The study also examined the disparity between the amount of orgasms that
lesbian women have vs. heterosexual women. The authors concluded that
lesbian women likely have a better idea of the workings of female
anatomy and a better understanding of clitoral stimulation. The authors
also posited that lesbians are better about “turn taking” ― i.e. trading
off with their partners to please one another ― than heterosexual men.
If you feel like getting an alternative lifestyle haircut, get one! Yes it’s a little bit of a cliché, but sometimes we need to feel life-changes manifest on the outside as well as the inside. Besides you can always grow it out later.
If you all of a sudden feel a need for excessive flannel and rainbow items, that is also ok! Again, it’s not because you realized you like girls, it’s a symbol of change and transition.
Watch all the things. (Except The L Word, stop at season 3)
Join things. The clubs, the organizations, it’s time to build your lady loving network! If you want to surround yourself with other gay ladies, you’re gonna have to make an effort.
Don’t always take your feelings too seriously. Yes your first girl crush will make you feel like you’ve met the love of your live. I’ll give it two weeks though. Three, tops. You still have a lot of exploring to do, too much fun to have.
At some point your baby dyke phase will end, and you might feel like changing things again. And that’s ok. That’s how we mark transition. Just like our sexuality dosn’t define us as humans, your baby dyke phase doesn’t define you as a lady lover.
Life is not a static experience, it’s a journey and a roller coaster. Things change, people change, you change. And that’s ok. The important thing is that you accept yourself the way your are in the moment.
7. Oh, and one last one, STAY AWAY FROM STRAIGHT GIRLS!!!
She was riding the motorbike and I was sitting behind, gently holding her waist. It was a cold morning and I had no gloves. After a few minutes, she stopped at the red light. I startled when I felt how she carefully took my hands and put them in the pockets of her jacket to warm me up.
But like, have they ever seen a woman? One with nothing on and that ‘come here’ smile. A woman with her hair in a braid laying underneath a tree, a book in her lap smiling at the pages. Those girls you bump into in the bathroom with their make-up bags out laughing and fixing their faces. Girls in their wife beater tank tops working outside, working up a sweat. The ones sitting behind pianos, behind mic stands or music stands jamming out and smiling their brightest. That girl crying in the bathroom who sniffles indignantly when you ask what could possibly be wrong because she simply doesn’t cry in her opinion.
Women are amazing, beautiful, smart, funny. They’re always both strong and gentle, almost never needing cues as to which you need when you need it even if you don’t know how you need it yourself. Why the hell not girls? I get even more frustrated when straight boys ask me this because how can you not appreciate women? And I mean appreciate them in all aspects of what being a woman is, not just that 'lol tits and ass’ shit boys usually give you.
Women need to appreciated more because every single one is a goddess in disguise.