Can we please stop getting on at Leslie Jones’ co-stars for “not saying anything” or “not standing up for her” or whatever? They’re all close friends and I’m sure they’re there for her on a personal level. It’s an unfair assumption that just because they don’t declare their love for her on twitter (which none of them even have), they’re somehow being negligent.
I’ve seen tons of men complain about the new Ghostbusters ruining their childhood, so I thought I’d share my perspective.
Since I was a kid, I’ve been sensitive to how women are portrayed in media. When I was ten, I got into fights with my dad because I didn’t like Lord of the Rings; I didn’t understand how someone could be into a story that had a huge cast with only a handful of women.
And that continued, and every time I started to wonder a bit more if I was just being a misandrist bitch; if I was actually missing out on great experiences because all the movies/TV/books I wanted to watch/read had to have strong women. Hell, I got veto power over my dad’s board game purchases based on whether I thought the art was misogynistic!
Yet watching Ghostbusters (2016) was one of the most validating experiences of my life. This is what I’d been waiting for, and others have described how amazing it was for them to sit in a theater and watch a movie about brilliant, resilient, kind women who did nothing but support each other. I realized, as I watched Holtzmann lick her pistol, that this was exactly what I had wanted as a kid. This film excited me like nothing had before it. As a nerdy, lesbian feminist I finally felt represented, and that was exhilarating! So no, Ghostbusters (2016) didn’t ruin my childhood: it validated it. And beyond me, I’m ecstatic for all the little girls who are seeing this movie now, or will in the future, and love it too, and maybe never have to question if they’re bad people for only wanting to watch movies like it.