Hey enecoo Youre an extremely positive and amazing person and i could really use some of that right now Im having a break down at work because im coming out to my girlfriend and family today that im pansexual. I know they all love me and this wont change anything of how they feel. But my anxiety and depression have been absolutely destroying me this past month telling me they will all hate me because ive been lying for so long and i just I dont know what to do You prbbly wont see this but thnk u
If you feel that you are alone on this matter, let me just remind you that I had to hide my religious beliefs from my parents out of fear of being disowned, however, I really wanted to come out with it, because sooner or later, they would have to know and I wanted to express my feelings. The difference is that I knew it would put me in a tight situation, while for you, you are confident that they wouldn’t change their feelings about you
My point is that you should not fear for what you are, it is not a lie to hide it, but rather, it is a dissimulation; you hide your feelings out of fear for the worse, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, and it doesn’t amount to an immoral act in such a regard, nor do I believe that it is a “lie of omission”. You’re not a liar, you were simply concealing your true feelings and beliefs. It’s not uncommon for anyone who changes their feelings or beliefs, they do it, because they expect the worse to happen, and it’s only natural and part of our instinct to behave such a way.
You are not a liar. You were only dissimulating your feelings; omitting it from them, because of the fear that they would disown you, you neither deceived them nor did you commit a sin that amounted to lies.