lazy partners

Juno Aspects
  • Juno in aspect to any planet can mean you will tend to attract a partner who has traits of the sign that planet rules. For instance, Juno aspecting Mars could attract you to an Aries type.
  • Juno Aspects the Sun: There will be a tendency to attract showy, dramatic, Leo types of partners. Conversely, this person could themselves become more showy and dramatic after marriage. The harmonious aspects (conjunction, sextile, and trine) can act in a similar fashion to Venus. They increase the charm and social graces to a degree. But Juno goes further. It can give one an air of innocence. We like people with Venus in conjunction the Sun because they are charming. Those with Juno in harmonious aspect to the Sun are liked because they are "cute." The stressful aspects, however, are indicators of ego conflicts with partners. Frequently, there are big problems with getting and holding on to a partner. In many cases, there is no desire to have a partner at all. Demetra George in her excellent book Asteroid Goddesses quotes Gloria Steinhem's famous answer to the question "Why didn't you ever get married?" Steinhem (who has the Sun in Aries square Juno in Capricorn) replied, "I don't mate well in captivity."
  • Juno Aspects the Moon: The attraction will be to emotional and nurturing partners, and domestic types. At least they will tend to be nurturing with the harmonious aspects conjunction, sextile and trine. The stressful aspects (square and opposition) can indicate a clash between your emotional and partnership needs. You could get a partner who is over-emotional or whines a lot. Conversely, the partner could bring out those traits in you.
  • Juno Aspects Mercury: Well, your partner won't be quiet. Forget the silent type. Anyone who marries you will have to communicate, communicate, communicate. The harmonious aspects (conjunction, sextile and trine) indicate good communication between the two of you. It could also show that your ability to communicate improves with partnership. The stressful aspects (square and opposition) can indicate communication problems with partners. One of you may try to stifle the other here because you both want to talk at once.
  • Juno Aspects Venus: The attraction will be to a charming partner with good artistic ability and taste. At least that will tend to be true for the harmonious aspects (conjunction, sextile and trine). The stressful aspects (square and opposition) could attract a lazy, slothful, and indolent partner. Partnership could also bring out these traits in you. With stressful aspects, there will tend to be a clash between your partnership needs (Juno) and your ability to express love and affection (Venus). As a result, you might find it difficult to express love to your partner (or vice-versa) and would seek to do this elsewhere. Years ago, there was a TV program called "Mary Hartman, Mary Hartman" which was a satire on soap operas. Mary's husband had affairs with all the other women in town and was impotent only with her.
  • Juno Aspects Mars: Marriage and partnership will stir you to action. In fact, you may need a partner to be active at all. The partners you attract will tend to be active, assertive, and aggressive. Conversely, having a partner may bring out these traits in you. The stressful aspects (conjunction, square, and opposition) are indicators of arguments with partners. One of you may try to dominate the other.
  • Juno Aspects Jupiter: The partner will tend to be expansive optimistic, and "jovial" (jovial comes from Jove, Jupiter). Marriage and partnerships will also have an expansive effect on you. Yes, it can make you more optimistic. Watch out that it doesn't make you fat as well. At least this will be true for the harmonious aspects (conjunction, sextile and trine). The stressful aspects (square, and opposition) can attract an over-optimistic partner who is always expecting their "lucky break" to be right around the corner. There could also be a clash over religious or philosophical differences. The over-expansiveness could also apply to extra-marital affairs. If you have a stress aspect between Juno and Jupiter, either you or your partner might think that the "to have, hold, and love" part of the marriage vow means anyone whom you fancy at the moment.
  • Juno Aspects Saturn: The partners will tend to be older (in spirit if not in actual years). With the harmonious aspects (sextile and trine) partners are likely to be solid, practical, and dependable, but, unless there are other indicators, don't expect them to be the life of the party. Conversely, partnership could bring out the solid, practical, and dependable side of you.The stressful aspects (conjunction, square, and opposition) may cause marriage to be delayed, or even denied. If you have this one, try not to get married before your first Saturn Return (which occurs around the age of twenty nine). Stressful aspects between Juno and Saturn can have a similar effect to Saturn placed in the 7th house. An early marriage (before the Saturn Return) will slowly decay until there is no affection left and the marriage collapses. Juno/Saturn stress aspects can also indicate someone who makes a bad marriage for "practical" reasons, such as security. They will also be prone to stay in a bad marriage to protest their social image, or because "a half a loaf is better than none." As if there is anything "practical" about having a bad marriage! These people have to learn to cut their losses and make a fresh start.
  • Juno Aspects Uranus: If you have this combination in your horoscope (especially the stressful aspects, the conjunction, square, or opposition) I have a question for you. Let's say you walk into a room where there are twenty people, and nineteen of them are sane and normal, but the twentieth person either escaped from an insane asylum or just got off of a UFO, guess which one you would be most likely to marry? (Hint: it's not the first nineteen). Uranus always has to be Different. When Juno aspects Uranus, the partner or the partnership has to be different. With the harmonious aspects (sextile and trine) you don't get into as much trouble. The partner will tend to be independent, or very bright, or a bit odd. The partnership itself will likely be more "open" with each partner doing their own thing and going their own way. Uranus is fanatic about having enough of its own space. The stressful aspects can lead to several marriages. Elizabeth Taylor has Juno in Cancer square Uranus in Aries (Uranus is also in a close conjunction with Venus). Years ago, Julian Armistead gave a lecture on her chart. He had several of the press clippings that quoted her at the time of her marriages. Her first marriage to Nick Hilton: "I've never known it was possible to be this much in love. This is going to last forever." Her second marriage a couple of years later to Michael Wilding: "This time, it's the real thing. This is going to last forever." Her fifth marriage to - well who can keep track? "This time I mean it. It's the real thing." Juno in Cancer always wants it to last "forever" and Uranus always makes you think it's the "real thing." If you have a Juno/Uranus stress aspect, don't rush into marriage. And forget about having a partnership that is conventional. It would bore you to tears - and divorce. Make sure that you and your partner each has enough "space." It helps if one of you travels a lot (Uranus aspects are perfect for bi-costal marriages). Absence for this combination truly makes the heart grow fonder.
  • Juno Aspects Neptune: If you have a stressful aspect (conjunction, square, or opposition) between Juno and Neptune, please, PLEASE do not marry someone because you feel sorry for them or because you want to "save" them. Remember this magic number. If you do, you will never again have the problem of getting into a marriage for the wrong reasons. Please memorize it. It's 911. Dial that and have them taken away so they can be helped by a professional. Then, get into therapy yourself to cure your masochism. On the positive side especially with the harmonious aspects (sextile and trine) the partner will tend to be sensitive, empathetic, and imaginative. Marriage and partnership can also bring out these same traits in you. In all cases, there will be an inclination to over idealize the partner, to see what we want to see about them.
  • Juno Aspects Pluto: Partners will tend to be intense and secretive. Sex can be volcanic. Pluto is the planet of extremes, death, and transformation. Either your power or that of your partner will be affected by marriage. One of you is likely to be transformed in some way. The harmonious aspects (sextile and trine) can bring out a strength you never thought you had. The stressful aspects (conjunction, square, and opposition) will bring out strength too, in the form of dictatorial attitudes and power struggles. One of you will try to dominate the other. The feelings towards the partner can easily go from "I love you" to "I hate you" to "I'm obsessed with you." Even if the two of you break up, this will be the partner you never forget (for better or worse).
  • Juno Aspects the Ascendant: Juno in conjunction with the Ascendant makes us more attractive, like Venus. But while Venus uses charm, Juno attracts by giving us an air of innocence, like that of a young baby. This trait is also present with the other harmonious aspects (sextile and trine) but not quite as strong. The opposition is not a stressful aspect here. Remember that an opposition to the Ascendant is also a conjunction to the Descendant. The conjunction to the Ascendant makes a person more marriage oriented, especially if Juno is in the 1st house. If Juno is on the 12th house side of the Ascendant, however, then there will still be an increased desire to marry, but there will be increased restrictions of some sort (see Juno in the 12th house). With the square aspect of Juno to the Mid-Heaven, there would tend to be extra stress in marriage that requires constant adjustment and re-adjustment. At least it will not be dull.
  • Juno Aspects the Mid-Heaven: Aspects to the Mid-Heaven affect one's career and "public image." Juno-ruled careers include marriage councilor and people who work in organizations that try to prevent wife-battering and child abuse. Like Venus, Juno has an attraction for all occupations that involve beauty and adornment. This also includes anything involving the arts. When it comes to career, it doesn't matter if an aspect to the Mid-Heaven is harmonious or stressful. In fact, the stressful aspects can frequently bring greater success since they generate more power. Those with harmonious aspects may take it too easy and not push hard enough.

I don’t wanna have responsibilities today I just wanna stay in bed where it’s comfy and soft

‘How to deal with lazy group members’ infrographic 

We’ve all been there. The teacher announces a group project, you make eyecontact with your friends, and then you hear you can’t pick your own group members. It causes more grief than actual productivity and I always seem to be the victim of my teachers. This year I’ve been paired up with some really lazy people and I just wanted to share how to cope with this kind of situation.

i. Find the cause. Sit down for a minute and find out why this person is being so difficult. Are they really busy? Are they just lazy? Do they even care about the project? Usually it’ll be that they’re just plain old lazy, but sometimes there’s geniunely a reason why.

ii. Have a conversation. If you’ve figured out what’s up, talk to the person about it. It has to be a face to face conversation! That way they can’t ignore you. Try to figure out what to do to overcome the problem. Maybe the person didn’t realise they were acting like that and change the way they behave.

iii. Talk to the teacher. If the last step didn’t work, go to the teacher right away. Try to do this as soon as possible because you might get put into a different group.

iv. Change up how you work. If you’re forced to stay with your lazy partner, suggest trying a different way of working. Maybe suggest meeting up after school and working on it together? Maybe skype when you’re working on it so you can help each other out? Don’t leave the situation as it is! Most lazy people will just leave everything to the last minute if you don’t change the way you’re working together. Set deadlines well ahead of the day you have to hand in too.

v. Weather the storm. If none of the above have worked, just do your best to cope with the situation. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and do the assignment as best as you can. If you end up doing everything, let the teacher know by sending them an email, write them a little note or let them know after class. Do this discreetly because often the lazt groupmembers can be really mean to you and lie to the teacher about working on the assignment too if they see you doing this.

Good luck, everyone! And just remember: the more you’re working for a subject, the more you’ll remember. Be an optimist and see this as a positive thing. You’ll understand the topic better and this will be very helpful during your exam.

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Seriously I don’t know why canon acts like Plagg is the lazy kwami partner option when Tikki is a thing, FOR REAL. 

Like okay sure she’s “emotionally supportive” or whatever and easy to feed for a kid who lives in a bakery, but Plagg has carefully crafted this FINE CUSTOM-FITTED LEATHER GET-UP that includes helpful things like claws and night vision and a nearly decent-sized mask and FUCKING POCKETS, Plagg takes the time to lovingly re-style Adrien’s hair for every transformation, AND Plagg includes neat little details and adorable interactive accessories just to reassure all of Paris that yes the superkid can obliterate anything he touches down to its last atom if he feels like it but also he willingly wears kitty ears and a tail and bell in public so it’s fine, he’s adorable, look how cute and harmless he is. The ears and tail even MOVE! Precious. Just so precious and definitely not remotely capable of destroying everything you love just for funsies. 

Also, not for nothing, but Chat Noir can probably actually take OFF his suit if for example it wound up covered in horrible slow-burning acid or stuck to something dangerous or something. Like, I realize “can get undressed” does not sound like a very helpful thing when you’re dealing with a supersuit but SERIOUSLY YOU WOULD BE AMAZED HOW IMPORTANT BEING ABLE TO GET UNDRESSED CAN BE IN AN EMERGENCY, JUST AMAZED

But you, Tikki. YOU. You just toss a girl a light-up yo-yo and a seamless bodysuit and call it a day like “whatever! good enough! good luck out there kid try not to be TOO obviously recognizable as looking exactly the way you always look, bring me cinnamon raisin tonight!” 

Legit, it is no wonder Plagg’s always whining about being exhausted and starving, PLAGG’S THE ONLY KWAMI PUTTING IN ANY REAL WORK HERE. YOU ARE THE GOD OF CREATION, TIKKI, FFS STEP IT UP. 

Okay no offence but the best feeling in the world is closing all of your work tabs and then opening a Netflix one

Kaoru Hitachiin

  • He’s probably really ticklish, and his s/o would definitely take advantage of that. Kaoru definitely plans on getting back…
  • He tries to be a romantic gentleman, but it doesn’t always work out. His mischievous streak often gets in the way. 
  • He’s not as cool and suave as he would like his partner to believe. He tends to fumble through most of their romantic acts int he early stages of their relationship.
  • Kaoru loves having lazy days with his partner. His favorites are when he and his partner are just snuggled up on the couch together in sweats and t-shirts, playing their favorite games. 
  • If both Kaoru and his partner are into the same video game, whether there’s a multiplayer / tournament option or not, a fair deal of competition is to come. 
KBTBB: He cheats on you

“Anonymous said: Kbtbb:MC finds out that the guys have been cheating on her but with a twist and a good ending.Do eisuke,soryu,mamouru and baba.” 

“Anonymous said: Actually don’t put a good ending its just really weird but I’m sorry if I’m making it difficult but thanks😊❤️ “

“Anonymous said: If it’s really difficult to do a twist you don’t have to but do a good ending please thanks.😊”

Requested: Yes

For: Anon

Smut: No

Eisuke Ichinomiya 
It was still hard to believe that the owner of Tres Spades caught an interest in you. And now the two of you were going to celebrate your one year anniversary. It was a rocky first year but the two of you made it through all the rough times. Eisuke said that he had a surprise for you tonight. 

You got ready for your date with him tonight. Knowing him, he didn’t like it when he’s behind schedule. Arriving at the penthouse he was nowhere to be seen. Not even the bidders were in sight. Then you checked your purse and found out that you forgot your phone. Walking toward the elevator you pressed the button to go down. 

When the elevator let out of sound and the doors opened you saw your boyfriend snogging another woman. Your eyes went wide at the scene in front of you. The two of them were enjoying it and didn’t even notice that they’ve reached the penthouse. “Ahem.” You cleared your throat and finally caught their attention. Eisuke pushed the other woman away from him but the woman came back and clung on his arm. “Ugh we were having a moment here and you just HAD to ruin it.” Your eyebrow twitched in annoyance. “Sorry Ma’am but I just want to get on the elevator. You can always continue what you didn’t finish in Mr. Ichinomiya’s bedroom.” You tried your best to smile at her. 

Her eyes sparkled upon hearing your suggestion and tried to drag Eisuke out. “Y/N. Let met explain.” His voice sound broken. “There’s no need Mr. Ichinomiya. I’ve seen everything I needed to see. You know… You never failed to surprised me, but tonight definitely beat all of your surprises and I must say… I consider this surprise to be number one. If you’ll excuse me, I have dinner plans tonight.” He tried to reach out to you but you avoided his hand and pushed him away. It made it easier for you when the other woman pulled him towards his suite. 

The door finally closed and you broke down. How could he do that do you? Is that the surprise he was talking about? You called your bestfriend to have dinner with you tonight. You needed someone to talk to and vent everything out. You couldn’t believe that he cheated on you, but then again you’ve seen it coming. Why would the successful business man, Eisuke Ichinomiya find interest in you? You were just a game to him and you fell into his trap until you fell for him and got hurt.  

Mamoru Kishi
Just like always, Mamoru slept in because he loved his sleep. Getting out of bed you went to prepare breakfast for your lazy partner. Humming happily to yourself, Mamoru’s phone rang. You went over and saw the caller ID belonging to a woman. The name didn’t seem familiar to you therefore leaving it ring. You didn’t want to pry into his business. 

After five missed calls you saw that the woman sent Mamoru some mature content texts. You didn’t mean to see it but she kept sending him texts saying, “I need you” with a picture attached to it. Followed by “Is your unexperience girlfriend home? Come on, let’s have a good time. You know I can make you ease your stress with a kid like her.” Putting your hand to cover your mouth, you couldn’t believe that Mamoru would do this to you. In the beginning you didn’t want to believe that he would cheat on you but you thought wrong. 

Your hands shook as you put his phone back at the table. Quietly making your way to the bedroom you packed your clothes. You tried to keep your sobbing to yourself, you were afraid that you might wake Mamoru up. Luckily he didn’t wake up at the noise you were making. 

Once you were done packing your wheeled your suitcase into the kitchen as you finished breakfast. You wanted to hear it from him and say goodbye to him if he’s really cheating on you. You put on an emotionless face. Mamoru merged into the kitchen. “Smells good sweetheart.” He pecked your cheeks. You remained unfazed by his gesture and set the food on the table. 

Mamoru noticed how quiet you’ve been and that’s one of his fears. He would prefer you to be talkative than be silent. “Sweetheart what’s bothering ya?” He asked. Dropping your fork you looked at him and ask him how long was planning his secret from you. Needless to say he acted innocent and that he didn’t know what you were talking about. 

Walking towards the table top where you left his phone, you picked it up and gave it to him. He was pissed off that you were being nosy about his stuff. From there you erupted from all the emotions you’ve been keeping. “ARE YOU SERIOUS RIGHT NOW?!?! As you can see smartass, I didn’t unlock your phone whatsoever. That woman has been calling you and I ignored it because I didn’t want to PRY on YOUR business. Then she texted you and I just happened to see her text messages but again, I DIDN’T unlock your phone to see your messages with that woman.” Mamoru knew you were right. He was caught red handed and there was no point in lying to you. He admitted that he’s been cheating on you for quite awhile now but he said that it was just a fling. 

He said that she didn’t mean a thing to him and that you’re the one he loves. Mamoru earned a slap from you. “Don’t EVER say that you love me. Cause if you did, you wouldn’t cheat on me just cause they have more experience than I do. But you just see me as a kid right? That’s all I’ll ever be, that’s why you wanted to find someone who’s more mature and more experienced in bed. Goodbye Mr. Kishi, go have fun with your new woman.” You made your way out of his apartment. You were aware that you were a crying mess right now and all you need was your comfort from your older sister. And that’s where you headed after your heart that’s been shattered into a billion pieces. 

Baba Mitsunari
For the past few minutes you’ve been crying on your bestfriends shoulder. He’s been trying to calm you down and comforting you. Why? Because you caught your boyfriend cheating on you and not just once but multiple times. The first time you caught him with another woman was when you were strolling down the town to check out the new stores that recently opened. 

You saw Baba with another woman and they were too close for comfort, you thought that was just being friendly or that she’s a close friend therefore you let the subject go. You kept telling yourself that he wouldn’t cheat on you. The second time was when you finished cleaning the rooms that you were assigned in the floor level and caught him making out with a woman. You tried to confront him about it but he just brushed it off and said that you must’ve been seeing things. Thinking to yourself that he might be right, you might’ve been just really tired and started to see things. But that wasn’t the case of the next few situations. 

You’ve been catching him kiss another girl or even get intimate in public places in the hotel such as at the end of the corridor, janitors closet, or near the staircase exit; well more like you heard moans by the staircase exit but what’s the difference when you knew that your boyfriend was screwing another woman. In addition to that, Baba would lie to you about where he’s going to what’ he’s doing. He would lie straight up to your face and you’d catch him in the act. 

Today is the day that you were going to break it off with him to end your suffering. To end the one sided love that’s been going on for awhile between the two of you. You opened the door and see Baba and another girl ‘having fun’ on his bed. “Y-Y/N! I… I can explain!” He covered himself up and gathered his clothes, as if you haven’t seen him. Was he covering himself up because he’s guilty? Or it was just by reflex? “No Baba you don’t have to explain. I gave you plenty of chances and I waited patiently even though I’ve caught you cheat on me multiple of times. I’m ending our relationship once and for all. Without me in your way, you can continue to have fun with her.” You laid your eyes on the woman on his bed and left him.   

Your bestfriend clenched his fist, he hated seeing you like this. He hated himself for entrusting you into Baba’s hands. “Y/N he’s not worth it. You don’t deserve his love.”  Baba called your phone a multiple of times, your bestfriend ended up blocking his number as the two of you watched movies. Your bestfriend wasn’t going to let Baba hurt you again and that was final. 

Soryu Oh
A month, that’s how long Soryu was acting suspicious. You noticed his odd behaviour towards you and brushed it off because you knew that he might be stressed from work. But when you asked Ryosuke how things were going, he replied saying that everything was going okay and that everyone’s been having free time lately. It didn’t quite add up to you, Ryosuke said that there was no work but every time you asked Soryu, he’d say that the whole Ice Dragons were busy. 

There is one possibility that will add up your suspicions about him and that he’s cheating on you. You didn’t want to consider that option. Pushing your worries aside you walked towards his bedroom and heard his voice. Your spirits were brought up when you heard his voice but then came crashing down when you heard another voice. “What are you going to do with your troublesome girlfriend who can’t even protect herself Soryu?” She asked. “I don’t know… Having her around is definitely a burden when she can’t protected herself.” Your breath hitched at this point when you heard Soryu’s answer. Opening the door with force the two were shocked to see you, mainly Soryu. Soryu was naked and the woman was straddling him. The woman immediately got off Soryu and covered herself. “If you think I’m a burden to you and the Ice Dragons then I’ll gladly leave. Sorry I was causing you stress and needed someone to help you with it. I’ll be taking my leave now Mr. Oh.” Turning around you walked towards the door not even wanting to hear his explanation. 

It’s true, you were a burden to them and you knew it. But what hurts most was that Soryu actually said that to you, not directly but behind your back. After putting a brave face, your tears have betrayed you. Covering your mouth you let out a sob. Ryosuke called your from behind. “Princess what are you doing here!” His eyes widened in shock when he saw your crying face. “I…I’m sorry Ryosuke but this will be the last time we’ll see each other. Take care of yourself okay? And take good care of Soryu for me.” 

Even after what he’s done to you, you still cared for him. You thought you were finally getting close to Soryu and read what’s going on his mind. However, that wasn’t the case at all. It was as if you were back to zero, back to the Soryu who you didn’t know, back to the Soryu that you chose to be the one that ‘bought’ you. Maybe this is the end of the road for your relationship. Your relationship with him will never go forward, only backwards. 

Relationship Warning Signs

You never turn to each other for emotional support. You look to other people first.

Your partner actively tries to cut you off from your support network of friends and family.
Your partner implies that you are stupid, or that they are “the smart one” in the relationship; they try to dissuade you from trying something new because “you probably won’t understand it.”
Your partner doesn’t respect your answer when you say “no” to something.
Your partner implies that they only value you for one thing, whether it be sex, your looks, or your ability to earn money.
You can’t identify any ways you’ve positively influenced each other. For example, you haven’t adopted any of each other’s interests or taught each other any new skills.
You can identify ways you’ve negatively influenced each other, particularly harmful habits like heavy drinking, laziness, or smoking.
Your partner doesn’t make you feel good about your body; they point out your thinning hair or saggy underarm skin.
You don’t have a sense of relationship security—you’ve broken up or almost broken up numerous times.
You end up doing things you’re ashamed of in the course of interacting with each other, such as screaming at each other in front of your kids.
Your partner is dismissive of your emotions, especially fear, such as when you say you’re scared because they drive too fast or erratically but they won’t slow down.
Your partner involves you in unethical activities, such as lying on official forms you both sign.
You feel worse about yourself as a person than when you started the relationship—you’re less confident and can see fewer positive qualities about yourself.
You don’t feel able to get your partner’s attention when you want to talk about something important.
Your partner mocks you, such as poking fun at your voice or facial expressions in a mean way.
Your partner doesn’t seem interested when you experience success, or they belittle your success.
You don’t feel able to confide in your partner. If you were to reveal something that you’re sensitive about, you’re not sure if they’d react respectfully or helpfully.
Your partner makes jokes about leaving you or teases you about what their "second” wife or husband will be like.
When you’re not physically together, it feels like “out of sight, out of mind.” For example, your partner is on an international trip and says they’ll call when they arrived safely at the hotel but doesn’t follow through.
When you and your partner disagree, they insist you do things their way or leave. It’s their way or the highway, and you don’t have a sense that when you disagree you’ll find a way of coming together.
You’re not sure how dependable, supportive, or reliable your partner would be in a situation in which you really needed them; for example, if you or a close family member got cancer.
You blame your partner for your life not being as satisfying as you’d like it to be—or they blame you.
Your partner is dismissive of your interests and projects. They judge the things you do by how important they perceive them to be, rather than how important they are to you.
Stonewalling. You or your partner flat-out refuse to talk about important relationship topics, such as the decision to have a baby.
You don’t think your partner would make a good parent.
There are times you avoid coming home because going to Starbucks, or a bar, is more relaxing after a stressful day than coming home to your partner.
Your life together seems out of control; for example, you both spend much more than you earn.
You can’t think of ways in which you and your partner make a great team.
Your partner is the source of negative surprises, such as large unexpected charges on your joint credit card.
You catch your partner lying repeatedly.
Your partner goes out but doesn’t tell you where, or fails to arrive home when expected and has no explanation.
You worry that your partner might get so angry they’d hurt you.
You have a sense of being trapped in the relationship.
When you argue, one or both of you always just gets defensive. You can never acknowledge that the other person has some valid points.
When you argue, you just blame each other rather than each accepting some blame.
You’re very critical of each other, and you feel constantly nitpicked about the ways you’re not “good enough.”
Your partner complains about you to their friends or family.
You find yourself lying to other people because you’re ashamed of your partner’s behavior; for example, making excuses for why they haven’t shown up to an event as planned.
You feel lonely when you’re together.
If you had to rate your partner on a scale of 1 to 10 on qualities like warmth, trustworthiness, and dependability, you would rate them lower than 5.
You can’t recall a time when your partner has compromised so that you could take up an opportunity.
There is an absence of affection in your relationship—you rarely kiss, touch, or smile at each other.
Your partner is coercive when it comes to sex.
Your partner sees themselves as having a much higher "mate value” than you. They think you’re lucky to have them, but not the reverse.
Your partner keeps you at arms length emotionally. You don’t have a healthy sense of interdependence.
Your partner frequently compares you unfavorably to other people, especially friends’ spouses or partners.
When you argue, it quickly escalates to ultimathreats—"If you don’t …, I’ll …“
You can think of several friends or colleagues whom you’d rather be in a relationship with.
The other “C” word, "Crazy.” If you call each other “crazy” during arguments, it’s a pretty bad sign. It shows that you’re no longer willing to listen to each other’s point of view because you’ve written it off as irrational.
Relationship violence.

date idea!!
  • it’s a lazy day off. rain is pounding on the windows
  • we’re both in comfy sweatpants, braless
  • many pillows, warm blankets, & cuddles involved
  • the room is sparsely lit by scented candles
  • i made a buttload of stuffed yaki onigiri to share 
  • kisses are optional i just wanna be near u
  • we are marathoning all of the ghibli movies. all of them.
  • we’ll probably doze off but thats okay cause we are comfortable and dont have any responsibilities today