Every time I think of Iris and Barry as a couple, I think of one of my favourite Bollywood movies, Kuch Kuch Hota Hai where there is a quote said by Shahrukh Khan’s character Rahul that I feel says everything about the importance of the Westallen relationship. In the movie, during a class discussion on Romeo and Juliet and the concept of love, Rahul states “Pyar Dosti Hai” which translates to “Love Is Friendship”. He goes on to say “If she can’t be my best friend, I can’t be in love with her” and I think this fits with the dynamic Iris and Barry have in the show and is the perfect embodiment of the Westallen relationship for me.
Unrequited love or one-sided love is love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such by the beloved. The beloved may not be aware of the admirer’s deep and strong romantic affection, or may consciously reject it.