kind to self

I released a new EP today with some songs that may or may not end up on my upcoming album, hopefully to be released in late May.

‘Enigma’ is my take on a break-up song I guess, reflectively kicking said ex in the face as I go along (he deserves it, no worrries). 

“And I don’t want to be your friend
Don’t want to know where you are now
While I am mending the amends you made
While I was still around
In secret codes I spell the words
That I don’t dare to say out loud
It hurts so much to realise
That they will never be found
The truth will stay buried in sound.”

Rob finally decided to rewind back to his present time, the state of his future-self kind of upset him. He also reset his voice.

“Alright, I’m back where I should be. What did I miss?”

I would probably smoke if cigarettes just smelled Like Smoke but the like, tobacco-y smell is too gross and I need some kind of consistent mildly self-destructive behavior to keep me grounded

When I was training to be a battered women’s advocate, my supervisor said something that really blew my mind:

“You can always assume one thing about your clients; and that is that they are doing their best. Always assume everyone is doing their best. And if they’re having a day where their best just isn’t that great, or their best doesn’t look like your best, you have to be okay with that.”

Any now whenever anyone in my life, either a friend or a client, frustrates me, disappoints me, or pisses me off, I just tell myself They are doing their best. Their best isn’t that great today, but I have days where my best isn’t that great either. 

read interesting books. listen to beautiful lyrics and melodies. write your own stories. go to concerts, parks and museums. study hard. take care of yourself. stay hydrated. learn to appreciate the little things. travel. learn a language. remind your friends that you’re there for them. be kind, and feel.

When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small.  My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.
—  Kim McMilllen
Even the smallest spark of positivity can spread like wild fire to everyone else you come across. It’s amazing what impact even the smallest acts of kindness can have on the quality of someone else’s day.
If someone is facing a difficult time, one of the kindest things you can do for him or her is to say, ‘I’m going to love you through this.
—  Molly Friedenfield