kun and see what you thought of the food…

K: This is the second time today you told me not to misunderstand you…
Let’s go then..
S: I just told you, we have to make a reservation
K: I’ll call now.

Page 9
K: We weren’t able to move the time huh…
S: It’s a very popular shop. I’m sorry, let’s go out again next time.
K: Now that it’s the evening, it’s finally just the two of us.
S: Umm.. Kurose-kun! You must be hungry. Even though you came with me, as an apology I’ll go wherever you want.
K: This neighborhood’s food stands or convenience store food is good.
S: Eh?

Page 10
K: The convenience store’s oden is good.
S: S-Standing while eating?

K: 2 cans?

S: Because Kurose-kun went with me to the restaurant, I should do at least this much for accompanying with me. And besides I like convenience food store more than the restaurant food. (T/N: Shirotani my angel <3)

Page 11
K: By the way is it really okay?
S: What is?
K: About Ueda-san
S: We properly accompanied her to tea together like she wanted, isn’t that okay?
K: *sighs* Even though finally we’re having our date while watching the sunset, why are we talking about other people again. even if it’s Mikami-san or Ueda-san
S: A d-d-date?  This is not a date, we’re just testing out shops.
K: It was a joke.
Shirotani-san’s behavior wasn’t exactly rude. Ueda-san at least, she wasn’t angry with you, right?

Page 12
Try kissing me and if you don’t hate it, will you admit that you like me?

Page 13
S: I didn’t hate it…. It felt good. I’m happy that Kurose treasures me so much. But if it was like today, with an opportunity like that. There’s a chance Kurose-kun will be taken by someone else.

Page 14
S: I’ll probably be left alone by myself again. When I think about it I….
K: Shirotani-san? What’s wrong?
S: Ah it’s nothing.

(T/N: Don’t cry Shiro bby <3 T__T)

Page 15
K: Did you push yourself too much today?
S: No that’s not it.
K: I ‘m sorry about my joke earlier
S: He said it with such a sad voice…
Kurose-kun has said many times that he likes me. The one who’s hurting now is me.
Flashback : Don’t throw me aside please
S: I’m the one who made Kurose have such a sad expression.

Page 16
S: How should I say this for you to understand. Before I met Kurose-kun, I’ve always felt restless about everything. My head’s filled with thoughts and before I knew it, all the things I didn’t like that you taught me, I’ve forgotten them"

Yes, I’m still alive. XD I’ve been busy with traveling for work and being in otome cd hell. Discord can attest to that. Anyways this is quite the chapter. We finally have the kiss we always wanted! I couldn’t be happier! Although it’s all backwards, it looks like we’ll be waiting for Shirotani to admit his feelings and confess to Kurose <3 Enjoy the translation with screenshots~ See you all in the next chapter. 

My predictions for the next batch of Check, Please! updates:

-At least one Falconer will already have realized Jack’s dating a hockey player, but will be under the mistaken impression that the hockey player in question was in the NWHL

-Bitty is going to come out to his parents and discover that they’ve already figured it out and are still in the process of coming to terms with it. I don’t think we’re going to get a full-on drama bomb of disownment and buckets of angst, but since he’s genuinely worried about how his folks will react, I think it’s safe to say that they wouldn’t be cool with it either. I think the best we can hope for is that they’re struggling with it, but genuinely trying because they love him

-I want to see Bitty lose a bet and have to grow out a playoff beard. I just want to see him with terrible facial hair

-We will finally get those three little words with Zimbits. It’s already obvious, but I really want them to say they love each other!

-Shardo will be defined as “complicated and monogamous”

-More “Hockey Shit with Ransom & Holster”

-The graduating seniors’ dibs: Ransom & Holster to Dex & Nursey, Lardo to Tango

-Jack and Bitty will both be hockey captains in Year 4

Lance, with OCD: Aaaaa D:> 

Keith: Hey babe, you okay? 

Lance: ):> hhhhhh we left the house and I don’t remember if I double checked the lock or not and it’s bugging me, but we’re already almost there but It’s not gonna stop bugging me until I check it but I don’t wanna ruin our date. 

Keith: Babe, it’s okay. :) Let’s go home real quick and check it. Our date can wait. 

Lance, sobbing: :’’0 babe…. 

dating dan i | danisnotonfire

-dan would see guys looking at you, and he would get really jealous. just to let them know that you’re his, as much as he is yours, he would always grab your hand and intertwine your fingers, press a kiss to your cheek, or his hand that would already be on the small of your back would slide lower down. he would just do little things to make sure they got the idea to not try anything

-going to youtube conventions and other special events with dan and phil would be so fun. you’d get to experience things you wouldn’t have seen before, as well as meeting the other youtubers and becoming friends

-accidentally getting caught making out by phil more than once. you and dan would be in the living room, sitting on the lounge, and phil would say that he needed to go out, and as soon as he walked out of the flat’s door, dan’s lips would be on yours. dan would be in the middle of climbing on top of you just as phil would walk through the door again, saying that he forgot something, leading to the awkward coughs and an “i think i’ll just, um, leave you now,” from phil

-watching him filming videos and then trying not to laugh at his little comedy skits. of course, seeing you trying to keep your laughter in would always make dan laugh, therefore resulting in lots of bloopers

-having unexpectedly deep conversations at three in the morning while cuddling up to each other in bed

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Craiglist (or whatever similar site) Masterpost

I finally found this really informative post, been searching this for weeks. This is from an awesome longtime SB with really great advice posts @itsnecolbitch, whom already deactivated her account few months ago. Enjoy!!

Are you ready to give craigslist a try? Here are some ads that I have used in the past that worked for me. Pick any of them to choose from.

1. Undeniable Moments- (Insert City Here)

Would you like for me to spice up your night? Lets go out to dinner and lets have a great time. I have went on a few dates but I felt not only something was missing but also my time being wasted. Have you ever felt that way before? Would you like to meet a woman who is exciting and that you hit it off with mutually?

I would like to be spoiled.

2. It’s Never Too Late For Happy Hour- (Insert City Here)

You’re in the middle of a hectic project and you would like to go out for an evening or two. You are in fear of going alone. You don’t have to be afraid anymore as this is when I come to the picture. Your personal social butterfly is here to rescue you. Do you accept this challenge?

3. 777, Jackpot- (Insert City Here)

I am an attractive young lady. My goal is to meet a gentleman and I just hope that chivalry still exists. He must be well traveled as i love to talk about different destinations. I am interested in art, golf, and trying the best restaurants that (insert city) has to offer.

What you’ll learn about me is that I am an elegant individual with a sense of style.

Please be at least 35-55, as I prefer my men older.

4. Lonely Lunches & Dull Dinners- (Insert City Here)

I enjoy to be your oasis, you can forget the issues of everyday life in. I will be happy to experience times of adventure with you, and discover new worlds with you. When we are together, I’ll make you the center of your universe. I will be devoted to satisfying your desires. Just let the rhythm flow through your mind, body and spirit.

I’m not opposed to refreshing yet exciting experiences that make me grow as a person and evolve my professional possibilities. My primary goal is to find a gentleman who is sincere, honest and charitable.

5. Fountain Of Youth- (Insert City Here)

My ideal gentleman is someone who is financially secure as well as intelligent, older and knows how to keep a woman happy. If you are interested in leading more about this exciting opportunity let’s go out for drinks.

6. Discrete Daddy Wanted- (Insert City Here)

A little bit about myself, I am nice, have a bubbly personality, not to mention, I am a spicy, sassy, sweet, sexy petite mixed creature. I would like to be taken care of. Does it sound like you? If so, please email me. Gracias!

7. Establish An Agreement- (Insert City Here)

I enjoy the company of ambitious, successful, gentlemen. I thrive when expectations are clear and well defined in the beginning letting the rest take care of itself as it all unfolds.

I am seeking a gentleman who desires the benefits of companionship, without the entanglements of a traditional relationship. I would like to be spoiled and pampered.

8. The Ambiance- (Insert City Here)

People tell me I have an exotic look. Natural beauty by day, and dressed to the nines at night. I love the finest things life has to offer and will not settle for less. I am ready for fun and ultimately looking for one person to share my life with. I am attracted to powerful men. Honesty and loyalty are very important to me. I love black tie events, the opera, movies, both domestic and international travel, exotic/luxury cars, golfing, skiing and shopping. I believe in chivalry, romance, and sensuality.

I know what I want and when I find it, I will be off the market.

I spend my free time searching for the man of my dreams. He is worldly, educated, classy, fun, and sexy. A man that enjoys taking care of himself and the woman he is crazy about. A man that loves to travel, both planned and spontaneous.

9. Intelligence Is The Ultimate Aphrodisiac- (Insert City Here)

Don’t open the bottle of wine just yet. Just wait. Aren’t you missing something? No, I’m not talking about the appetizers or the main dish. You are missing, me.

My world is rich and diverse. My standards are high. I reserve the right to say no to invitations when appropriate.

I am most definitely not opposed to seeking an arrangement with a gentleman who is diplomatic, refined, exceptional and a philanthropic. You be will be impressed with my confidence along with my presence. I can’t wait to meet you.

10. Dinner With A Beautiful Woman- (Insert City Here)

I am a woman who enjoys having a man truly be a man and a provider. I like spending my time with a mature individual who knows how to treat a woman, and he knows how to make the most of each moment we spend together.

I am seeking a successful man who is interested in exploring a relationship that is mutually beneficial. I want to meet an individual who is open to new things and enjoying quality time.

After you have posted your ad, it’s time to play the waiting game.

You’ve got a response! What’s next? If it sounds intriguing, you can either do two things:

1. Send a personalized email about yourself and what you are looking for OR you can use my example spam message but of course you would have to reword it and it goes like this:

“Thank you so much for responding to my ad. I would love to get to know you better and hopefully you’ll give me the opportunity to do so. I hope you don’t mind my age as I am _____ years old, however I do consider myself as a young face with an old soul, therefore, I am comfortable in any setting. If you don’t mind me asking what exactly is your occupation because I do consider myself as an entrepreneur. I can’t wait to hear back from you.”

After you send that and he replies again, that means you are in there for scheduling a date. Remember to agree to meet at a public place.

Bonus tips: You are allowed to post at least 5 ads a day, so please post, never feel discouraged when they flag it.

1. Be very firm when they ask you what exactly you are looking for. When they ask, do not be shy. Tell him exactly this: At this time, I am looking for a gentleman who isn’t opposed to exploring a relationship that is rather mutually beneficial to as I have done something like this before and the experience was great to where I would like to try again. If he doesn’t know what that means, do not delete his email. Explain to him that in other words you are seeking a sugar daddy/sugar baby arrangement.

Good luck ladies!

Date ideas:

-aquariums are cool let’s go to one

-park??? Heck yea

-lay in the middle of the tennis court and not move when ppl are playing, “play around us u bitch”

-scream into the void w me

-let’s draw shit together

-get turnt on AJ and crash a bowling party

-since were already at the bowling place let’s get some sodas

-these sodas r nice af

-play horror games together

-play tag but the entire city is within bounds so try to find me you fucker

-tie dye some shit and wear it with heart shaped sunglasses

-let’s use smoke bombs and then try to play tag into the abyss

-that penny date thing

-we go to a restaurant but don’t sit with each other and try to make eye contact from where we both are and try to get the other to laugh

-sing songs while screaming into a fan


Halloween 2016 is the first Halloween Jace and Simon spend together as an official couple. Simon insists that they do couple costumes to the parties they’re attending on #Halloweekend, but Jace isn’t thrilled by the idea.

For months, Jace is very stubbornly refusing to dress up at all. Simon tries all the tricks in the book –– cooking Jace’s favorite meals, showering him with compliments and kisses, letting him choose what to watch on movie nights and what restaurants to go to for date night, but to no avail.

On October 23rd, Jace surprises his boyfriend with a candle lit dinner. After they’ve eaten, he leans over to kiss Simon and whisper, “Dessert?”

Simon is already getting out of his chair and heading to their bedroom when Jace stops him, barely containing his laughter. “Not that kind of dessert, babe.”

Instead he takes Simon’s hand and guides him to their living room. On the couch lies a neatly folded pile of––

“Oh my god!”

Simon rushes towards the couch and picks up a Spiderman suit. He runs the fabric through his fingers. Next to it is a Nightwing costume, as well as two t-shirts (one black, one blue) with the Superman emblem.

“Oh my god,” Simon says again. He’s cradling the suit in his arms as he turns to look at Jace, who is beaming at him.

“One for every party we’re going to this week,” Jace says.

“You’re kidding me.” Simon turns back to the costumes.

“Nah, I’ve been planning this for ages,” Jace says, walking up to his boyfriend and sliding his arms around his waist. “I wanted it to be a surprise but you were so damn persistent all year, I almost gave it away like twenty times.”

“I can’t believe you didn’t say anything. You’re so bad with secrets,” Simon says with a smile. He points to a pair of plastic vampire teeth that lies on top of the folded t-shirts. “You do realize I already have those, like, built in?”

“Well, those are for me,” Jace replies, “Not everyone has their own vampire teeth, Simon.” He grins. “I thought it’d be fun to, I don’t know, celebrate your vampire-ness. ‘Cause I know it’s been hard to embrace it.”

“You are so…. wow,” Simon says. His heart is bursting with love for Jace. He looks at the costumes for another few moments, and then he puts down the Spiderman suit and turns around in Jace’s arms to kiss him.

“You like it?” Jace asks, grinning.

“I love it,” Simon says softly.

He leans his forehead against Jace’s and closes his eyes. For a few moments, they stay like that. Silently holding each other and enjoying the moment.

After a few minutes, Simon plants a soft kiss on Jace’s lips, and then leans in to whisper in his ear.

“Now how about that dessert?”

hey, @ teenage wlw: i know dating can be really difficult and sometimes you feel like you’ve missed your window for cute, textbook romantic dates because it feels like everyone you know has done that already, but i’m an adult here to tell you that tonight i finally had a movie date where i got to execute the perfect fake-yawn and rest my head on a pretty girl’s shoulder and do the thing where our fingers inched closer together until we were holding hands and i just want to let you know that there’s no age limit on this kinda thing, it’s going to come to you one day, and it’s going to be so beautiful

I’m lusting for a super timid Scorpius finally working up the nerve to tell Albus that he’s in love with him and then Al is just so fucking confused like “we weren’t already dating?? What is this shit?? Like?? I feel betrayed?? But yeah I love u too let’s go annoy Rose or some shit with how gay we are”

Batch Request: Polyamory P3

“I can’t take any of you anywhere. You’re so embarrassing.” 

“My hands are cold. You need to warm them up for me.”

“This sweater is not big enough for all of us.”

“Stop fighting over date nights. We made a schedule for a reason.”

“Everyone needs to do their own dishes. I mean, look at the pile. I refuse to do them all.”

“If I let you adopt one animal, the others are going to want to as well.”

“Can you two just pick the movie already?”

“Can’t we just send a normal family portrait to my parents this year? Just this once?”

If you like or want someone..

…let them know. Leave no room for doubt or fear because that shit will tear the most self-loving and self-confident person apart. All the time they spent learning to love themselves will suddenly not matter. I don’t care if you’re a millennial that’s attached to their phone or someone that only goes and checks their notifications every few hours. If you’re telling someone you’re about them, you want to get to know them, or you like them, take the time you’re already taking to get on Twitter to respond and let them know you’re thinking of them. Nobody who’s trying to be with you wants to see you active on every form of social media but sit there wondering why you can’t text back for two days or ever. By doing so you’re just telling them they’re not worth ten seconds of your day. I don’t care if you’re official, just testing the waters, or dating around, they have feelings too. Call them before you go to bed no matter how tired you are because you live a busy life. You make time for the things you want in life, even if it means you stay up a little later or fall asleep on FaceTime. Don’t get mad when they blow up your phone, it’s not always for attention. Sometimes they just think or see something that reminds them of you. If they’re taking the time out of their lives to prioritize you, why’re you making them an option? They’re taking the risk to tell you how they feel about you, you can do the same. Even if you feel less for them than they do you, some part of you appreciates them and you should let them know. It has nothing to do with being needy or clingy and everything to do with actions speak louder than words. You can tell someone you want them all you want but the moment you start making excuses for why you couldn’t call them back or text them or acknowledge their presence, you begin laying down the foundation for their doubt and not being good enough. It’s a foundation that follows you around. Everyone wants to feel like they’re worth it. So if you don’t have good intentions, or you’re playing a game, please don’t be selfish. Let fucking go or step it the fuck up before someone else does and you lose what could be something great. And if you’re lucky enough to find someone who puts up with you giving them less than they deserve and they still try to ignore the doubt and lack of self worth that you provided for them with your actions, you’re lucky as fuck. Because that means they’re willing to put their self worth aside to provide for yours until you have enough love to share. So don’t get mad when your person does something stupid to find out if you actually want them if you’re giving them every reason to believe you don’t.

Forgiveness and new chances are real especially if they’re forgiving you for every day they silently let you make them feel less than.

So relationship or not, everyone deserves someone’s time of day. And remember just because they don’t vocalize your actions doesn’t mean that it’s not happening, growing up means self evaluations.

Sincerely someone who used to be selfish and has now seen the other side.


“Ugh.”  Halle groaned. “You know we don’t have dates! I’m too scared to ask Zoe, and Salem… well. You know.”

“I don’t have a date! So what!”  Alaska wouldn’t give up so easy. She had dreamt of her sparkling senior prom ever since seeing her first made-for-TV teen movie. “Let’s go in a group! I already told Tate we were all going in a group, so… You kinda have to.”  She casually flashed finger guns.

“Ugh, fine.”  Halle relented.

“Yeah, fine.”  Salem finally weighed in, a frown still on her face. “I know how much you wanted to go, so.”

would i (a libra) date your sign?
  • aries: um? is that even a question? of course i would date you!
  • taurus: bitch no.
  • gemini: hell yeah i would.
  • cancer: 1000000000% yes.
  • leo: yes honey yes.
  • virgo: are you fucking kidding me? of course i would date you!
  • libra: how about no you fucking raisin.
  • scorpio: ew no get away from me you rat.
  • sagittarius: lets do it.
  • capricorn: its a no from me.
  • aquarius: i already have our date planned out.
  • pisces: first go to church, learn the ways of jesus, get baptized, and drink at least 500 gallons of holy water and then we'll talk.

Okay, but I need more Rory/Felicity. She’s going to be pulling away, but y’all know he (as well as Oliver and Diggle obvs) is gonna notice. She’s the reason he’s back on the team. She sought him out and talked to him; opened up to him in a way that she hasn’t been able to with a lot of people. If he went to seek her out because lets face they’re probably going to get close if they haven’t already. 

“You didn’t give up on me when I wanted to quit and I’m not giving up on you….” 

Less angsty thought to finish this up with: I would also love for some cute bonding. Platonic coffee dates and such. I also feel like Rory is that friend that notices when you’re not eating, so he’s constantly offering food when she or any of the team members have been skipping meals. (It’s something that his mother did with him, his friends, and family). 

I just really need more Raglicity & more backstory on Rory. I need it. 

au ideas i thought of at 4 am
  • were in class and you keep throwing paper balls at me why are you doing this au
  • youre in orchestra and im in band, we take our rivalry seriously but holy shit youre hot so hey while they’re warming up wanna make out behind the curtains? au
  • i really cant chose between wanting to cuddle you and wanting to fuck you au
  • ok so im a celebrity and im single, and youre that one fan i see whos literally hella cute lets date au
  • its 2 AM and im knocking at your window, wake up and lets go on a late-night walk or something idk can we just hold hands already au
  • i didnt bring food for lunch but hey can i have half of your sandwich au
  • were in wrestling class and were partners and were in this really fucking awkward kind of sexual position right now au
  • im totally stronger than you but i let you win that arm wrestling contest au
  • we stayed up all night in bed texting each other and while i was confessing my feelings to you i passed out so all i left you with was “i kind of…” and thats it au
  • were in drama and we have this kiss scene together, i dont think i mind this one bit au
  • we did a trust fall but you were too weak to fully catch me au
  • were getting it on in bed and you fucking keep on whispering memes into my ear please stop this au
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