lesbian is okay

bi erasure also impacted me because when i realized that i’m not a lesbian i was like “oh okay, so i MUST be a heterosexual straight diddly darn farmer” and it once again prevented me from coming to terms with my own sexuality 

it was like 

someone said “well if u aren’t a lesbian then ur straight, don’t worry!” and i was so RELIEVED and yet i didn’t stop liking girls 

thus it was only after meeting an actual bi brown girl that i realized that bi gal pals exist 

Hello everyone! My Name is Karina. I am 26 and live in Austria. Yes right, the country which is full of Kangaroos and no snow.. :) 

I used to have a lot of penpals when I was younger and I really enjoyed writing (I also like to write emails, so there is no preference from my side)

I like: Avocado, Broccoli, Netflix, Nature, Tattoos, Music, Girls (yes I am a lesbian), parfums, Vans, Nike, okay lets say sneakers in general!

I dislike: Homophobic people, Racist, Diets, getting up early, smelly people, High Heels.

I am looking for someone who is open minded and actually can hold a conversation. I am tired of putting lots of effort in Emails / Letters and don’t get anything back you know. I would prefer talking to someone who is +20 but if you are felling mature enough, everyone is welcome of course. Oh and I would prefer girls. Don’t worry I am not hitting on you.

Sarcasm and a good humour is always a plus btw!

Here is my email address: 0610indiegirl @ gmail.com

Really hope to hear from you.

X Karina

every time I see a post that’s addressing lesbians who have little to no experience with women, it’s always like, ‘it’s okay to have not kissed a girl at 16 or 18 or even 21!!!!’ and I know tumblr skews toward younger people, but it still feels like a harsh reminder that I’m years behind, even by other lesbians’ standards.

it’s totally normal and okay to not have experience with women at any age. it’s okay if you have never been with a woman and you’re 30 or 50 or 70 or even older. it’s okay if you didn’t come out until after you married a man or had children with him. it’s okay if you didn’t even realize you were gay until 25 or 45 or older.

you’re still a ‘real’ lesbian if you didn’t realize you were gay, or if you have a long history of dating men, or if you’ve never slept with a woman. 

and no matter how old you are, you still have time. you have time to find a girlfriend or wife. you have time to make memories with a woman. you have time to fall in love.

Ummmm so can we talk about how important it is to reassure young girls everywhere that developing feelings for your girl best friend isn’t wrong or voyeuristic. It’s normal. It’s fine. You’re not dirty and you shouldn’t feel guilt.

gay/trans/lgbt+ ppl are pressured to ‘’not be stereotypes/cliche” or ‘’be too obvious” while cishet ppl literally all look the same yeah ok lol bye

you’re a butch lesbian?? you wanna wear flannel and backward hats and be masculine?? go for it!!

you’re a femme gay dude whos super soft and wants to wear makeup?? go ahead!!

you’re a trans boy and u wanna be super duper masculine?? do it!!!!!

you’re a nb trans girl and u wanna be ultra feminine? yessssss girl!!!!

you dont gotta ‘’subvert stereotypes’’ or any of that shit.

All A-spec people belong. 
We are all deserving of love, respect, acceptance and community. 

I wasnt able to include all of the flags/identities I wanted to in this, but hopefully the message is still clear. I might re-do this one day to be even more inclusive/include all the flags I missed. Maybe with a second ring or something.

Image Description: The picture is an a-spec positive drawing with the words ‘All A-spec people belong’ in big letters inside a ring of hearts and flowers. 

The hearts in the ring are coloured to resemble a-spec flags: 

  • Two asexual flag hearts - black, grey, white and purple stripes
  • Two demisexual flag hearts - a black triangle on the side with white, purple and grey stripes
  • Two aromantic flag hearts - dark green, light green, white, grey and black stripes
  • Two demiromantic flag hearts - a black triangle on the side with white, dark green  and grey stripes

Between each heart in the ring there are (8) flowers. Each flower is coloured uniquely to resemble a different lgbt+ flag. This is meant to represent how a-spec people can also have varied non a-spec identities that are just as important to them/the variety of different identities among a-spec people. 

The flags seen on the flowers, starting from the top of the circle and going clockwise, are: 

  • The pansexual/panromantic flag - pink, yellow and blue stripes
  • The bisexual/biromantic flag -pink, purple and blue stripes
  • The lesbian flag - different shades of pink stripes 
  • The gay flag - a rainbow/red, orange, yellow, green, blue and purple stripes
  • The polysexual/polyromantic flag - pink, green and blue stripes
  • The transgender flag - stripes in the pattern: blue, pink, white, pink, blue
  • The intersex flag - yellow with a ring of purple in the middle
  • The non-binary flag - yellow, white, purple and black stripes

Wells Fargo’s new ad features a lesbian couple adopting a deaf child. The couple is played by an actual lesbian couple, and the girl is actually deaf. 

“’We thought it was really important that it be very real and authentic and true,’ Moldafsky [the chief marketing officer] said.”

Visibility all day! Thanks, Wells Fargo! 

(I’m not crying, it’s just raining inside of the office, on only my face…)

Tbh young lesbians need to know that there are women who have never dated men and have exclusively dated women their entire lives. There are women who have never had sex with men and never experimented with men. There are women who have known that they were lesbians for their entire lives and have never doubted that. It’s so important to hear these voices in a world where heterosexuality seems inescapable for so many young women.

I need to get something off my chest.

I know I said before that I personally don’t like the stereotypes yaoi has or the way fujoshis portray gay couples

But lately I feel like all the bashing against them or straight women who watch shows with LGBT characters in general is uncalled for

Usually, they simply enjoy the ship like any other ship(Of course excluding the ones who call it sin) and even learn to support the LGBT community along the way?

Meanwhile straight men who enjoy lesbian porn and content in general still treat the LGBTQA+ community like shit, only like lesbian couples for their sexual fantasies and even sometimes claim they dislike real life LBTQA+ women?? Yet I don’t see long ass posts bashing them or people giving them names with awful meanings like fujoshis?

Also, whenever there’s a show with a gay ship straight men spend their time bashing the shippers (and the show if this ship becomes canon), meanwhile straight women react to lesbian ships with neutrality and even positivity most of the time, if not always?

This feels like yet another way to hate on women…