I came across this inspiring coffee mug yesterday. ☕️ … Regardless of who inspires you to take action in your life, at the end of the day you are the only person who can make it happen. Thank those who motivate, encourage or inspire you but remember to thank YOURSELF for following through. YOU made it happen and in the end YOU are responsible for creating your own happiness. #LoveYourself #KnowYourWorth #LiveLife

"His desire to see you MAKE IT must be greater than his desire to see you NAKED"
#KnowYourWorth #desire versus #value #honor #cherish #support #encourage #respect #HaveYourBack #dedicated #committed #faithful #relationship #Love #OneLife #One #Heart #OneLove #realtalk #man #woman #teamwork

So you consumed extra sugar, salt, fat, dairy, and carbs during the holidays BUT DID YOU DIE? I highly doubt it. 😜 Part of the reason many of us go downhill during the holidays is because we surrender for two whole weeks instead of a handful of occasions. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about enjoying the holidays 🎄 and socially sharing meals 🍝 and drinks 🍷with loved ones 👪but there IS a difference between ‘enjoyment’ and straight up over-doing it. The choice is yours as is everything else in life but from personal experience that fun kind of ‘over-doing it’ for two weeks is temporary and what you’re left with for much longer than two weeks is entering the new year with feelings of struggle, sabotage, and negative self-talk. 🙅 #NoThanks 👉👉👉 If you DID over-do-it yesterday or for the last week don’t use that as an excuse to continue on a tear. ☝️The longer you stray away from all the healthy and fit habits you created for yourself this year the HARDER it will to regain them 😒 You’ve worked too hard for too long to throw all your healthy habits out the door. Remember: #FailForward and use every experience to get to know yourself better and figure out what YOU need to make your spirit feel complete. Happiness does not come from your body size or weight, it comes from feeling good inside 🙏💓 Find your #Truestrength #BecomeEmpowered #KnowYourWorth

There are times in life when we don’t understand something (or want to) and as a defensive mechanism we reject it. 👉If you are on your own personal journey to better health & fitness, I am sure there has been someone in your life at some point who has not been supportive of your actions. This type of behaviour can appear in many forms. People might say “You’re losing too much weight”, “You should eat a cheese burger”, “You’re getting too muscular”, “You look like a bag of bones”, “You’re training too much”, “You always eat healthy, just have some cake” etc. The key here is not to allow their words to affect your journey. Change is hard for people to accept and sometimes it makes people scared and brings out their own insecurities. You might even notice that there’s a correlation between the more successful you become and the more rejection you receive. If you are truly living a healthy lifestyle then these words should mean nothing to you. People will try to sabotage your efforts along the way, some unintentionally because they simply don’t understand and some straight up intentionally. Insecure people don’t like to support people becoming empowered and no one needs people like that in their life. But, don’t wish for these things not to happen because these are the best testable moments for you. How strong are you? How badly do you want to make a lifestyle change? The people who are your true friends and family will be there to support you when your down and when you are up. It’s better to find out now who’s on your team and who wants to see you reach your full potential and who wants to see you crumble. Be thankful for your supporters and your haters - use this as fuel. In the end, you have to believe in YOU and YOU have to love you regardless of what people think. #KnowYourWorth #BeYou

This resonates on a whole other level right now. Too perfect for words in this moment. #letgo #befree #behappy #knowyourworth #youarespecial #findyourinnerpeace #perfectlysaid #tooperfectforwords #beautifulsoul #freespirit #goodvibes #glasshalffull #happiness #innerpeace #justkeepsmiling #love #peace #positivity #positivevibes #positiveenergy #pursuitofhappiness #sotrue #truestory #universe #vibe #centerofbalance #findyourhappyplace #amen #preach 🙌🙏

A really annoying thing about life is as bad as we want something to work, sometimes things just don’t go the way we plan or hope. You can’t force love, you can’t force loyalty, you can’t force respect, at the end of the day we can’t force anything if we want to find true happiness. Learn to accept when it’s time to let go and trust, know, that life has something better in store. ✌️
#knowyourworth #trust #life #love #relationship #quote #heart #help #letgo

💁🙅”That’s not even the same person.” 👉 Do you know how many times I’ve heard that?! 💆…You’re right! I AM NOT the same person I was 10 years ago. From first glance it looks like my #transformation is only related to my weight loss/muscle gain and it partially is but more importantly, my transformation and #confidence came from doing what I wasn’t sure I could do. I dreamed big, started with small goals, and I practiced overcoming obstacles every day, every week, every month, and every year.
Did I fail? Absolutely, all the time, sometimes once a day but you know what? I learned from these failures and I got stronger and better at my skills. Because I have dropped the weight doesn’t mean I don’t fail still today. I make mistakes all the time but I never waste a lesson learned from a mistake. I take time to reflect on my actions, to understand what went wrong and why it did, and I choose to move forward each and everyday with a better perspective on myself, my life, and my goals. I will not give up working on my dreams and you shouldn’t either because it’s possible! #KnowYourWorth #LiveLifeProject #InspireAndBeInspired #BecomeFearless


I used to write whenever I felt hurt and unable to express my emotions. Unable to show how I felt because I was simply tired. Tired of fighting. Tired of arguing and tired of trying to make things work when they simply. Didnt. I re-read an old piece that I wrote. One that I wrote when I was in a relationship with the ex (not mozart but my first love). Keep in mind that it was something I wrote just after a fight. While there was bad there were also good moments. You may judge me or him but I simply want to expose something that I felt at that moment in my life. This is what I wrote down. This is what I was feeling when I was 20, living in a studio with a boy in Iowa who no longer really wanted to be in a relationship ….

     These are the rules for being with The Ex  and the best possible way to keep him happy.

- Don’t ask him to do chores

- If you do ask, only as once. If it is still not done after a week PLEASE dont ask him to do it again. That is nagging.

-Dont ask him to go on a date. As he puts it, going on a date with me is a chore, so instead I have to entice him with a date and tell him all of the benifits of it.

-Be more interesting than what you are now. Talk about different things other than your day, jobs, your family or your dog.

-make sure you look extrememly interested when he is talking about computers. Even if you ask him questions and make suggestions to show that you are indeed interested, your body language has to be interested too.

-bring up something that he will like to talk about. If not you will either sit in silence or he will tell you he simply doesnt care.

-when he wants to be left alone do not talk, look, text or bother him in any way. he will not text you back. he will ignore your calls. he doesnt think you exist. leave it alone.

-when he drinks alone every day of the week do not say a word.

-dont ask him to go to a party with him. he will ask you if he wants you to go. If you do ask he will make up an excuse or simply tells you that you cannot come.

-Do not ask him when he will be home over the weekend. he wont know and only get mad, thus staying out later. expect it to be anywhere between 3-8am, no matter if you have important things to do the next day or not.

-Do not talk about studying abroad

-Keep the dishes clean. Never let there be no silverware left. Make sure to clean off all of the soap. Apparently if there is some soap left on there he can get sick.

-Do not get mad if he blames you for getting him sick or if he gets an eye infection. 

-Do not complain if he wont get up to go with you to the store. Give up, you wont win. Let him stay on the couch.

-Get used to doing things alone and dont complain if he sleeps til 6pm everyday.

-Dont tell him to go to class.

-Dont ever talk about jobs unless it is super positive.

-Dont talk about graduation

-Dont ever ask to leave a party early. And dont be upset if you do and he tells you that you can leave, thus making you decide to either stick it out until he is ready or walk 30min home alone in the middle of the night.

- AGREE with him when he is drunk. When he calls you an idiot, a dumbass, a retard, just agree with him. Avoid the fight…please.

-If he throws water at you while he is drunk, do not cry. He will only make fun of you more.

-NEVER block the door. Especially when he is angry. He will grab you by the wrists and try to force you away.

-Dont trust yourself to get drunk around him. He will always be too drunk to take care of you if you need it. 

-when he is drunk, take care of him. When he is throwing up on himself, help him. When he passes out in the bathroom, figure out a way to hoist him to the couch and periodically check to make sure he is still breathing.

- Dont get mad when he will never thank you the next day for staying up all night to take care of him. He will simply tell you that no one asked you to do it. 

-When he tells you girls on tv are hot dont get mad.

-when he ignores your call and texts you not now, dont question any more.

-dont text him too much

-Dont expect him to ever drive anywhere. He claims that he doesnt have a car but I really think he is scared. Always drive the hour to him whenever you are home from school

-dont be mad when he doesnt want to hang out with your friends. He finds most of them annoying and doesnt want to spend the time with them.

-dont get mad when he doesnt come over to your house .

- accept that he wont make an effort to meet your extended family. you have to set it up and make sure he has nothing that weekend, get him and bring him back home

-dont ask him to turn down the brightness or the sound on his tablet, or to turn over so you can sleep. he will but he will get annoyed. 

-when he is drunk he will say he doesnt care about you.

-dont get mad when he will eat all of your food on a drunken binge 

-dont remind him that he hasnt paid rent yet.

-dont ask him to be romantic when he wants to have sex with you. if you want it you have to ask for it. 

-right after you have sex dont get mad if he falls asleep right away or stays away from you.

-dont get mad if he texts throughout your date.

-dont get upset if he doesnt want to put down his computer and talk to you. he will claim he is still listening or he doesnt care.

-put headphones is, he doesnt want to listen to your music, he thinks it is crap.

- always offer him food whenever you are hungry and making something.

-dont show him your art. he wont like it.

- when you ask him to not touch you in a certain way or to say something like bro or bitch he will do it more.

-when he wakes up judge his mood and act accordingly.

-dont try to wake him up ever. you will not be successful.

-let him give you attention when he wants. dont ask for more.

-hope that he will miss you when you are away. try to trust him. try to get him more involved. pay for a date once in a while. try to survive. when he is mad dont expect him to be nice. when he is mad he does not love you. he will not care if he hurts your feelings or makes you cry. he will call you fat, he will call you an idiot, he will call you a worthless girlfriend. Try to ignore him. Try to believe that he doesnt think these things about you ant try to forget…

I know this piece is long, but when I read it 4 years later I began to cry. All that was said above was said to me or expected of me during my 3 year relationship. I wrote to begin to understand and keep tract of everything that I apparently was doing wrong. Dont let any person make you feel like I felt during the time that I wrote this. Know your worth.