learn to be yourself

So, I actually just noticed that almost every blog that says ace people shouldn’t be in the LGBTAQ+ community is run by someone under 18 and that gives me hope. It’s not that people really don’t want ace people around. It’s that a bunch of kids who have never really had the chance to get in touch with real asexuals and other sexualities and genders (or even go to college, because a lot of the kids are too young for that and that’s where you learn the most about yourself and others).

What I’m really saying is:

ACE DISCOURSE BLOGS WITH OWNERS 17 AND YOUNGER ARE INVALID.

Heartache - a lesson

Falling in love – an important life lesson that teaches you so much

- to see the beauty in someone else

- to let go when you would have held on and see what the world has to offer through someone else’s eyes

- to step out of your comfort zone at every possible juncture

But, most importantly there’s heartache – hiding in the shadows – waiting to pounce – before it consumes you once and for all

- yes, heartache is the most important lesson you will learn out of love – IF YOU WANT TO

- why? if you find a way to get through the remnants that are left behind and the pieces you find yourself in then you will learn to PIECE YOURSELF TOGETHER

- you will find a way TO LOVE YOURSELF, even if it is piece by piece and takes longer than you imagined

- heartache will teach you a lesson

some gentle reminders for today, in case you need them

jane would want you to stand up for what you believe in - even if they come after you, even if they call you ‘Hanoi Jane’ and get bumper stickers saying ‘Goodnight, Jane. Goodnight, Bitch’ - even as they continue to attack you for not being perfect in your efforts. to remember that you can make mistakes but that does not take away from any of your beautiful, good decisions. to accept that empathy and understanding are painful but so very, very necessary. to kick your bad relationships to the curb and never look back. to learn to love yourself, and forgive yourself, no matter how long it takes.

lily would want you to be open about who you are. to not let anyone - your friends, bosses, family - tell you how to live your life. to never hide your own heart to make others more comfortable. to enjoy and relish every opportunity that you have now, but realise that these are (hopefully) not the best years of your life. to always bring laughter everywhere you go, because people need it, and so do you. to never apologise for the weight of your radiance. to help make others more aware of their own brilliance. to never take yourself too seriously.

grace would want you to hold your head up high, but realise that no matter what, there are always places inside of you that can grow softer. to realise that you can become a better person by letting down your walls (however sturdy they may be). to be ambitious and feisty but draw, always, from a reservoir of deep values. to not listen to the limitations that others try to place on you. to remember that sometimes you outgrow your friends, but that you will make better, healthier relationships as you evolve. to remember that mean only ever attracts mean. to refuse to give up.

frankie would want you to embrace who you are - to channel whatever deities or sources of power that you draw from to comfort and soothe your soul. to make no apologies for how you keep your little heart happy (even if that is just with tacos and bad tv). to feel the fear and do it anyway. to commit to a path of learning and changing. to love others more than you ever thought possible. to know that families come in all different shapes and sizes, and you can make your own if you need to. to give out as much light as you can. 

these amazing women are looking out for us and they would be proud of you little pumpkins and so am i. please message me if you ever need an ear.

im tired of ppl sayin theyre liberal tolerant open-minded motherfuckers or whatever the hell else u say and then treat ppl with the bare minimum of decency like idc that u were never taught to learn how to “handle” this stuff go teach yourself i wanna live my life without constantly feeling like i have to educate every #Ally

anonymous asked:

What should I'd do when a grown man tells me (a underage person, I'm 17 btw) to get fucked because I said that something was racist? I wasn't talking to him, about him, or anything like that he just ground a post I made months ago and got madd that I said something was racist so he told me to get fucked and then said I'm not underage I'm a SJW which means he can attack me.

block him and move on. these people crave attention and never want to learn, so the best you can do is preserve yourself and ignore them.

anonymous asked:

So I take singing lessons. Apparently my high notes are flat. I've never noticed this because I'm an idiot. I now never want to sing a song sung above D ever again. Singing is the ONE thing my disability doesn't affect. Just. Having this problem for god knows how long. It makes me so upset. Who'd ever want to hear me sing. I can't even pitch notes correctly within my own damn register.

hey, no, listen.


i get that you’re upset, especially if singing matters so much to you. i understand. but don’t worry; these news might be fucking frustrating but you cannot let that stop you from doing this thing you love. practice. it’s not because your high notes are slightly flat now that they will be that way forever. singing is a journey; it’s not a state. you learn, you get better. listen to other singers, listen to yourself sing. i understand if you want to stop for a while, but please don’t give up forever. take this as a challenge. listen to yourself sing, take a tuner if you need to. be a perfectionist. sing the same note again and again until you manage it. prove yourself wrong. you can do this. i believe in you. 

anonymous asked:

Hi *waves shyly* just wanted to say thank you for writing your Chloenette fics they made me braver about my own sexuality (the sexual awakening of chloe bourgeois was mine too)

oh my god, im so touched! <3 i didn’t think my silly little fics would ever help anyone like this but im glad that you’re learning to be braver about yourself and that some of my words can speak to you. you’re so wonderful anon, i hope you have a beautiful day :)

Originally posted by actions-words

anonymous asked:

I don't hate any ship. I just want to know the argument of the pairing. I have and OTP, but I respect if people have their own one. But it's really stressing and annoying dealing with the comments of another ships that want to make anything possible to sink my OTP. Even if I want to respond back, I know that they are going to start with their "arguments" (that is always the same). Help me, daddy 😟

I don’t know. For me, if people want to hate on your OTP let them. It’s their energy and their precious time they waste hating something you like. Just go on enjoy your pairing no matter what others say. And be respectful to others who ship something you don’t like. I find it annoying to start arguments with people who shiphate, but some people like that. You have to see for yourself if you can learn to let others talk and move on or if you want to waste your energy debating with others if a ship is gross or not. Shipping is something great. Enjoy it

anonymous asked:

You can look up in depth birth charts and explanations for free. Way to rip people off.

Translating them into understandable terms takes lots of learning and knowledge. If you can do it yourself, good for you! I am proud.

anonymous asked:

Do you have any suggestions for how I can reconnect with Judaism? I have fallen out of practice and I'd like to get back in touch with my religion

I definitely have a few - I was in the situation where I had to learn or relearn tons of rituals and prayers and I’m still learning, so my best piece of advice overall: be patient with yourself. I really had to struggle against forced assimilation with no Jewish community and antisemitism all around me, very close to me, and there were times that I wanted to give up because it seemed like it would never make a difference and I would never be a full Jew with the full, “right” knowledge. It really took me a bit to realize that my observance doesn’t have to look like other people’s observance and that people who attempt to police what I’m doing or how I practice - especially if they’ve been part of a community or haven’t been in the same situation as me - have no place in judging. It’s ok to make mistakes and even if you have a certain goal for your observance or practice, don’t be too hard on yourself when you make a mistake during a certain ritual or forget stuff.

Setting goals is actually something really helpful that you can keep in mind - they don’t have to be strict ones, but deciding, “in the next few months I want to memorize this prayer” or “I want to light Shabbat candles every friday for at least this month” can really focus you. Giving yourself helpful (rather than stressful) deadlines can keep you motivated and make you allot time for study and relearning, essentially assuring that you make time for your Jewishness. This is so important because if reclaiming your Jewishness is important to you, and is a part of you, then you have to make time for it. It can be easy to forget about taking care of oneself in a Jewish way if you don’t live among other Jews or have a busy schedule.

As far as gaining knowledge, I would highly recommend looking into resources for converts to Judaism. Obviously you’re not converting, but if converts start at the very least at square one with knowledge about Judaism, then you can start there too and see what you can skip based on what you remember. For me, reading books, making Jewish friends, and just reading as much information online as I could really helped me learn information quickly. Sometimes it’s as easy as seeing someone post or talk about something and then looking up the term or concept later using Google. I also took classes in school, which, depending on what stage of your life you’re in, can be an option.

In general finding a Jewish community to join really kick-started my reconnecting with Judaism. If you’re in high school or university, finding clubs or groups of friends to be in can be really helpful. Obviously finding a synagogue nearby is a good option, as they often will have classes open to everyone (Jews, non-Jews, converts, etc.) and offer resources and other services like Torah study. Getting involved at a synagogue also opens up tons of different avenues for learning from other Jews - whether you get to know other congregants or make a meeting with the rabbi to get advice on how you can go about relearning rituals and practice. If going to services is still too scary or would make you too uncomfortable, then you can always try and hold a smaller learner’s Shabbat with friends. There are also services you can stream online so you can see how one is held without physically being there. Online groups and forums are also really helpful.

I know these are really general suggestions but I could probably be more detailed with specific issues. A lot of it comes down to finding a community you’re comfortable with, since we are kind of a religion of community. But if that’s not for you, that’s cool too. It really is about making the journey suit you and fit to your needs and goals.

anonymous asked:

what are some tips and stuff about writing that you've learned about through the years that you use today?

- read your writing to yourself out loud, especially dialogue. It’s easier to pick up on really forced dialogue or bad phrasing if you read things out loud to yourself.
- sometimes your first draft isn’t going to be the best. But if you edit, read things over and make changes you can turn it into something beautiful
- reading helps you to write better
- take inspiration from anywhere
- listening to like rain noise or anything like that can really help your concentration
- don’t be afraid to branch out and write something new
- asking someone to proofread or just give you feedback can really help

  • Ravenclaw (right after they've graduated hogwarts): You know now, as far as society is concerned, we're adults.
  • Hufflepuff: Yes! Isn't it exciting?
  • Ravenclaw: Adults who have to make their own decisions about their lives.
  • Hufflepuff: It's so freeing, isn't it?
  • Ravenclaw: I have no idea what I'm doing and I want to go back to school.
  • Hufflepuff: ...
  • Ravenclaw: I don't want to do classes or anything, I just want someone to cook for me and tell me when meals are so I don't forget and basically be able to ignore life's responsibilities.