label it yourself

a message from my aunt to the lgbt community:

okay technically she said it to me when i came out today but i feel it’s important for the community to know.

“don’t feel pressured into labeling yourself. as long as you’re happy then that’s good. you’re still young and trying to figure yourself out so don’t feel pressured into immediately finding a label for yourself. no matter what happens just know that i’m right behind you and supportive of all your decisions, i love you”

anonymous asked:

Hi I just read another ask that mentioned that you were bisexual and I was wondering if you could tell me how you knew because I think I might be but I don't want to say I am and then not end up being it is sorry I know this is worded weirdly but I really need someone to talk to my family isn't that accepting and open about this stuff

hi beautiful :’) well it has not been an ‘i have always known’-thing, as it has been for other people. i started to realise that i had a lot of ‘girl crushes’ on celebrities until i had to say to myself okay marlen this isn’t just being straight and finding these women aesthetically pleasing, you think they’re hot. so i was like okay maybe i’m like sexually attracted to women, but what about the emotional part. so i asked myself (and you should maybe ask yourself too) if i could see myself being together with a girl/woman. i did, in theory, but i wasn’t 100% sure yet if i could actually be together with a girl/fall in love with one. but when i developed a pretty serious crush on a girl in my grade when i was 16 it was pretty clear to me that i felt an emotional and sexual attraction to girls. but i’ve never doubted my attraction to boys, bc i had an on/off relationship with a guy when i was 15-18 and i know that i loved him so that’s why i’ve never even considered being a lesbian. i don’t know if this helped you, if not, don’t hesitate to message me about it again. have a lovely day and know that i’m always here for you <3

anonymous asked:

What's your sexuality do you label yourself

Ummm good question🤔I’m more inclined to like girls but I would be down to date the right guy
But honestly I don’t rly like labels I’m just not straight I’ll tell you that😂

anonymous asked:

Hi, Im that anon who was ace/aro/gay, & I really appreciate your answer. All this time ive been constantly wanting to know what I identify as already so that if I had to come out, i had a definite answer. Im only 15 so i do have many more years to go. I know for a fact that i am not completely straight & im open to new experiences that make me end up learning im not gay or i am gay, or im smthing. Could i just identify as queer? Or do you know any other terms bc im not quite fond of using queer

Is it really necessary to label yourself? You’re only 15 so putting a label can somehow put a limit on what you can do and explore. I understand that at that age, you try to find your identity. But believe me, putting yourself in a certain criteria will only limit your opportunities.

You’re a teen, so just call yourself a teenager. Personally, I wouldn’t want you to label your gender or sexual preference, so I won’t suggest anything. It’s something you have to decide for yourself. I’m just a stranger so it’s weird if I get to decide that for you. Don’t focus too much on labels. They’re really not as important as what others make it look like. 😉

anonymous asked:

I feel like I'm a sapphic ace, but I'm genderfluid, leaning towards trans masc??? Idk that i want to be a straight ace boy, but ?????? Sapphic ace trans boy?? Idk if that can be a thing 😣😣

That can definitely be a thing !! If that’s what feels right and comfortable to you, even if it ends up being confusing to other people, you are allowed to label yourself in that way !! 💜💜💜💜


Mod Wesley

65 Questions You Aren't Used To

1. Do you ever doubt the existence of others than you?

2. On a scale of 1-5, how afraid of the dark are you?

3. The person you would never want to meet?

4. What is your favorite word?

5. If you were a type of tree, what would you be?

6. When you looked in the mirror this morning what was the first thing you thought?

7. What shirt are you wearing?

8. What do you label yourself as?

9. Bright room or dark room?

10. What were you doing at midnight last night?

11. Favorite age you’ve been so far?

12. Who told you they loved you last?

13. Your worst enemy?

14. What is your current desktop picture?

15. Do you like someone?

16. The last song you listened to?

17. You can press a button that will make any one person explode. Who would you blow up?

18. Who would you really like to just punch in the face?

19. If anyone could be your slave for a day, who would it be and what would they have to do?

20. What is your best physical attribute? (showing said attribute is optional)

21. If you were the opposite sex for one day, what would you look like and what would you do?

22. Do you have a secret talent? If yes, what is it?

23. What is one unique thing you’re afraid of?

24. You can only have one kind of sandwich. Every sandwich ingredient known to humankind is at your disposal.

25. You just found $100! How are you going to spend it?

26. You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere in the world, but you have to leave immediately. Where are you going to go?

27. An angel appears out of Heaven and offers you a lifetime supply of the alcoholic beverage of your choice. “Be brand-specific” it says. Man! What are you gonna say about that? Even if you don’t drink booze there’s something you can figure out… so what’s it gonna be?

28. You discover a beautiful island upon which you may build your own society. You make the rules. What is the first rule you put into place? 

29. What is your favorite expletive?

30. Your house is on fire, holy shit! You have just enough time to run in there and grab ONE inanimate object. Don’t worry, your loved ones and pets have already made it out safely. So what’s the one thing you’re going to save from that blazing inferno?

31. You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?

32. You got kicked out of the country for being a time-traveling heathen who sleeps with celebrities and has super-powers. But check out this cool shit… you can move to anywhere else in the world!

33. The Celestial Gates Of Beyond have opened, much to your surprise because you didn’t think such a thing existed. Death appears. As it turns out, Death is actually a pretty cool entity, and happens to be in a fantastic mood. Death offers to return the friend/family-member/person/etc. of your choice to the living world. Who will you bring back?

34. What was your last dream about?

35. Are you a good….[insert anything you’d like here]?

36. Have you ever been admitted to the hospital?

37. Have you ever built a snowman?

38. What is the color of your socks?

39. What type of music do you like?

40. Do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?

41. What is your favorite milkshake flavor?

42. What football team do you support? (I will answer in terms of American football as well as soccer)

43. Do you have any scars?

44. What do you want to be when you graduate?

45. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

46. Are you reliable?

47. If you could ask your future self one question, what would it be?

48. Do you hold grudges?

49. If you could breed two animals together to defy the laws of nature, what new animal would you create?

50. What is the most unusual conversation you’ve ever had?

51. Are you a good liar?

52. How long could you go without talking?

53. What has been you worst haircut/style?

54. Have you ever baked your own cake?

55. Can you do any accents other than your own?

56. What do you like on your toast?

57. What is the last thing you drew a picture of?

58. What would be you dream car?

59. Do you sing in the shower? Or do anything unusual in the shower? Explain.

60. Do you believe in aliens?

61. Do you often read your horoscope?

62. What is your favorite letter of the alphabet?

63. Which is cooler: dinosaurs or dragons?

64. What do you think about babies?

65. Freebie! Ask anything interesting you can think of.

dear young girls who think that they may want a future with another girl:

-you are not doing this for attention

-you are not just “keeping your options open” by labeling yourself as bi

-you can call yourself a lesbian if you feel like you want to be

-you can not call yourself anything

-you don’t have to come out

-you are not doing this for attention

-your attraction to girls is valid even if you cant pinpoint gay moments in your childhood

-your attraction to girls is valid even if you have never had a crush on a girl

-you are not “too young” to be thinking about this. people say that because f/f relationships are hypersexualized in our society. its ok to dream about having a wife one day and cuddling on the couch with her and adopting a dog together

-you are not doing this for attention

I JUST WANTED TO SAY THAT THE REASON WE DON’T GET THE NO HOMO JOKES AND TEASING ABOUT YUURI AND VIKTOR KISSING AND EVEN SLIGHT “BUT YOU’RE BOTH GUYS” BS IN YURI!!! ON ICE IS BECAUSE KUBO-SENSEI LEGITIMATELY WANTED TO CREATE A WORLD IN WHICH NONE OF THAT EXISTED. DISCRIMINATION TOWARD WHO YOU LOVE DOESN’T EXIST.

IN THE WORLD OF YURI!!! ON ICE, THERE ARE NO LAWS OR RULES ABOUT MEN LOVING MEN OR MEN WEARING FLOWER CROWNS OR BEING OPENLY GAY. PEOPLE CAN DO AS THEY PLEASE. LGBTQA+ ISN’T A LABEL. YOU AREN’T SEPARATED FROM OTHER GROUPS BASED ON WHO YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO OR FALL IN LOVE WITH. EVERYTHING EVERYONE DOES IS CONSIDERED ACCEPTABLE AND HEALTHY AND normal.

WHICH MEANS VIKTOR AND YUURI WON’T HAVE TO FIGHT MARRIAGE LAWS BECAUSE WHATEVER COUNTRY THEY GO TO WILL ALLOW THEM TO MARRY.

anonymous asked:

I tell ppl I am ace/aro 1st then I tell them Im gay. However, they always think how can you be all 3? I tend to say ace/aro 1st, bc it's as big part of me as it is gay, but ppl keep referring to me as one or the other. Like when some bi ppl are just referred to as gay. Do you believe i could be all 3? I see girls as beautiful creatures, but nothing from boys. I get scared that this only occurs bc ive gotten obsessed with yuri. Also I just don't seem to like like anyone, sexually nor romantically

I’m not an expert when it comes to human sexuality, Anon. 😅 I don’t know how you should call it. But for me, you don’t have to label yourself. Asexual, aromantic, or gay, they’re just words. I’m not sure how old you are but you’ll figure it out someday. It’s not a quiz or exam where you can look at choices and select the best answer. I figured out my sexuality by exploring and experiencing things for myself. Maybe you can try that too. 😊

one of many reasons why “QUEER” means so much to me.

[ IMAGE: a long, white image with “QUEER” faded in rainbow gradient in the background behind text written using various fonts in various sizes, colors and line-weight reading “sometimes identity is a journey. so far mine has gone something like this – queerascat.tumblr.com – HOLY SHIT, i’m BISEXU– wait, no, i’m PANSEXUAL! oh, but demisexuality? i’m DEMI-PANSEXUAL! but wait, what if i’m a LESBIAN??? no, WAIT! i’m NOT EVEN FEMALE!!! (no shit sherlock! plus you like who you like of any gender!) oh god, not even demi, TOTALLY ACE after all… shiiiiittt… panromantic ace! biromantic ace? PANro and BIro ACE! lolol wtf was i ever even thinking??? OF COURSE i’m a BI (sans ‘romantic’) & PAN (sans ‘romantic’) ACE. but grayro? quoiro? BI-PAN-GRAY-QUOIRO?? ugh, what the fuck ever. i’ll use whichever word(s) whenever it feels right to do so, but QUEER is the one word that has ALWAYS felt right. - Vesper 09/23/2016" ]

Anyways

@ ace teens: you are wonderful and valid.

You aren’t sexualizing yourself by calling yourself ace.

You aren’t sexualizing other teens by calling yourself ace.

You aren’t being homophobic by calling yourself ace.

If you feel like ace works for you, use it.

It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t fit later on or others think you’re too young or whatever.

Only you have the ability to label yourself, and whatever label you choose is totally valid.

tbh it makes me so sad how many girls dismiss their attraction to women

I’m not gonna label anyone’s sexuality for them but if you have crushes on girls then you’re probably not straight 

because believe it or not there are women who never experience any attraction to women 

it’s not some tiny little thing that everyone experiences

of course that’s not a bad thing, but no, not everyone is “a little bi” etc.

and we are all taught that relationships between women are inherently inferior to hetero relationships - it often takes years to realize that what you feel could be genuine attraction rather than just curiosity or admiration

whether or not you choose to acknowledge that in the label you choose for yourself or how you pursue relationships is up to you 

but if you consistently finding yourself having crushes on women or being attracted to women - even if you remain adamant that you love and prefer men - you may want to look into the possibility that you’re not straight

Sexuality can be a phase. Things change.

Okay guys, listen, I know some people are upset when they’re told sexuality is a phase but it honestly was for me (and my girlfriend.)
From 5th grade to 8th grade I was bisexual.
Then before freshman year started I had a genderfluid phase and a Transgender phase. (I was still bisexual.)
Then all of freshman year I was pansexual and for a little while asexual.
And now I’m a lesbian and demisexual and I’m staying that way.

As for my girlfriend she was literally straight up to 8th grade year. Then she had a year of bisexuality then realized she was a lesbian and demisexual. (Im the reason she’s gay.)

So bascially don’t let people make you feel like a fake or an attention seeker for changing your sexuality. It’s okay to wonder and change. You’re growing up. It takes a while.

My entire life I was attracted to girls. I had crushes on princesses when I was 5 and 6. I would kiss my Cinderella doll because I wanted to be the prince. I always had an attraction. I just felt like if I didn’t have boys somewhere in the mix that I wouldn’t be accepted. But I was wrong and I was accepted. (I had like 10 boyfriends and only had romantic attraction to like 1 or 2. All the others were forced bc they liked me so I thought I had to like them back.)
As for my girlfriend she never thought of dating girls until she met me. I’m the only girl she’s ever dated and it helped her find herself.

This post wasn’t made to knock bisexuality or anything else. Everyone’s valid. But it’s okay to change your label or not have a label at all. You do you.

To anyone who is questioning their romantic/sexual orientation and/or gender

Remember: Feelings first, labels later.

And if you decide to not label yourself or your label changes? That’s okay, too. Just keep feeling.

  • me: i have diagnosed myself with several mental illnesses in the past, every single one i've researched for about a year before being diagnosed with the same exact mental illnesses i thought i had. i did extensive research before labeling myself with these illnesses, and even then i never stopped looking into them to double-check that i'm still experiencing the symptoms. self-diagnosing greatly helped me as it gave me a support system and a group of people i was able to relate to and talk to about my feelings. it helped me realize i wasn't alone and it really helped me cope with my problems until i was able to get professional help.
  • Neurotypicals: umm sweaty i think you just have a good 'ol case of psych student syndrome :) you really shouldn't just label yourself with these very Real and Bad problems just because you heard about it once uwu self-diagnosing is Evil it stole my wife and burned down my house you shouldn't do it Ever it'll only hurt you uwuwuwuwu

Aight imma just throw this out here.

I support all littles, caregivers, age regressors, and anyone else.

I support trans and non binary littles and caregivers.

I support underage littles and caregivers.

I support caregivers who like being called mommy or daddy.

I support caregivers who don’t like terms such as those.

I support those who age play, as long as it is safe and consensual.

I support those who are completely non sexual regressors.

I support what ever label you classify yourself under, as long as you aren’t causing issues for others in that community.

You can be kidhearted, or dd/lg, or cglre, or liltot, or chire, or whatever your heart desires.

Just be respectful.

If you’re gay and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re a lesbian and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re bi and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re trans and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re questioning and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re ace and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re pan and autistic, you’re okay.

If you’re nb and autistic, you’re okay.

If you don’t know what you are because of your autism, you’re okay. If you can’t label yourself because of your autism, you’re okay. If your identity is intertwined with your autism, you’re okay. If your orientation is completely separate from your autism, you’re okay. If you’re LGBT+ and autistic, you’re okay.

You’re valuable and loved and precious.