Ugh I just saw this post about Aang being possessive and Kataang being abusive and I just...mind going on a "Kataang is the purest of ships" tangent for me?
I don’t have much time friend, so I’ll just say that to me, clearly, this was not the intent of the show nor I would argue even seen.
He was JEALOUS a bit, sure, but I’d argue him getting upset after being treated like a joke, both in his own life and Katara’s in the play, plus watching Katara being used as a sexual object for other men in said play, and then walking out is less jealous than Zuko literally punching a guy and throwing him across a room for just talking to his girlfriend, or Katara huffing away when girls talked to Aang.
Less problematic than Mako cheating on both his girlfriends, or Korra kissing Mako when she knows he’s with Asami AND that Bolin likes her.
Basically, the show literally tried to put these characters in less than ideal situations to say “YO THIS IS NOT IDEAL,” and how to properly handle situations.
We also see Aang refuse to fire bend for 3 season just because he accidently hurt Katara and back off her when she told him to. Him saying “My girl” in a daydream, to me, is sort of the same as saying “my girlfriend,” I dunno, I really doubt sweet, everyone should be free, I believe Katara is a master and can kick your ass Aang literally felt she belonged to him. Ever.
Especially considering we see, even after their marriage, she did not convert to anything Air Nomad culture and he never seemed too bothered by that.
Basically, as I’ve been saying, IGNORE THESE POSTS AND JUST WATCH THE SHOW AND LIKE WHAT YOU LIKE.
Anon ask #1: In your opinion, what makes Korrasami a healthier ship in general than Makorra/Masami? I have no hate for Mako but it was pretty clear that his relationships with Korra and Asami were unhealthy. What do you think sets Korrasami apart from that to make it a healthier relationship?
Anon ask #2: I saw a post somewhere saying that Korra and Asami doesn’t work because Korra let Asami to yell at her and she didn’t do anything and saying it wasn’t Korra. Saying that they don’t have conflict like mako and Korra (even katara and Aang argue) did where after they argue they get over it and saying Asami takes grudges and stuff and I’m like what. Do they know that Korra need one thing that doesn’t bring conflict to her life like being an avatar is? And that’s Asami who supportive all the way.
These two are very much related, because the “issue” raised with Korrasami in ask#2 gets at why it is that they work so well. I can’t believe anyone would view that argument as a bad sign for a relationship.
Before I jump into this, I will say I’m hardly the arbiter of what makes a happy, healthy relationship. But what I can do is look at characterization and hopefully explain how certain dynamics play into the emotional needs of the individuals.
When I first watched Book 1 of Legend of Korra, I was baffled by the way Mako treated Asami. This feeling persisted through my viewing of Book 2, and it wasn’t until Korra and Asami teamed up to tease Mako in Book 3 that I started to really like him. It wasn’t just his endearing awkwardness that won me over by the series finale, however– it was the realization that Mako’s growth is based on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
If we think of the Hierarchy of Needs as a pyramid, physical needs form the bottom. It makes logical sense; who has time to worry about becoming a better person when you can’t get the food or shelter you need to survive until tomorrow? In order to ascend up the pyramid, a person needs a solid physiological foundation including air, food, water, shelter, and clothing. This is the tier where Mako has spent most of his life, as an orphan on the streets.
The second tier up is “safety,” which can mean physical safety, but it can also mean financial security and a support network to care for you when you’re sick or injured. In Book 1, Mako usually has his basic needs met, but he’s struggling with the safety tier. He comes from a background of extreme scarcity, and he clearly can’t rely on pro-bending winnings to build a safety net. It’s clearly something he’s cognizant of, as he snaps at Korra that having people take care of you isn’t “nothing.”
We repeatedly see him prioritize financial security over his love/attraction for Korra. (Case in point: ”She’s great, but I think it makes more sense for me to go for Asami.”) Viewed through Maslow’s lens, this is actually a highly logical choice. Love and belonging is tier 3, so it would be foolish (albeit certainly not unheard of) for someone to choose love needs over safety needs. This is also most likely why Mako didn’t tell Asami about Korra kissing him: he couldn’t jeopardize his primary safety net.