anonymous asked:

Are you never afraid of your boyfriend cheating on you?

no bc like anybody in a healthy relationship i love and trust him. people can cheat regardless of whether the relationship is long distance or if they have been together for three months or ten years. it really upsets me when someone plays the “but u cant have sex” card bc tbh if u think all there is to a relationship is sleeping together u probably arent mature enough to be in one. there are so many more ways to make someone happy and express ur love for them than just by getting naked.

The cost-benefit analysis in a LDR

I think this is something that a lot of LDR couples really struggle with and I just wanted to rant about it quickly in a really informal, messy way. 

When you are in a long distance relationship, it’s going to cost you money to see each other. You’re pretty darn lucky if this is a $3.25 fare on a bus or subway but once you get beyond this, things start getting a little expensive.

A train ticket can range from about $30 to over $1000, depending on the length of the journey.

A plane ticket can range from $100 to $3000 depending on the journey and time of year. 

Another cost to keep in mind is the days you miss at work. Every day you do not work, you may lose your entire days salary, so lump that into the cost of your trip. 

A lot of people ask me “Tammy, why don’t you see Gerald at least once a month? Even just for a weekend?”

As much as I would love to do such a thing, it isn’t logical. I don’t make enough money to justify spending 600-1000 dollars every month to visit my boyfriend for 3-4 days. The benefit does not justify the cost when I could just wait 3-6 months and spend 2-6 weeks with him at a time instead, moreso justifying that $1000. 

This is the cost-benefit analysis every LDR couple has to consider and admittedly, it kind of sucks.


Lauren / 21 / Virgo / Ohio -> New York
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