Hey man I want you all to remember that if your romantic/sexual orientation(s) in the fictional world don’t line up with what you identify as in the real world, that’s totally okay.
Take it from me. I identify as a lesbian on the ace spectrum, but I have a ton of fictional dudes I like to imagine myself dating and even having intimate times with. It’s all fiction.
And with compulsory heterosexuality being a thing, I don’t blame anyone who claims to be only attracted to so and so genders (or none at all) but finds themselves attracted to fictional people of the “opposite” gender, whatever it may be.
You are allowed to have fictional others who don’t align perfectly with the orientations you choose to label yourself with in the real world. It’s fiction, and it’s a safe place to let yourself feel those feelings and explore what it might be like in another life. Your fictitious romances do not invalidate the labels you choose to identify with in real life!
I love you a lot and I hope you are having fun with your self insert lives <3