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internalized misogyny within fandom

I’ve been seeing alot of hate against lea lately and I thought I’d mention why it’s been bothering me lately. First of all Henrik is not Even. So if he wants to post pictures of his girlfriend he very well can. You cannot control him. I don’t care what kind of ideas you’ve projected on him but he is an adult and if he wants to express his affections for her publicly then he can. That’s just how it is. 

“well when you’re in public you open yourself up to criticism” yes that is absolutely true. the more open you are online the more unwanted opinions you subject yourself to however this does not excuse the level of vitriol that many skam fans feel they can leave on lea’s posts. No one deserves to have their appearance critiqued so harshly or have their friends deal with judgement as well. No one deserves to be accused of using their significant other. 

Lea posting a picture of her and her boyfriend at 21:21, an important custom to many fans, probably pissed off alot of people but why? 21:21 is supposed to represent the things you love, things you are grateful for, things that make you happy. So why am I seeing so much hate from skam fans? Have you considered that maybe she’s happy? That they both are? I know many of you guys like to thirst over Henrik, and I do too, but you shouldn’t hate on someone else just because they’re dating them. That’s pathetic. And also misogynistic which leads me to my next point:

Unchecked misogyny within fandom. Many of the fandom is composed of straight girls. Or at least girls who like men. Attraction to men, especially good looking supposedly kind men, isn’t the problem. The problem lies with cracking jokes at the girlfriend’s expense. Judging her for superficial reasons and hating on her. Many fandoms do this to the girlfriends of the men they support, and the skam fandom is unfortunately no different. It’s strange to me though, considering how many of you claim to care about feminism and women’s rights but yet hate on a woman who posted a picture.  Do you realize how insane that is? It’s a picture. Lea, from my knowledge at least, hasn’t said or done anything too “problematic” but yet you hate on her over a picture. But you excuse men’s actions for much less. I strongly encourage you to reflect on yourself and question why you are willing to demonize women for no real reason but excuse men for actually being problematic. (I am of course talking about adam being antiblack and yousef being ableist but that is a different topic for another time) But yeah, I’ve seen more pointless hate thrown her way than men who actually perpetuate inequality. And that’s a problem.

“her post ruined her chances of her boyfriends’ gullruten chances” I’m sure they will live. I’m sure Henrik won’t be too pressed if he doesn’t win the awards tbh. He has friends, some supportive fans, a loving mom and girlfriend. I’m sure he’ll still be alright with or without the award. But it’s nice that you try to hold that over his head. No one asked you to “campaign” or vote excessively. Henrik said if you think him and Tarjei deserved to win you could vote, but you don’t have to. And maybe you shouldn’t if you’re going to be so negative. 

“I don’t mind them being together but don’t try dragging the fandom that got you here in the first place” Okay……first of all Henrik didn’t get success from the fandom. He got it from Julie Andem. And he earned his spot in the cast okay? He got the part of Even by being an exceptional actor. How toxic do you have to be to say something like that? This is getting ridiculous.

tldr: if you really don’t like lea or her dating henrik then don’t follow her on instagram. and don’t engage with her. don’t claim to care about feminism and “supporting women” if you’re going to throw all of that ideology under the bus just because you’re lowkey jealous that she’s dating him. 

Listen, my whole life, - I grew up in the Bronx, I’m from New York -  everyone always told me I wasn’t pretty enough; that I needed to get a nose job, you know. I wasn’t pretty enough to be the pretty girl but a little too pretty to play the awkward friend. I just really feel like Hollywood has changed; beauty has changed and I’m embracing, always, my uniqueness with naked bed pictures.

anonymous asked:

people really takes the "no alcohol before 18" seriously? (not norwegians bc i know you are wilddd lol) but i see a lot of people making a big deal of it, like, OMG TARJEI HAS A PICTURE WITH A BEER AND HE CANT DRINK!!!!HE'S 17!!!! chill people chillll, i started drinking at 15 lmao

Haha, apparently! I don’t support underage drinking at all but I too drink at parties and I’m younger than Tarjei. Not to mention the fact that several of his photos where he drinks beer etc he’s actually in Denmark where the legal age for beer and ciders is 16. I was just thinking about this because I saw Henrik posting a picture of Lea where she held something that looked like beer and I just thought ‘can’t wait to see all the shit theyre gonna get for this’ haha. Like no, underage drinking isn’t a GOOD thing but I mean, when it’s about people who are one year younger than the drinking age and we live in a country that’s 6 hours away from a country where it would be legal…

But now Tarjei can legally drink so they got nothing on him anymore 😂