I keep thinking about what Eddie Kitsis said, about how some people are right for you, others are wrong and then there are those you just choose. Because that’s it, isn’t it?
The big secret?
Look at Regina. In theory Robin was right for her. But she never chose him.
The first time around she chose anger, vengeance and solitude over him.
The second time she tried to choose him, but when he left and came back, she chose Emma.
I think Robin tried to be for Regina what she needed, but in the end he never quite managed it, because he wasn’t what, or rather who, Regina truly wanted.
Even while being with him she continued to choose Emma. She’s still choosing Emma.
Emma is trying to choose Hook. She has chosen him. And just like with Robin for Regina, Hook is trying to be for Emma what he thinks she needs, only just like with Regina and Robin, he’s failing. Because he’s not who Emma truly wants, no matter how hard they both try to make it so.
Emma’s heart chose Regina a long time ago. And it’s not a decision it’s willing to come back on.
But making the choices we think we should make, the ones that are expected from us from our partners, our families, society, over the ones we actually want to make is a common occurrence. How many people live a life they don’t actually want out of a sense of obligation and for fear of disappointing others or being rejected when they show their true colors, share their true dreams, follow their hearts?