Do you think Jon can eventually become a good leader?
Eventually? Sure. All of the ‘young leader’ generation, Jon, Dany, Robb, could become fine leaders. They’d just need what every leader needs, the willingness to learn from their mistakes, the knowledge to appoint the right people to help advise them, and the ability to impart the overall political and strategic vision to their council and principal subordinates.
Do you have any tips on being a better leader? Especially of unmotivated people who have no interest in helping and get easily distracted?
Thank you so much for this blog. I’m an INTJ who is majoring in directing for film and TV, but I’ve found that I can be a rather inconsistent leader – for some projects, I’m at the top of my game, but for others, I overthink everything and all self-confidence seems to flee. Do you have any tips or suggestions about how to succeed as a leader, particularly for introverts?
I’m an intj high school student planning to organize/oversee a fairly large-scale fundraising event next year, and am wondering if you have any tips for managing people effectively. As this will be a pretty demanding project, any advice is welcome!
1. Competence. A great leader is skillful at something. He should be organized, intelligent, timely, and accessible. I roll all these traits under competence because not having your shit together is the epitome of incompetence.
2. Confidence. A great leader needs to speak up, make tough decisions, stand by those decisions, and follow through. A great leader can act quickly and execute but also knows when he’s wrong and has to reconsider his decisions to choose another route. Balancing those two traits is crucial because too much of the former creates a battering ram boss (a xxTJ and xxFJ stereotype) and too much of the latter creates a scattered and ineffective leader (a xxTP and xxFP stereotype).
3. Communication. A great leader needs to provide the team with direction and clarity. If your team doesn’t know what’s going on, they won’t know what to do and if they don’t know what to do then they’ll either do it wrong or they won’t do it at all. Communication mobilizes the troops, sets expectations, clarifies confusion, helps catch issues before they become harmful, and above all, builds relationships and trust.
4. Compassion. A great leader inspires loyalty and devotion which translates into stronger relationships, happier teams, higher performance, and greater output. Now why is that? Why do likable people make better leaders? Because no one wants to work hard for a person they hate and no one wants to struggle and suffer to make a person they dislike shine. Why the hell would I put in 80 hours a week so you can get a raise?
Compassion is a huge part of charisma. It shouldn’t be fake and insincere but it also shouldn’t be accommodating to the point you’re letting sloppy and unacceptable behavior slide. Compassion is summarized by this statement: “I may not know exactly how you feel or what you’re going through but I’m here and I’m listening because you and your needs are important to me.”
Laws of leadership
1. Lead from the front, not the back. This means you need to be present, engaged, and setting the example for your peers and subordinates. Don’t stroll into work in the middle of the afternoon while everyone else clocks in at 5 am. They might not say anything but your team will resent you. You need to be the first one in and last one out.This will build respect.
2. Never ask someone to do something you wouldn’t do yourself. For example, asking someone to work on a Sunday night on their birthday or asking someone to miss their wedding anniversary to finish a deliverable. Your team will hate you if not outright quit. Also, even if you ask someone to do something that you would do yourself take a second to consider their personality, circumstances, and limits. I can work a 19 hour day because I have no wife or kids at home, but is it reasonable for me to ask someone else to do the same? It’s not. Make the right call. This will build trust.
3. Always explain why, even if they don’t ask. Always provide a justification for your actions even if your team doesn’t ask. This will provide context, clear up miscommunication and assumptions, and build trust. For example: “I’m sorry but we need to put in extra hours just for today because our project deadline moved up by client request and our budget is running low." Your team won’t be happy but they’ll at least understand. This will build communication.
4. Protect your people. This is important. This means if a client request is unreasonable, you need to push back. I’ve had situations where the client wanted to schedule 2 AM calls because they were on the East Coast and we were on the West Coast after our team worked an 18 hour day. I told the client to either reschedule the call or that I would be the only one attending the meeting because I was sending my team back to the hotel to sleep. The client wasn’t happy, but they understood.
Also, in the event your team makes a mistake and gets ripped a new one, you need to step up and receive the brunt of the beating. I’ve been on calls where our team was screamed at – cussed out– because something didn’t turn out correctly. Don’t throw anyone under the bus even if you can pinpoint who made the mistake, take the discussion offline, and shield your team from the abuse. This will build loyalty.
My teams would go to war with me, they’d follow me to the end of the world and back.
Motivating unmotivated people
I’m glad you asked this question because you will rarely, if ever, have a perfect team with perfect synergy and perfect circumstances to perfectly deliver a project. Learning how to manage and motivate unmotivated people is a huge chunk of being a great leader and why leaders get paid the big bucks (and also why introverts avoid leadership positions).
I use the carrot and stick method which means I try to fix the problem nicely first and if it doesn’t resolve itself I bring out the ENTJ hammer and bring it down. I never micromanage. I know NTJs get a bad rep for doing this but it’s an absolute last resort, a huge energy drain, and an awful option because if I have to do your job then I can’t effectively do mine.
1. Set expectations early and communicate them clearly. Example: "Our team needs 2 reports from you by Friday next week at 5 PM. I’d like to help you so let me know how you want to tackle this project and what you need to succeed.” This does two things:
You’ve preemptively removed the two most common excuses for failure: “I didn’t have enough help/direction/support” and “I didn’t know what I was supposed to do.”
This person feels supported and encouraged to start. He or she will feel comfortable reaching out to you throughout the process.
2. Conduct touchpoint meetings with the entire team to get regular updates and enforce accountability. Keep this person and their progress visible in front of the entire team. "Agenda item 3: getting an update on our reports. Hey John, where are we with that? How’s it coming along and do you need any help?” This does two things:
It keeps the person on track without embarrassing or antagonizing them because everyone on the call is treated equally and expected to provide a status update.
It allows you to catch issues early.
3. Provide frequent feedback. The rule of thumb is that praise should be given publicly and correction should be given privately. This does two things:
It corrects issues before they become huge problems.
Compliments build momentum, positive feedback inspires and encourages.
If that fails and the person has a pattern of behavior then I remove them from the team. If you follow steps 1, 2, and 3 it shouldn’t surprise your team or the problematic person why you’re doing what you’re doing and how you came to that conclusion.
A total of 13 female riders are currently training at the Musanze-based
Africa Rising Cycling Center (ARCC) as they are prepare to form the
continent’s first all-black female professional cycling team.
The 13 riders include two Rwandans, five Eritreans as well as six
Ethiopians, and have been training in Musanze since July 7 with the
objective to create an all-black female professional cycling team, which
will be part of the UCI World Tour, starting 2017.
A statement from the ARCC reads, “The purpose of the training camp is
to assess talent for a potential all black African women’s professional
team (women’s elite/world tour). The team would be formed for the 2017
season; training and racing would start in March 2017.”
Among key skill assessments that the 13 riders are undergoing is
climbing ability, sprinting, descending, bike handling, physical fitness
and flexibility (yoga).
Beguilers are one of those classes that often gets put into the role of party leader, regardless of their opinion on the matter. Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of Beguilers out there who share Beyoncé’s attitude and thoroughly enjoy the position. However there are just as many who would rather…not. Either way, if you find yourself in the position of party leader you might as well be a good one. Here are some things that anyone can do to improve their leadership skills:
Listen to your team Even their last 15 ideas have been fast tracks to jail or the grave it’s important to take a moment to listen to your party members before making important decisions. Even if you end up doing your own thing it still makes everyone feel like their a valued and important member of the team if they get to say their piece. Besides, the more you know about the way that they think the easier it will become to convince them that your idea was their all along.
Ask vs Tell problem solving Building off of what I said above, people tend to be more cooperative and listen better if they feel like their being heard. So, when you run into problems one of the best ways to get everyone on the same page (and hopefully on track to learn a thing or two) is to use the “ask vs tell” method. Instead of simply telling everyone what went to shit and what to do next time ask them what they felt went wrong and how they think that they could do better. Even if they don’t have any ideas it opens up the door for communication. It also gives you a place to present them with your ideas that doesn’t feel like you are chewing them out and puts them in a place where they are much more likely to listen.
Delegate and play to strengths No matter how tempting the thought is you simply can not do everything yourself. Nope, can’t do it. Period. You can, however, delegate tasks to other team members. This will not only give you a break but it gives everyone a chance to shine. I’m not just talking about basic class roles here either. Think outside the box and use the personal skills of your fellow party members to your advantage. Is the party Bard a killer cook? Look to them for some morale boosting meals on the road. The Fighter have the best jokes you’ve ever heard? Have them create a little good will in an inn you plan to make a base of operations. Everyone has something special to contribute, if you figure out what it is and make good use of it you’ll be on track to a solid party.
Customizing your approach Alright, so this should come natural to most Beguilers but it bears repeating. Every person will react differently to different approaches. Some people thrive with a little tough love but some people are just going to feel hurt and stressed. It’s up to you to figure out how your party members respond to things and use the best methods to communicate with them. One of the best ways to do this is by watching how they react to others and how they learn. If you notice that the Wizard loves studying magical theory in her down time chances are she learns well when information is broken down step by step and she’s presented with not only the “what” but the “why”. If you see the Ranger flinch a little every time someone raises their voice a gentle tone and an open conversation is likely going to get the best results when you are trying to help him correct a mistake.
Appear confident Even if things seem to be falling apart (particularly when things seem to be falling apart) it’s important to give your team mates the impression that you’ve got a handle on things. Now, I don’t mean getting cocky or ignoring your problems. I do mean looking like you know what you are doing and giving your party members a point of reassurance no matter how rough things are getting. You don’t need to appear perfect or bottle up your own feelings of distress to accomplish this. A lot of the time simply standing tall, speaking clearly, and taking on your plan with enthusiasm will be more than enough to accomplish this.
So many people are tricked into thinking spirituality has to do with how high you jump, how loud you shout, how many tongues you speak, and how good you feel.
Our fruits are not determined by what we do inside the church or how many “encounters” we think we’ve had with God. Our fruits are shown by our actions. Our fruits are shown by the way we represent Christ in our daily walk. Our fruits are shown by how we treat our family, neighbors, and co-workers. Our fruits are shown by how we obey God and His Word.
The Labour Party are disenfranchising its own future
week Labour’s NEC made two big changes to voting in leadership elections.
Firstly, the £3 fee to register as a supporters was increased to £25, out of
reach for many Labour supporters on low incomes. Secondly, new members who had
joined in the last 6 months would not automatically be given a vote. Those new
members would have to pay the £25 supporters fee in addition to their party
membership to be allowed to vote for their own party’s leader if they had not
been a member of an affiliated union (or other affiliated group e.g. Disability
Labour) for longer than 6 months.
What this change has meant is new members under 18 can’t vote. This isn’t even an
issue of them having the money or not having the money. If a new young member
decides that they think a vote is worth £25 and they’ve got enough saved up to
pay for it or their parents are willing to pay for it for them, they would find
that they still can’t vote. If a young party member fills out the form to
become a registered supporter, they’ll find that they have to be 18.
A young member who has joined less than 6 months ago has absolutely no way of
voting in the leadership election. These young people who are interested enough
in politics and believe enough in the values of the Labour Party to join have
been disenfranchised. These young members are the party’s future, they are
Labour’s future campaigners, activists, councillor and MPs.
It is outrageous enough that some members will have to pay £25 just to vote but
it is even more outrageous that some members can’t even do that. There is now
essentially a three-tiered membership – at the top those who have been members
for 6 months or more (including some young members under 18) who will
automatically get a vote, in the middle, members who are 18 or older who have
been members for less than 6 months who can vote as long as they pay the £25
supporters fee, and then at the bottom, members under 18 who have joined in the
last 6 months who don’t even have the option of paying £25 to vote.
It is getting to the point where I don’t recognise the party anymore and this
is not because of Jeremy Corbyn’s leadership, but because of how the current
NEC is treating its activists, its members and in this specific case, its
youngest members – its own future.
Okay, so I’ve been thinking long and hard about the trailer and have concluded that the only way Shiro could’ve told Keith to lead Voltron if anything should happen to him was if:
1. Shiro had Gone Through Some Shit/was seriously ill and wasn’t thinking straight at the time.
2. Keith got captured by the Galra and is in a Lotus Eating Machine-type situation, where the Galra are trying to psychologically break him to get him to join them (if Galra!Keith or Keith-Is-An-Amnesiac-Lotor theory is in effect) or to create a second (backup?) Champion. They’re doing this by creating an illusion where ‘Shiro’ dies and those are ‘Shiro’s’ last words to Keith.
“Now I’ve got to be there for her son” is such an important line.
Pearl has to face a living reminder every single day that Rose chose Greg over her, that this decision killed her, that she is alone because of it.
And Steven isn’t hateful or bitter about Pearl’s feelings or his dead mother, Steven is full of love and compassion and he’s so warm and open and Pearl loves him. Greg isn’t malicious either, he doesn’t hold Roses choice over Pearl, he gives her the space she wants. She knows it’s not his fault and yet she can’t help but feel conflicted.
The line also suggests that Pearl feels like she’s got to look after Steven as some kind of debt to Rose. She feels guilty for feeling wronged by Roses’ decision, especially when the outcome, Steven, is so pure and wonderful. In order to help herself feel better she wants Steven to have the best possible life - for it to all be worth it.
She could so easily act as a Snape-like character, full of hate and blame. But she realises it’s no ones fault; not Greg’s fault, not Steven’s fault, not Roses’ fault, not even her own fault. She was just not who Rose wanted. And now Rose is gone forever.
I just… I loved that episode. I love Pearl. I love them all.
Labour’s problems don’t lie with Jeremy Corbyn, they lie with the rebels
One of the main arguments against Jeremy Corbyn and his
continued leadership of the Labour Party is that his policies are too left wing
and this therefore makes Labour unelectable. However, polling on policy issues
shows just how much he is on the side of the people.
Firstly, the public overwhelmingly support renationalising the railways.
According to a YouGov survey, 60% of the public support renationalisation while
just 20% oppose it. Even Conservative supporters don’t totally oppose it with
42% supporting and 42% opposing railways nationalisation. Interestingly, 70% of
UKIP supporters are in favour of renationalisation while only 22% oppose.
Corbyn has also voiced his support for bringing back the 50% top rate of income
tax (levied on income earned over £150,000) and suggested going higher if it
meant raising more tax revenue. According to YouGov, 56% of the public support
a 75% top rate of tax on incomes over £1 million with only 31% opposing it.
One of Corbyn’s most controversial stances is his opposition to Trident. Corbyn
has been a campaigner for nuclear disarmament, has been involved with CND for
decades and opposes the £100 billion renewal of Trident. While the political
establishment supports Britain’s ownership of nuclear weapons, 64% of the
public support the idea of an international convention on banning nuclear
weapons and only 21% oppose.
Corbyn’s position on rent controls is not only a sensible way to reduce the
housing benefit bill but is also publicly supported. 59% of the public support
rent controls while only 6.8% oppose such a measure. Corbyn’s support for a
mandatory living wage is even more popular with support of 60% of the public
(and 31% opposing).
Although polling suggests that in 2003 the public were on the side of Blair
over the Iraq war (54%), a war which Jeremy Corbyn so vocally opposed, now
things have changed and public opinion is more against the Iraq war and Tony
Blair and on the side of Jeremy Corbyn. In 2015, a YouGov poll showed that 43%
of the public believed the Iraq war was wrong and only 37% believed it was
right. Around a month before the release of the Chilcot enquiry, YouGov polled
the public on their views of Tony Blair, 53% said “I can never forgive Tony
Blair for what I think he did wrong”, 15% said “It’s time to forgive Tony Blair
for his misjudgements” and only 8% said they didn’t think Tony Blair did
anything wrong. Jeremy Corbyn was on the right side of history.
This shows that Jeremy Corbyn shouldn’t be ‘unelectable’, he is more in touch
with the views of the British public than any other leading politician. The
Labour Party’s problems do not lie with Jeremy Corbyn and his leadership, they
lie with the rebels and the lack of unity. If all Labour MPs united around
their overwhelmingly elected leader then the party would be in a much better
position. At the moment, Labour is in disarray, it is divided and divided
parties don’t win elections. This leadership election risks tearing Labour apart,
but that is not Jeremy Corbyn’s fault, it is the rebels’.