label it yourself

anonymous asked:

Your blog isn't "sfw" when you use kink language. A blog doesn't need actual porn and naked bodies to be inappropriate for people under 18. Saying you're sfw while exposing children to kink spaces and languages is disingenuous and harmful. You can run whatever kind of blog you want you should just reconsider labeling yourself sfw.

As far as I’m concerned I’m allowed to use whatever language I want. Since when are you the one to say what is sfw and not? If I say I am then I am. Literally nothing on my blog is harmful to minors. If youre referring to the term “little space” then you are very very wrong. Many communities use that term and if you were smart enough to read my faq it states that I use those terms but I am in no way shape or from in any kink communities. I never use tags related to kink? I fail to see how I am nsfw. Please elaborate. I would love to hear how misinformed you are.

Coming Out??

For years I have identified as Bisexual, and honestly I wore that label like a security blanket even though it didn’t feel right. For the past few months I’ve started thinking, what if I wasn’t? What if I’m not this? And thinking about it terrified me.
I started noticing how awkward I was in male relationships, I blamed it on my social awkwardness when I knew it wasn’t.
I started noticing how when I thought about my future, it was with a girl.
With the help of a friend of mine, I have come to the conclusion that I am gay.
This is something that has been on my mind for a while. I always felt as though I had to wear a label to be valid, to be taken seriously when in reality that is further from the truth. If you don’t want to label yourself that’s fine, don’t feel pressured to.
Also, if you’re panicking because you thought you were one thing when in fact you think you may be something else, don’t freak out. There is no sell by date on your identity, you’re questioning for a reason and it doesn’t make you any less valid than you were before.
Just remember that you are you, nobody can change that.
You are as valid and as equal as anybody else out there.

anonymous asked:

Hi! I'm kind of new to feminism and I was wondering if you could help me out a little bit. What are the most major differences between radical and liberal feminism? And also, can you be a radical intersectional feminist, or are you supposed to be included only in one wing of feminism? Thank you! I adore your blog very much, thank you for everything you do

thank you! I really am not sure so don’t take my word as fact, but my understanding is that theres radfem (radical feminism) and libfem (liberal feminism). I think either can be intersectional, but on tumblr especially radfem is often read as bad or has negative connotations and people often equate it to being a terf (trans exclusive radical feminist), swerf (sex worker exclusive radical feminist), or just being generally exclusionary. some believe radfem is too extreme, while others believe libfem is too moderate and mild. you don’t have to label yourself as either, i don’t. i personally just think its best to stick to “feminist” or “intersectional feminist”, which is what i do. hope that helps a bit, anon! 

anonymous asked:

okay so ive really only ever said im straight but recently i have come to terms w the fact that i have the potential to have sexual relationships with a girl but when it comes to the romantic aspect i just ?? dont know and i dont want to label myself as bi bc that sounds wrong when i could never end up being w a girl romantically or sexually but i just dont know and sorry for ranting i just had to get it out to someone ://

don’t be sorry!! and it’s fine that you’re confused, so many people struggle with the same thing. honestly i am not very good with this but i just want you to know that you don’t have to label yourself? i’ve been with both girls and boys for at least 5 or 6 years and i have never felt the need to label myself as anything. sometimes i want a girlfriend, sometimes i want a boyfriend, that’s enough for me to know personally. please don’t feel pressured to find out your sexuality, especially not if you’re young. you’re supposed to discover these kinda things now while taking your own time to do it :)

anonymous asked:

I hope this is not taken in a bad way but even changing a dog for days is terrible!!! People always miss the point about the chain thing. Anon is right, it doesn't matter if it's the Taj Majal, being chained with labels on yourself as a punishment is not kinky. Coercion is not consent. And this could sound strong but don't forget: To have sex "Because Is Your Duty as a Wife/Girlfriend", "Because You Were Threatened" or "Having Sex Out Of Guilt / To Avoid Angering Your Partner" IT's RAPE!!!

65 Questions You Aren't Used To

1. Do you ever doubt the existence of others than you?

2. On a scale of 1-5, how afraid of the dark are you?

3. The person you would never want to meet?

4. What is your favorite word?

5. If you were a type of tree, what would you be?

6. When you looked in the mirror this morning what was the first thing you thought?

7. What shirt are you wearing?

8. What do you label yourself as?

9. Bright room or dark room?

10. What were you doing at midnight last night?

11. Favorite age you’ve been so far?

12. Who told you they loved you last?

13. Your worst enemy?

14. What is your current desktop picture?

15. Do you like someone?

16. The last song you listened to?

17. You can press a button that will make any one person explode. Who would you blow up?

18. Who would you really like to just punch in the face?

19. If anyone could be your slave for a day, who would it be and what would they have to do?

20. What is your best physical attribute? (showing said attribute is optional)

21. If you were the opposite sex for one day, what would you look like and what would you do?

22. Do you have a secret talent? If yes, what is it?

23. What is one unique thing you’re afraid of?

24. You can only have one kind of sandwich. Every sandwich ingredient known to humankind is at your disposal.

25. You just found $100! How are you going to spend it?

26. You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere in the world, but you have to leave immediately. Where are you going to go?

27. An angel appears out of Heaven and offers you a lifetime supply of the alcoholic beverage of your choice. “Be brand-specific” it says. Man! What are you gonna say about that? Even if you don’t drink booze there’s something you can figure out… so what’s it gonna be?

28. You discover a beautiful island upon which you may build your own society. You make the rules. What is the first rule you put into place? 

29. What is your favorite expletive?

30. Your house is on fire, holy shit! You have just enough time to run in there and grab ONE inanimate object. Don’t worry, your loved ones and pets have already made it out safely. So what’s the one thing you’re going to save from that blazing inferno?

31. You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?

32. You got kicked out of the country for being a time-traveling heathen who sleeps with celebrities and has super-powers. But check out this cool shit… you can move to anywhere else in the world!

33. The Celestial Gates Of Beyond have opened, much to your surprise because you didn’t think such a thing existed. Death appears. As it turns out, Death is actually a pretty cool entity, and happens to be in a fantastic mood. Death offers to return the friend/family-member/person/etc. of your choice to the living world. Who will you bring back?

34. What was your last dream about?

35. Are you a good….[insert anything you’d like here]?

36. Have you ever been admitted to the hospital?

37. Have you ever built a snowman?

38. What is the color of your socks?

39. What type of music do you like?

40. Do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?

41. What is your favorite milkshake flavor?

42. What football team do you support? (I will answer in terms of American football as well as soccer)

43. Do you have any scars?

44. What do you want to be when you graduate?

45. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

46. Are you reliable?

47. If you could ask your future self one question, what would it be?

48. Do you hold grudges?

49. If you could breed two animals together to defy the laws of nature, what new animal would you create?

50. What is the most unusual conversation you’ve ever had?

51. Are you a good liar?

52. How long could you go without talking?

53. What has been you worst haircut/style?

54. Have you ever baked your own cake?

55. Can you do any accents other than your own?

56. What do you like on your toast?

57. What is the last thing you drew a picture of?

58. What would be you dream car?

59. Do you sing in the shower? Or do anything unusual in the shower? Explain.

60. Do you believe in aliens?

61. Do you often read your horoscope?

62. What is your favorite letter of the alphabet?

63. Which is cooler: dinosaurs or dragons?

64. What do you think about babies?

65. Freebie! Ask anything interesting you can think of.

dear young girls who think that they may want a future with another girl:

-you are not doing this for attention

-you are not just “keeping your options open” by labeling yourself as bi

-you can call yourself a lesbian if you feel like you want to be

-you can not call yourself anything

-you don’t have to come out

-you are not doing this for attention

-your attraction to girls is valid even if you cant pinpoint gay moments in your childhood

-your attraction to girls is valid even if you have never had a crush on a girl

-you are not “too young” to be thinking about this. people say that because f/f relationships are hypersexualized in our society. its ok to dream about having a wife one day and cuddling on the couch with her and adopting a dog together

-you are not doing this for attention

I JUST WANTED TO SAY THAT THE REASON WE DON’T GET THE NO HOMO JOKES AND TEASING ABOUT YUURI AND VIKTOR KISSING AND EVEN SLIGHT “BUT YOU’RE BOTH GUYS” BS IN YURI!!! ON ICE IS BECAUSE KUBO-SENSEI LEGITIMATELY WANTED TO CREATE A WORLD IN WHICH NONE OF THAT EXISTED. DISCRIMINATION TOWARD WHO YOU LOVE DOESN’T EXIST.

IN THE WORLD OF YURI!!! ON ICE, THERE ARE NO LAWS OR RULES ABOUT MEN LOVING MEN OR MEN WEARING FLOWER CROWNS OR BEING OPENLY GAY. PEOPLE CAN DO AS THEY PLEASE. LGBTQA+ ISN’T A LABEL. YOU AREN’T SEPARATED FROM OTHER GROUPS BASED ON WHO YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO OR FALL IN LOVE WITH. EVERYTHING EVERYONE DOES IS CONSIDERED ACCEPTABLE AND HEALTHY AND normal.

WHICH MEANS VIKTOR AND YUURI WON’T HAVE TO FIGHT MARRIAGE LAWS BECAUSE WHATEVER COUNTRY THEY GO TO WILL ALLOW THEM TO MARRY.

one of many reasons why “QUEER” means so much to me.

[ IMAGE: a long, white image with “QUEER” faded in rainbow gradient in the background behind text written using various fonts in various sizes, colors and line-weight reading “sometimes identity is a journey. so far mine has gone something like this – queerascat.tumblr.com – HOLY SHIT, i’m BISEXU– wait, no, i’m PANSEXUAL! oh, but demisexuality? i’m DEMI-PANSEXUAL! but wait, what if i’m a LESBIAN??? no, WAIT! i’m NOT EVEN FEMALE!!! (no shit sherlock! plus you like who you like of any gender!) oh god, not even demi, TOTALLY ACE after all… shiiiiittt… panromantic ace! biromantic ace? PANro and BIro ACE! lolol wtf was i ever even thinking??? OF COURSE i’m a BI (sans ‘romantic’) & PAN (sans ‘romantic’) ACE. but grayro? quoiro? BI-PAN-GRAY-QUOIRO?? ugh, what the fuck ever. i’ll use whichever word(s) whenever it feels right to do so, but QUEER is the one word that has ALWAYS felt right. - Vesper 09/23/2016" ]

Sexuality can be a phase. Things change.

Okay guys, listen, I know some people are upset when they’re told sexuality is a phase but it honestly was for me (and my girlfriend.)
From 5th grade to 8th grade I was bisexual.
Then before freshman year started I had a genderfluid phase and a Transgender phase. (I was still bisexual.)
Then all of freshman year I was pansexual and for a little while asexual.
And now I’m a lesbian and demisexual and I’m staying that way.

As for my girlfriend she was literally straight up to 8th grade year. Then she had a year of bisexuality then realized she was a lesbian and demisexual. (Im the reason she’s gay.)

So bascially don’t let people make you feel like a fake or an attention seeker for changing your sexuality. It’s okay to wonder and change. You’re growing up. It takes a while.

My entire life I was attracted to girls. I had crushes on princesses when I was 5 and 6. I would kiss my Cinderella doll because I wanted to be the prince. I always had an attraction. I just felt like if I didn’t have boys somewhere in the mix that I wouldn’t be accepted. But I was wrong and I was accepted. (I had like 10 boyfriends and only had romantic attraction to like 1 or 2. All the others were forced bc they liked me so I thought I had to like them back.)
As for my girlfriend she never thought of dating girls until she met me. I’m the only girl she’s ever dated and it helped her find herself.

This post wasn’t made to knock bisexuality or anything else. Everyone’s valid. But it’s okay to change your label or not have a label at all. You do you.

  • me: i have diagnosed myself with several mental illnesses in the past, every single one i've researched for about a year before being diagnosed with the same exact mental illnesses i thought i had. i did extensive research before labeling myself with these illnesses, and even then i never stopped looking into them to double-check that i'm still experiencing the symptoms. self-diagnosing greatly helped me as it gave me a support system and a group of people i was able to relate to and talk to about my feelings. it helped me realize i wasn't alone and it really helped me cope with my problems until i was able to get professional help.
  • Neurotypicals: umm sweaty i think you just have a good 'ol case of psych student syndrome :) you really shouldn't just label yourself with these very Real and Bad problems just because you heard about it once uwu self-diagnosing is Evil it stole my wife and burned down my house you shouldn't do it Ever it'll only hurt you uwuwuwuwu

Aight imma just throw this out here.

I support all littles, caregivers, age regressors, and anyone else.

I support trans and non binary littles and caregivers.

I support underage littles and caregivers.

I support caregivers who like being called mommy or daddy.

I support caregivers who don’t like terms such as those.

I support those who age play, as long as it is safe and consensual.

I support those who are completely non sexual regressors.

I support what ever label you classify yourself under, as long as you aren’t causing issues for others in that community.

You can be kidhearted, or dd/lg, or cglre, or liltot, or chire, or whatever your heart desires.

Just be respectful.

If you’re gay and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re a lesbian and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re bi and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re trans and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re questioning and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re ace and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re pan and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re nb and autistic, you’re okay.

If you don’t know what you are because of your autism, you’re okay. If you can’t label yourself because of your autism, you’re okay. If your identity is intertwined with your autism, you’re okay. If your orientation is completely separate from your autism, you’re okay. If you’re LGBT+ and autistic, you’re okay.

You’re valuable and loved and precious.

To anyone who is questioning their romantic/sexual orientation and/or gender

Remember: Feelings first, labels later.

And if you decide to not label yourself or your label changes? That’s okay, too. Just keep feeling.

bisexuals who are questioning their identity shouldn’t feel pressured to stick with the bisexual label because they don’t want to perpetuate the stereotype that bisexuals are just experimenting or just using bisexuality as a “bridge sexuality” to coming out as gay/lesbian. your label is your label and if bisexuality doesn’t fit you, don’t be afraid to change it!