Boundary Myths

Myth: If I set Boundaries, I’m being selfish.
Fact: Appropriate boundaries actually increase our ability to care about others.

Myth: Boundaries are a sign of disobedience.
Fact: A lack of boundaries is often a signal of disobedience. People who have shaky limits are often compliant on the outside, but rebellious and resentful on the inside.

Myth: If I begin setting boundaries, I will be hurt by others.
Fact: Boundaries are a litmus test for the quality of our relationships. Those people in our lives who can respect our boundaries will love our wills, our opinions, our separateness.

Myth: If I set boundaries, I will hurt others.
Fact: Boundaries are not an offensive weapon; boundaries are a defensive tool. Appropriate boundaries don’t control, attack, or hurt anyone. They simply prevent injury.

Myth: Boundaries mean that I am angry.
Fact: Anger tells us that a boundary has been violated. This is generally not new anger, it’s old anger. It’s often years of no’s that were never voiced, never respected, and never listened to.

Myth: When others set boundaries, it injures me.
Fact:  An inability to accept other’s boundaries can indicate a problem in taking responsibility.
Fact: Past, inappropriate boundaries set on us as children can injure us.

Myth: Boundaries cause feelings of guilt.
Fact: We need to distinguish between those who give to get and those who truly give.
Fact: Just because we have received something doesn’t mean we owe something.

Myth: Boundaries are permanent, and I’m afraid of burning my bridges.
Fact: You own your boundaries. They don’t own you.
Fact: If you set limits with someone, and they respond in a mature and loving way, you can negotiate the boundary.

Could & Townsend, 1992, ps. 103-120

This year has been tough. Maybe I can even say it has been my toughest year yet. I lost myself this year as well as I lost friends and a lot more than that. But it also taught me something. It taught me how to let go and to appreciate every little thing in life. It taught me that life can be hard and unfair, but it’s unfair to everyone, so is it that unfair?
I just want to say that yes I’ve hurt a lot this year but all the hurting taught me something. And I’ve grown so much from it.

I know how to find myself again and that’s what I’ll be doing in 2017, finding myself.

Let this new adventure start and lets put an end to this year.

2017 may you be good, may you be soft, may you be an adventure.

—  Annedi Bergsma
What are Chakras?

Psychic energy flows in and out of these energy storehouses like beating hearts and veins. Once you learn to control them, you will greatly increase your ability to manipulate energy.

Before you use your abilities, your chakras do not hold very much energy; just enough to sustain you. However, once you get more involved, their storage capacity largely increases, allowing greater abilities, as well as greater speed in using them.Just like a muscle, you may strain a chakra, or even damage it.. This process is meant to be slow. Get used to it, don’t strain yourself, and everything will go much faster in the end.

The 7 Main Chakras

Chances are, if you’ve been in metaphysics for a little while, you’ve heard of chakras at least once.

Let’s discuss the main chakras that you will be hearing about the most often.

Crown Chakra - The Crown Chakra is located near the top of the head. This is the chakra that makes your head feel weird or dizzy-ish if someone attempts to scan you or read your mind with telepathy. Of course, this is also the chakra you’ll use when attempting telepathy, which is a reason why some people may get headaches when attempting this ability. When this chakra is strained or damage, you may experience disorientation, confusion, or the inability to think clearly.

Brow Chakra - The Brow Chakra is one of the most common chakras, and is also referred to as the ‘Third Eye Chakra’, located at the brow (between your eyes and up slightly). This name comes from the fact that this chakra is commonly used in abilities such as Remote Viewing. Pain in this chakra can usually be confused with tension and sinus headaches.

Throat Chakra - This chakra is not too common with abilities. It is located approximately in the center of the throat, near where the indent is, slightly up a little. Usually when this chakra is being strained, you get a choking sensation, as if someone is grabbing your neck.

Heart Chakra - The Heart Chakra is a chakra common associated with abilities such as Empathy. When this chakra is being strained, you may get an anxious-type feeling, and a slightly energetic drop-like feeling in your chest. The Heart Chakra is located near the heart in the center of the chest.

Solar Plexus -This is the most important chakra in your body. This chakra stores the most energy in your body, and is most commonly targeted when draining someone due to the surplus. When using your abilities, the area near the bottom center of your rib cage, slightly up, right near your stomach, may feel odd. This is because when other chakras need energy, this chakra releases the necessary amount. Damaging this chakra can lead to a stronger type of pain near your stomach, perhaps stabbing-like, and you should rest to avoid further damage.

Sacral Chakra - The Sacral Chakra is another big chakra, holding more energy than most of the others, and really isn’t used much for any specific ability. When you want extra energy, you may find yourself drawing energy from this chakra near the bottom of your stomach near the belly button (navel) before going to the Solar Plexus. Generally, this chakra is more cooperative in giving up energy as well. When damaged, your intestines may feel slightly sore, yet different than a stomach ache.

Root Chakra - This chakra is probably the least used in metaphysics. It is located in the area near your reproductive organs. Pain in this chakra may be similar to prostate pains in guys. However, when gathering energy, this chakra may serve as one of the primary centers, feeding it to the others.