Replacements for Ableist Language - OCD

A recent ask made me realize that I should probably have some kind of series to help educate writers about ableist slurs / offensive uses of words relating to mental illness, and offer replacements to use for writers.

Note -  It is ScriptShrink’s official opinion that anyone who has been the target of the ableist language used here is fully and 100% able to reclaim it if they so choose.

This was going to be a single post, but it started getting huge so I’m splitting it up. First up is…


Wait, Shrink, you might say. Why is “OCD” in a series about ableist language? Obviously it’s not a slur, right? True, it’s not a slur, but that doesn’t mean it’s not sometimes used in an ableist, demeaning way.

What it literally means:

It’s an acronym for “Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.”

When you should use this word / phrase:

When you’re referring to the disorder itself and / or people who actually have obsessive-compulsive disorder.

When you should not use this word / phrase:

When you’re referring to people, behaviors, or things that are not related to the actual disorder.

Why you shouldn’t use this word / phrase:

OCD has a lot of symptoms that are often debilitating to the people who have it, and by associating this disorder with casual, non-clinical level symptoms (such as simply preferring being organized or being focused on details), you make it harder for people who actually have OCD to make their struggles heard and understood.

Examples of how to this word / phrase appropriately:

“She’s been diagnosed with OCD - she washes her hands for hours a day.”

“I have OCD. I have disturbing, intrusive thoughts and do compulsive behaviors in response to them.”

“In the DSM-5, OCD is in the same category as Hoarding disorder, Body dysmorphic disorder, Trichotillomania, and Excoriation disorder.”

Examples of how not to use this word / phrase:

“You actually fold your underwear? You’re so OCD.”

“I’m so OCD about brushing my teeth twice a day.”

What to use instead:

NOTE - I am not saying that any of these words are synonymous with OCD, or that people with OCD necessarily have these qualities. These are just alternatives that can help people describe what they really meant before they chose to use “OCD.”

All of these words have different meanings and connotations. Don’t just pick a word off this list at random - look it up and see if it’s the right one for what you really mean.

Detailed / Detail-oriented
Nitpicky / Nitpicker

So that’s it for the first part! What ableist language or slurs would you like to see me cover in this series next?

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Hi, friends!

I have a question that I would like some feedback on. Here it goes: what is your personal opinion on “person-first-language”?

When I was in speech-therapy school, we were taught to use person-first-language when dealing with our clinic-goers. Recently, it was brought to my attention that some people with autism/autistic people are unhappy with person-first. As an allistic individual, I can’t properly speculate why that is because I don’t have that life experience.

I am asking simply because I want to create a comfortable and happy space for those I meet.

Thank you!

Preferences Masterlist #101-200

A collection of all the preferences I’ve written from 101 to 200. Enjoy and happy reading! ✌

♥ = 500+ Notes

☀ = 700+ Notes

⚡️ = 1.000+ Notes

Features: High school AU, Bestfriend AU, Parent AU, Gang AU, Fratboy AU, Punk AU, Supernatural AU, Christmas AU, Country AU, Teacher AU, Camp AU, Pregnancy AU, Song AU, Football AU, Nerd AU, The Hunger Games AU

Warnings: Smut, Violence, Strong Language, Disorders, Cutting

Favourite Quotes:

“It took me 20 years of my life, 17 years of friend-zoning and a baby to make myself realize that I love you. And a whole lot more than just my best friend.”

Luke - #102: Pregnancy Series | Coming Home With The Baby

- #101-200 -

Preference 101: Pregnancy Series | The Boys Meet Your Baby For The First Time At The Hospital

Preference 102: Pregnancy Series | Coming Home With The Baby

Preference 103: The Silent Treatment

Preference 104: The Power Goes Out

Preference 105: The Boys Hate His New Girlfriend

Preference 105: The Boys Hate His New Girlfriend | Part 2

Preference 105: The Boys Hate His New Girlfriend | Part 3

Preference 105: The Boys Hate His New Girlfriend | Part 4

Preference 106: How You Take Naps

Preference 107: Morning Routines

Preference 108: He’s The New Kid | High School AU

Preference 109: Another Boy Walks In On You Changing

Preference 110: Song | Never Be - 5 Seconds of Summer

Preference 111: You Leave During A Fight

Preference 111: You Leave During A Fight | Part 2

Preference 112: “Nobody Knows What The Future Holds…”

Preference 113: Fratboy College AU

Preference 113: Fratboy College AU | Part 2

Preference 113: Fratboy College AU | Part 3

Preference 114: It’s Your Birthday

Preference 115: PDA

Preference 116: You’re Best Friends And He Finds Out You’re Bisexual

Preference 117: He Saves You From A Fire | Part 1

Preference 117: He Saves You From A Fire | Part 2

Preference 118: “I Can’t Sleep Without You At Night…”

Preference 119: There’s A Spider

Preference 120: Jet Black Heart - 5 Seconds of Summer

Preference 121: He Has To Ask Another Boy For A Condom

Preference 122: Tattoos

Preference 123: Baby Series | First Night Home With The Baby

Preference 124: You’re On Your Period

Preference 125: Your Son’s Friends Think You’re A Milf

Preference 126: Baby Series | Breastfeeding

Preference 127: Baby Series | Diaper Changing

Preference 128: Everyone Knows, Except For Themselves

Preference 129: “A Bouquet Of Flowers…”

Preference 130: You’re Best Friends And Another Boy Finds Out You Like Him

Preference 131: Baby Series | Bath Time

Preference 132: He Comes Home From Tour

Preference 133: “You Don’t Have To…”

Preference 134: Baby Series | Bottlefeeding His P.O.V

Preference 135: Hangovers

Preference 136: Baby Series | You’re Insecure About Your Body After The Birth

Preference 137: He Leaves During A Fight

Preference 138: Baby Series | Walks In The Park

Preference 139: You Fall Asleep On Him

Preference 140: Lonely Like A Castaway

Preference 141: Sex

Preference 142: Baby Series | Your Baby Laughs For The First Time

Preference 143: Shaving Cream

Preference 144: BSM | You’re Dating Another Member

Preference 145: You Break Up

Preference 146: Baby Series | Doctor Visits

Preference 147: He Packs For Tour

Preference 148: Baby Series | Baby’s First Word

Preference 149: You Cuddle With Another Member

Preference 150: You See Each Other After Your Breakup

Preference 151: He Realizes His Feelings For You

Preference 152: Your First Kiss

Preference 153: Sleeping Positions

Preference 154: He Works At Disney World AU

Preference 155: He Helps You Fall Asleep

Preference 156: Showering Together

Preference 157: You Study For Your Finals

Preference 158: Baby Series | Crawling For The First Time

Preference 159: “Mornings Like These…”

Preference 160: You Get Mistaken For Being A Couple

Preference 161: He Does Push-Ups Over You

Preference 162: He Carries You To Bed

Preference 163: He Finds You Asleep On His Side Of The Bed

Preference 164: You Crawl Into The Wrong Bunk

Preference 165: Cliché First Meetings AU

Preference 166: He Takes Off Your Bra

Preference 167: Baby Series | The Boys Babysit Your Baby

Preference 168: You’re Best Friends And Sleep In The Same Bed

Preference 169: You’re Too Far Away In Bed

Preference 170: He Tries To Scare Your Hiccups Away

Preference 171: He Apologizes After A Fight

Preference 172: He Forces You To Kiss Him

Preference 173: Asleep In His Arms

Preference 174: You Sneak Love Notes Into His Luggage

Preference 175: You Try To Walk Out During A Fight

Preference 176: “Don’t Fucking Touch Her…”

Preference 177: “Quick, Pretend You’re Mine…”

Preference 178: Afternoon Swim

Preference 179: Quickies

Preference 180: He Gets Sunburned

Preference 181: He Kisses You During A Fight

Preference 182: You Play Pokémon Go

Preference 183: Baby Series | Baby’s First Birthday

Preference 184: He Accidentally Touches Your Boob

Preference 185: He Teaches You How To Kiss

Preference 186: You’re Best Friends And You Fall Asleep On Him

Preference 187: You Bake Together

Preference 188: Another Boy Walks In During A Fight

Preference 189: You Try To Slip Out Of Bed

Preference 190: He Catches One Of The Boys Checking You Out

Preference 191: He Falls Asleep On You

Preference 192: He Wants you To Stay After A One Night Stand

Preference 193: You Wear His Shirt

Preference 194: He Wakes You Up Because He Is Sick

Preference 195: How You Sleep In The Bunk

Preference 196: A Bad Habit of His 

Preference 197: Twitter Conversations

Preference 198: You Are Afraid of Thunderstorms

Preference 199: The Boys Call Him Whipped

Preference 200: He Proposes To You

Preference 200: He Proposes To You | Part 2

Native Language

When you are quickly forgetting your own language, the one you grew up speaking, the one you have spoken for 27 years, the one whose country you lived in for 22 years, and you do not know why you are forgetting it, you just know that you are terrified because your speaking it has gone downhill and you are forgetting the simple things like the names of colors and you are forgetting things about your home country, and you are even losing your accent some and you had always wanted to be more American but not like this, you do not want to forget, you can not, please, please… and all you can do is

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How many Deaf, Hard of Hearing, and people with APD can relate to this? I always mispronounce words and some people don’t care while others either get angry or mock me. However, very few take the time to help me pronounce it correctly, so I’m convinced most people actually understand me, they’re just assholes.


i made an educational powerpoint about circadian rhythm sleep disorders because holy shit having a doctor tell me “yeah your internal clock is actually off it has nothing to do with being lazy or the internet” was mindblowing and got p much my whole family to apologize to me for being wrong

tbh anyone who has any kind of speech or communication troubles such as being unable to speak (be it in certain situations or all the time, due to being physically or psychologically unable to do so), having a stutter or a stammer, a lisp, any other speech or communication disorder, et al, anyone with any of these struggles is amazing, strong, and deserves lots of love. sincerely, a selective mute girl 💕

  • singlets: people with multi-personality disorder do crazy things! the other personalities get tattoos and party and introduce themselves to people with different names and buy things that the original personality doesn't even like!!!!
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anonymous asked:

I've been diagnosed with combined ADHD, but I'm a little confused with the ED discussion. I've always had really bad reading, writing and speaking issues, my language ability had always been rated very highly but I don't speak/express well nor do I listen or read, or write well. Language crashes and things get mIxed up or overall comprehension is difficult even if I'm very good at defining a word without context, that I've never used before.

On the speaking and writing ask, I’m a visual learner however I also have visual processing issues and bad motor skills

This sounds like you might have some kind of language disorder as well as ADHD, and possibly also sensory processing and/or dyspraxia.


my linguistic contribution to bi discourse: in terms of the semantics of the prefix “bi”, bisexuality is not somehow a semantic anomaly in that its “bi” prefix does not meaning “precisely two [genders]”. for example, the term “bilingual” does not mean that the person has functional proficiency with two and exactly two languages. It just means at least two, but it can be more.