Can you say more (or link to something) about how Calzona was treated different than hetero ships?
I don’t really know how to explain it properly, but it’s just the way I felt about it. Let me see if I can maybe make sense of it for you. Calzona is, arguably, the second most important couple (after MerDer, in terms of longevity, fan base, etc.). The Calzona fandom has been consistently supportive & emotionally invested, yet we never actually got a pay off to that investment. While the straight ships get communication & working out their problems, Calzona got another problem on top of their already huge pile of shit.
For example, when Derek kissed that lady in DC, he came back, gave this amazing speech (You’re everything, I love you. I don’t want to live without you.) & Meredith giving the I can live without you, but I don’t want to. On the other hand, when Arizona cheated (fuck that storyline), we never got an actual apology/them talking it out. We got the out of the blue cheating + “stick out your leg and let’s even the score” + Leah/Arizona fling + them getting back together but not really talking it out (which then came back to bite them on the ass).
Another example is how we were promised co-parenting and friendship after the divorce, yet we got a custody battle. Japril started off with hints of a custody trial, yet they got the co-parenting/they love each other/they’re best friends. And don’t get me wrong, I LOVED Jackson’s speech to April, them being best friends was one of the reasons I loved them so much at first. But it was unfair.
And finally, the one that personally bothers me the most, is how during the custody trial, ABC & Grey’s writers/production actively encouraged a Callie vs Arizona narrative (Pick a side, wtf?). They have never treated a ship fanbase that way. They have never asked the shippers choose a side because in the end, you’re supposed to be rooting for the ship.
Good writing doesn’t mean problem after problem without them communicating. Good writing is being able to have couples navigate through their problems together. Shonda can preach all about how she’s all for equal treatment, but she really doesn’t come across that way when you look at the writing & the way Calzona fans have been treated.
This post is a mess & there’s people who could probably explain it to you waaaaaay better than I can, but that’s like the general feeling I got when watching the show.