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Listen! Nerdette LIVE with Brain Scoop's Emily Graslie

Listen to the first ever Nerdette LIVE featuring Tricia, Greta and Brain Scoop host Emily Graslie of The Field Museum in Chicago. Plus audience nerd confessions and the musical stylings of Drew Edwards from Blue Police Box Music. Our live audience? A heap of lovely WBEZ members. Speaking of WBEZ… we have a pretty giant announcement in this episode.

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More Like Woot Crate

I finally caved and signed up for Loot Crate.  Yeah its mostly cheesy nerd toys that I will end up regifting or stashing somewhere in my hovel, but let me tell you WHY I’m giving these guys my money.

Womens.  3X.  T-shirts.

Thats right.  T-shirts.   Cut for people with tits.  That are on the large side.  As a reference for those interested, I’m usually a 20/22 in tops and dresses and I’m a 40HH.  The 3X t-shirts from Loot Crate fit amazingly well.

So my fellow lady nerds who are fed up with Think Geek… you may want to check this out.  I was pleasantly surprised.

(Also full disclosure, thats my referral link above if you feel like being super cool.)

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Uncut segment of our Sailor Moon discussion part 1!

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Here it is, folks! Episode one for your viewing pleasure!

The INTPs Guide to Social Etiquette

Because there are times when we have no choice but to emerge from our dens of seclusion and interact with the world at large.

1. Think before you speak. And before you hasten to claim that you always do this, allow me to say that I’m an INTP and it’s hard to always think before I speak. It’s much easier to convince myself not to speak or to blurt something out. But even though social niceties might seem constricting and false, they exist for a reason, and that reason is so that people like us don’t get our heads bitten off for being so callous. We should probably respect the system that protects us so well.

2. Try not to look like you just rolled out of bed. This makes you annoyed to see, no doubt. It makes me annoyed to write. Frankly, I don’t see why I shouldn’t feel as comfortable as I can wherever I am. However, I have styled myself a lady-nerd, and a lady follows social standards. There is nothing wrong with discarding a sweatshirt for something a little nicer. There’s nothing wrong with fixing one’s hair so that it doesn’t look like you just pulled it out of a black hole. I think I should explain my reasoning behind this, because it honestly does seem a little hard. I mean, why not look like you want to? I’m going to say it’s because we INTPs can do better. We so often lack the motivation to do what we should do, and when finally get around to doing it, we realize how easy it is in the first place. Giving a little effort to one’s outward appearance really does something for the psyche. It gives you something to be confident about, and in a social setting, the INTP needs all the help he can get.

3. Remember that the SJs are not out to get you. It seems like that, I think. I very often feel like I’m being stalked and hunted down by the SJs at any social gathering. That’s really not how it is, though. They probably just want to have a kind chat with me. And that goes for any extrovert, too. People aren’t as scary as we think they are. The fact is, we have very little common ground with most people because our minds work differently. So, while it’s easy to brush off an SJ as an idiot, remember that they know a lot of things we don’t (like how to function in a social situation). And getting as SJ as a friend will help you a lot if you’re both willing to put work into understanding each other.

4. Don’t try to come out of your shell. This will only increase the awkwardness of the social setting. Many people have fallen prey to the myth that there’s something wrong with you for having a shell. THIS IS NOT TRUE. Your shell is important. Your shell is actually part of who you are, and if you discard it, you’re discarding part of yourself. What you don’t want to do is use your shell as an excuse to be rude to people. There’s never a good excuse for being rude. It is perfectly possible to be gracious and quiet at the same time. And it’s okay to let people work to get to know you, too. It does seem when people say to come out of your shell that they want you to do all the work. You should not have to, but use that wonderful INTP instinct to know when to open up to people.

5. Don’t use other people as your shell. This is a strong temptation for me. When I’m at a social event where I might know one or two people but not the rest, I tend to hide behind the person I do know. This is bad because it’s dragging down the other person (usually an extrovert) and makes you look bad, too. Instead, find yourself a quiet corner if you can’t handle the noise. Find yourself some food if there is any. Try to avoid staring longingly at any possible bookcases present. You aren’t obligated to start any conversation, but if one is started, it’s okay to answer. What is not okay is using your friend as a human shield. They don’t need that in their lives. So be respectful.

I know that these are kind of hard things to follow. Believe me, I’m far from perfect in a social setting, however I’ve discovered that being social is more of a journey than an overnight thing that pops into existence because you want it to.

Of course, I still need lots of recharging time after any social event!

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I love Meg Turney and this video is all the things I love about her.  Her attitude about everything just brings with it a blessed atmosphere and I think it really works when she’s talking about this.  

Her argument is essentially against the same thing that Nerd girls come up against all the time.  There is no one way to be in a fandom or a community and just because you do it a certain way, doesn’t mean that it isn’t alright for someone else to do it another way.  And I love that.  I love all of the sentiment of that. I think it’s beautiful. 

There is also some very real talk about Youtube commenters and trolly comments in general and I think Meg is a really good source of inspiration for that.  So thank you Meg Turney.  Thank you for being awesome.

So I read a book...

I read The Nerdist Way by Chris Hardwick. I really enjoyed it.  I liked seeing a personality like mine put in a positive light and celebrated.  Though it clearly is a book written for dudes.  All of the incentives listed for self help is access to more boobs.  There is a lot of weiner jokes too.  I would love to read a book by a lady nerd.  If anyone knows of any let me know?

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It’s the thrilling conclusion to the #SummerofRobots!  The girls have accepted that the month of September means it’s time to move on.  But Sam just can’t quite let go without his beloved RoboCop.

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Nothing to Prove - Geek Girls & The Doubleclicks

I saw this on upworthy and its just…awesome :) Had to share it.

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Happy NerdStreet Friday gang! “Muppets Most Wanted” opens in theaters today. So this week’s episode is all about our favorite unlikely international super stars. Particularly the standout star, the unstoppable, Miss Piggy.

We talk about “The Dark Crystal” and “Labyrinth” too. Because we were born in the 80s and without the women in those films, they would cease to exist.